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5 years ago
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OK I thought I'd ask this here to get a more unbiased opinion?

My brother-n-law's baby's momma asked me to be her friend a while back on FaceBook and despite past differences, I accepted. She never posted anything to me or me to her. Everytime she would post about praying she used "prey"... example:
"I prey God keeps you all safe and blesses each one of you...."

If it were me I'd want someone to point it out if I kept doing it (maybe not the first time) so I sent a private message, instead of writing on her wall, so as not to embarrass her or anything...

Not trying to hurt your feelings or anything, just tryin' to help.
It's prAy, not prEy.
Pray is what you do when you talk to God.
Prey is what animals hunt for food.

Then I got 2 replies from her. 2 attacks is more accurate...
Her saying that I'm "great at telling people when and how they've messed up, but never one to look in the mirror", that I only pointed it out to be "mean and nasty"  and calling me "know-it-all", insecure, hopless, and judgmental (yes, twice). Then telling me that I won't "inherit the kingdom of GOd" and GOD knew what she was saying and that's all that mattered and that she will pray for me. If it would've been a year ago she would've have some mean and nasty things to say back.

So, was I wrong to point it out? Was I mean and nasty?

This post was modified from its original form on 16 Apr, 9:16
5 years ago

No, and no.  Anyone, IMO, should be grateful to someone who helps them.

5 years ago

Dynamite, the 'real' problem is that there are a lot of people who resent thoe who are usually right, particularly when it makes them wrong - she's one of those

5 years ago

I agree with Katti.

She also sounds insecure and possibly a bit jealous of you.

You corrected her nicely in a respectful manner via private message. You saved her from further embarrassment, IMO.

5 years ago

Dear Dynamite..........NO, you are NOT in the wrong here! You were obviously just trying to help and the wording of your message to her makes that plain.

5 years ago

I find when trying to correct someone overly sensitive it helps to add a joke- though if they are looking for an excuse it won't help. Good luck with that one.....


And BTW thanks in general for your fantastic research on so many subjects.

5 years ago

Thanks guys! I didn't think I was, but it never hurts to ask.


This just shows me that she probably hasn't changed and I should probably just remove her from my friends list. I keep thinking "if that's what you think of me then why did you ask me to be friends?"

5 years ago

I don't think you were wrong to point it out either.  Especcially since you did it privately. 

5 years ago

The internet has been a great thing, but does anyone notice how a lot of people now are a little lacking in social skills?  This ex in-law seems a perfect exampe of that.  I think that it would have been wrong not to tell her.  We all make mistakes - and this was such a little one - and we need to be able to admit we were wrong when we do.  Instead, it seems that it becomes an excuse to go ballistic. She was angry because you were honest. End of story. She can't claim anything else.

5 years ago

And BTW thanks in general for your fantastic research on so many subjects.


I will second Edwards sentiment.  I am oh so very grateful to you, Dynamite, for all the things I've learned from you.  I was painfully ignorant about so many things 'political' before I started reading you (and David), so thank you so much for taking the time out of your life to inform with facts.  I love you  

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