I'm a survior of Domestic Violence.
My last LTR was good and bad. He and I owned our own business. We traveled around the SE USA. We took trips to Mexico and Costa Rica for buiness and pleaure. We'd stay for a month at a time. We sold Bromeliads and ended up moving down to Florida. We even was able to do Epcot's Flower and Garden Show, Silver Dollar City's Craftsman Fest, Dollywood's Craft Fest, and sold our product to Bush Gardens in Tampa Bay. Was a very exciting life. I loved every minute of it. Our professional relationship was beautiful. We were the greatest team.
At home, things were different. Verbal, spiritual, physical, mental and emotional abuse was frequent by him. One of our disagreements turned very physical. He hit me so hard, I fell down the steps and broke my elbow. Now I'm still carrying that wound. I have limited movement in my right elbow. I can barely move it. It's in a "locked" position. The doctors tried, but no luck.
I still stayed with him after this. I was very afraid. I didn't know where to turn or what to do. 5 years of this. 5 years of his abuse. there are many things that happened during this time. I won't bore you with all the details but I'll tell you I finally got the courage to leave him. I turned to my family for help and support.
The moral of the story is simple. If you are a victim of abuse of any type - please find your inner strength and courage - and make it stop. I know how scary it is to do. Please - females and males - don't allow yourself to be abused in any shape, form or fashion!
Love, Peace and Light
But if I find myself curious? I stick around and glad I am to have done so. I've met a very decent man. And we are taking things VERY slow, he understands what i've been through and is extremely compassionate.
It took a long time to get to this place.
Yes. I found this too, after a childhood of being abused by my mother, then several SO's - I finally learned that attraction is no measure-tape for me on the quality of the relationship - other than I am setting myself up for another abusive relationship.
Today I 'smell' out the abusive and violent women, and simply avoid them.
Thank you both for sharing your realities
I'm so glad we all have gotten out of our abusive relationships...
This is an issue that touches me and hurts too. Thanks for sharing everyone!! ~Tera