Did anyone other than me get bare butt spankings growing up? My mom was definitely 'old school' and when I acted up I got spanked with a wooden ruler or wooden spoon, always on the bare behind. Mom used to say "your pants didn't do anything wrong; why should they get spanked?" It was terribly embarrassing, but most of the other kids I knew at the time got spanked the same way. But in less than 20 years it seems to have become a taboo. Anyone else get disciplined this way, or have any thoughts about it one way or another?
Yes. me too. My father was not my biological farther and I was a total other child that he has wished, He didn't recognize me as his child and in fact that was true. But he wanted that I was the same as he. But I was totally different.
But yes when I didn't obey him spanking came. and now I hate that to do. Learned a bad way. What about you Johny?
Spanking was certainly the norm it seemed, at least when I was a child in the seventies. Now Corporal Punishment is seen as abuse. For me it was getting 'slapped' on the butt, or my Dad threatening to bring out 'The Belt'. I don't remember him ever using it though - my sister's and I tried our best to always hide it! My friends were going through the same things, especially the boys it seemed.
Now I would never even think of spanking my child! My parent's generation did what they were taught to do by their parent's I guess - but society changes, and so do we. What does a child really learn from physical pain as punishment - to inflict it on others? And we try so hard to protect our children from pain and fear, that the very thought of hurting my own scares me! I suppose that's where the saying "this hurts me more than it hurts you" comes from. It's best to use our 'heads', not our 'hands' when it comes to disipline.
I'm on the fence when it comes to spanking, I don't accept the argument "our parents did it because it's ok" but I also don't buy the idea "it's no longer popular so it must be wrong." Neither one cuts the mustard. I think there are times when it's better to give a spanking than to do nothing, and even the best parents may not know what else to do in a certain circumstance. That said, some parents are too extreme about it. I just don't know.
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We got spanked and we also got the belt but we were never abused.I never spanked my son,oh...once when he ran out into the street.He NEVER did that again.And it was just one slap and he was shocked.
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