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Is it possible... August 05, 2004 12:51 PM

... to be in love with more than one person at a time? I mean, really truly in love. Just curious about people's thoughts, experiences or comments on this subject. Thanks!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 August 05, 2004 1:50 PM

to my mind there is much diference between in love and true love. in love is the romance, heart thrills and throbs, pashing n crushing stuff that is a PIECE of true love.... but can be felt for many in the form of affection and attraction etc..... true love is when this fades into being mainly for just one person......tho the affection and attraction remain for others, it is palid in comparison...... so yeah yo CAN have one, two, many "in loves"..... but only one real true love....] thats my take!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 August 05, 2004 1:59 PM

Yes, it is possible, and it does happen. Depending on how you approach it, it can be painful. There are two women I TRULY love. Neither more than the other. I am married to one. I am the closest friend of the other. The other loves me also. She to is married to a man she truly loves. We are not lovers, we will not become lovers. We will be the closest of friends. We share an affection that is deep and honest. When we have the opportunity to have time together, it is a blessing. She is my friend. She is my love. Without her a piece of me is lacking. Chuck G.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Hard Truth August 06, 2004 4:13 PM

Yes. And it is the most painful thing in the world... -S.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Possible August 13, 2004 6:38 PM

Yes I beleive it is and in plural I truly love numerous people.I love my wife of 36yrs,my son,my parents,my in-laws bet this one is surprising but they are good people.I love a few of my friends as I would a brother or sister.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Definitely possible August 14, 2004 12:03 AM

I know this one from first-hand experience. I'll tell you my story, but try to make it short. Before my current boyfriend I lived with someone whom I dated for 5 years. I loved this boy to death, even though he wasn't right for me and I knew it. It was an abusive relationship (more mentally, but some physical), but he was my first love. However, a year before we broke up I met my current boyfriend. He was the only guy friend I had that I could talk to about my problems who wouldn't try to pick up a date in the process. I even had one "friend" say to me " you know I can make you happy". Complete turnoff. Anyway, we talked for a long time and I knew my relationship with the other was waning and that I was just kind of looking for a way out. So, after being friends with my current boyfriend for a year I broke it off with the other. I can honestly say that by the time we split I was deeply in love with both of them, but I knew that the other relationship would not work. It was extremely hard for a while. Considering that this first love was the only thing that I had known, the only way of life on my own that I had known. There was an adjustment period for me and my dog. We both missed my ex terribly and I even cried in secret for months, but I knew it was the right thing to do. King, my dog, was depressed, but he grew accustomed to the new guy and 4 years later here we are. We (King and I) are both much happier and both are no longer abused physically or mentally. However, he still crosses my mind quite often, but I know I will never go back to that.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
True Love August 15, 2004 11:21 AM

There was a time that I would have said true love with more than one person is possible...but looking back on things now...I believe it is not possible. True love is a strong special thing. It is something shared between two people. If you feel the same way about two people, I do not see it as true love. I see it has love, which has many levels and faces. True love to me is finding that one person you are meant to be with, that one person that completes you, that truly compliments you, that fullfills you in every way.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Possible To Love More Than One Person August 15, 2004 5:48 PM

I believe it is possible to love more than one person. I also believe love can cause extreme pain even with loving only one person. I don't know about loving (truly loving) two people at the same time. Relationships take work and an investment of time. There is only so much you can do in a 24 hour period. Although I've never experienced a long term relationship, I've heard that they (relationships) evolve. They grow and deepen with time as they pass through various stages. I think that's pretty special. The perfect relationship to compare to this is The Reagans (Ron & Nancy). Another type of love in a relationship to consider is not only the relationship with your mate but also the love you could feel for your best friend which could be of the same sex. So, I guess the question to ask is what type of love are we talking about. True Love or Romantic Love????  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
I am not sure... August 16, 2004 11:44 AM

Honestly...Personally for me, I don't think a person can be in love with 2 people at the same time (in the same way i mean). Somehow to me, love is so much about exclusivity, about loyalty and about unconditional faith and trust. If i love someone with my body, mind, heart and soul...they all belong only to him...maybe a lot may find this idealistic but that is who i am. Love is sacred and pure and i don't see how i can share this with 2 people at the same time. It has atleast never happened with me and i know for a fact, it will never happen to me. Maybe people have experienced this and maybe it exists...i don't know. But the answer lies only within ones own self. Just answer one question..."would i be fine with the fact that the one i love with everything i have...loves me and someone else at the same time?" Irrespective of how much he may love you...if it is shared, it will not feel complete...it will not be complete. So i guess it works the otherway round as well. Just what i feel... Love Geetha  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
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