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hi May 28, 2004 8:50 AM

Hello i have never used the groups here so im tryin to figure out how things work... and look...  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Welcome! May 29, 2004 5:51 AM

Welcome to all the new members! Thank you for joining!  [ send green star]
Hi there..... May 29, 2004 10:41 AM

This is a great website! Thanks for showing us SBF!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Newbie May 30, 2004 9:00 AM

Hello! I just joined this group yesterday and looking forward to connecting with other like-minded people, sharing ideas and supporting what is considered 'alternative' choices for parenting. I believe the people in thsi group would feel as I do about no daycare (if it is a choice--I understand for some women and men, there is no alternative!), raising your children yourself and being devoted to being a good alltime parent. Bye!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 May 30, 2004 10:59 PM

Hey everyone just joined this group. My daughter is 13 months old and we're still doin the whole co-sleeping thing, it really works out well for us. I agree with a lot of attachment parenting ideas and while Im sure I don't do all of them I have great admiration for people who can. I am unfortunatley one of those people who do not have a chioce about putting my daughter in daycare, as you mentioned Ali. I would love to stay home with her cuz I agree that is the best possible thing for a child but being a single mom that is pretty much impossible at this point. Anyways, look forward to gettin to know all of you!! ~Kristina  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 June 03, 2004 9:09 PM

Josie, you're welcome! Ali, I'm a stay at home mother,too. Welcome everyone!  [ send green star]
Aloha June 05, 2004 3:25 AM

My wife and I do not have kids yet, but feel strongly about raising them with many of the elements of this parenting style. Look forward to learning from all of you. Peace b with u, Oren Heart  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Hello June 06, 2004 1:21 AM

greetings, all. Just a reminder - you do not have to be 'stay at home' to raise a child successfully - get out as much as you can, introduce that child to the world as quickly as you can (even the world of work: rules can be changed!) and live as fully as you can. 'Stay at home' as images of restriction, reduction, confinment, constraints - if you feel that, often it is then the child who is blamed, probably unconsciously, for all the things you 'cannot now do'. See the child as your journey into the world, not being held in the home.... any reactions?  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 June 07, 2004 10:57 AM

Yes, sometimes I think it should be called "Stay With Child(ren) Mother" instead of "Stay at Home Mother." Then again, if home is where the heart is, then they're synonymous. Afer all, it isn't called "stay in the house mother."  [ send green star]
Hi June 07, 2004 1:55 PM

My husband and I do not have any children yet, but I just came back from the gyn where he got on my case for wanting to have a child at age 39. He said I was too old, and that I would have a Down Syndrome child because of my age. My husband's mother was 40 when she had him, and that was 40 years ago. So this is frustrating. And ideas on how to find a good gyn? or a good infertility specialist? I live in pennsylvia, and we are new to this state.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 June 08, 2004 6:37 AM

Doctors like that REALLY make me mad. I hope someone can help you with finding a better one.  [ send green star]
baby at 39 June 08, 2004 1:00 PM

Helen, you are not too old! Have you thought of looking for a midwife? I am a doula (birth assistant)in Johnstown (a couple of hours west of you.) I don't have any names to give you off the bat, but if you are interested, I can probably locate more woman-supportive birth professionals for you in the Pittsburgh area. (I had my baby at home at 37!) A more important question than age, as far as I'm concerned, is: Are you in reasonably good physical condition? Giving birth is hard work... women who are really out of shape sometimes don't have the stamina to get through it without external interventions (forceps, C-section.) I've seen young women who were "too old" to get their babies out!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Natural Child project June 10, 2004 8:14 AM

I'm writing to let everyone know about my favorite AP website, the Natural Child Project at - a fantastic site with articles by top writers (Alice Miller, Tine Thevenin, James McKenna, Jan Hunt, etc.) There's a small fundraising shop with interesting items like Parenting Cards and AP bumper stickers, and they also have a huge collection of children's art. But most of all, I go there for reassurance that we're on the right track. Jennie  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
New to this group June 10, 2004 9:35 PM

hi, i am the mother of a three year old. We still co-sleep and she still asks for "momma milk" at bedtime or when she is not feeling well. We chose a natural birth and after a loooong labor my WONDERFUL midwife and I delivered our daughter happy and alert onto this earth. I'm sure a hospital would have forced a c-section. We plan to homeschool/unschool. I've had people question me about my beliefs on child rearing and whether my daughter will be "socialized" well. Amazingly, those folk's children are usually the ones who stare blankly, waiting for parental approval as my bubbly,self-assured, gifted child introduces herself and invites them to play. I welcome any support, comments, stories etc from likeminded moms and dads!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
... and remember ... June 11, 2004 3:13 PM

attachment parenting does not stop with young children... my 17 year old son has just moved back in with me (I was divorced when he was 11 - more details on my profile). It is quite different than those times, but still full of joy and the excitement of discovery and development!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Hi All! June 12, 2004 10:14 AM

I'm the Father of a beautiful 6-week old baby girl. My wife and I are both 40 (we married at 35), have had fertility issues, and lost a baby 2 years ago at 25 weeks in utero due to a blood flow restriction disorder which only showed during pregnancy. Although our daughter does sleep in a bassinet, she sleeps with us also after her morning feed (she regularly sleeps right through the night). We decided to try an over-the-shoulder-baby-holder and all three of us really love it. I'm now investigating the cloth diapering thing (I'm sure I'm going to do it, just deciding on the type). Pleased to meet you all.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Me Too! June 12, 2004 4:28 PM

Wow I fit lots of the issues I've just read about! Hi everyone; I'm a "stay-with-the-kids" mom and Helen I had my daughter 6 years ago at the age of 39 and my son at 41 and although he's a little goofy, he's just fine! It was very irresponsible of that OB/GYN to tell you you'd have a downs baby and I'd find another immediately! I too birthed with a midwife (who didn't believe in AMA - Advanced Maternal Age) and would do it again, even at 45, in a heartbeat (and might!) Rodonda, it's good to hear I'm not the only one nursing and sleeping with a three-year-old (and often the six-year-old as well) and my DH just fired off a fine letter to a columnist in our local paper who disparaged co-sleeping as dangerous and deranged. He's the greatest! Keep up the good work and hope to be back here again soon! Nancy  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
For Helen - babies at 40 June 13, 2004 6:54 PM

Hi Helen, my youngest child was born when I was 40, the pregnancy and labor went fine. She is a beautiful child and a real gift. I suggest you look for a La Leche League group and ask those moms who they would recommend in terms of doctors, midwives, etc. Personally I prefer FAmily Practice doctors or midwives to OB-GYN doctors. OB-GYN doctors are more problem-oriented, more likely to intervene unnecessarily. As far as Down Syndrome is concerned - DS babies can be born to women of any age, even young women. And while there are more complications with the pregnancy, labor and problems for both child and parent, a person with DS is still a PERSON. Which of us gets to choose WHO to conceive?? There are no guarantees for any of us. None of us has a perfect life, none of us get out of here alive. Life is about risks and responses, sorrow and joy. Life is inconvenient. What is your gyn trying to tell you? That he values only "perfect" babies? Why is he making a judgment call like that? I would look for a different doctor. I don't care what his credentials are, this doctor is not for you. Brenda  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Thank you so very much everyone June 14, 2004 6:00 AM

I never concidered a midwife or anything like that before, especially with the court case here in Pennsylvania where a midwife is on trial for manslaughter because a baby died in childbirth. This does not make sense to me. I will definitely take your advice. Thank you so very much again.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Hello, Newbie Here June 14, 2004 8:29 AM

Hi, My name is Lena, I'm from Mt Prospect, IL (NW Chicago Burbs) I have a lil girl who will be 3 in September, I work part-time a few days a week, so I'm home with her the other days I love being a mom, working on a home business so that I can stay at home with her all the time! Hope to 'meet' and get to know you all Lena Singleton 847-357-0767 Visit my websites: "A Simple Approach to Financial Freedom"  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Hi Lena June 14, 2004 9:09 AM

Welcome. It seems like you have it all together. That is terrific.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Greetings June 18, 2004 6:57 PM

Hi all I finally kind of, sort of have time to explore the groups here We have 2 kids--we homeschool our oldest (going on 9!) and our youngest (15 months) is/was cloth diapered. We started elimination communication with him about 8 months ago and its been going great. We have a family bedroom, but only co-sleep with the babe. I think we are the only family in the neighborhood without a stroller--we sling or use our Ergo carrier (which is SO awesome!) We do as much gentle discipline as we can. I have a lot of anger management issues of my own to work on (I'm a yeller ), but we all do the best we can, right? I've been at home full-time for the past 18 months. I wish I were the kind of mama that could stay with the kids all the time, but to be honest I find myself desperately needing a few hours a week away--especially now with 2 kids in the house. And...I tend to spend a lot of my free time (hahahaha!) on Mothering boards ( It is a great place to discuss the AP lifestyle  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Hello June 20, 2004 11:06 AM

I've just joined and wanted to say hello to you all. I tend to read what other people have written, rather than write my own things on these boards, but I thought i'd let you know I was here! I have 3 children, the youngest is 7 months, and is still sleeping in with us - the older two usually join in when they wake up! I couldn't teach mine at home, but do enjoy the time we have together on holidays, weekends and evenings - and of course I have the baby all day as he isn't quite up to school yet! I'm looking forward to hearing (or is that seeing?) all of your views on childraising topics.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Elimination Communication June 23, 2004 6:50 AM

Thanks to Lauren for mentioning Elimination Communication. I'd never heard of it before. I'm not sure we're going to try it, but I'm reading about it here:  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 June 25, 2004 8:19 PM

Graham I had a huge long reply all typed out (took what seemed like hours, with chasing the babe around and trying to get him to sleep)...I FINALLY finished it. Hit submit. and it refreshed to a blank message window. ARGH. So--basically I had written out how we got started with EC. My son hated wet diapers--fleece liners and fleece pockets helped some, but weren't enough. It didn't help that he wets through absolutely everything. Add to that mix the fact that he hated diaper changes, which had to happen all the time. and you have a very very desperate parent ready to let her son run around bare bottomed, because cleaning up puddles is easier than fighting through a billion diaper changes. (I ought to add that it didn't help that our son grew incredibly fast and was in med/lg diapers when he was 3 months old. I couldn't build a stash of easy, quick change diapers fast enough!) When he started walking, one day he went over to his diapers, grabbed one, turned around, and wet the floor. That was when we really knew that not only could he tell us, but that he wanted to tell us when he had to go potty. Since then, we've been trying our best to pay attention to his signals (missing lots still, but usually end up moaning to ourselves "Oh! THAT'S what he wanted!") . We also try to take him to the potty frequently. We did buy a baby bjorn little potty, but he doesn't like we don't push him to use it. No biggie, we usually just hold him over the toilet. My two favorite things about EC-ing? 1) only have to wash diapers once a week. 2) Going out into the world without a diaperbag! It is so freeing! I usually leave a diaper or two in the car, but we haven't needed on in months. For whatever reason we are all more in tune with one another when we are out and about. There are, btw, people who EC part-time....and say their children don't mind going back and forth between diapers and ec-ing. I will warn you though--cloth diapering is so addictive. I am *still* really really sad that I can't justify buying more diapers  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Hello July 05, 2004 6:15 PM

Found this "hi" thread and thought I'd toss my into in, however brief. I'm a 30 something mom of 2 and stepmom to 2 more. Had both my kids completely natural with a "lay" midwife, about six years apart. I believe in taking personal responsibility for their health and well being. We slung DD (DS didn't care for the sling) and now mostly backpack her when out and about (she gets into "trouble" slinging.. LOL), cloth diapered both, breastfed (DS til about a year, DD is still nursing at 21 month)... ummm... can't think what else to write. LOL.. DH while never really being onboard with this kind of stuff is more than willing to try it out. His ex wife did things... a little differently shall we say. But I think he's a believer now. LOL  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
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