Hi, what a wonderful group.....my husband and I are childless by choice. Wanted to say hi to everyone and see ya later....thanks.
Hi, Barko!
Welcome to the group!
My name is Elena.I love animals very much. I'm veterinarian. I love to take care of animals, but I have no desire to take care of children. I do not want to be tied down to diapers, feeding chedule, etc. I have very interesting life and children cannot fit there. Plus- planet is too overpopulated already, no need to contribute to it. A lot of people don't understand and don't approve my decision. They try to convince me to change my mind. But I've made my decision many years ago and it's final! I disagree with stereotype that the main and the only mission for woman is giving birth to children, all the rest (education,career, social life) does not matter. It's up to person to decide what she/he wants to do in life. I made my choice. I'm glad to have friends who share my ideas. Let's talk about it and support each other!
Hi everyone!
I too have no children, by choice. I also think that the planet is overpopulated with humans and I am doing my bit to help save resources for other species. I think this is a wonderful group and I am very pleased to be in it.
Thank you Elena, and everyone joining this group!
Seeing how many children had lost their parents (if not their lives as well) due to war, sickness, or negligence, I do not think it's a wise choice for me to have children. I'm not even sure if I wanted to get married.
I'd prefer to use my life and whatever I have in it for higher cause.
Josephia,Magdalena, Kristi, Chris, Beba, Shirley, Vijay
WELCOME TO GROUP!
I have no children. a bit of aloner really. Beside the world population is growing out of control without my help
i truly appreciate you, elena, for having created this group.
been on other internet groups that were designed around this very subject matter only to find they were too cliquish or i felt like i was in the twilight zone where more people than not were arguing almost in favor of having children versus not and omg i don't even want to go there because i can't even understand why they joined the group or what the hell it was all about anymore.
when i was 5 years old (FIVE YEARS OLD) i uttered the words OUT LOUD to everyone, i'm never getting married and i'm never having children. everyone laughed and thought how funny - kid doesn't know what the hell she wants ha ha ha.
maybe i didn't know what i truly wanted at only 5 years old, but i sure knew what i DIDN'T WANT. and here i am over 40 years old, never married, no human children.
all my entire 20s and 30s i was BADGERED by both men and women, mostly women and as for men they were of the very antiquated thought that subscribes to women as baby making machines, forever nipping at my heels "you will have children, you just don't know it yet" "oh you'll be such a wonderful mother" (never having a maternal bone in my entire body - i love how people PRESUME to know and understand someone else when they haven't a damn clue), or i was assaulted with verbal interrogations "why aren't you married yet?" "i would think someone as interesting as you would be married to SOMEONE and have children" - like that would flatter me into having them LOL what??
a smile just came over my face recalling a male friend i once knew many years ago - i have no idea where the this bit came into the conversation we once had but he said, i cannot see you ever getting married or having kids. you're just too independent. i didn't know if he meant that as a compliment, a criticism or just plain observation, as he came from a strong catholic background, though he had never married or had children either - isn't it interesting how men get away with that but if you're a woman, you're more a target for infinite questioning as to whyyyyy you didn't have kids? it's not just accepted.
for crying out loud, i was recently on a plane and the guy next to me just COULDN'T accept for several minutes that i wasn't married at the very least, let alone had any grown kids or otherwise by now.
people will tell you they don't care one way or the other if a person has children or not but most lie. they do it everyday, for instance, with their contests. you know the sort. i know people that complained to me when their kids were younger and they would attend their kids' social events and such, only to return bitching and moaning over who was saying what about positioning their kids in a place of "importance" over other kids - their little trophies. it's disgusting. and then what do i do? i smile to myself and sigh ahh i'm so grateful i didn't go that route.. lol!
singer chris isaak once had stevie nicks on his program over here in the states and stated to her about her career, "you give up a lot to be a rock star - what is it you give up?" (you can bet he'd never have posed that question to a man on his show!) and stevie in her very strong and succinct manner replied back "i made a choice a long time ago i didn't want to be married because whyyy - i don't like to be told what to do" (lol) "i made the choice not to have children or a husband because i wanted to BE an artist and pursue being an artist forever and always. i didn't want to have to stop and do other things."
i can't help but say to people like chris isaak and others that pose the same question to someone like myself - and this applies to all you great men out there too - not having children or even getting married for that matter, isn't GIVING UP anything - it's embracing so much more!
BUT - if someone's going to get married or if they're wanting to have children, i'm really tough on people that lack the forethought that goes into bringing another life into this world - from the finances to provide properly for that child, the nurturing and time required in shaping a productive member of society - sorry but today parents barely spend an hour a week with each child they have (dinner doesn't count honey) - i'm of the opinion that if you can't spend at least 4-5 hours A DAY with your child, you have no business having them, and i could list a number of other things in this thread that would mirror a manifesto rather than a reply. LOL!
okay, 'nuff said for now - nice to meet your acquaintance you fellow c'fers.
Viviana, Alison, Jennifer, Crow, Val and Melissa- welcome to the group!
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