Mike Thank You for sharing Your story with us.

It sounds as though you never found love until you had your children.

My adopted parents never hugged or said they loved one another either. What hateful and cruel people they were also.

But, you said you are now 60. You have lived a very long life without love of a real family. Except the one You had.

I feel that your seven children were Blessed in having you as a Father. You know how it is not to feel loved. So you made sure you did love your children.

Let me ask you something. What if you were raised by your biological parents and they made  your life a living Hell and you grew up only knowing hate from your biological parents, "Do you think you would of known what Love really could and would of been?"

The reason I ask this is because after I had met my biological parents, I have had and still am having a horrible time dealing wih the fact that they would of done very horrible and nasty things to me. And with that I wish I had never met them and am so very thankful that I was not rasied by them.

And I also had adopted parents who could not stand the sight of me.

That made me see what "Love" should be. And that there was not any coming from them, that I would make sure , as I am typing right now,

"I will Love my Children with All of my  Heart."

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Thank you Mike for your story & sorry it's been so long for me to get to your story. I have read it before, but I just didn't know what to say. Marilyn is so much better at that than I am.

I just know that I had a lot of feelings similar when I found out that my parents were still living & that I had 8 living brothers & sisters when I was born. I had negative feelings towards my adoptive parents when they could've had adopted some of my siblings & didn't. It would've saved many of them a lifetime of sorrow & early death. I guess I resent my adopted parents for that. I also resented them for splitting up my younger sister, but I realize that during those years it wasn't unusual for sibilings to be split up for adoption. I was only after watching tv shows like "Unsolved Mysteries" when they portrayed people searching for their biological families. They I realized that I wasn't alone in my feelings. But I was grown then.

It is so hard as an adopted child to cope with some of the feelings that others do not validate. I hated it whwen people said "you'll get over it." or whatever.

Opposite of yours, my adopted family was loving, but I had clashes with my mom & my dad would take her side. That always made me angry, because he would never even hear my side of the argument. he just assumeed that I was the one that was lying or being bad. I carried anger for them until after she died. I never got to resolve that issue with her. But I don't think she ever saw it that way or accepted it, so I just had to do the forgiving whether or not they accepted it.

It is only my faith in God that gets me through life daily. I hope & pray that you can finally get things resolved in your life. I think I have all that behind me. Yes, loving you own children can help resolve your own feelings of abandonment.

GOD bless you. <><

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Yes it truly does make you determined to love your own children I have 3 teen girls (15,16,18,yo)that all love me and 3 boys (34,32,20) that i have a good relationship and love with, Ive been married now 3 times the rejection didnt just finish with my real mother and father my first wife took of with the elder of the church my second with a country music singer and each after 10 years of marrage, my second wife when divorced stoped me seeing 2 of my daughters for 3 1/2 years it was horrific for me, I had one daughter and my youngest son with me, so thats just some of the heartake but now there old enough to make there own decisions and 2 of them are in there own flat so now i see them all the time My oldest has her own car and now the second oldest has got one, I would have not survived if it wasnt for my reationship with the Living God and the support of my now wife of 9years who is a very faithfull lady, she knows what it is like for her first hubby ran off with another woman, where is the commitment these days? I still wish that someday i could meet any brothers and sisters i might have, my

real parents might not be alive now if they are they'll be in there 80s at least, thank you for your messages it makes me feel not so alone to know others have the same emotions I have and understand LOve and Light to you God Bless you both Mike

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Yes Mike, sometimes it does create a domino effect in our lives. My prayers are with you to find the help you need to finish your story. Love to you in Jesus' Name. <><

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hippy thinks one bonus is we all end up playing the guitar or writing beautifull poetry

love n peace dear friends

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