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Getting to know each other... February 19, 2005 10:52 AM

Hello folks!
   i thought it would be fun to start some chattering and get to know each other a little better.  So i'm listing some 'get to know you' questions, feel free to answer as few or as many as you are comfortable answering. This isn't meant to pass judgement on others, i just thought it would be a neat way to know more about each other.  i do hope this is okay. 

How old are you?
How Many Children do you have?
What are their names, ages, boys or girls?
How did you first learn about AP?
Do/Did you use AP with all of your children?
Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long?
Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long?
Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc?
Do/Did you use cloth diapers?
Do/Did you use gentle discipline?
Do you believe in spanking?
Do your children watch tv?
Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc?
Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought?
Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth?
Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school?
Are you expecting now or in the near future?
What are your favorite aspects of AP?
What are your least favorite aspects of AP?

That's all i can think of now.  Feel free to add your own questions to the mix. 
Many Blessings,
     ~tree
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my answers February 19, 2005 11:17 AM

How old are you? 31
How Many Children do you have? 1
What are their names, ages, boys or girls?  i have a son named Sequoia, he just turned 3 years at the end of Jan.
How did you first learn about AP?  When i was expecting a friend recommended The Baby Book by Dr.  Sears.  i really didn't know how much of the AP style i would follow, but when my son was born everything that AP embraces seemed completely natural.
Do/Did you use AP with all of your children? i only have one so..yeah.
Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long?  i nursed until my son was 19 months.  i had intended to nurse until he was two. 
Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long?  Yes, we are still co-sleeping although i am trying to gently move him to his own bed.
Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc? i used a sling.
Do/Did you use cloth diapers?  yes.
Do/Did you use gentle discipline?  For the most part, although occasionally i catch myself repeating not so gentle things my mother said to me.  EEK.
Do you believe in spanking?  no
Do your children watch tv?  i allow my son to watch some PBS in the mornings, we also occasionally watch videos from the library. (i really like Magic School bus and signing time!)
Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc?  We are vegetarian and are working on being more organic.  It's easier in the summer, when  we have a garden.
Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought?  i did both. 
Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth?   i planned to have a nature homebirth, but after a full day of labor the midwife had me trasport to the hospital.  My son was born with the help of a vacuum.
Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school? still undecided.
Are you expecting now or in the near future?  i would like to concieve again this summer.
What are your favorite aspects of AP?  Listening and responding to babies nature cues.
What are your least favorite aspects of AP?  Once my son turned two, i stopped enjoying the family bed.  He's a very active sleeper, kicks a lot and likes to sleep on my head.


Many Blessings,
   ~tree


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 February 19, 2005 7:40 PM

How old are you? 22
How Many Children do you have? One
What are their names, ages, boys or girls? I have a girl, her name is Marley.

How did you first learn about AP? A couple months before I actually became pregnant...friend/books.
Do/Did you use AP with all of your children? I only have one and yes.
Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long? Still breastfeeding at the moment and Marley is almost 20 months.
Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long? Ongoing.
Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc? both.
Do/Did you use cloth diapers? I used cloth up untill August...we moved and now I have to drive to wash. Arrrg.
Do/Did you use gentle discipline? I do.
Do you believe in spanking? No.
Do your children watch tv? She watches a few shows mainly on the noggin network.
Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc? vegetarian becoming vegan and more organic.
Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought? Both.
Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth? Natural hospital birth.
Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school? I'm not sure yet.
Are you expecting now or in the near future? No and as of right now I am only focusing on Marley.
What are your favorite aspects of AP? AP is just a natural way of life for my family.
What are your least favorite aspects of AP?

Tree for setting this up...Great idea!



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 February 20, 2005 12:15 PM

How old are you? 29 How Many Children do you have? 2 What are their names, ages, boys or girls? My daughter, Elisabeth, is 4. My son, Alexander, is 1. How did you first learn about AP? just seemed natural to me Do/Did you use AP with all of your children? yes Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long? I am still breastfeeding my 4 year old, and of course my one year old. I will continue to breastfeed them both until they self-wean. Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long? I'm still bedsharing with my 1 year old of course. My 4 year old just recently started sleeping in her own bed part-time (her own idea). Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc? I had a front carrier, but I only used it when we went out. I didn't wear my babies around the house. Do/Did you use cloth diapers? yes Do/Did you use gentle discipline? yes Do you believe in spanking? no Do your children watch tv? yes Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc? organic Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought? Earth's Best with the first, homemade with the second Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth? homebirth Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school? They will go to public school Are you expecting now or in the near future? no What are your favorite aspects of AP? I love it all! What are your least favorite aspects of AP? n/a Here are a couple more questions, since you said we could add our own: Are your sons intact? Are your children vaccine-free?  [ send green star]
 
 February 20, 2005 10:37 PM

How old are you? I am 21
How Many Children do you have? 1
What are their names, ages, boys or girls? My daughter is 22 months old her name is Alexis
How did you first learn about AP? I just had a certain way that I knew I wanted to raise my daughter but I didn't know there was an actual label to it until one day I came accross the term and it just fit with what I wanted
Do/Did you use AP with all of your children? If I ever have future children I plan to use it with them as well
Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long? I breast fed exclusively for 3 months but because I had a breast reduction when I was 16  I wasn't producing enough milk so I did half breastfeeding half formula until she was about 9 months old.
Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long? We've done the co-sleeping thing from the moment she was born and we continue to do it now and Im in no rush to stop it until shes ready.
Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc? My snugglie was the best gift I got I used it every day when my daughter was little
Do/Did you use cloth diapers? No, unfortunately my daughter is in daycare and they won't allow cloth diapers and with my own hectic schedule I gave up and put her in disposables at home too.  If I was a SAHM I would definately use cloth.
Do/Did you use gentle discipline? I don't like the word discipline, I prefer to think of it as guidance and promoting self-regulation.
Do you believe in spanking? not at all I would never use spanking as a way to promote good behavior, in my opinion that is extremely hypocritical.
Do your children watch tv? I wish I could say no, but since I go to school full time and work part time and am a single mom there are occassions when TV is the only way to get ready and out the door. Again in a perfect world where I could stay home with my daughter I would find much better activities than TV.
Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc? I've been a vegetarian since birth and hope my daughter chooses to stay one too.
Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought? Some of both
Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth? I wanted a water birth so bad but they don't offer it around here and all I could afford was hospital birth since my insurance covered it.
Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school?  Right now my daughter is in a private home day care with a great nurturing lady.  When she is old enough to attend school I plan on sending her to a Waldorf School (I am planning on becoming a Waldorf schoolteacher as well.)
Are you expecting now or in the near future? nope I want to wait until I have a stable situation before I bring another child into this world and right now Im just enjoying my daughter too much.
What are your favorite aspects of AP?  I love how it creates so much bonding with the child and it really puts the child's needs ahead of the adult. It helps the child grow up in a nurturing, loving environment where they feel safe and respected.
What are your least favorite aspects of AP?  none.  I just wish I had the resources and time to follow the approach completely without compromising because of my busy schedule.
Are your children vaccine free? again this is something where I could say that no my daughter never recieved vaccines.  She was vaccine free until she was 6 months old I wouldn't let her get shots before then but the pediatrician ended up telling me that they wouldn't see her if I continued to withhold the shots and since I can't afford to pay out of pocket for a more natural pediatrician I was forced to give in.  I hate the system but didn't have much of an alternative.

~Kristina

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 February 21, 2005 5:51 AM

Marley only received vaccines when she was 2 months old because we were still undecided if we were gonna do it or not so I just got them. When it came time for her next schedule shots we knew we didn't want to get her vaccinated. We told our peditrician and he in turn told us to find another doctor for her because aparently vaccines are "so important to him." We left and that was that. Marley is now almost 20 months and has never been sick.

Thanks Jah.

Another question I thought of: How long was your labor? Mine was 32 1/2 hours. I was due July 3, 03 my labor started July 5 @ 9pm and ended on July 7, 5:38am. All natural birth..in hospital which wasn't as easy for me to do considering the nurses and doctor kept trying to get me to take an epidural...even though in my birth plan I specifically said, "Do not even MENTION an epidural!" Well, I got through thanks to my husband and sister and Jah Guidance!   *hearsmile*

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 February 21, 2005 5:58 AM

Lisa and Kristina, i'm totally impressed by your maturity and responsibleness at such young ages!!  i don't think i was fit to care for a goldfish when i was 21-22.  hee hee.  Kudos to both of you!! 

Alice, Thanks for hosting this group!    Great new questions!


Are your sons intact? yes, my son is fully intact.
Are your children vaccine-free?   Yes, right now my son is compltely vaccine free, but i haven't decided 100% that he'll stay that way.   i've been talking to my ped. (who is actually pretty unbiased about vaccines)  and she mentioned getting the mumps and chicken pox vaccines if the child has not contracted each before puberty, because the complications in adulthood can be much more serious than for a child.  So this is something i will keep in mind, and discuss with him if/when the time comes.

another question sparked by Kristina...

Are you a SAHM, WAHM or workoutside the home?  i consider myself a WAHM, although in all honestly i don't get alot of work done anymore.   i run a website and used to do alot of festivals selling my handmade goods,  but it's become more of a part time thing.  My hubby works at home full-time, which is nice.
 
Are your friends and family supportive of your AP parenting style?  Not really,  they really don't  openly critisize it...but they were very uncomfortable that i nursed longer than 6 months...and i've heard many times that i'm spoiling my son because i don't allow him to cry it out, and i've never spanked him, and he still sleeps with us most of the time.  i've also been told i give him too many choices.

Thanks for participating in this, it's been fun reading about each of you.  You are all amazing women!!  You children are very lucky to have you.





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 February 21, 2005 6:18 AM

Are you a SAHM, WAHM or workoutside the home? I am a SAHM. My husband is works full-time @ home. We have our own buisness so we are extremely grateful to have the ability to be around our daughter all the time.  I would like to work/volunteer a couple days a week for a local animal shelter as I am schooling to be a Vet. Assistant.

Are your friends and family supportive of your AP parenting style? Yes. Everyone knows I'm still breast-feeding and they support me. As far as home-schooling my mom and mom-in-law both think it's better for children and I do agree, so I'll be supported if I decide to do that as well. The only things that bothers me sometimes is when my step father-in-law makes comments to Marley about eating meat. I know he's joking..but it still bothers me. I just say, "Animals are our friends, and we don't eat our friends." Hehe. Everyone supports and respects our decision..it's just those annoying questions I get from time to time. For instance I've been asked, "Would you eat meat if it meant that Marley would live?" "I would plants and herbs."  "But what if the only thing left on earth to eat was meat?"

Ok, first of all would that ever ever happen?! Umm, no. Second of all, I can't really answer that because it's too hard to fathom. And third of all, what is the point to this question? I mean, really. 

The point is, there is no point. These questions arise out of pure spite or just plain guilt. I've also been asked if I would shoot and kill a person to protect Marley. This question is the same. The person asking knows that I'm against guns and out of spite asked me that. Ugggghhhhhh.

Anyways, I've rambled. Sorry this is so long! Thanks Tree and your son is extremelu lucky as well..to have such a conscious, caring, respectful mama!

All  



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 February 21, 2005 6:18 AM

Great question Lisa!  Good for you for keeping it natural!

How long was your labor?  This is hard question for me.  i still have some unresolved issues with my sons birth.  my labor  was 33 1/2 hours.  i labored 19 hours at home before the midwife decided we need to transport.  My son was 'sunny side up' i believe that's the posterior postion. (i always get them confused). He was wedged in my pelvis and i had straight back labor, never felt one pain in my abdomen.  i wasn't able to rest at all or even laydown because it made the pain worse.
    On my way to the hospital i felt completey defeated, and assumed i would have to have a c-section.  i labored another 8 hours or so, and then the DR. wanted to break my waters and recommended an epidural.  i took it still believing i would have to have the c-section, and would get one anyway.  i admit the epidural was nice.  i was able to sleep and regain some energy and strength.  They turned it off after only 3 hours though,  so that  i could  feel to push.  i pushed for 3 hours, before they decided i would need some help and  brought in the vacuum. 
   My son was 9lbs 3 1/2 oz, and was 22 1/2 " long.   i am 5' even and my average weight is 94 lbs soaking wet.  ha ha.  Even the dr. was shocked at how big he was.  He was beautiful and healthy, and i know that's what matters most. 
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 February 21, 2005 8:28 AM

I'm a SAHM. I do have a web site, but at this point it’s more of a hobby than a business. For the most part, my family and friends are supportive of my parenting choices. Next to my partner, my mother is my biggest support. She was pretty AP with me and my brother. My MIL did not support my choice to homebirth, and she has problems with some other things as well, but she pretty much leaves me alone now (we had a big argument during my first pregnancy about homebirth). My best friend who is just like me completely supports me, but she lives in Virginia now (I’m in upstate NY). My "other" best friend who lives close by is my exact opposite. I know she doesn’t go for the AP philosophy, but she’s pretty good with leaving me alone about it. (I just know it’s going to break my heart when she has kids and doesn’t AP them!) Does anyone else NOT do well-child visits? Oh, and my labors were 72 hours (17 "officially") and 28 hours long.  [ send green star]
 
 February 21, 2005 9:13 AM

Yes Tree, as long as the baby is healthy...that is ALL that matters!

I was soo surprised @ how small Marley was. I'm about 5'2"-5'3" and I weighed 105 before I was pregnant. At the end of my pregnacy I weighed 161. And I know, I know...I was HUGE! I figured she would weigh at least 7lbs considering all the weight I had gained. When she was born she weighed 5lbs 15oz and was 18 1/2in long. Needless to say...I was shocked. I lost 30lbs in a month and a half and the rest was gone by the time she was 7 months. (Just another wonderful advantage of Breastfeeding, hehe) Now I weigh 101.....I guess from chasing this grrrl around all the time!

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 February 21, 2005 7:33 PM

How old are you? 20
How Many Children do you have?  1
What are their names, ages, boys or girls? I have a 2 year old son named Orion


How did you first learn about AP? My sister-n-law
Do/Did you use AP with all of your children? yes
Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long? I only breastfed for two weeks I wanted to go longer but was ill-informed and had little support at the time thats  when my sister-n-law introduced me to AP
Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long? I co-slept from birth to 15mts. my son made the choice (he likes the space)
Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc?  Yes, I used a snugglie and a homemade sling.
Do/Did you use cloth diapers? yes
Do/Did you use gentle discipline? yes, although I have to remind my husband not to freak out every time he does something that seems nuts.

Do you believe in spanking? no
Do your children watch tv? Baby Einstein mostly
Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc? Organic
Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought?I made my own  vegan organic
Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth? hospital I didnt really know anything at the time
Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school? I wanted him to go to Waldorf  but there arent any in Indiana So I dont Know
Are you expecting now or in the near future? no, ?
What are your favorite aspects of AP?The bond !!
What are your least favorite aspects of AP? I miss using the bathroom with the door closed.

My son only recieved the first two vaccieenes in the hospital. No he is not intact my hubby put his foot down in a big way on this subject.

I was in labor for 23 hours I stayed home for 15 hours I didnt have any pain killers until the last hour because I was blacking out during contractions and the nurses said my only other option was a c-section!  I was a stay at home mom until this Nov. Luckly I am home all week and only work on the weekends
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Hello February 22, 2005 2:11 AM

Hello everyone, I am just new here but thought this is a good way to introduce myself.

How old are you? 32
How Many Children do you have? 3 daughters
What are their names, ages, boys or girls? Asha(8), Meara(6), Enya(2)

How did you first learn about AP? I always had a certain idea of how I would raise my children and just let intuition be the lead.
Do/Did you use AP with all of your children? Yes
Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long? I breastfed Asha until she was three, this was while I was pregnant with Meara, she fed a night feed before bed. When I had Meara, Asha wanted to be fed when I fed Meara(twins almost}, this lasted a few weeks and was fine, the novelty wore off and she went back to one night.I fed Meara for 20mths. I fed Enya for 26mths. Just finished last month.

Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long?Yes, with all 3. Still sleeping with Enya at times.
Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc? YEs 
Do/Did you use cloth diapers? Yes

Do/Did you use gentle discipline? Yes
Do you believe in spanking? No
Do your children watch tv? On occasions
Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc? We are vegetarian with our own organic garden. I am vegan heading to Raw foodist.
Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought? Made my own
Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth? Hospital, Asha (EC), Meara(nat), Enya (nat)
Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school? Public
Are you expecting now or in the near future? No,that is it.
What are your favorite aspects of AP? To be intuitive and follow your instincts.
What are your least favorite aspects of AP? To be critised for not following the norm.

My children are unvaccinated, have only received Homeopathic medicine and are top students and have many friends. I say this not to brag, but to show that being a vegetarian does not lower IQ's or make them alien amongst friends, that breast feeding / co sleeping have made them confident and outgoing children, not babied or babyish in the way society can portray our methods of parenting.. Western parenting  is very disconnected to the laws of nature,, tribal parenting will bring harmony back to our planet and our children will be a blessed gift to this planet.

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 February 22, 2005 7:25 AM

Welcome Kylie!!  Your daughters have such beautiful names!  i think you are very right about Western parenting being very disconnected to the laws of nature.
    It is based on convenience and the needs of the mother, rather than that of the child.  i think it is really sad how much society pushes the convenience of formula, diapers, cribs  etc.  When i was expecting my son i began getting free cans of formula in the mail, free diapers..etc.  If i had been younger and uninformed...it would be so easy to think formula and disposables are the natural way to go.  i mean they are everywhere, everyone around us is using/selling/promoting them.  Western society tells us formula is the best thing for our children.  i totally understand that breast feeding is not for everyone,  but i do find it really sad how many woman don't even consider breast feeding or realize that it is a choice. 

Lauren,
  i love your son's name.  i think it is wonderful that you attempted to nurse, even if it wasn't as long as you had liked...you still helped to build his immunity and give him a great start in the world!  i have to remind my husband not to do/say certain things things too.  It was frustrationg for me, that my husband refused to read any of the books i had.  He has been really supportive of all my choices,  he respects that i don't believe in spanking....but he doesn't totally agree with it. 
<<<What are your least favorite aspects of AP? I miss using the bathroom with the door closed.>>>  Ha ha ha.  i'm right there with you on that one!

   Alice,  how wonderful to have your mother be so supportive.  My mother never openly criticized my choices, but she was very unimformed and tried to give me the same advice she'd been given..back in the days of Dr. Spock.  When she found out i was expecting, she ran out and bought me a bassinet, a crib, a playpen.  i was incredibly appreciative of her gifts but...the bassinet was never used because we co-slept. The playpen was never used, the crib was never used as a crib...but did turn into a toddler bed (thank goodness)  so that is just now getting a little bit of use.  My father was much more openly critical.  When my son was about 6 months old, my father made a comment about " Don't you think he's a little old to be nursing?" 
     Also,  i poked around your website a bit last night.  i have a super slow dial up connection and some of the pics took a long time to load, so i didn't get to spend as much time as i would have liked.  Anyhow,  i LOVE your T-shirts and bummer stickers!!  i loved the ' Silly Man!'  hee hee hee.  Very cool stuff.  

Lisa,  Yay! another itty pixie moma!  My son always say's "i'm growing big, why you grow so small?"  hee hee.  i weighted 134 with Sequoia,  and i thought i gained alot.   
   How long have you been veggie?  i used to get lot of crap from family/friends for being veggies, and used to get those same stupid questions.  i've been veggie long enough now, that i rarely hear those kinds of comments anymore. When my son was about two my grandfather gave him some cracker once and then i saw the box, and they were bacon flavered!  Ack!.  That's the one thin you really have to watch,  alot of folks are just totally ignorant about what is vegetarian.  My grandmother still tries to 'pick the meat out' of things..even though i've told her a million times that's not a vegetarian dish if it was cooked with chunks of ham in it.  lol.  i've always been the difficult one.   What is your husbands business?  It's wonderful having them at home isn't it?  We are still in the struggling stages of self-employment..but i contantly remind myself how very lucky we are to both be able to stay home.  The sacrifices we make are very much worth it.


Does anyone else NOT do well-child visits?  We don't do them regularly.  My Dr. is pretty cool, she is an osteopath, very into natural/alternative remedies.  i took my son regularly the first year, because i was a new mom with lots of questions.  i had just moved to Virginia, and didn't know anyone here..no friends or family for support...so i kind of relied on my Dr.  i don't think we've gone since his 2 year visit though and i was just thinking i should make an appointment because i had a few questions.

Okay, i think that's everything.  i'm sure i'll find more to ramble about later on...

Many Blessings to each of you!
  ~tree
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 February 22, 2005 8:07 AM

T~ Thanks I named my son when my astrologist aunt called me before I knew I was pregnanat and said Orion was rising in my third house (something to that degree) and that ment a life changing event. I was thrilled to give him and unusual name however I am sorry to say the name is gaining popularity.

I wish I had known more about birth choices while I was pregnant IF I have another I want to go for a homebirth I had no complications with the first so I have a good feeling I would do well espically concidering the only bad part about my labor and delivery was the nurses and doctors I Hated having someone telling me what to do. They wouldnt let me do anything but lay there It just didnt feel right having people I didnt know in white uniforms all around me. I felt more like I was going to have an alien that a baby . 

I have a question Is this board API affliated?

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 February 22, 2005 9:11 AM

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 February 22, 2005 2:29 PM

Hey Lauren! i was thrilled to give my son an uncommon name too.  However, Toyota came out with the Sequoia truck,  that same year and on that show Friends  when Rachelle was pregnant they were discussing naming the baby and the name Sequoia was mentioned. It was also mentioned on another primetime show that same year although i can't remember which.. Then just recently i met a woman locally and she asked me my son's name..and it turned out she has a son named Sequoia too! 
    
   i would also highly suggest to anyone to have a doula present at your birth, whether home or hospital.  i had two doulas with me at the hospital and they really, really helped.  The nurses were pretty much useless, and i was told later they sat in the corner and were loudly whispering to each other..there's NO way she's going to have that baby vaginally, they need to schedule her a c-section right now etc.  Great incouragement, eh??!!  The doulas were incredibly supportive and helped me to keep my focus. 
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additional questions February 22, 2005 3:52 PM

To answer the new questions:

Im a working mom well more of a still going to school mom lol but yeah unfortunately my daughter is in daycare although I really was blessed to find such a wonderful lady to watch her.

My mom is extremely supportive of the AP method she didn't know what it was when I told her about it but its basically the way she raised me.  Alexis' dad, my ex, is unfortunately not supportive at all. We've remained good friends and generally get along well but we tend to disagree about the way Alexis should be disaplined (in my opinion his approach is way too authoritaian and he expects her to act like an adult instead of a 22 month old) plus he allows her to eat meat at his place but luckily I have primary custody so she's with me a lot more and I just make sure she gets the AP approach when shes with me.  And we have decided that the meat thing will be her decision when she is old enough to decide so hopefully he'll back off if she decides to be a vegetarian too.

As for the labor thing, mine was 36 hours.  I had to be induced because I got toxemia so I went in on a Monday night for the induction and didn't deliver her until Wed. morning at 9:36.  The Dr. kept telling me I was most likely going to have a C-Section but I really didn't want one so I kept telling her to hold off and luckily Alexis was born just in time.  If she'd waited another 3 hours I was going to have to have the surgery so I was very happy she arrived finally!

And thanks Tree for the encouragement, its actually nice to see some other young moms here for me as well. Its hard for me to find young moms who are focused on their children.  Most still seem to be all about themselves so I find it hard to relate to them Im so glad this board is here, its so nice to be able to share AP views without getting wierd looks or having to go into a discussion and proving why its ok to do lol so thank you all for being here!

Kristina

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No "well-child" visits for Marley. February 22, 2005 7:04 PM

I kind of go by the saying..'If it's not broke, don't fix it.' Hehe. We are definitely into the whole homeopathic/natural medicine approach. I just feel that doctors don't want you to actually get better..they want you to get worse or stay the same so they can keep their jobs and continue to make money. Like with Marleys pedi. and with my doc. during  labor. I actually had a mid-wife, Kathy, but in my hospital she wasn't on call that night so a doctor whom I never even met had to deliver her. She kept pushing and pushing to get me an epidural and also mentioned a c-section. After 24 hours of laboring there was NO WAY in hell I was gonna let her cut me open feeling all that pain for nothing! But the point is...it wasn't that I needed a c-section because my child was in danger...it was because A. she didn't want to deal with delivering a child so early in the morning and B. bigger paycheck. There has been much controversy over how many c-sections were scheduled in that hospital. It just makes my skin crawl!

Nice stories of how you guys picked your childs names too! I named Marley after Bob Marley, as I'm sure most of you have already figured out. His music and his legacy has brought so much inspiration to my life I just knew that if my child was a girl, I HAD to name her Marley. I didn't know what she was untill she popped out so it was pretty exciting.

Ohhh, another question...Did you wait untill baby was born or find out while pregnant if it was girl/boy?

I've been a vegetarian for almost 3 year now. Matts company is Roxtract North America. He sells ionzied mineral water systems. The ionized minerals are all organic, straight from the earth. They come in the Roxtract Solution which is added to your water in system and filters through. It contains 22  lab proven minerals. He basically sells Health. There are so many people becoming extremely healthy since drinking our water it's just so amazing! We are definitely greatful to be able to raise a family at home and have the ablity to make people healthy at the same time! 

Such a Blessing!  

If any of you are interested the website will be up March 1st and it's http://www.roxtracth2o.com

  *hearsmile* to all of you!

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 February 22, 2005 9:32 PM

How old are you? 25


How Many Children do you have? 1
Christine, 4 years old

How did you first learn about AP? It came natural, but I found out the name after joining Amity Mamas Forum

Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long? Yes, for 22 months


Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long? Yes, we just recently moved her to her own bed where she sleeps half the night and then crawls in with us.


Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc? Yes, but I don't know which contraption it was, lol


Do/Did you use cloth diapers?  no, but used natural disposables


Do/Did you use gentle discipline?  Yes!


Do you believe in spanking?  No


Do your children watch tv?  Seldom ever


Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc? YES!  Vegan and organic all the way.


Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought?  Ah, store bought but organic


Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth?  No, but I wish I had.


Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school?  Homeschool


Are you expecting now or in the near future?  Nope, I am done.


What are your favorite aspects of AP?   I really enjoyed the co-sleeping, but the gentle discipline is the best reason to be an AP parent.


What are your least favorite aspects of AP?  The only thing would be when people try to make me feel bad for choosing to use a swing when she was sleeping (like I asked them for their oppinion?)

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 February 22, 2005 9:38 PM

Answers to newer questions.  Vaccine free minus one vaccine at 2 months old and I am a WAHM and there was something about labor.  Hard to say how long my labor was cause it was weird contractions over the whole weekend and then by the time I realized I was having real contractions it was Monday at 7pm and went to the hospital at 12am and she was born at 3:31am.  So, I guess 8 hours of labor and 1/2 hour of pushing.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 February 22, 2005 9:42 PM

The supportive thing, not really supportive family but they know I don't reall care if they like it or not, lol.  Hubby's family is except the vaccine issue.  My grandma's don't even know that we haven't and I figure it is best that way.  My mom supports no vaccines and homeschooling but nothing else (well and organic foods).  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Learning a lot February 23, 2005 5:08 AM

I'm in the fifth month of my first pregnancy and reading this list I've learnt a lot, thank you all for sharing your experiences.

I guess that no woman really knows what she'll feel like when the time comes, maybe I'll go nuts and demand an epidural, but my instinct has always been to keep intervention and medication to a minimum, so this list has been really encouraging. I'm hoping to keep it as natural as possible. Most hospitals here do rely more on midwives than doctors at birth, though it varies from hospital to hospital. I'm also planning on having a doula present, it sounds like a good idea to have someone who is on your side but not emotionally involved in the same way who can plead your case or mediate with a doctor.

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I forgot to ask... February 23, 2005 5:21 AM

I forgot what I wanted to ask. I was vegetarian for 20 years thanks to Peter Singer's "Animal Liberation" but for various reasons I was advised to return to eating flesh about 18 months ago. All I can say is that it did seem to help us conceive and I did feel healthier. That aside though, mostly I've been having fish, but a few people have warned me that while pregnant I should cut down on fish because of the risk of mercury poisoning for the fetus. Does anyone have an advice on this?

The main types of fish we get here are salmon (imported from Norway), assorted Red Sea and Mediteranean sea fish, North Sea cod, some local freshwater fish, like St Peter's fish, imported tuna and the most common of all, African Nile perch, some imported, most I think is farmed locally.

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Leiah February 23, 2005 5:29 AM

In the time of labor your body takes over. Having a doula present is definitely an awesome idea and seeing that you wanna go natural, a doula will help you sooo much! Congrats on keeping it natural! Just remember, if you do get an epidural or what not...it doesn't matter. I came to a breaking point after over 24 hours of laboring. I almost got one. But my husband and sister talked me out of it. Which I'm soooo glad they did and I decided not to but don't feel bad or hard on yourself if you do decide to get  one. All that matters is the health of your baby! Music and getting in the bath I think helped me the most. Oh ya, and all that back rubbing! Actually...there's a point that comes in which NOTHING will help, right mamas? I don't wanna say this to discourage you but just to give you a little insight. I'm sure you've heard this all before though. When I was preggo everyone just kept telling me that it was gonna be the worst pain ever. Well, they were right but I came to humble myself to the pain and got through it.

Congrats and good luck on your journey! Do you know what you're having? And what is you due date?

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 February 23, 2005 5:33 AM

When I was pregnant my doctor told me not to eat tuna, salmon, shark, and a bunch of other fish that have a high mercury content. I only eat tuna every now and then but I don't eat fish at all anymore..I never really liked fish growing up anyway. Definitely STOP eating salmon. I', sure you could do a search and find alot of info about this.

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I meant.. February 23, 2005 5:34 AM

I only ATE tuna every now and then. No fish for me whatsoever.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 February 23, 2005 5:57 AM

Jenn, that picture of you and your daughter is priceless!

Leiah, Congratulations!!   i found this article doing a quick search on care2.  http://www.care2.com/channels/solutions/home/257

Also visit the vegetarian/vegan care2 group,  and maybe do a  search there. i've seen alot of posts and articles about the dangers of eating certain fish.  Lots of info out there!!

i'll write more later...we are off to playgroup today!! 
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 February 23, 2005 3:17 PM

I second the suggestion of having a doula present if you’re going to have a hospital birth!! No, I didn’t find out the gender of my babies during my pregnancies. In fact, I refused all ultrasounds during both pregnancies. I didn’t allow a doppler during labor either. I’d be interested in knowing if anyone else refused ultrasounds?  [ send green star]
 
 February 25, 2005 5:58 PM

Hi!  I'm new here, but I figured this is a good way to introduce myself!  I'm Amy, and...

How old are you?  28
How Many Children do you have?  1
What are their names, ages, boys or girls?   Keith - 2 1/2

How did you first learn about AP?  I used to post on an AOL 'due in' board, and there was a 'crunchy' mom who posted there.  At first I thought she was nuts, but now I've turned into her lol
Do/Did you use AP with all of your children?  Yes
Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long?  Yes - still am @ 29 months
Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long?  Yes - still am
Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc?  Yes - a OTSBH
Do/Did you use cloth diapers?  Yes - they're addicting!
Do/Did you use gentle discipline?  yes
Do you believe in spanking?   no
Do your children watch tv?   yes
Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc?   organic mostly
Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought?  He never really had baby food
Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth?  hospital, but I want a home birth for the next one 
Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school?  He'll probably go to public, but check with me in a couple of years
Are you expecting now or in the near future?  I wish.  Not yet

I think that's about it about me     Nice to meet you alll!

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 February 26, 2005 8:21 AM

Hello Amy!!    Welcome!!!   [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
New To Group February 26, 2005 10:25 PM

Hello my name is Rebecca I'm an old 41 year old...lol....with one daughter named Missy who is 9 years old going on 20, it seems! Missy was born in Perth, Australia with 2 mid-wives to help....it was an easy born and totally natural. We are back in the states now and living in Florida. I did breast feed her until she was almost two years old....I made a lot of her baby food. I like knowing what is in the foods we eat...I have always baked and cook from scratch.  I am divorced...Missy's father left when she was 8 mo. old...we've never seen him again.....she has always slept with me and does so to this day....I turely believe that my daughter is a gift from GOD....she is my life, my heart....I also have 3 cats who are my babies as well.

It's nice to know that there are caring parents out there and I am greatful that I found this group....I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone and making new friends.

Rebecca

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Rebecca February 27, 2005 6:27 AM

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hello February 27, 2005 7:51 PM

Hello everyone. My name is Renee and I'm new here too. How old are you? 32 How Many Children do you have? 2 What are their names, ages, boys or girls? Chloe Anne, 4 and a half, and Chessa Morgan, 9 months, both girls How did you first learn about AP? Never really knew anything about it. Just happened to be the way I was raising my daughter Do/Did you use AP with all of your children? yes Do/Did you breastfeed, if so how long? Yes. Chloe till she was 3. Still nursing Chessa. Do/Did you co-sleep, if so how long? Yes. Still co-sleeping with Chessa all night and Chloe part of the night. Co-slept with Chloe till she was about 3. Then she started going to sleep in her own bed but she still comes into our bed sometime in the middle of the night or early morning. Do/Did you  babywear, if so did you use a sling, snugglie etc? I use a sling with Chessa. With Chloe I just held her in my arms most of the time. The sling is obviously much more convenient. Do/Did you use cloth diapers? Yes Do/Did you use gentle discipline? Yes Do you believe in spanking? No Do your children watch tv? No, except once Chloe was around 3 she started watching an occassional skateboard video with her daddy Is your family organic/vegetarian/vegan etc? organic and vegan for 13 years Did you make your own baby food or buy store bought? some of both Did you have a natural/home/water/hosptial birth? homebirth Do you homeschool, public school or send your children to a private/alternative school? we plan on homeschooling Are you expecting now or in the near future? no What are your favorite aspects of AP? so much of it. always being with my children and raising them in such a gentle, loving, nurturing environment What are your least favorite aspects of AP? Are your children vaccine-free? yes Are you a SAHM, WAHM or workoutside the home? I work at home and my husband does also. And we are very grateful to be able to. Are your friends and family supportive of your AP parenting style? Friends are supportive. Family is mostly supportive but some do act like we are quite difficult. Does anyone else NOT do well-child visits? We do not do well child visits. Chloe has only had 2 colds in her life. The first one was when she was 2. Chessa has never been sick although we did have a very crazy emergency/hospital situation with her when she was 6 weeks old. How long was your labor? My labor with Chloe was about 5 hours. My contractions didn't even get strong till about three hours into it, but once they did there wasn't even a moment to catch my breath in between them. They never let up. And if you think that was quick, wait till you hear this. My labor with Chessa was about an hour. The midwife didn't even make it to our house in time so. So Chessa was delivered by husband. It was an amazing experience and we are very happy that it worked out that way. That's it for me for now. I have really enjoyed reading everyone's responses. Hope to get to know you all more : ) ~ Renee ~  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
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