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Petition to reinstate fish guy March 13, 2008 9:05 AM

Please sign this petition to reinstate fish guy.

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 March 13, 2008 9:06 AM

Popular or not, fish guy was suspended without any explanation and Care2 did not tell him what he was suspended for other than to say that he was "flaming" in a thread. They wouldn't say which thread or which group and didn't say which post. They want him to apologise and promise to adhere to the Care2 Terms of Service which includes the Code of Conduct, yet he won't know what he's specifically apologising for.

That is unfair, and is the reason he should be reinstated. It's not about liking or agreeing with him, it's about the arbitarary way in which he was suspended and the fact that he has to apologise for something he doesn't know he did.

If this happened to him, it could happen to any one of us. It isn't so much about fish guy himself as it is the principal of what happened and the way Care2 handled it.

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 March 13, 2008 9:10 AM

There is a net message going around that explains why he was suspended. Someone should send it to him. Am I the only one who thinks he could be lying? Going by past history on that.  [ send green star]
 March 13, 2008 9:11 AM

He's not lying. I've been in contact with him almost everyday since he was suspended.

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 March 13, 2008 9:16 AM

Date:Thursday, March 13, 2008, 6:53 AM Subject:Butterfly for: Signing petition Please Reinstate fish guy  [ send green star]
 March 13, 2008 9:17 AM

How does that prove he's not lying? Care2 stated in dma what he needs to do to come back. He won't. Why should he come back then? I had to kiss butt to come back. He needs to play by the same rules we all do.  [ send green star]
 March 13, 2008 9:18 AM

Since when is kissing butt a rule? I didn't see that in the COC.

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 March 13, 2008 9:22 AM

When I was suspended I had to agree to the coc to come back. Kiss butt are my words. Should I have said play nice? Do what anyone has to do to get unsuspended? It isn't that difficult to understand what I meant. Why should he get to ignore the coc?   [ send green star]
 March 13, 2008 9:26 AM

He doesn't even know where he violated the COC?

Did you get a full explanation as to why you were suspended? I know I didn't when it happened to me. I was flagged by a witch hunt.

How do we know fish guy wasn't flagged into oblivion? That in my opinion is wrong. Mob mentality reigns around here sometimes.


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 March 13, 2008 9:31 AM

Exactly. We all know what fish guy needs to do to get back in and that is not what's in dispute. The issue is WHAT he was suspended for and why. He'd like to know what he's apologising for. Is that wrong?

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 March 13, 2008 9:32 AM

All I see here are suppositions and guesses and statements made by friends.  I see no proof of anything.  I see no proof of what the truth is or what the lies are.

How about some verifiable facts?  Verifiable facts.

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 March 13, 2008 9:40 AM

I want to see proof, Christian, that isn't just based on the "fact" that Fishguy is your friend.   I want to see proof he wasn't told why he was suspended. 

I have never heard of Care2 not telling someone why they were suspended - but I've surely seen many people "twist" the truth of what they were told.

I also want to see the actual thread and what was actually said in that thread that you say got Fishguy suspended.  If you say you know the whole truth, Christian, then please post the whole truth here.  Then and only then can we make a judgement about what has happened.

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 March 13, 2008 9:42 AM

I knew exactly why I was suspended. Knew I would be when I posted it. I can agree that freediver may not know. That happens when so many flames are placed. Supporting him is a smack in the face to anyone who has followed the rules. I don't see how it gives a message to care2. For all we know he is lying. He has said the the best lies are 95% truth.  [ send green star]
 March 13, 2008 9:46 AM

I want to see some proof too... I don't know Fish Guy but I do know what he said about cats, for instance... That's something I have read with my very own eyes. I have nothing against him as a purrson but I want to see what he said. I'd be a fool not to, as I'm careful about what I sign.

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 March 13, 2008 9:50 AM

Hiya Christina,

Whenever I've been "in trouble" with Care2, they have always openly told me exactly what they thought I did wrong.  In each case they "called" me on, when I cooled off, I realized they were correct.  I was out of line.

I do not automatically believe when they suspend someone they are doing it arbitrarily.  In fact, in many past cases, I think they were overly-cautious and slow at suspending people who should've been suspended.

As to this case, with Fishguy, not knowing any facts at all means none of us can objectively make a judgement. We're entitled to know what the truth is - the objective truth - before we're asked to sign any petition.  That's my opinion.

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 March 13, 2008 9:52 AM

That is the point...he wants to see the proof and be presented with facts. He was given a blanket statement but no details.

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 March 13, 2008 9:52 AM

fish guy sent me the actual e-mail from Care2 (sent to him on Feb. 29th) but I can't post it here because to do so can result in a suspension for me. Posting correspondence from Care2 is a violation of the Terms of Service and/or the CoC.

I posted the gist of it in another group last week. It's a lengthy e-mail but all it says is that a thread in which he was participating had been reported to the Care2 support team for "investigation" and that "in the thread" (it didn't say which one or in which group it appeared) he was "flaming" others and that they placed his account on suspension.

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 March 13, 2008 9:58 AM

I think you guys might want to re-read my 9:06 post again.

It's pretty difficult to produce proof when none was given. If they didn't tell him which posts in which threads in which groups, then what is he apologising for?

It sounds like they want a general apology for nebulous reasons. If that's the way you like Care2 to deal with you if and when that day ever comes, then that's your prerogative.

Me (and others), I happen to find that method of conflict resolution to be arbitrary and unfair.

Again, may I remind everyone that they don't have to sign anything they don't want to. The petition is at the top of the thread. Take it or leave it.

Whining about it doesn't really do anything about it one way or the other, though.

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 March 13, 2008 10:07 AM

Whining about it doesn't really do anything about it one way or the other, though.

 I must have missed something. I see people talking rationally, I don't see anyone whining. I see FD doing a lot of whining about this, is that who you were talking about Christian? 

 Like Knate I'd like to know the facts. I've seen what is suspected to have gotten him suspended, it hasn't been confirmed though. If it is true I would be concerned about sticking up for him. Not to mention he hates bunnies in general so I wouldn't sign anyway.

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 March 13, 2008 10:08 AM

I don't think an apology would be all that hard to produce... I have apologized many times in my life, also for things which I didn't cause or do... It's not all that hard once you're accustomed to it. Saying sorry and promising to adhere to the CoC... is that a mission impossible? I could do that in heartbeat as I'm sure I have inadvertently hurt some people's feelings here... without meaning to.

It ain't that hard. I say sorry every day.

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 March 13, 2008 10:09 AM

What Angela said, I believe to be true.  Flagged by a witch hunt.

I don't know how that can be proven to be true, or proven to be untrue. 

But I, being gullible and paranoid, believe it to be true.  All it takes is one enemy with an army of flaggers.  That is why I hardly dare post anything anywhere anymore, especially in such groups as Hot Debates and Shocking News or Left Right & Beyond.  I certainly do not dare express any political or religious viewpoint.  Nor do I dare to use my usual sarcasm, because anything I say could be pounced upon by the narrow-minded.

There are many in Care2 who are blinded by their hatred of Freediver.  They would fight for justice for a friend, but not for one they perceive to be an enemy.

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 March 13, 2008 10:17 AM

That's BS, total BS.  We have a right to see proof, certainly that Fishguy wasn't told anything.

I have had experience with Care2 and know lots of others with experience and everyone I know of was told exactly why they were suspended.

We're being asked to believe you, Christian, based on your friendship with Fishguy or what you've seen in private and can't make public.  Sorry, Christian, but we deserve more.

And for you, Lulu, to imply some of us are asking for proof (or are not signing the petition) because we hate Fishguy is way out of line. 

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 March 13, 2008 10:17 AM

Justice is for everyone. Not just the people we like.

Thanks Lu.

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 March 13, 2008 10:20 AM

I was going to say something here but forget it. Pointless.

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 March 13, 2008 10:23 AM

I don't hold any animosity towards Fish guy. I just want to know why he was banned. I really don't like to sign petitions until I know the entire truth. There are always two sides to every story and I really don't want to side with any one. A few people have been banned and I'm sure they have all been told the reason(s). I was asked about the banning of a member by Randy Paynter. Care2 doesn't really just willy nilly ban someone because they don't like the smell of their fish.

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 March 13, 2008 10:27 AM

You guys have to be completely off your rockers if you think I'm going to risk being suspended myself for reposting private correspondence between Care2 and fish guy, a clear violation of the Terms of Service.

Once more, may I remind everyone that they can take this petition or leave it.

Yelling at me and demanding this, that and the other thing when you have no intention of signing the petition anyway, is, as Angela put it, pointless.

Sign it or don't. I don't care either way, but I won't be browbeaten about anything from anyone. Take it somewhere else.

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 March 13, 2008 10:34 AM

Sorry, Angela....I don't accept that.

There is plenty of proof, over long periods of time, that Care2 lets people know why they are suspended.  Why would they suddenly change this for Fishguy?  If they are inconsistant with this policy, why do you think we don't need some sort of proof or verfication? 

That he was not told is being used as a major part of Fishguy's argument against Care2 - so we deserve some kind of verification.

If Care2 is just suspending people with no explanation, then we need more than paranoia to verify that.  Accusations against Care2 are just as easy as accusations against Fishguy.

From Day One I have wanted to see exactly what Fishguy is being accused of.  I haven't seen it yet.  I have seen plenty of things he's posted I don't like but I have never seen a post from him that was threatening or dangerous or I would consider in need of being suspended for.  That's my experience, so I want to see what exactly happened.

You want fairness, Angela; so do I.  I want to be fair to Fishguy and to Care2; to both.  I want to know the facts so I can base my response on the facts.

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 March 13, 2008 10:34 AM

Even I saw a lot of cases where armies of flaggers took someone out and Care2 undid it because they could see what was happening wasn't right.

Everyone was always so afraid of the flaggers - but they have never held the ultimate power.  Don't forget Care2 can also see exactly who each flagger is.

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 March 13, 2008 10:34 AM

Christian, I'd never browbeat you or shout at you... I think it's admirable that you create a petition to help a friend. I wish that if I was ever suspended, friends would do that for me too. It's truly lovely. I have never been warned or suspended but care2 has always treated me fairly and been really lovely and helpful towards me. So well... I have nothing purrsonal against Freediver but I know he can be rather... abrupt, shall we say.

In any case, c2 has said he can come back, on their terms (and it is their site after all) You wrote: "They want him to apologise and promise to adhere to the Care2 Terms of Service which includes the Code of Conduct"

Is that too much to ask after all? He could be back already today. If I was Freediver, I'd play by the rules. Care2 is no different from any other site in this.

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 March 13, 2008 10:35 AM

I didn't know it was a private conversation, Christian. I thought the reason had been posted somewhere. I don't think that Care2 would be unreasonable in their request for an apology. They seem fair.

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Charlene, et al March 13, 2008 10:35 AM

I explained what happened with fish guy at the top of this thread.

The ball is in his court now. He has to apologise to Care2 and promise not to do whatever it was that he did, though they did not tell him which of his posts he was suspended for or which thread or even which group, so he has to somehow make an apology about something non-specific - "I'm sorry for doing whatever it was that I did wrong" kind of thing, which, quite frankly, is bullshit as far as I'm concerned.

You guys can disbelieve me all you want but I have the actual e-mail and there is absolutely nothing specific in there at all as to what he did wrong or where, other than that he was reported as having been "flaming" in "a thread".

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 March 13, 2008 10:36 AM

Okay, Christian.  I understand how you can't reveal that communication.

But what about the thread and the post(s) he was suspended for?  Can we know more about that?  What group, what thread, what post?  Is that available?

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Knate March 13, 2008 10:38 AM

I did not mean to imply that people in this group are asking for proof (or not signing petition) because they hate Fishguy! 

I said "many in Care2."

There can be many reasons for not signing a petition.  And we don't know unless the reason is stated.  I, for one, have refrained from signing petitions I fully agreed with because of mistakes in petition or becacause it was poorly written.

Damn!  You see how easy it is to be misunderstood?

I better shut up.

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 March 13, 2008 10:39 AM

Just read your post, Christian, which was being written as I was writing mine.

How about a petition to Care2 to tell us specifically what thread and what post(s) Fishguy was suspended for?  Then we could all know what this is about.

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 March 13, 2008 10:43 AM

Cissy, you're always a sweetie pie.

Guys, there is no mystery to this. It is not a revelation that all fish guy has to do is apologise to Care2 and then he's back in. I know this and so do most others. We get it already.

The issue is how he was suspended and why and the arbitrary way in which Care2 dealt with the situation overall as well as the fact that he wasn't told what to apologise for.

Knate, "fish guy" is two words, all lowercase lettering, no capitals. Even if the sentence starts off with "fish guy", the F is not capitalised. I realise this contravenes the cardinal rules of spelling but it is an exception to the rule.

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 March 13, 2008 10:44 AM

Point taken, Lulu.  Thank you.  It was a misunderstanding.  

But, if no one knows why Fishguy was suspended, why not have a petition asking Care2 to please explain it to us

Not just to know why he was suspended but - for us - to better understand their rules so we can avoid being suspended?

I think we need to know how to avoid being suspended by knowing the specifics of what happened to Fishguy.

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 March 13, 2008 10:47 AM

I could edit the petition to add the reason it was created, namely that his suspension, unlike previous suspensions of other members, did not specify exactly when, where and how he contravened their rules. That way, the petiton makes more sense and it still maintains the spirit in which the signers signed.

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 March 13, 2008 10:49 AM

Sounds good to me, Christian.  Thanks. 

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 March 13, 2008 10:50 AM

I guess not. Once it's created, you can't edit it.

That makes sense, though.

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 March 13, 2008 10:50 AM

My first petition and it's about bringing back fish guy?

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 March 13, 2008 10:51 AM

awww Christian So are you. But as for signing

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 March 13, 2008 10:54 AM

Let me see if I understand:

Will we get a new petition that asks (politely) for Care2 to please explain the details of how and where and why Fishguy was suspended?  (So we know the details of how rules are enforced) (And asks for Fishguy's re-instatement?)

That petition Charlene and I could sign.  Thanks, Christian.

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 March 13, 2008 10:57 AM

Care2 has already stated that they will not publicly discuss the situation regarding anyone's account even though permission has been given by fish guy. A petiton asking Care2 to give Freediver the details would be appropriate.

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 March 13, 2008 11:10 AM

So, then, we're left nowhere, knowing nothing?

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NM ... March 13, 2008 11:40 AM

If it was started by Dale, then it's purely conjecture on his part. 

How could he know something FD doesn't? 

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Knate ... March 13, 2008 11:43 AM

I want to see proof, Christian, that isn't just based on the "fact" that Fishguy is your friend.   I want to see proof he wasn't told why he was suspended. 

What sort of "proof" could be presented to prove something didn't happen ... maybe I'm slow ...

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See ... it's real simple ... March 13, 2008 11:44 AM

to me, anyway. 

If you don't want to sign ... don't.  I'm not understanding why the nonsigners have such a problem with this. 

Sign it or don't.  Simple. 

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 March 13, 2008 11:45 AM

Answer to your first question: Put two and two together.

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 March 13, 2008 11:47 AM

Hmm, Care2 did post something(s?) about this. Was it in Feedbag or another group? Or both? Anyway, what I remember is that they reiterated that he had to apologize and that they were calling the shots, no exceptions.

They have suspended a couple of others recently who are avid supporters of Care2's stated purposes and never make waves. I'm not sure enough of the details of the first one to state them accurately but I know in the second case that she sent out a warning about someone who she had reason to think could be harmful to other women. She works very hard to make a difference, and she is not the kind of person who would intentionally violate the rules. Many of us were shocked at her suspension. It seems that Care2 has gotten off balance lately and I believe there needs to be an intermediate step before suspension. An opportunity to understand specifically how one has violated the sometimes ambiguous rules and some leniency if it is a first ever offence of any kind. The rules are especially ambiguous because many people post things that get by that are a lot worse than what suddenly causes a suspension. I  believe this is causing distrust of Care2's rational decision making and doesn't serve them any more than the membership.

Freediver is the only person to take a stand. But an action is needed. He often speaks up as a sole voice and sometimes he says something much more worth considering than truly controversial.  It's unfortunate that it is being taken up by someone who has upset people to the point of closing their minds. The issue is not so much about this symbolic person, however, it's really about an unfair and detrimental  policy of Care2 .

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I've thought of that ... March 13, 2008 11:48 AM

But ... I dunno ... he usually brags about these things ...

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Yup ... March 13, 2008 11:49 AM

What Annie said.  I don't understand why that's so hard to people to grasp ... it's been iterated and reiterated ... over and over and over and over and over and over ...

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I signed the petition March 13, 2008 11:50 AM

But for one reason only: Because simply saying Freediver was "flaming" is not enough. Truth in Advertising requires that exact details regarding the suspension must be published so there will be no doubt that Freediver got a just punishment.

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Dale ... March 13, 2008 11:51 AM

signed the petition ...

2 + 2 = 7. 

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 March 13, 2008 11:56 AM

 I would have gladly stood behind Nadia or Cate. They were suspended at the same time, and they came right back. FD is the only one who hasn't. Would anyone have been hurt to see Nadia's photo all over the place? I don't have issue with the stand, as long as that's what it is really about, and not FD.

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 March 13, 2008 11:57 AM

Answer to your second question:

I suggested asking Care2 why Fishguy was suspended but that idea was dumped on and rejected.

I don't mind supporting Fishguy's reinstatement but I think I'm entitled to know what he did. 

Why are so many people so hostile because I (and others) are asking for facts?  What in the world is wrong with asking for a minimum of facts from Fishguy and from Care2?  What are we, a mob of mindless sheep?


Charlene has a great suggestion and I hope this one won't get shot down, too:

PETITION to Care2: When a person is suspended please place on their Profile Page a specific reason why they were suspended.

Then they will know and their friends will know.  That's fairness. 

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 March 13, 2008 11:58 AM

I think it was DMA where Care2 posted about it and yes, they basically just reiterated that fish guy needed to write to them and promise to agree to the Care2 Terms of Service and CoC and then they would reinstate him.

Knate, I would love to post the Care2 e-mail to fish guy and you would clearly see that they did not say tickety boo about what, where or when he said what he said but I simply cannot. There's no way I'm risking suspension over this.

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 March 13, 2008 12:00 PM

I can only speak from my own experience.. but care2 has only ever been fair and just towards me, and I have been active here for a long time. I know that they recently suspended a friend of mine whom I like a great deal but I have to agree that they did the right thing... As someone posting on their profile that he likes "wild sex" is no crime... and asking people to flag the profile is just not right. Not in my opinion anyway. I believe that sometimes we step in gray areas here and as for c2 not telling fish guy what the exact problem is... I believe it must have been because it was some very particular thread and a specific purrson who was offended... and the explanation would reveal who that purrson was. And there would be backlash. I think they're trying to protect whoever it was that made the complaint. I have no idea who it is But I think care2 simply has no choice. They have to protect this purrson. It's being between a rock and a hard place, and in any case, their call.

This is my best guess anyhow... I share almost no groups with FD so I can make no truly educated guesses.

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As for the petition ... March 13, 2008 12:01 PM

I believe it - and most other online petitions - accomplish pretty much nothing. 

I signed basically for support purposes. 

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Knate March 13, 2008 12:03 PM

Somehow we are not being clear. Care2 has refused to tell us.

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 March 13, 2008 12:04 PM

You know, that's a pretty good idea, Knate. As long as the reason is valid and the incident actually occurred, displaying it on the person's profile could prove to be a sufficient deterrent to breaking Care2 posting rules. It would certainly help us to identify trolls much more easily.

BTW, Nadia D should never have been suspended. I almost met up with her in New York last week but she injured her ankle and couldn't meet me. We talked on the phone though and she's simply not the type to cause the kind of trouble that gets one suspended from a website.

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I wonder..... March 13, 2008 12:04 PM

....if I was banned from Care2, would you be doing all this for me?

Would some of you be wearing variants of my Circle H logo?

Would some of you start a petition on my behalf to get me reinstated?

Finally, at what point do you decide that someone just flat out doesn't belong on Care2?

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 March 13, 2008 12:06 PM


People, you can't have it both ways.

You can't say: we know why he was suspended.  Then also say, we don't know why he was suspended.  What is it?  Know or don't know?

BTW, Fishguy is NOT the only outspoken person at Care2.

This place is filth-deep with outspoken people, loudmouths, braggarts, arrogant buttheads, confrontational, obnoxious people who talk long before they think - if they ever think, and most of us here (today) have been in one or more of those categories. Frequently.

All of us at Care2 have the right to know, clearly, what the rules are and how they are specifically enforced, so we can either live by and agree to them or not.  To say otherwise, is to be a passive robot.  I'm not a robot.

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 March 13, 2008 12:09 PM

Christian, there's no way you should risk suspension over this - No one should ask that of you - and no reason anyone should have to.

We need clarity, it seems, from Care2.

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Cissy March 13, 2008 12:09 PM

Don't you think that a warning to her would have been enough considering she might have thought that it was a violation and was not intentionally violating any rule. And strongly works for Care2's goals and never makes any trouble?

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 March 13, 2008 12:09 PM

Why are so many people so hostile because I (and others) are asking for facts?  What in the world is wrong with asking for a minimum of facts from Fishguy and from Care2?  What are we, a mob of mindless sheep?

First, Knate ... sorry.  It was not my intention - nor did I even realize - to come off as "hostile."  Like many others here, including you, I try to say what I mean without walking on eggshells about it. 

Honestly?  I'm actually seeing more "hostility" coming from those that do NOT support FD. 

As for what he supposedly did to get booted was "flaming," based on Care2 template email.  The specific example of the flaming hasn't been explained to FD, as far as I know. 

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People are posting all kinds of stuff ... March 13, 2008 12:10 PM

while I'm composing ...

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 March 13, 2008 12:12 PM

Maybe it really was his fish was starting to smell.


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Care2's email ... March 13, 2008 12:12 PM

I believe it's posted somewhere anyway. 

Somewhere ... not here ... Shifty Eyes

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 March 13, 2008 12:14 PM

Knate, check your net messages.

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 March 13, 2008 12:15 PM

Annie, I agree... it would have But this is not the issue at hand... it's about Freediver who's an entirely different kind of fish. I was only trying to make a point, that's all.

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 March 13, 2008 12:16 PM

My wife Cheri defintely doesn't want Fish Guy back, and I am apathetic about the issue. I suspect most people who want Fish Guy back are really worried about the possibility of THEM being suspended for an unknown cause. That wouldn't be an issue if Care2 had simply made a detailed statement about the matter immediately. So why don't they???

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 March 13, 2008 12:16 PM

Did any of you even read Cissy M's post at 12:00?  I'm seeing the same rhetoric over and over and finally someone has something new to say, that makes perfect sense - and you all just keep on going as if there is nothing there.

I expect there are many cases where Care2 steps in and gives someone a time out but protects the complainant's anonymity to avoid backlash.  So they should.

No - none of us have the right to demand information. 

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Dale March 13, 2008 12:17 PM

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 March 13, 2008 12:17 PM

That is exactly the only thing that fish guy was told.

"We received reports that you were flaming in a thread".

That's it.

Not which post(s), not which thread, and not which group.

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 March 13, 2008 12:21 PM

No - none of us have the right to demand information. 

I completely disagree.  Of course a person has the right to demand pertinent information. 

And yes ... I saw Cissy's comment and didn't address it because I don't believe that is at all the case. 

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And, again ... March 13, 2008 12:22 PM

Except in the case of a few people - mostly those who don't want him back - the issue is most certainly not FD. 

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It depends, Dale ... March 13, 2008 12:23 PM

on the circumstances. 

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Sorry Wolfbaby March 13, 2008 12:24 PM

but I strongly disagree with you. I doublt that Cissy's idea was their reason but more importantly, how can I apologize or correct my erroneous behavior if I don't know what the heck I did??? That just doesn't make me. 

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 March 13, 2008 12:24 PM

 Christian did FD respond to that email? I've been told that once you reply to the generic email that they would then tell you the issue. In fact care2 said that he has not replied to their original email. Maybe if he would respond to their email, they would tell him what he did and we can all move on.

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 March 13, 2008 12:24 PM

Got it, Christian. Thanks!


I suggest we come together on what we all agree:

There are rules at care2 - as I think there should be - but we should know, specifically as possible, what those rules are.

What does "flaming" mean?

I frequently, very frequently, see posters call each other names like "b*tth**d" and "***h*l*" and the "f" word and the 'c" word and "j*ck*ss" and much worse.  Is that flaming?  They don't get suspended.

What is allowed and what is forbidden?  Obviously threats are forbidden but what about asking delicate questions? 

What are the rules and the parameters of the rules?

That's what I'd like to know.  Anyone agree?

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 March 13, 2008 12:27 PM

Bugalina, belief is not knowledge... This is, in my opinion, the most likely scenario. I don't mind FD coming back, it has very little (if any) effect on me, but I don't believe in him becoming some sort of c2 martyr either. We are all in the dark, and well, c2 has the right to suspend someone when they see there's a just cause. Why can't he just apologize and agree to follow the CoC?

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Well ... March 13, 2008 12:28 PM

That would certainly help in clarifying vague policies for which some are suspended and others aren't. 

It will never be enough, though.  Believe me ... I work in HR ...

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 March 13, 2008 12:29 PM

Why can't he just respond to their email and talk to them about the problem?

Well because then he wouldn't have an excuse for all this drama of course.

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Yes, Cissy ... March 13, 2008 12:30 PM

You're correct ... belief is NOT knowledge.  I'm not sure where I said that it was.  Did I? 

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 March 13, 2008 12:31 PM

Well, purrhaps that's just me. But in all my years in c2, I have always been fairly treated and I can't imagine it being any different... In any case, it's getting late here in FinLand, so I better give my kitties their nightly snack (fish) and I wish you all a lovely day.

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It's funny ... March 13, 2008 12:31 PM

how everyone sees black and white differently. 

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 March 13, 2008 12:33 PM

No, I don't belive you did... so far, this is all guesswork which is not very fair towards care2 either. But as I was saying...

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As for Care2 and fairness ... March 13, 2008 12:34 PM

Don't get me wrong.  I like it here.  For the most part, at least until recently, Care2 has been rather liberal in their policies. 

But have I experienced unfair treatment?  Yes.  Definitely. 

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 March 13, 2008 12:35 PM

Christian you've told us - basically - what Care2's original email said to fg, can you tell us how they replied when he emailed them back and asked for clarification?

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Cissy March 13, 2008 12:36 PM

what gives them that right? That they own the company? Well, they wouldn't own anything without the members. And we have a long history, world wide, of "owners" being abusive of their power. No, I think our input should carry weight and I think it often does. But they seem to  be having difficulty hearing us on this one. They have stated that part of their position is that they just don't' have time .....but the inequality of the enforcement of their policies is something that the members have every right to protest and to ask for a better way of enforcement.

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 March 13, 2008 12:40 PM

Putting things in perspective:

There are over 8-1/2 million members of Care2 - and 18 signatures on the petition.

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 March 13, 2008 12:43 PM

I agree, I like it here too and I have personally been treated fine by Care2. But I am concerned about the growing apprehension over some of their more recent actions.

I am also sympathetic to the complexity and frustration of pleasing everyone and keeping everything smooth with such a large and diverse group of people.

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 March 13, 2008 12:44 PM

Christian - are you going to answer my 12:35?

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 March 13, 2008 12:47 PM

 Actually what care2 said was that they were waiting for a reply to their original email to FD. I think it has to do with verifying the email address. Once it is verified by him replying, then they will give the reason. Has he verified his email address yet? Does anyone know?

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They said ... March 13, 2008 12:47 PM

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 March 13, 2008 12:49 PM

Nice to see that you are taking this so seriously Christian.  Funny how many people thought this issue deserved their time and energy and thought.

Did fd even reply to their original email?

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Wolfbaby March 13, 2008 12:50 PM

That number is pretty misleading as only about a third or a forth that number are really active and only a few hundred have even seen the pitition. Also, the issue is confused by the focus on FD. that doesn't mean there isn't an issue.

Also, I think many people think, like Cissy, that Care2 has the right to do whatever they want. It would be a sad world if people didn't speak up when something seems wrong. We have and investment here also. Many of us  have invested deeply of our time and our caring.

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 March 13, 2008 12:52 PM

That's the beauty of being a host of this group. I can pick and choose whichever post or poster I feel like replying to or not.

Actually, I can do that anyway, regardless.

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Besides ... March 13, 2008 12:52 PM

There are, like, 29 sigs on that petition! 

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I choose not to respond to you, Christian ... March 13, 2008 12:52 PM

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 March 13, 2008 12:54 PM

And I you.

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 March 13, 2008 12:58 PM

Let's see if I have this right.

Care2 sends out a first, generic email to make sure they have the email addy right and are communicating with the appropriate member.

If you email them back, they will discuss your suspension further with you.

Rather than email them back, fd decided to do everything possible to create as much drama as possible.

A whole bunch of people joined in and started demanding Care2 operate according to fg's demands, regardless of how they have decided for themselves they should handle issues such as these.

These people think they are justified for whatever reason.

Fg is having a really good laugh.

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 March 13, 2008 12:59 PM

Oh Annie... I guess it's a good thing I took one final look at c2 after giving my three kittybabes their fish dinner (sardines)... as what do I see: "Also, I think many people think, like Cissy, that Care2 has the right to do whatever they want."

I see. After this I am likely to take anything you have to say with a pinch of salt... Where did I claim that? All I did was describe my own experience. I don't think that c2 OR fish guy have the right to do whatever they / he wants.

Anyhow, Christian, that's brilliant Always room for some humour. In accordance with the theme...

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 March 13, 2008 1:11 PM

I like how Cissy lives in FINland and fed her cats fish.

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 March 13, 2008 1:11 PM

 Will someone please answer this one simple litttle question? Did FD hit reply and respond to care2's original email?

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Here's another way to look at it ... March 13, 2008 1:18 PM

when you get pulled over and a cop gives you a ticket ... the cop usually tells you why you're geting pulled over and getting a ticket - right there and then. 

They don't give you the ticket and then you go to court to find out WHY you got the ticket. 

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 March 13, 2008 1:19 PM

So - did fd hit "reply" and respond to Care2's original email?

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 March 13, 2008 1:20 PM

Are you talking to me? 

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If so ... March 13, 2008 1:21 PM

I must respond:  Ticket.  Why? 

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Venetia March 13, 2008 1:21 PM

Yes, he did. And they replied with an apology for causing him confusion by forgetting to include the instructions on how to be reinstated and the links for the Terms of Service and the CoC.

His instructions were to read both documents and then agree to abide by the rules and guidelines contained therein by sending an e-mail acknowledging that both documents were read and understood.

There was still no mention of where, when and how he broke the rules of conduct.

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 March 13, 2008 1:24 PM

lol - of course - always.

Well - only in this specific instance if you have an answer - I kind of assumed Christian would have the answer since he is the only one I have seen say he has personal knowledge of the behind the scenes facts in this case, and he started the petition.

But I'm happy to talk to you anytime!

I don't dislike people because they are on the other side of an issue - I often disagree with friends since none of them are robots   We are all adult and can disagree without it damaging our basic friendship.

I find it interesting that such a simple question can't seem to be answered. 

Did fg hit the "reply" button and respond to Care2's original email?

Simple yes or no will do.

From anyone who knows.

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 March 13, 2008 1:25 PM

 The first thing the officer does is ask to see your license and registration. If you ask him what you did he will tell you with license in hand. If you don't ask him he will just write it on the ticket. At least that's been my experience, and I've gotten a lot of tickets.

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 March 13, 2008 1:25 PM

Oh good - an answer - lol.

Sorry - you were posting while I was typing.

New question:

Did he ask them for the specific thread reference?

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Right ... March 13, 2008 1:27 PM

The point being, you are told on the spot why you're being pulled over. 

Even if you don't ask, they will tell you.  And the offense is written on the ticket. 

I've gotten out of a lot of tickets. 

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 March 13, 2008 1:27 PM

So - that sounds pretty simple to me.  Why does he have an issue with that?

Simple email - read them and understand them and will comply - like everyone else on the site is expected to.

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Nor do I, Wolfbaby ... March 13, 2008 1:27 PM

I think you already know that. 

I am not FD.  I cannot respond to your question.  But I think Christian just did. 

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Are we ... March 13, 2008 1:28 PM

In a court of law? 

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 March 13, 2008 1:28 PM

 Christian that is good to know. Did respond and ask them what he did or did he agree and they still won't let him in?


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 March 13, 2008 1:30 PM


Yeah - what Venetia said!

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 March 13, 2008 1:31 PM

His issue, as I'm sure it would be with anyone else here, is why he wasn't told what he did, where and how, other than the nebulous proclamation that he was reportedly "flaming" in "a thread", not how to get back in. He knows what he has to do.

I thought I said that at least several times today. I guess I was mistaken.

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Let's put this in simple terms ... March 13, 2008 1:35 PM

Because everyone - even just those on the "support" side of the equation - doesn't have a common "philosophy" here ...

1)  There are some people who are supporting FD merely because they like him and want him back on Care2. 

2) There are some people who are supporting the equal application of equal offense aspect. 

3) There are some people who are opining that Care2's policies should be more clearly spelled out. 

4) There are those who think that Care2 should, if not at least provide warnings before booting someone, provide the specific reason for one's booting. 

5) Probably some other things that people are doing this for. 

6) Any combination of the above. 

Whatever reason a person has for signing this petition and asking for FDs reinstatement, it is a valid one to that person. 

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 March 13, 2008 1:35 PM

Not necessarily.  Maybe we are just trying really hard to see how so many people got their knickers in a knot over something so juvenile.

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But Wolfbaby ... March 13, 2008 1:37 PM

You are here and on the DMA thread ... with your knickers in the proverbial knot ... as well ... are you not? 

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 March 13, 2008 1:44 PM

1)  There are some people who are supporting FD merely because they like him and want him back on Care2. 

2) There are some people who are supporting the equal application of equal offense aspect. 

3) There are some people who are opining that Care2's policies should be more clearly spelled out. 

4) There are those who think that Care2 should, if not at least provide warnings before booting someone, provide the specific reason for one's booting. 

5) Probably some other things that people are doing this for. 

6) Any combination of the above. 

 That should have been put on the petition, I can understand that. The problem is with blanket title like Reinstate fishguy it looks like that is the sole purpose. I agree that it would be nice to know why people are suspended. I don't care either way if FD get's reinstated, especially since all he has to do is agree to the same rules we all do. Those choices should be on the petition, it would make a much better impact. 

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 March 13, 2008 1:50 PM

Presenting the owner of the knottiest knickers in Care2 today:


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 March 13, 2008 2:07 PM

Important Statement:  PLEASE READ THIS!

From the beginning of this I wanted to find out what the truth is, as much as that is possible.  Yes, I question the story but I want to make something clear:

I DO NOT question anything Christian says about this as he experienced it.

If there's anyone here who can be trusted, on a serious issue, to tell the truth, it is Christian.

I know Christian well-enough to know he does not lie.  His integrity is important to him.  He messes around like we all do but on an important issue like this, what Christian says is what he knows.  He does not embellish to get a reaction.

Yes, I question what story Christian has been told - I have my own reasons for that - but everyone here should know, without a doubt, that what Christian tells us is the truth as he knows it - and it is not slanted just to favor a friend.

I apologize to you, Christian, if it seemed I was personally questioning your version of the truth - I was questioning the story you are receiving.  I'm still questioning one side of the story - but that is my opinion.  You, from what you experienced, I know, I can count on telling it exactly like it is.

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 March 13, 2008 2:18 PM

 Knate is right, said exactly how I feel. Christian I hope it doesn't sound like I'm attacking you. I have always known you to be honest Iand I would never think otherwise. I just don't trust FD, but that's from my own experiences with him and has nothing to do with you.

 A lot of my friends like FD, a lot don't. I don't care who are friends with who. I think it sucks that this has become a him or us situation. Friendshps are being lost over this, it's really sad and you know he's laughing over the whole thing.

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 March 13, 2008 2:24 PM

drbobak.jpgTake two fish and call me in the morning  [ send green star]
Welcome back, Jeffrey.....NOT! March 13, 2008 2:43 PM

I've always said from Day One of your exile from Care2 that if they were going to ban you, they should have banned fish guy too. I'm not changing that position now that you have returned and fish guy has not. As for those who say you two are totally different, being different does not prevent you two from being equally bad. A troll is a troll, no matter what else may be true of him.

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Cissy March 13, 2008 3:05 PM

I know you wont see this until tomorrow but I wanted to be sure it's here when you arrive.

I apologize for how I stated that comparison, as it related to you. It sounds like I misinterpreted or overstated your position, when you said, "We are all in the dark, and well, c2 has the right to suspend someone when they see there's a just cause. Why can't he just apologize and agree to follow the CoC? "

Considering all the concerns that were previously expressed about not letting someone know what the just cause was, it seemed to me you were saying that you felt it was fine for Care2 to do what they wanted and, because members had been doing so, he (and we?) should just agree to what they demand whether we really know what we are agreeing to or not.

I guess,(please correct me I'm wrong) where we differ is that I don't feel that just because suspensions have been being done a particular way, it means it is best to continue doing them that way.

As I've already mentioned, I was already feeling concerned about how Care2 was handling recent suspensions, and noticing other petitions, about other suspended members, before FD's showed up.

However, I do honor your appreciation of Care2, which I share, and I can understand why you might want this handled  differently. Peace?

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 March 13, 2008 3:06 PM

Wow Christian - I get the knottiest knicker award?  Thank you thank you.

Is there an award?

Wow - I can't believe I won. 

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 March 13, 2008 3:08 PM


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 March 13, 2008 3:12 PM

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 March 13, 2008 3:23 PM

Um, could people NOT delete posts from here until I've seen them first, please?

Could someone e-mail me and tell me exactly what was deleted?

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hmmmm March 13, 2008 3:35 PM

Care2 has it's issues, believe me!!! That's why I don't particapate as much anymore. Why waste one's time on here when some supersensitive person isn't going to like your post and get their 5-6 buddies to report you. I have been reported in the past by the "so call witch hunt" that goes on in a group  That is just some people's personal opinion that don't like your post. It has nothing to do w/the rules here.

If Care2 was really so hype on the rules here they would make everyone play by them. I see alot of spam in this site.  I have gotten emails from Care2 that said my post was inappropriate. Sorry they don't give a reason.   They they just give me the rules, when I reply to them I get no answer back as to what post or anything.  Whomever said they do I am telling you they don't. They don't give the group or the post that was inappropriate.    I have seen other members be suspended for one reason or another and they don't know why....they do come back w/n 24-48 hours for some reason. 

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 March 13, 2008 3:40 PM

I think part of the problem is that Care2 ASSUMES that the offender knows what he did wrong and that his claiming he doesn't know is merely dishonest stonewalling.

While that may be the case, I think it incumbent on Care2 to tell EVERYONE ELSE publicly and exactly what the offender did wrong. There should never be a question about it.

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Wolfbaby March 13, 2008 3:43 PM

You won all right. How many times do you need to be told Christian CAN NOT divulge the content of FD's e-mail? You sound like a broken record right now. I'm not a fan of FD, but I'm really gettind p'd off seeing derogatory remarks about Christian and the petition in several groups. Give it a rest, will you?

BTW, I'm thinking about a fan club for Christian. I wish I could take all the shyt like him and still be as civil about it.

Would someone please flip this thread? Thanks!

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 March 13, 2008 3:47 PM

Christian, check your NM.

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 March 13, 2008 4:28 PM

Got it, Charlene, Thanks.

In the future, could the deletor please do a copy of the posts that are to be deleted and paste them into a Yahoo e-mail to me?

Thank you!

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 March 13, 2008 4:36 PM


Tracy T, our owner, made it clear in NM what we are to do. It does not matter what was posted.  We are to act immediately.

This delete is not a public issue.  We are to act and not wait to act if a certain person (JW), who is banned from Care2, shows up here.  Otherwise, this group will be made to pay for allowing that certain person (JW) to post anything at all here.

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 March 13, 2008 4:59 PM

Gee Edge - Christian did give me (and everyone else) an answer - so I guess he could.

I'll give it a break when I feel like it.  If you don't like it - unless you can show me where you have the authority to dictate to everyone here what, where, when and how they post - tough.

Oh - and show me one post - just one - where I have said anything against Christian?   Or anyone else except fg.

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Things are happening here ... March 13, 2008 7:04 PM

faster than the eye can see ...

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 March 13, 2008 7:06 PM

Hiya Uno,

Those are the rules set down by the owner of this group, which, as hosts, we are required to follow - and by Care2 itself.

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I know ... March 13, 2008 7:07 PM

cool with me, Knate ...

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 March 13, 2008 7:12 PM

Is this a group where people can post without being a member?

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Nope ... March 13, 2008 7:14 PM

I had to rejoin to post as ... you know ... me ...

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 March 13, 2008 7:15 PM

Is this a group where people can post without being a member?

Only by proxy, like Aimee once did via me.

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 March 13, 2008 7:15 PM

Then we have a member who has a fake id which is changed at will?

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 March 13, 2008 7:15 PM

Hiya Annie,

Nope. One has to be a member to post.

But there was a brief member here a few times today. They were deleted and blocked.

It is the rule of the owner of this group that that specific person be immediately deleted and blocked because Care2 will take sanctions against this group and its hosts if that person is allowed in this group, or any other group at Care2. 

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 March 13, 2008 7:17 PM

Hiya Annie,

There are, unfortunately, many members who have fake IDs.

There are also many members who have multiple IDs.

Unless you actually know the person, there's no way to know who they really are. That's a problem across the entire Internet.

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 March 13, 2008 7:19 PM

Shhhh...  We're hunting... 

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 March 13, 2008 7:19 PM

I knew the last part Knate, i just wondered if it was apparent what id was being used. Sounds like it was, although I'm a little confusedthen, how it happened twice ..... a second fake id?

think youjust answered this last part

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Good point, Knate! March 13, 2008 7:20 PM

Check this out:

What happens with identity theft via the web!

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 March 13, 2008 7:30 PM

The last time it happened there were 10 different profiles in one day. That's when Knate and I did the Portrait of a Loser book cover parody.

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 March 13, 2008 7:35 PM


  All clear...  :::crackles:::  

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 March 13, 2008 7:36 PM

Hiya Annie...

Actually, I'm one of those rare people who has only one ID so I'm not sure how the mutliples are done.

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 March 13, 2008 7:37 PM

Thanks, Dale.

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 March 13, 2008 7:40 PM

I have one profile, whew, how does one maintain multiples?

Portrait of a loser.jpg

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 March 13, 2008 7:43 PM

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 March 13, 2008 7:46 PM

My wife and I have three profiles between us. The only problem is that with the third profile we have very few groups because I don't Care2 to join all the others I and/or Cheri am in with our regular accounts.

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 March 13, 2008 8:37 PM

Okay, maybe I didn't enunciate properly. Offending posts by offensive people who were banned by Care2 and could get us in trouble just by posting in this group can still be copied before being deleted and then pasted into a Yahoo e-mail afterwards.

The act of copying only takes about two seconds, max. Once something has been copied (that is, by highlighting and right-clicking on it and choosing "Copy" or hitting Ctrl + C or whatever), it remains in one's computer's Clipboard indefinitely. That gives one time to delete it quickly before pasting it into a Yahoo e-mail and sending it to me so I can see it.

It takes two seconds to copy, that's it. Once it's been copied, one can take all the leisurely time in the world to paste it.

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 March 13, 2008 8:47 PM

Hiya Christian,

It is not a matter of whether the post is offensive or not.

Tracy has asked me, and the other hosts, to immediately delete anything from JW and block him and she explained why.  That's it. 

If you get there first and want to make a copy of the post, okay.  But if I see any posts by him I will immediately delete them, as asked, and block him.  Sorry, but I'm not taking any time to copy the post first.

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 March 13, 2008 8:52 PM

It's two seconds, if that. I will delete and block said person too, but not until I take a second or two (and that's seriously, literally, all it takes) to copy it first. I would seriously appreciate it if the co-hosts here could take the miniscule amount of time it takes to do that for me.

By the way, this is how I get around a certain rule, because no one is being asked to click on this if they don't want to:

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 March 13, 2008 11:45 PM

Annie, I really don't care one way or the other but yeah, It's often difficult to get one's point across online. Speaking of which, I do agree, Christian... When and if something's deleted in a group I host / co-host, I want to know what it was.

Oh, and re: suspensions... I'm yet to see one I couldn't agree with... I don't know all the cases, but those that I do know, I'm cool with. Btw, those avatars in the link are so funny

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 March 14, 2008 12:42 AM

I am not a ‘fan’ of the Bubblefishboy, never have been, doubt I ever will be and no, I do not ‘miss’ him at all. I do believe though in the saying that there are always 3 sides to every story, yours/theirs/truth. I believe that Christian is being honest/upfront in what he knows to be true, I believe that C2C feels they were justified and I believe that Bubblefishboy believes that he was truly wronged.

What I also believe is that for quite some time there has been constant bickering and down right ‘turf wars’ breaking out all over this site. People that were ‘friends’ became enemies as they sided against each other. Sadly some very good people were run off, but the rest of us got to celebrate when some of the slugs-on-drugs were permanently booted.

Right or wrong, justified or not, IMHO, Bubblefishboy’s suspension seems to have brought back some of the ‘together we stand’ fighting for the ‘ principal’ I haven’t seen in so long. People like myself that do not care for him personally, even if for a short time, put the Bubblefishboy on their avi’s as a show of unity. And ok, yes maybe some of us did more because we were having so much ‘fun’ doing it, but we were having fun 'together', and I just think it has been a nice change..... 

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ME T March 14, 2008 12:49 AM

I agree... There has been lots of backstabbing and things like that going on here... I have tried to stay away from it all but it ain't always easy. I hid my profile twice recently, for a rather long time and even deleted one of my groups... I think it's been lovely to see people stand up for the fish guy, and I too am sure that there are three sides to every story, there usually are. And I am equally sure that Christian is being honest and as I said before, his standing up for fish guy is lovely and great. But, well... this is not my battle.

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 March 14, 2008 5:20 AM

It won't be everybody's battle.  It doesn't have to be, can't be.

Even if it's just about the principle and not about the principal actor, there are still people who just don't like to sign petitions like this.  (Like me, for example).

But I sure don't like to see people who have been online friends falling out over something like this.  Nobody, IMO, ought to be thought worse of for not supporting the petition, or for supporting it either.

I have people on my friends list who absolutely can't stand one another.  There are people on it I get aggravated with as well.  I'm sure there are days when the aggravation is mutual.    If they don't want to be there, I hope they leave.

Personally, I think Care2 could take a good long look, when they can get a minute free from the bug list, at revamping their entire rules of operation.  If any of Care2's people would care to write me I can offer some specific suggestions and examples from other places I frequent.

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Honestly ... March 14, 2008 5:23 AM

I really didn't think it was such a big deal that friends have been falling out over this. 

At least, as far as I know, no one has.  I've seen one or two people reference being dropped from people's friends lists, but I have not had that experience ...

I think people - probably on both sides - are making this a bigger issue than it needs to be, but whatever ... it's quite interesting to watch. 

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 March 14, 2008 5:32 AM

"At least, as far as I know, no one has."

I have, Uno.

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 March 14, 2008 5:34 AM

Uno, fish guy's not been the reason I have had trouble with "friends"... nor has them taking a side other than mine, and I really do refuse to take a side in this particular issue. What I meant is that I agree with ME T that it's great to see people united in this (well, some people) as there is just such an awful amount of bickering, backstabbing, lying, flaming, flagging etc going on here in care2. I've even had someone I don't know at all writing offensive things about me on her profile billboard... so I'm not surprised at anything that goes on here anymore... And in that sense, people fighting for the fish guy, wrong or right, is a welcome change.

Kris, I agree... it can't be everyone's battle, and I totally understand what you mean about some friends on my list disliking each other immensely... It's not easy. Especially if you're caught in the middle.

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Knate March 14, 2008 5:34 AM

You mean ... you're not friends with fish guy anymore?

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 March 14, 2008 5:46 AM

To answer you directly, Christian, I have many friends on my friends list. That's nice but let's be real.  The ones who I actually count as real friends - who are people I know and we share trust and real friendship - is only a handful.  A handful - and I consider myself blessed to have made their acquaintance and to have gotten to be close friends with them.

The hundreds of people of people who "know" me don't know me.  And I don't know them. 

As for Fishguy, it's no surprize to anyone that he and I do not get along. I would be quite happy if he were to leave the groups I am in - and I am only in a few groups, not in hundreds like some.  I find he is disruptive and, for me, often ruins the group.

However, I would not ban him.  I have the choice, when I encounter him, to engage with him and argue or to disengage and move on to another post or another thread.  I may not like him being there but he has as much right as I have for being anywhere at Care2.

I am not interested in being his friend.  I am sure the feeling is mutual.

But as for suspensions, like I've repeatedly said, I have seen Fishguy be confrontational, rude and obnoxious, but I have never seen him do or say anything that I'd consider different than the normal flaming and rudeness many others communicate.  But I wasn't there for the so-called incidents so I don't know what happened.

(to be continued)

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 March 14, 2008 6:04 AM


I am concerned with fairness.

I am concerned that any rules we have to follow at Care2 are made clear to all members so we know, clearly, when we are breaking those rules and when we are complying with those rules.

I am concerned that all members are treated equally and fairly under the rules.

I am concerned, and hopeful, that when any of us breaks those rules - and are suspended - that Care2 explains specifically what we have done wrong so that we know how to alter our behavior to comply.

I think it is perfectly right that Care2 asks us, if we break their rules, to make an apology and promise not to break the rules again.  Otherwise, it is fully within their rights to keep us suspended or banned.


I am concerned about the mob mentality that makes this an issue of "us" versus "them."

We do not own Care2.  It is a free message board, a place for discussion, a place to meet people and share ideas, a place to have fun or to have "serious."  Care2 is free.  We do not own Care2.  We are guests here, in their own home.  They can tell us how to act.

At the end of the day, it is up to them and it is solely their right to make the rules they wish and to enforce those rules the way they wish to enforce them. 

Yes, I would like them to be clear about the rules so I, personally, know what is allowed and what is forbidden.  That would be helpful for me and for all of us.

But they owe me nothing.  They have no contract with me.  I don't give them money or services in exchange for my membership.  I was invited to join in (for free) and I am allowed to stay, as long as they allow me to stay.  I have no problem with that.

I only hope and ask them that they be fair in how the apply their rules.  And clarify them. 


As for what they do with Fishguy, I am sure it is not only what they do.  It's also up to him what he does. 

I will not join the mob that blindly declares Care2 is the enemy - and I will not automatically condemn Fishguy for something I have no knowledge about.  But if Care2 is asking Fishguy to agree to following their rules, they have that right. 

If Fishguy wants to continue to be Drama Queen over this and play Martyr, maybe others will fall for it and fawn all over him, but count me out. They want an apology; give them an apology.  Unless, of course, it is all about the drama and playing the martyr, which I suspect (at this point) is what it really is.

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Knate ... March 14, 2008 11:13 AM

You had someone drop you over this most recent ... brouhaha? 

That's a shame.  And they probably weren't worth the pixels they take up ...

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 March 14, 2008 11:18 AM

Yes, Uno....and it was my mom!  How could she do that to me? 

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No worries, Cissy ... March 14, 2008 11:20 AM

I was actually addressing Kris's comment about people falling out ...

I've seen people - friends - heartily disagreeing about the whole Fishdiver issue, but I really didn't notice any "fallings out" is what I meant. 

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Knate! March 14, 2008 11:20 AM

Ooops!  I'm sure she's worth ALL of her pixels ... and possibly more! 

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 March 14, 2008 11:27 AM

 I wore the avi for less than 12 hours and lost 2 friends, yes they were friends, ones I communicated with quite a bit. I tried to explain why I made the avi, that it was more me mocking his suspension. You know, now my bunnies can run free and play while he's away kind of thing. Didn't matter, they only saw his avi. Then I make it clear my distrust of fd. I tend to believe care2 when they say he has not replied to their email. Maybe he has, and maybe he hasn't. You never know, he could be telling the truth.  I doubt it though since he has lied directly to me. Then yesterday I go to send someone a green star and notice I am no longer on her friends list. I couldn't figure out why until I saw she signed the petition. So yes, friendships are lost and that's sad, just like I said yesterday.

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Well, V ... March 14, 2008 11:30 AM

I can't feel what you feel, but can only opine that if someone's going to drop you over petty things ... that makes that person ... well ... petty. 

I would be maybe a little puzzled and not at all upset. 

But that's just me. 

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 March 14, 2008 12:06 PM

Dear Bunny, wasn't me.  I haven't been on your friends list yet.  Though it seems I should be, considering all the campaigning and nominating and voting...

But anyway, knowing how C2 robs us of friends,  you should ask her if she really deleted you.

Friends lists are almost meaningless.  Drive you nuts if you take them too seriously. I have friends in Care2 who are not on my list, and friends on my list that I wonder who dat?

I've blocked a few for sending a lot of fwd fwds...but that's a whole nother topic.

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 March 14, 2008 12:10 PM

I wore the avi for less than 12 hours and lost 2 friends, yes they were friends, ones I communicated with quite a bit.

Boy, don't you hate "fair weather" friends? I didn't drop anyone over the fish guy pics, though I admit I was tempted in one case.

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 March 14, 2008 12:47 PM

 I know it wasn't you bird, friend request is on the way.

 It's not that I'm upset about losing people off my list per se, it's more of a disappointment over the pettiness.

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 March 14, 2008 1:15 PM

Ok, Uno Well, there's been plenty of pettiness from my "friends" but none of that because of , I'm happy to say. It / he does seem like a very strange reason for a falling-out, more like a catalyst or an excuse. Some people are just hungry for the drama

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 March 14, 2008 6:01 PM

There is a new Mountain Dew commercial here, that is very funny when you watch it. However my husband found it offensive. Why you ask? The commercial is sooo funny afterall. My husband's best friend Hugh was struck and killed by lightning 10 years ago, it was horrible. I know he still thinks about Hugh a lot. To him the commercial is not funny and I don't blame him. Of course I have no problem with people who find it funny, even find it amusing myself. That's how it is with FD. Yes he can be amusing, and all this can seem so funny. However he has hurt some people, followed them from group to group just to promote killing ferils. He does this to people he knows do TNR to save ferils. To those people seeing him all over the place is offensive. I'm not going to blame them for that. I'm not going to accuse them of creating drama because they admit to being hurt by something so many others don't have an issue with.

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 March 14, 2008 6:07 PM

No disrespect meant... `ferils´? You are talking about feral animals?

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 March 14, 2008 6:11 PM

 Yes, feral.  I'm having trouble spelling tonight, this cold seems to be affecting my typing too. He promotes killing feral cats amongst other critters.

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 March 14, 2008 6:40 PM

Cold weather sucks like a hoover. On cold, humid days the only way I get out of bed is to roll off and fall. Fibromyalgia is a major pain everywhere.
Finns should (by definition) be immune to cold. Guess again

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 March 14, 2008 6:48 PM

 We are in the up and down weather stage. 20 one day 60 the next. We are all sick with colds. I had to keep my daughter home yesterday, she was not happy to miss school. Of course she's fine now, and I'm getting ready to hit the worst part. Always the way isn't it?

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 March 14, 2008 6:59 PM

Same here. I wish for a cool, clear autumn. That's the only time of the year I get anything done.
My condolences to anyone who suffers from weather changes and to those who are tired of my whining.

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 March 14, 2008 7:33 PM

Hi Venetia, I just missed all the crummy weather in Indy. I'm in Seattle and I've had a monster of a cold, too. Everyone seems to be sick. Maybe that's why fishguy got bumped-the Care2 frog is sick! Nyquil makes some people nasty.

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 March 15, 2008 12:18 AM

Venetia, you made a great point... That's exactly true, people find different things offensive, and one of the most offensive things is people then telling you that you have no sense of humour, because something hurt you. Anyhow... yeah, I think that FD's promotion of killing feral cats is awful. But I almost never saw him anywhere so him being suspended makes very little difference to me.

Btw, I too am tired of the cold weather and snow here in FinLand... and am affected by the weather too, suffering from RA (rheumatoid arthritis). It's snowed more last night...

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 March 15, 2008 10:18 AM

 Charlene are you sure the Indy virus didn't follow you there? I swear half the state is sick. Next time you are here we really need to do lunch.

 Thank you Cissy.  I hope you feel better.

My last comments on FD. (I hope) I've been on the receiving end of his flaming, however since then I have gotten to know FD a little and he doesn't bother me much at all. Even joke around with him now and then. However people who have only seen him on the attack, never got to see that he does have a sense of humor. They can't understand why people would like him. Those are the ones I've lost. I can't blame them, but it does sadden me that they reacted so strongly.

40 degrees today, thank goodness only 8 more days till I leave for Florida.

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 March 15, 2008 11:31 AM

People shouldn't be suspended because of a popularity contest, nor should they be suspended because they have a sense of humor I ahbor, or a lack of a sense of humor.  If that were the standard I wouldn't last ten minutes at Care2.

The standard should be, I would hope, based on clear and universal rules of behavior that are applied equally to everyone. Equally and fairly to each of us.

But, as I mentioned before, if Care2 suspends any of us and asks for an apology before we're allowed to return, we should give them the apology and play by their rules.  This is their place; not ours.

Playing the martyr over this situation - and getting others involved pro or con - is infantile, irritating & manipulative, and just shows the real agenda of the one suspended is the agenda of a Drama Queen.  I have no sympathy for anyone acting like that, regardless of the reason for their suspension. 

Excuse me for my suspicions about Fishguy but I have seen too much of his antics in the past to believe this is anything but more of his manipulative game-playing. 

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 March 15, 2008 11:40 AM

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Bumpity! March 15, 2008 2:56 PM

This thread is too long.  Please start a fish guy petition part two.

I just noticed, on petitions they no longer tell time of signatures; only the date.

I also just noticed, in advanced people search, Nevada is between New Mexico and New York on their alphabetized list of states.

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Some of those state things ... March 15, 2008 4:03 PM

sort by the two-letter abbreviation ...

NM, NV, NY ...

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 March 15, 2008 5:00 PM

Alternatively - you could decide NOT to start a new thread by this name

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 March 15, 2008 5:06 PM

 Christian's thread so he should decide. Although I do believe he likes long threads, I'm fine with there only being this one.

 That makes sense about the abbreviations, course the way they have been spelling things lately...

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 March 15, 2008 5:16 PM

I don't "like" long threads, I just don't enjoy flipping them, especially now since I discovered the HOME and END keys that take you to the top or bottom of any page on the internet instantly.

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 March 15, 2008 5:20 PM

Oh, hey, that's cool. Home and end, good to know. about the "like" thing.

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 March 15, 2008 5:24 PM

The only reason I would start a second thread would be to piss Wolfbaby off and nothing else. Otherwise, it's a waste of time.

We don't need a second thread as much as we need fish guy to quit jerking us around in here and tell Care2 what they want to hear already so we can all change our avis back and return to what we were doing.

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Christian ... March 15, 2008 5:25 PM

Are you on your period or something? 

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PS ... March 15, 2008 5:26 PM

I think pretty much everyone except you - and possibly Angie - have already unfished their avis ...

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 March 15, 2008 6:20 PM

Isn't today the 15th?

Yeah, it's about that time.

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 March 15, 2008 6:33 PM

Julius Caesar said he has to stop by the Senate for a few minutes then he'll join us later.

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 March 15, 2008 7:05 PM

I don't get it.

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 March 15, 2008 7:44 PM

It's the Ides of March, Christian.

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 March 15, 2008 7:56 PM

But Knate, you know full well I'm mentally challenged.

You should have made a Star Trek reference instead.

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 March 15, 2008 8:00 PM

So you're saying Caesar was assassinated by someone who was on their period?

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 March 15, 2008 8:11 PM


Season 4, episode 21
Series 421
1st release: 05/10/99
2nd release: 09/20/99
Production number: V0624 Star Trek reference.
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 March 15, 2008 9:27 PM

Et tu Christian?

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 March 15, 2008 10:47 PM

If it wasn't for people telling me I need to change my avi, I would have done it a week ago.

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I know, Angie ... March 15, 2008 11:20 PM

That's what I like about you ...

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 March 15, 2008 11:40 PM

I just gotta be me

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bumpity March 17, 2008 7:47 PM

There once was a petition to bring back a dog that had been banned from Care2.  I never met that dog, but it was said that he was a nice dog, not at all like WolfBaby.  It was said that he'd been banned, not because he was naughty, but because he was a multiple profile.

Well, that didn't seem fair to me.  Lot's of people have their dogs here.   So I signed the petition. 

Now I wonder how many people refused to sign that petition just because they didn't like that particular dog.  And I wonder if any signers of that petition are signing this one?

Probably not.  Seems people seek justice for those they like, but not for people and dogs they don't like.

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 March 17, 2008 8:07 PM

The dog was not a dog.  Newton was JW; not a canine.

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I won't argue with that, Lulu ... March 17, 2008 8:26 PM

Folks is folks.  As fair and objective as many of us try to be, sometimes, it just boils down to personal likes and dislikes. 

It's a human thing. 

Puppies aren't as discriminating that way. 

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 March 17, 2008 8:47 PM

Some of my best friends are puppies.

I don't hold them accountable for what their silly humans do.

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 March 17, 2008 8:47 PM

If the doggy in question had been a good doggy and not "peed on people's legs" he might still be here.

Having a profile for your doggy is one thing;but, hiding behind your doggy to do some dirty work is reallllly wrong.

I adore reading some of the doggies' opinions about housebreaking and flea dips.

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 March 18, 2008 1:22 AM

There was no dog.  It was a ruse by You-Know-Who to come in under a dog's name so he could use that "front" to viciously attack other Care2 members and avoid admitting it was him so he could avoid suspension and banning.

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 March 18, 2008 2:36 PM


What an interesting coincidence.

A discussion about the dog, Newton, an avatar of JW, is started here and - gee whiz - JW as Newton shows up and tries to get back on Care2.

Well, Care2 knows about it and he's been zapped.

For anyone who may be supporting JW's attempts to get back on Care2 - secretly or openly - or is trying to help JW get back into this group (secretly and openly) I will, as a host, block and ban JW whenever he is found.  That will include anyone who encourages him to come back here secretly or openly. They will also be blocked and banned.

We will not allow JW - or any of his friends - to screw up this group for the rest of us.

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 March 18, 2008 3:56 PM

I am now attempting to retrieve a few members who wandered off due to the recent "invasions"...

I appreciate the support of our members and my indominatable and amazing cohosts!

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 March 18, 2008 3:59 PM

I deleted and reported at least four troll posts. I was busy at work when all this went down and only caught the tail end of it but at least managed to deal with as much as I could.

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 March 19, 2008 4:10 PM

Crap, I missed "return of the troll."  For what it's worth, I'll add my two cents.  I don't think Care2 handled this well at all.  I think they should explain to fish fella exactly what he did "wrong."  I haven't always agreed with him, and his attitude towards animal rights pisses me off, but for some strange reason I like him.  Besides, I wouldn't let my feelings stand in the way of what's right.  I just hope he isn't "soaking" this for his own motives...  [ send green star]
 March 20, 2008 7:31 AM

What did Freediver do to get kicked out, what does he have to do to get back in? His 'country honesty' may provoke some, but no more than some's 'urban cynicism' might.
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 March 20, 2008 7:36 AM

That's the whole point; no one is quite sure what fish guy "did" to get suspended including fish guy himself. To get back in all he has to do is write to Care2.

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 March 20, 2008 7:55 AM

Then he should just do that and end this drama.

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 March 20, 2008 8:02 AM

Hiya James,

You say:  "I just hope he isn't "soaking" this for his own motives..."

You are not the only person with that thought.  I also hope he isn't.

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 March 24, 2008 6:11 PM

Well, I initially intended to not get involved in this discussion at all, but having finally read through the thread, there are some mis-conceptions that I would like to clear up.

While Christian was no doubt only posting exactly what he had been told was the case, there  are some inaccuracies in his explanation.

Care2 Contacted FD on the 27th of march regarding his suspension. Since the support ticket was created by Care2 staff using his email address, apparently there was confusion on Freediver's part with the fact that he got the 'auto-reply' message. This was because the system sends out a copy of the original message out every time a member submits a support request.

Freediver did not reply to their email.

Days later, He had someone post for him in F&S with a very sarcastic post beginning "Dear Care2 cyberbots" which went on and on about the apparent 'glitch' which sent him 'spam', and such.

Given that the support team has more than enough to handle with the discussion boards, support requests sent via the appropriate venue and the abuse reports, they chose not to take him up on his offer to go to his website, read his side of the story, and send him a PM from his website. However, in the interest of clearing things up with him, they sent him a response to the support email they have setup explaining how to address the matter.

Freediver did not reply to that email.

Instead, he posted a long 'reply' on his website, even going so far as to start it with 'Dear Kristen' as though he were pasting an actual email reply. Perhaps he was under the assumption that the Care2 support team has nothing better to do than to visit Freediver's blog every day to see whether he replied to his support ticket there instead of simply hitting 'reply' on the email. To me it seems that he was far more interested in the publicity than actually discussing the matter with Care2.

Finally, on march 17th, he decided to reply to their email. He did not actually address the requests sent by support, nor did he ask for specifics regarding his suspension. He simply pasted links to his website. He then updated his website to state that he contacted Care2, and would be updating it were he to receive a reply.

He was sent a response the same day, but has yet to either reply or to update the blog. In my opinion, this seems a clear attempt to exploit the situation. If he had taken the time to simply reply and ask about the suspension at the start, he could have gotten more information from the Care2 team. Instead, he immediately decided that he would get nothing, and started a campaign to smear Care2 for suspending him "without explanation".

While I am not familiar with the details that let to his suspension, I find it quite wrong to make the claims he made about it, without ever actually trying to find out from Care2 what happened. Now that the suspension happened about a month ago, and he has still not actually taken the time to hit 'reply' and ask for more information, it seems quite unrealistic to expect that Care2 would have the spare time to hunt down month old abuse reports, and discussions. It may be the case that there should have been more detail provided initially. However, the fact remains that he never bothered to actually ask via the established contact method (which he certainly knew how to do) by simply replying to their email.

Wow, this is a lot longer than I thought it would be. Please note I am not commenting on the actual suspension. I do not know what exactly he posted or did to get suspended, and to be honest I don't care. I just wanted to point out a few inconsistencies with the story, as things were not presented quite as they occurred.

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Thanks, Jeff ... March 24, 2008 6:16 PM

Good for you. 

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 March 24, 2008 6:18 PM


Thank you so much for clearing the air about this.

We greatly appreciate you took the time and effort to tell us.

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 March 24, 2008 6:19 PM

Fair enough, Jeff, but I think the point remains the same as it did initially, and that is that there was no specific reason or example given to fish guy as to what he did to get suspended. Regardless of whether he did or did not reply to Care2's emails after the fact, or even whether he's just milking this thing for fun, it doesn't change the fact that he was suspended arbitrarily and without explanation other than a vague reference to "flaming".

How fish guy chose to handle the situation afterwards is beside the point.

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I like FD ... March 24, 2008 6:19 PM

and would like to see him back here ...

But, as a lot of people have pointed out ... the ball is in his court. 

I do feel his suspension was unfair - what I know of it - but I do recognize that he can probably return if he chooses to follow-through ...

I believe he thinks that he shouldn't have to ... I'm not going to enter an opinion on that ...

As for exploiting the circumstances ... I've no doubt that he did.  That's what he does. 

Personally, I don't have a huge problem with it ... but I know some people do ...

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 March 24, 2008 6:27 PM

Jeff. Thanks for clearing the air. It was beginning to get a bit aromatic in her.  [ send green star]
 March 24, 2008 6:28 PM

It would be a simple matter for Freediver to be reinstated if he agrees to change his behavior to stop being so offensive to animal lovers and others who have opposing views from him. When I was suspended last year, I knew why it happened and I knew not to repeat that action. In Freediver's case, it is obvious that he engaged in actions that were actually tolerated for years within Care2, but came VERY CLOSE to violating the Care2 Code of Conduct as it was (and according to some hosts' interpretations, he DID violate the Code, which is why he's been blocked from so many groups). By adding a detailed clarification to the Code, the Care2 admin have made clear that what was barely tolerated before in some places won't be anymore, ANYWHERE!

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 March 24, 2008 6:30 PM

oops. It was supposed to be HERE not her. That sounds awful.

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 March 24, 2008 6:31 PM

What Uno says:

"As for exploiting the circumstances ... I've no doubt that he did.  That's what he does." 

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christian March 24, 2008 6:42 PM

"Regardless of whether he did or did not reply to Care2's emails after the fact, or even whether he's just milking this thing for fun, it doesn't change the fact that he was suspended arbitrarily and without explanation other than a vague reference to "flaming".

How fish guy chose to handle the situation afterwards is beside the point.

I have to completely disagree with you there. Our team suspends members for abuse on the site quite regularly. The majority of the time, the members understand what topic or discussion they went too far on, and don't even ask for the specific posts. Those who do wish to request more details are assisted further in understanding our policies and why they were suspended.

You say that Freedivers response (or lack thereof) is not the point, but it is * exactly * the point. Had he simply chosen to contact Care2 rather than making a spectacle of it, it would have been handled. He knows well enough having been here so long that Care2 does not publically discuss specifics of suspensions with the general membership. All he had to do was make an effort to find out what happened. What happened is completely his choice and his doing. You say that his suspension was arbitrary and unjustified, but you actually have no way of knowing that, since he never took the time to find out what caused his suspension.

To use an example someone else gave on this thread, if you get pulled over, the officer may only say " I stopped you for reckless driving", or "I stopped you for speeding". You may need to actually ask for the specifics of "You were crossing the double yellow lines" or "I clocked you going 65 in a 35", as they would likely assume that you knew why you got stopped as soon as the flashing light appeared behind you, or as soon as they said what the generic 'offense' was.

Regardless, obviously you could care less what the back story is Christian, you clearly have your mind set that it was completely wrong. I only posted this for those who were interested in the full story, since that which you were provided was not really accurate. For those who were interested in the specifics, and whether, for instance, FD had made a good faith effort to find out the reasons for his suspensions before the theatrics, I wanted to at least post it. Maybe for many of you it means nothing. But to me, it feels better to at least see the full story posted.

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 March 24, 2008 6:56 PM

Jeff, thank you again for that further explanation.

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 March 24, 2008 6:57 PM

To add to Jeff's example, it's like the city changing a speed limit from 40 MPH to 30 MPH on a road. The police would be quite justified in writing tickets for speeding to motorists continuing to go 40 MPH on that stretch of road and the fact that they were premitted to go at that speed there in the past would be no legal defense.

Just because we were used to Freediver acting a certain way does not mean the Care2 admin would not be right in putting a stop to it if they felt like doing it. The limits have changed, and those who cannot adapt to the new limits don't belong here, period. That's why I myself have had to change MY behavior too.

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 March 24, 2008 7:00 PM

Thanks Kneight, Uno, Charlene, Dale et al for the comments and the like, I am glad that my posting that was not a waste of time for everyone

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 March 24, 2008 7:05 PM

I have no problems with learning the back story or any other part of the story. That's great that you provided it but somewhat unfortunate that presumptions were made about what I do or do not care about.

What my thoughts are, how "made up" my mind is or which part of the story I care about cannot possibly be known to anybody but me. For the record, you missed on all accounts. Just because I believe he was suspended arbitrarily does not automatically mean that my mind is "set" or "made up" or anything else of that nature about any of this. I am not a mindless automaton, incapable of rational, independent, critical thought.

Now, on to this:

<<You say that his suspension was arbitrary and unjustified, but you actually have no way of knowing that, since he never took the time to find out what caused his suspension.>>

And here's my point about this: why is it incumbant upon fish guy to find out what caused his suspension? If Care2 is going to take a measure so drastic that involves a complete, on-the-spot profile suspension without warning, then the least they can do would be to provide an example of what caused the suspension.

"Dear fish guy,

We're suspending your account because _____________ and here's a copy of it: ________________________________"

Why is that too much to ask?

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 March 24, 2008 7:09 PM

In short, his suspension was arbitrary not because fish guy never bothered to find out why but because no one bothered to tell him.

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Christian March 24, 2008 7:10 PM

That's actually a good point, but the fact remains that Care2 could have sent just such a message to Freediver and he would then still deny getting such a message to continue his attacks on Care2 for the admin not letting him get away with murder, so to speak.

I simply don't trust him to tell the truth about his situation, based on my past experiences with him. When you lack credibility, nothing you say need be taken at face value. So I won't.

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 March 24, 2008 7:15 PM

If Care2 did send such a message but then fish guy denied it, then yes, fish guy would be completely in the wrong.

But that's not what happened, is it?

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 March 24, 2008 7:19 PM

Glad to hear that you actually were interested in the fully story, even if it means little in your feelings about this.

Would it be nice if every time someone was suspended they were given the exact post(s) in question. Maybe so. That said, it would be a non trivial addition in work load given the number of reports received, and the fact that sometimes someone is suspended for a number of different posts or posts in multiple threads/groups/etc.

I don't see why it is such a big deal that if he cared to know the reason he would have to take the 30 seconds to hit 'reply' and ask for details. Since most people do not ask for them, it seemed that most people knew where they tread too heavily. It makes far more sense to me that in the interest of getting through the hundreds of abuse reports and support requests in as timely a manner as they can, they use a more general explanation and only provide further information in the very few cases where people ask. You disagree. Fine.

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 March 24, 2008 7:22 PM

My past experiences with Fishguy are the same as Dale's. I know we are not alone.

I thought, as I inferred before, he was manipulating this situation and I think now, to many people, it is clear he is.

Whether one likes him or not is not the point.  He has been caught "twisting" the truth so often it is difficult to believe anything he says about this.  I do not trust his side of the story, Christian.  I know you are not manipulating, Christian, because you do not do that.  You are trustworthy.  But, in my opinion, he is not.

I believe he either knows the reason he was suspended or could've easily found out if he had contacted Care2 instead of playing Drama Queen over it. Whether that was fair or not, I have no way of telling.  In any case, I'm sure if he had contacted Care2 instead of having you, Christian, be his shill, he probably could've worked it out. That's my opinion.

Fair suspension?  Unfair?  It still is up to him to be the one directly dealing with Care2 over it, not someone else.  I think they have given him that chance and still do - and it seems to me he's not willing to do that. 

Yes, he should be treated fairly....and I would guess he would be if he contacted Care2....but it is up to him to take a role in that, not manipulate people to do it for him. 

The ball is in his court.  It is not, in my opinion, up to Care2 to do anything but expect him to contact them.

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 March 24, 2008 7:28 PM

"In short, his suspension was arbitrary not because fish guy never bothered to find out why but because no one bothered to tell him."

I would disagree again. As with the police example. If I am pulled over and told I was stopped for "reckless driving", that is much like FD getting told he was suspended for "flaming". If am not sure what specifically I did wrong, I should ask for the specifics, as should he. Neither case seems arbitrary.

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 March 24, 2008 7:32 PM

Maybe Christian could set up and run his own web community, with policies like he advocates. All I know is that Freediver posted his comments about his suspension on his own website instead of sending them directly to the Care2 admin like I or anyone seeking real resolution to the problem would have done. That's all I need to know about Freediver's sincerity, or lack thereof.

Of course, I also posted comments on my suspension somewhere else, but I also DID correspond with the admin at the same time. I wasn't just a needy whiner about it.

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 March 24, 2008 7:45 PM

Again, what is with this line of communication? First you say:

<<Glad to hear that you actually were interested in the fully story, ...>>

which is fine, but then you put in this presumptuous little dig at the end:

<< ... even if it means little in your feelings about this.>>

Sorry, but I gotta ask again how you specifically know anything at all about my "feelings" on anything, let alone this fish guy situation? There has been much concern expressed recently by many people, not all of them friends of fish guy, about the fact that there has been an extreme rash of completely arbitrary (and in some cases completely uncalled for) suspensions of Care2 profiles of late. Some of the profiles that were suspended belonged to 100% stand-up, solid people who have never, ever caused trouble before, such as Nadia Donato and others belonged to somewhat more controversial folks such as fish guy who really didn't do anywhere near as much as some other folks who have gotten away with murder and yet were allowed to stay unpunished.

Suspending someone's profile is a very serious step to take, so the least that should be done in that instance would be to provide a copy of the alleged offense.

By telling us:

<< ... in the interest of getting through the hundreds of abuse reports and support requests in as timely a manner as they can, they use a more general explanation and only provide further information in the very few cases where people ask.>>

You're literally admitting to us that the support staff isn't even bothering to investigate whether the allegations brought forth against a member are actually true and are instead, merely taking the word of the person(s) complaining.

So you're saying that when person A disagrees or dislikes person B, all they have to do to get person B suspended is to flag and report them to Care2 support staff and the suspension will have been based on nothing more than the word of person A because Care2 support doesn't have the time to actually check out what happened?

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 March 24, 2008 7:53 PM

You're literally admitting to us that the support staff isn't even bothering to investigate whether the allegations brought forth against a member are actually true and are instead, merely taking the word of the person(s) complaining.
So you're saying that when person A disagrees or dislikes person B, all they have to do to get person B suspended is to flag and report them to Care2 support staff and the suspension will have been based on nothing more than the word of person A because Care2 support doesn't have the time to actually check out what happened?

No, Christian, I don't think he said that at all! I myself have flagged many profiles and nothing was done, and there were other cases, like the recent spammer attacks, in which accounts were shut down soon after I flagged them. So I would assume that if you provide enough information to the admin, they DO conduct an investigation. Merely my saying, "Freediver is a cat hater, please get rid of him for me," wouldn't be sufficient, nor should it ever be.

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 March 24, 2008 7:56 PM

"You're literally admitting to us that the support staff isn't even bothering to investigate whether the allegations brought forth against a member are actually true and are instead, merely taking the word of the person(s) complaining. "

Far from it, Christian. I can attest to the fact that they spend countless hours pouring over every abuse report sent in. All I was saying that after spending all this time reading through report after report, if they decide that they have received sufficient valid reports to warrent action, they do not attempt to search back through all the messages that they received to find the specific posts that were the worst. Would it be better if they did? Maybe so. I am not yet convinced given how few people ever actually request more information.

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 March 24, 2008 8:08 PM

I think Christian is biased regarding this situation because he has actually met Freediver face to face, and thus sees him as more of a fellow human being than a troll he only knows via the web. I can understand that feeling. I have a friend, Buck, who met Jeffrey Williams face to face, and I'm sure Buck sympathizes more with Jeffrey for that reason as well. I myself have met four Care2 members face to face and talked to three more over the phone, and thus understand how both Buck and Christian feel about their respective friends.

But understanding is not the same as agreeing. The fact is, every internet troll is also a human being, but the fact that they are trolls is reason enough to condemn them. Being human DOES include being a disruptive pest in some cases.

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 March 24, 2008 8:10 PM


To be honest, though I have never met him, I actually liked Freediver too. That said, I have been seriously disappointed by his decisions regarding this whole situation, and his skewing of the truth to support his drama.

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 March 24, 2008 8:15 PM

Dale, now you're doing it. By harping on the fact that I met fish guy in person, you're implying that I am incapable of a rational, impartial and independent thought process.

If fish guy did something wrong, then he did something wrong whether I met him in person or not. I won't defend his actions if they broke the rules, nor have I ever done so in the past.

I find it particularly distressing that people here are completely missing the point on top of the fact that they are also implying that I'm giving fish guy a free pass just because I met him in person.

I've made my point repeatedly and if people choose to ignore that and instead focus on red herrings, then I suppose there's not much more I can do at this point.

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 March 24, 2008 8:18 PM

Buck met Jeffrey?

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 March 24, 2008 8:26 PM

Christian, nobody missed anything. It's just that we cannot agree here. And why must you be so paranoid? I was trying to put myself in YOUR shoes and to explain to others, including Jeff, why you side with Freediver so they wouldn't think you were being dishonest or stupid. Thanks for nothing! Why must you assume the worst about what people say?

Yes, Buck told me long ago that he'd met Jeffrey, but gave no details. That was back when THE LEFT, THE RIGHT, AND BEYOND was shut down briefly because Jeffrey had invaded it and had not been blocked from it.

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 March 24, 2008 8:37 PM

I am not "paranoid" nor am I "siding" with fish guy.

Please, for the love of God, could people please stop ascribing emotions and/or mental conditions to me where there are none and could they also stop putting words in my mouth while they're at it?

I'm off to bed now.

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Dale ... March 24, 2008 9:01 PM

Meeting someone in person has nothing to do with anything.  I don't know where you would come up with such a silly notion. 

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 March 25, 2008 12:17 AM

mermaidbluethanks.gif Jeff That's really great of you to come here and explain. I never had any doubt that FD was treated fairly. As I wrote before, I've only ever seen c2 be fair and helpful towards its membership.  [ send green star]
 March 25, 2008 1:21 AM

Christian is a good and loyal friend to those he considers friends, but I think it is unfair to insinuate he would do and say what he is doing and saying for FD purely because they have met.

Christian is doing and saying what he is, about this situation, because he feels it is right and correct.  Agree with him or not about his conclusions; agree with him or not about his methods; but respect his integrity and respect what he says.  Christian loves to play around - as we all know - but when it comes to something serious he believes in, he does not lie or base his beliefs on petty biases.

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Quite right ... March 25, 2008 5:15 AM

Christian is doing and saying what he is, about this situation, because he feels it is right and correct.  Agree with him or not about his conclusions; agree with him or not about his methods; but respect his integrity and respect what he says. 

Christian is one of the most honorable and trustworthy people I know ... period.  He doesn't do what he does for stupid reasons such as having met someone in person. 

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Although ... March 25, 2008 5:15 AM

I do have to admit that I don't always understand his reasoning ...

Nevertheless ...

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 March 25, 2008 6:04 AM

I think Christain was right to stand up for FG.  Everyone may not always agree with what everyone has to say but being picked on without knowing why isn't nice either.

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 March 26, 2008 10:29 AM

Reinstate fishguy. Get rid of the "Clam". Please!!

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 March 26, 2008 11:05 AM

Calling that undesirable person a clam is an insult to bivalves.

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Even univalves ... March 26, 2008 11:07 AM

get upset about it. 

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Trivalves ... March 26, 2008 11:08 AM

get three times as annoyed. 

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 March 26, 2008 11:15 AM

Charlene...  I thought we weren't going to mention Clam again...    

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 March 26, 2008 11:20 AM

I caught clams with a nice dog when I lived and worked in Cape Cod. But clam chowder Anyhow, I was a vegetarian even then.

Now I remember whom you mean... She used to have a small white dog as her avi. Haven't seen her for a long time.

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 March 26, 2008 11:24 AM

She's around all right...

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 March 26, 2008 11:29 AM

Please, if we're going to discuss Fishguy....and this is Fishguy's thread....let's not so insult him by mentioning the dreaded Clam in the same thread.

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 March 26, 2008 12:09 PM


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 April 29, 2008 1:14 AM

That said, I have been seriously disappointed by his decisions regarding this whole situation, and his skewing of the truth to support his drama.

Well I was seriously disappointed at the way Care2 handled this little fiasco. I still have no idea what is going on or why my account won't unhide.

In what way have i 'skewed the turth'???????

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 April 29, 2008 4:49 AM

Hey, look!

It's fish guy.

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 April 29, 2008 10:27 AM

How can I look at him?  He is invisible.  [ send green star]
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