auricle,

you have a grand question there. perhaps we each read a different part of the *total language* that is communicated by another...  Just like colors on the spectrum of a rainbow, perhaps there is a spectrum of sorts related to language, and some people are more in tune with the specific wording of a communication attempt, while another person might pay more attention other portions of the message.  Some examples might be inflection, tone of voice, stance of the communicator, etc. which might influence how the message is received.  Communication is something that requires at least two people, and whenever you add another person - you add a whole new 'spectrum' of expectations...

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