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could someone tell me please.......... August 02, 2004 7:14 PM

what it takes to 1. find an honest decent caring loving man 2. find same in my town of orlando 3.one that accepts you like you are or isnt afraid to talk to you. 4.totally has to love animals! 5.did i mention honest ,caring and lets add faithful and sincere.....oh devoted....yes that one to... anyone?...  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
good luck August 02, 2004 10:01 PM

Karen, Good luck finding a man with all those qualities. It is very hard, but there are men out there with qualities like that. I lucked into my current situation where I have a man with most, if not all of those qualities. I think a big problem is that most people go to bars or nightclubs looking for romance, especially women, when in reality most of the men at these places just want a place to sleep for the night if you get my drift. I met my boyfriend where I worked a few years ago as a waitress. He would always come in late at night and we started talking. We ended up being best friends and we talked about everything together. He even helped me get away from an abusive relationship, hard drugs, and he absolutely adores my baby, King. I just got lucky and I'm sure when the time comes that you will meet the man of your dreams. Just don't look to hard. It always seems to me that when someone is looking for romance they can never find it, but when they are not looking it always seems to find them.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
An honest man? August 03, 2004 7:52 AM

O.K. I just celebrated my 16th anniversary. My man is all you described. We talked for 2 years over the phone, before we ever mt in person. I think I loved before I ever met him.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
This won't help you, probably August 03, 2004 8:10 AM

...but I "downloaded" my husband from the Internet! We met in ICQ (instant messaging program) - him in Holland, and me in Canada. He has all of the qualities you mentioned, and more. Of course, if you find someone like that, one of you had better be prepared to travel (and/or move!). Fortunately, my hubby was willing and able to drop everything and come to Canada. We've been married nearly two years now (a second marriage for both of us), and I have to say that I'm delighted with my "import"!!!! Good luck to you...keep looking; they're out there! Cheers, T.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Karen August 03, 2004 4:27 PM

Karen-You seem to be in a love lull. I truly am sorry to read that. I will say that I personally believe that there are MILLIONS of men out there for you, not just one, and they too have the qualities that you long for! My point is, Never Give Up for what you seek and or desire regardless of how hard it my become! You will meet that man, I am sure of it. Stay alert and confident, you will be successful. It seems that when one is Not looking for love is when it Justs Falls in their lap! He is there, maybe he will find you!!! :  [ send green star]
 
Karen, I know how you feel girlfriend... August 03, 2004 4:42 PM

Been there done that, I didn't have to buy the t-shirt, they gave it to me. lol Seriously, There are people out there who are fortunate in finding the person of their dreams. I understand how you feel, about it not being so easy. I have tried the stop looking for them, and I guess I blinked, or had my eyes closed when they went by. I think I was cursed by my Dad a long time ago, when he said, there could be 499 good wonderful men in a room, and one loser, and I would find and bring home the loser..my nine year old has informed me I'm an idiot magnet. ..you just go out, and the idiots flock to you Mom. Don't you just love the wisdom of the youth?  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 August 03, 2004 10:39 PM

A little cynical humour: 75% of the "guys" in Orlando need to be committed....to an asylum...especially the ones on the road, with flash cars. 70% are most likely from out of state...so go figure. heh  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Karen August 04, 2004 11:34 AM

Don't try so hard. When you stop looking for Mr. Right, he'll find you. You may have already met him, you just don't realise it yet. Like with me and the Old Goat (my hubby). We were just two friends hangin out, havin a good time and the nest thing you know, we're walkin down the aisle. And I had decided to spend my life as a perpetual bachellorette. When your Mr. Right (not Mr. Perfect, he doesn't exist - neither does Ms. Perfect) finds you, you'll know it.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
ps August 04, 2004 11:35 AM

*flashes her Typo Permit* soon enough you'll all be fluent in language of Bella.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Been there August 04, 2004 1:39 PM

I have to agree with a few others here. When you're really looking for love, it seems to fly right by. I've been a bachelor for most of my life; not really looking, but when I was searching, boy, there wasn't anyone out there at all. I swore that I was going to be a confirmed bachelor for the rest of my life. When I stopped searching I was fortunate to meet somone by chance and she turned out to have the qualities I was looking for. Long story short~ after meeting we didn't see each other for six months, then we emailed each other for another six months because we live 300 miles apart. Surprisingly that's where we fell in love without even dating. That was 4 years ago. I was scared and lonely at times thinking there would never be that special someone, but destiny did bring us together. Be patient and the love of your life will fall into your arms. Big hugs~ Jim  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Well............ August 08, 2004 8:00 PM

It seems to me that many women end up dumping these great men with these great qualities after they find them because they decide they need more action (bad boy).....Of course I'm not saying this is the case here....I'm just saying they're out there....but don't always get the respect they deserve.....In fact, I think many of them think 'nice guys finish last'......and of course 'once burned, twice shy'......after all, we do contribute to it all....good and bad.....I know I have let good men go for all kinds of superficial reasons.....I believe there are pleanty out there.....and I'm sure the perfect one will discover you......Best of luck.....Sassy  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
I agree whth Steve... August 08, 2004 9:52 PM

I think that it is best not to look for love as it will find you when the time is right hun  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 December 29, 2004 8:47 AM

Karen would love too find the same in a woman...  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Oh I know the feeling.. January 17, 2005 10:22 PM

I also wonder where the decent, caring, nice guys are...maybe it's California but they seem to be idiots out here.  I gave up probably 13-14 years ago (please no pathetic jokes), and I suppose a nice guy has crossed my path once or twice, but I've always said I'm too dense to see it...the subtle or not-so-subtle signals tend to fly right over me......and I do admit to not exactly being open for it, either, but, if Karen can hang in there so can I....  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
aChange the "man" to "woman", & it's more real. January 27, 2005 2:24 AM

"Be the change that you want to see"!  Ah, the excitement of the dangerous, aloof, distant, abusive, & self-centered men!  So appealling to the complimentary woman who brings out these qualities from all men, sons, & the society we live in.  Could be because that's what was taught them & all they know.  Maybe the false security of a "strong" man. Oh poleeeze!  Then there's the reactionary emergence of the feminist woman (predominantly lesbians in the N.O.W.).  If you want to perfect mate, then be the "perfect" mate.  Diet, exercise, emotional maturity/congrent/authentic/transparent/connected, self-love, an open heart/devotional, & embracing one's shadow, accepting/non-judgmental, non-sexist; all good qualities to embrace.  Good men are heard asking themselves, how do I play the "bad boy" role of aloof abusiveness to attract women, & "nice guys finish last" (if they are lucky enough to play the "game" at all!!).  I was amazed when I was in Florida 12 months ago at the lack of non-macho men & the abundance of women at the spiritual gatherings I went to.  These men you seek have been everywhere I've lived, but those are nice, progressive & "enlightened" places. I live in Boulder, CO. (through choice again).  But these men are also in Santa Fe, Santa Barbara, San Diego, Santa Cruz, Sedona, Hawaii, Taos, maybe Austin, Seatle & who knows where & along the coast of California, but probably NOT the so-called "red states" where the political vote in 2004 went to the new world "order" of domination/destruction/deception/wide-spread or demise.  You can call it the "Fruit Loop Trail", like I do (lovingly)!  Hang out in healing, theraputic/counseling & spiritual/wholistic circles where people don't smoke or drink or eat garbage food, and espouse less TV & never would shop at Walmart, shy away from religion (unless it's a New Thought church, Budhist, Spiritual/not religious), have no interest in sports but the outdoors (environmental oriented), places where there's good hugging, & tolerance, & I'm sorry but where Republicans are invisible/non-existant.  I'm not talking about the immature, corporate, workaholic  or materialistic set!  Get new friends that are not into victim thinking is always a good idea, & so is being your best friends.  I live in a very small & wonderful world of such people who may even know each other from hundreds/thousands of miles away (& not like some weirded out cult people).  Orlando FLORIDA, where I'll be flying into, which is dominate by the likes of the Disney World empire, and where Jacksonville & Miami are neighbors. Like attracts like, so be happy, be a loving, healing, refuge like a love-magnet! Resistance IS futile! So surrender, submit, opening give without depleting who you are, being one with all. That's a mystical, tantric, truly spiritual state of unity & oneness. And THAT is your calling. Ya think?  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 February 07, 2005 7:59 PM

i'm not going to tell you what i did to find my perfect man.it took 22 Bad men to find the right one.ok i will  i took out a personal ad.and on it i told them what i wanted.and if they didn't like the same thing not to answer my ad.Than i would meet the person at resturant or a public place,than if the date went bad.i would leave and go home.It worked out for me.cause i ended up marrying the guy.never have the date take you out of the public place.unless you know him.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
here we go again.... February 08, 2005 12:16 PM

Oh POLEEZE.  22 "bad" men, those evil-doers!  What the heck are you doing hanging out with such desperatoes?  One finger point out to the person you attack, &  three point back at you!  When does the complaining, judgeing, make-wrong, & bitching end?  Maybe after we stop chasing windmills in the dessert on the other side of the world killing 100,000 innocent people that we certainly don't care about, all in the name of killing "evil-doers" & (corporate ?) freedom &  Americanism as "democracy".  What comes aroung, go around.  And the arrogance of it all, too!  And also, what ever happened to public education?  Even in third world countries many people speak 3 (or more) languages, & we "world leader" nation people, can even do English justice.  Humph!  How much lower can the common denomiator go?? Ever watch or read the (corporate) media.  I rest my case.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 February 13, 2005 5:30 AM

Alan,

Do you even Read i was a topic about finding the right one.not about kill people.this is group about love not about your right wing views.

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