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My Losses March 21, 2006 6:36 PM

Hello everyone, I've come here to talk to someone about my grief; It's been so hard to deal with the death of my father and brother..my Dad died in October and my brother died tragically after....just before Christmas(2 weeks) so we had a really terrible Christmas....and I've also almost lost Mom, she ended up in the hospital very sick, I've been taking Care of her since...things have just been so painful for our family...and I feel like it would be good to find someone to relate to, so i came here, anybody out there who can relate?

Love and blessings,

Laurie 

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Yes March 21, 2006 6:42 PM

We had a tough spell of losses as well - but not in the short period of time thaqt you did.  I understand the pain of the losses and the mental difficulties that follow....please feel free to share your feelings and reactions.  We may be able to offer guidance or suggestions, but each grief journey is unique.  You cannot force it or try to rush through it to the other side; each journey has its own timeframe. Be assured, however, that we understand and will be there for you.....  [ send green star]
 
 August 13, 2006 6:29 PM

Here you are, thank you Tim for your response, I had to go back, sorry i didnt know how this worked, but I still want to thank you again, maybe this group should be where you can view more of these messages, so others can respond, I am glad i found this and thank you all for caring...take care and God bless,

My faith has helped me through this, but it will be hard in 2 weeks its my father's birthday, it was hard for us on fathers day, and my brother;s birthday that has past by,,,,I pray that and know that it will get easier with time, and I thank God for the good memories...

take care and gbu all~

Lauriel 

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 August 21, 2006 1:59 PM

Dear Laurie,

I can imagine what a terrible time you must have gone through...  But I also admire you for looking after your Mom...  It wasn't an easy task! However, I'm sure you helped her tremendously!

Your deceased loved ones won't forget you, and one day you will all be together again.

Blessings,

Giuliana aka Princess Little Rock

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Laurie August 21, 2006 8:19 PM

The first year is absolutely the hardest - because it's the first anniversary of every single event.  I hope that this group, and whatever I can contribute, will help you and others to go through the hardest journey anyone has to make.  I encourage you to read all of the discussions/threads on this group - ginger and guiliana have done an incredible job of guiding folks through their grief journey.  If I can be of individual assistance, please email me at julepjerk@care2.com.

Just to reinforce, there is really no effective end to the journey.  Just this evening, I responded to a post on an internet mailing list I belong to and the tears started flowing.  There is no telling what will trigger a reaction, but please accept it as normal and let it flow.

With love and caring, Tim

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 August 22, 2006 8:31 AM

I just got through the anniversary of my ex's death and it was a sad day for me but this group responded to my post and I want to thank each one of you for the caring and loving support.

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 August 22, 2006 8:35 AM

My father just passed away in March of this year.

And now more is happening to me

I need a break from it all - I need to meditate, somewhere where I'll feel closer to God, preferably

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Judianne and Luciano August 24, 2006 6:33 PM

My offer to listen and respond off-list is open to everyone.  May you each find comfort and peace wherever you can.  We here in this group understand and offer love and comfort...  [ send green star]
 
new to the group August 27, 2006 2:25 PM

Hello,

I'm new to the group.  Like Laurie, I had a series of losses this past year.  I lost my father in October, then my best friend, only 46, died from breast cancer in November, and my dear cousin, age 50, died unexpectedly a week later.  By then, I was numb and am only now beginning to feel that he is gone.  It has been a hard, hard year.  I feel as if my whole life has been rearranged, having lost so many people who were close to me.  I understand what Laurie is going through.

Brynnara

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Brynarra, Laurie and Luciano` & Judianne August 27, 2006 2:31 PM


Brynarra, Laurie and  Luciano` & Judianne, you all have come here for a reason and Tim, Guiliana and myself know all too well how sorrow numbs your soul and fast freezes your life. Know that all three of you are loved beyond words by all of us within this group and the loved ones who passed from this world onto the next and please feel our embrace and connections via our shared sorrow and losses. Sending out the love and comfort to you all as always. Warmly---ginger  [ send green star]
 
 August 27, 2006 3:05 PM

Yes, my dear friends, like Ginger mentioned, we all understand very well what you must be going through...  Just take "one day at the time", because the "road to recovery" isn't as short as we'd like to. 

Initially, good memories are painful, but then they make us smile and we manage to talk about them without bursting into tears... 

Now I don't cry as often as I used to because I always repeat to myself that my departed loved ones wouldn't want me to grieve for so long...  It would make them suffer because they only want our good.  And we also want them to be happy in Heaven.  They touched our lives and will be in our hearts always... 

With loving thoughts,

Giuliana aka Princess Little Rock

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Thank you August 30, 2006 5:54 PM

Thank you all, Ginger and Giuliana especially.  It just helps to know that you understand, as I know you do, having suffered your own losses.  I send my love to you.

Brynnara

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Brynnarra August 30, 2006 7:09 PM

Please know that this is a safe place to express all your feelings and emotions if you are so inclined.  We understand...  [ send green star]
 
And remember angry words are allowed... August 31, 2006 1:31 PM

And remember angry words are allowed...There are times you feel such anger at your loss that it will leave you limp & lifeless unless you release it. We are not here to judge.---ginger  [ send green star]
 
Brynnarra August 31, 2006 2:50 PM

This group is very caring -- you can come here in tears and they will help you - they will talk with you - no judgements are ever made. We have all had our losses and our bad moments when anniversaries come around.

Feel safe and secure within these walls..

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 September 25, 2006 6:17 AM

Bryanna and Judianne, my dear friends...

Yes, we're always ready to listen and empathize because we've all had big losses.  We'll never criticize or judge...  We're simply humans...  I am personally convinced that people can't quite comprehend the way we feel unless they experience it themselves...

I think about my deceased parents and husband every day.  I still miss them tremendously, but I know for sure they haven't abandoned me!  There are times when they come in my dreams...  or send me messages through "coincidences"...  and I often smell Mom's favorite cigarette in the living room... 

What I have learned so far is that LOVE never dies!

Hugs and blessings,

Giuliana aka Princess Little Rock

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Giuliana September 25, 2006 10:46 PM

Great to see you back!  How are you doing?  [ send green star]
 
 September 28, 2006 2:57 PM

Thanks, Tim!  Nice to hear from you! 

I should actually say that I'm not "officially" back (full time) because I'm still suffering from complications of my cataract operation.  In fact, I'll soon have to undergo a "Yag Capsulotomy" to repair the damages it caused (increasing myopia and a fluid which needs to be removed).

But my heart is always with you and the whole group...  Next Monday I'm going to see the ophthalmologist to set a date for surgery.  Please, say a special prayer for me!

Love and blessings,

Giuliana aka Princess Little Rock

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Absolutely October 03, 2006 8:46 PM

My prayers are with you... you are a very special person.  I hope thtat all the group join in my prayers.

Sent in love, Tim

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