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Anniversary August 16, 2011 8:33 AM

Today is the 18th anniversary of the day Laurel was killed.  (She's now been dead 4 years longer than she lived...)  It is interesting how sometimes it feels like yesterday, and other times like forever.  I am thankful for the time we had together, and am still working to learn and apply all of the lessons she taught me.  I look forward to the day when we will be reunited.  Thank you, Laurel, you will always be in our hearts...

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Another anniversary June 24, 2012 8:28 PM

Friday was the 33rd anniversary of Laurel's birth.  Always a difficult day, but used it to visit her grave and remind myself that she would want me to enjoy life for her as well as myself.  Thank you, Laurel - you are with me always...

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Upcoming day July 22, 2012 10:44 PM

Perhaps the worst, most difficult day for a survivor is the day the loved one died...for me, it is August 16.  Do others also find it to be the mst difficult?

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Hi Tim August 04, 2012 7:46 PM

haven't talked to you in a long time - hassles with profiles and so on.

Yes, the day of his- Bill's - death is definitely the worst.  Worse, in some ways, because he was in a coma for a week before they took him to harvest his organs; sorta like he was dead for a week before he died.

Unexpected moment of growth, a couple of weeks ago, though-remembered a couple of especially poignant moments from our years together, and was, surprisingly to me, happy because they happened, instead of only being sad because they couldn't happen again. (They were playing our song.)

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Music August 06, 2012 2:26 PM

Hi, Janet!  Music and certain songs have been "triggers" for me since Laurel's d4eath - even one that I didn't like before, but seem to show up everywhere (What a Wonderful World).  Tears start and flow uncontrollably, and there's no way I can not cry.  Glad that you had a positive reaction to "your song" - it is a great step forward when we can appreciate the time we had rather than regretting the time we don't get with our loved one.  I hope everything continues to go well for you!  Take care...

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you too, tim August 06, 2012 8:01 PM

I know the loss of a child is (I'm told) even harder than the loss of a spouse, but I respect and admire the way you are using your grief to help others.  I'm sure that Laurel would be proud.

July 5 marked the 39th anniversay of of my father's death - more than twice as long as he and I shared this earth together - but he continues to be a large part of my emotional life.  In this way, he lives on, as does Bill and every other person I have loved.And, as does Laurel in your heart.

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What spirit August 13, 2012 8:01 AM

Thanks for th enice words, Janet!  I admire the way you carry your loved ones with you and build upon their spirits!!!  How is the bucket list coming?

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19 August 17, 2012 7:26 AM

Yesterday was the 19th anniversary of Laurel's death...I can honestly say that I didn't think about it at times, which is progress (I think).  I had a general malaise all day and had trouble focussing.  At the time that I was notified of her death (4:55 p.m.), I relived the entire event as if it was yesterday.  Subjective time is very interesting - stretching from feeling like forever, to just a few moments ago no matter how much chronologic time has passed.  Peace to all...

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Still here to help September 15, 2012 10:15 AM

for anybody who just needs to talk or express their grief, we are here to listen.

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