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BEST TRAITS? August 18, 2005 3:31 PM

Of course, we still feel very close to our deceased loved ones...  but what were their best traits?  Was there anything in particular that would make them unique in their own, special way?

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Guiliana, I had to think about this one over a night's sleep August 19, 2005 5:51 AM

Guiliana, I had to think about this one over a night's sleep. I read this before I went to bed late last night and started to reply but was already having a difficult day emotionally about my niece. We drove back into the area where we were living at the time she passed and it brought back alot of memories and issues that are still unresolved within the family.

But my niece had a heart that was strong when it came to people treating other people unfairly. In a poem I had written immediately after she had passed the lines spoke of her speaking out and up for those being mistreated. Her sense of humor was also another delightful trait. Mine appears to have fallen off by the wayside at times since her passing. But it re-surfaces more now then it did in the first three hundred miles of my sorrow trails.

Once during a conversation that ensued between myself, Rachel and her younger sister, Chloe`, regarding age, Rachel, intelligently and humorously stated, "OH, that's right Ginger, you just keep getting younger instead of getting older." You gotta love a girl who understands a woman's perspective about age. I had always intended to write a short story about these two girls, and it just may happen yet. They bickered like the dickens and as young sisters do.  I just always told them to be careful that it doesn't get to the point that someday down the road you stop speaking to one another in life. I never meant or intended this sort of silence though for them. peace & blessings----ginger

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Oh, my dear Ginger... August 19, 2005 9:33 AM

Sorry I brought back to your mind some nice, yet painful memories...  Those two girls together must have been a lot of fun to watch!  Also, a good sense of humour and joy of life are wonderful traits! I'm sure you must often think of the laughters...and the jokes, along with some sad moments...  That's the way it is for all of us!

Tony, like your Rachel, had a strong sense of justice.  He'd be ready anytime to "straighten things out", give advice, and make sure all events would go smoothly and fairly!  On most occasions, he had the power to do it while he was in a work/military environment...  But, aside from his professional duties, he'd still help and intervene for "ANYBODY", even a stranger!  (His siblings would be teasing him a lot about this!)  That was part of his generosity, in every sense of the word.  He was honest, sensitive, and gentle.  (He was also refined and handsome!!!)

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Blessings within our answers August 19, 2005 9:40 AM

(He was also refined and handsome!!!)---guiliana's words

Those words brought a smile to me today Guiliana.

Yes,it did bring back memories but heck, I had been going down memory lane since yesterday so no worries Guiliana. It is just part of life when we lose someone, there is the sorrow with the joy hence the name of our group's underlying meaning. 

Tony, was  of good soul and big heart. Sometimes those that love the hardest are the most sensitive to others and we were both blessed for the time we had with them. That is my prayer daily every day. A thank you for the time I had been blessed with to know her and be with her. Sending much love your way today. ---ginger

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Mom was a beautiful, charming woman... August 19, 2005 9:41 AM

with a great sense of humour! She was honest and straightforward.  She was also a good conversationalist and dancer!

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 August 19, 2005 9:47 AM

Shawna was always "In" with the popular crowd, but she didn't stay there.
If there was a kid eating alone at lunch, she would sit with him/her.
She once defended a girl in the library, who she didn't really know. No one was around to see it and she never told anyone. I found out from the girl at her wake.
She had a wondeful sense of justice and always, always defended the under dog.
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You know, Ginger, August 19, 2005 10:11 AM

I thought my last comments about Tony would make you smile...  I added them on purpose, that's why they were in paranthesis! (Between you and I, he was a "hell of a hunk!"  Oops... Sorry.  It just came out, directly from the Italian stranslation!~

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My dear Skip, August 19, 2005 10:19 AM

what a wonderful daughter you had!  She was popular, yet modest.  You must have lots of memories of the same kind!


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 August 19, 2005 10:26 AM

She had a wonderful sense of justice and always, always defended the under dog.---Skip's words

Boy, did those words from you and your daughters loving and kind actions speak volumes about them as young souls, at times wise beyond their years even Skip in moments that you just shared.

Thank you as always for making me smile Guiliana, and heck yes you can say he was a hunk if you want too. If you want to refer to him as a hunk a burning love too is okay by me. Honesty is always vibrantly strong when grief hits us and I enjoy honesty as much as the next person. I do believe that is one of the many gifts we get when they pass on is the sudden burst of reality and what really matters in life and how much they mattered. Not that we all didn't know that already in our hearts and souls but it sure hits home when they leave us behind. I just hope we all can catch up with them soon. Many of them left behind some absolutely lovely meteor showers of memories didn't they? love to you both today in your memory/meteor showers. ---ginger

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Dad was my hero! August 19, 2005 10:33 AM

He was quite into sports...  a good swimmer and a professional soccer referee for years (I guess I mentioned this before), despite his small build.

He was well educated and enjoyed conversing about Music. History, cultural events, and life in general...  this made him an interesting and attractive fellow!

He was not as spontaneous as Mom, but tended to be rather diplomatic and had a keen intellect...

What I liked the most about him, though, is that he was sensitive and loved ANIMALS and Nature...  Does this remind you of anyone in particular?! (me)

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 August 22, 2005 7:37 AM

Skip, your daughter sounds alot like my Rudy!

He "attracted" for want of a better word, people from all walks of life, even when he was very small. All walks of life and all ages. In school he was too part of the "in crowd" but was forever stepping outside of the crowd to help someone else. Living in the inner city, there were many times when he would give up his money to people that he thought needed it. I couldn't send him to the corner store because he would come home empty handed and with no money. The night after he died, his friends organized a candle light ceremony at the tree where he had died. I was amazed at the people there, young, old, kids from every possible "group." At his funeral there were so many people that they put speakers outside because everyone couldn't fit in the building. Rudy also felt that it was his mission in life to make people laugh. I think at one point he actually became Jim Carey. He just wanted to make people happy.  And he was so good and gentle with my youngest daughter, who at the time was under 3.  It is amazing to hear her talk of him, she remembers him holding her so she could see things better, she remembers him sneaking into her bedroom to kiss her good night after I would put her to bed.  A gentle soul.

Shortly after his death I started to build a web page to dedicate to him, though I haven't done much more than put up a few pictures of the family LOL.

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What a handsome soul your son is.... August 22, 2005 10:53 AM

What a handsome soul your son is, Karen. Thank you for sharing his website with us. peace & blessings---ginger

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