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Time to introduce yourselves June 21, 2004 11:36 PM

Lets get together and share our support. A good place to start would be to introduce ourselves to the other members. My introduction is on the hi to all new members post. Lets get started. We are all here for the same reasons.  [ send green star]
 
HI! September 24, 2004 5:24 AM

I am Dixie. I have a great enjoyment in being connected with care2; the groups I stumble or click to are very helpful in many ways to me. I have now come to use this site more than any other, really!! I have coffee each morning that I can with care2. the virtual friends are great. I will definately be back to this group! Dixie  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 September 24, 2004 7:38 AM

My name is Sarah and I joined this group because of my passion for stopping violence again women and children. I worked for a year while in university at the local women's shelter in my city. I was a recreation coordinator for the children of the women at the shelter. I left the sheltered bubble of my life when I started that job.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
hey there! September 27, 2004 8:38 AM

i am reyna and i am a survivor of DV and SA. stalking is probably the worst. i regret not posting here before but i am up to my eyeballs right now. however, i do have a lot of ideas i would like to run by y'all, esp. with regards to verbal, psychological and econmic abuse. i've done some work in this area too. fwiw- i am in the process of starting what i hope will be a good companion group to this one. this is the continuation of a project i started when working with other survivors. the lilith league is intended for those who now have the `brain chiggers' from abuse and violence. for the uninitiated, i am referring to ptsd and complex ptsd. since we have `triggers' that exacerbate our disability, i thought there outta be a closed list, restricted to women (i recognize some men are abused- can't take that on now) that is totally safe space. i plan too have a very rigid policy against any shaming and blaming. we all get too much of that. when people feel strong they can open themselves up to a larger group, but there are times we must have safe space to feel free to talk openly. the second reason for starting a sep. group is that i hope over time to develop a network of survivors who can step up when a woman is abused and help her with some of the pragmatic and immediate practical issues that arise after she is assaulted or is trying to implement a safety plan. this idea came to me, when after a very brutal attack, i was left alone to clean up my own blood. NO one should have to do this, imho. sometimes cooking a meal or running an errand will enable a survivor to step back and care for HER needs just a bit. i also think we need to start holding batterers econonically responsible for the damage they inflict. i doubt many survivors (unless, like me they have a degree in econ or similar) have any idea what to count as damages, much less how to document them and ask the court for the judgement. judges are not always good, some are totally atrocious. but if the case is pretty clear cut and involves documentable physical violence, judges are usually pleased to order compensation too the vic. THAT may have an impact on re-offending. i don't think a weekend in jail and slap on the wrist is gonna make batterers stop and think too hard. but if they are gonna have to pay your medical bills, time off work, replacing damaged items, etc. this may help them think twice. i am very concerned that more lawyers are not willing to help survivors sue their batterers in civil court for `pain and suffering', intentional infliction of emotional distress, etc. also, i signed up to coordinate the abuse survivors `meetups', is anyone else doing that??? i'd love to compare notes. peace reyna  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Hi, I am Regina September 29, 2004 7:16 PM

Most of care2 knows me. I moderate about 16 different boards, and was hoping someone else would do this issue, since I already cover some very sensitive issues. I am a survivor of domestic violence in every facet. I am currently in another relationship with a Narcissist. It has been hellish needless to say. We have an 8 year old in common. We are not married. I am finacially strapped which is th only thing that keeps me here. I can't find a decent paying job to safe my life. I have the worst luck when it comes to jobs. I secretly (and hide it well) get so depressed sometimes I just wish I could just disappear. Its like a pocket of depression that seems to just loom over me. My last Narcissist cost me 3 children and I refuse to loose this one to some mental case. I tend to get involved with overwhelming things just to take my mind off it. I think about death alot. (not suicidal stuff). I fantasize about running away, into the wilderness and live off the land, but unfortunately, I'd have to turn vegitarian first, cause I couldn't kill an animal. I have thought of becoming a BagLady but I hate the City. I want to give up alot. Thanks  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Me? September 30, 2004 8:48 AM

Hey Regina..don't give up...keep pushing...you can do this. Do. Not. Give. Up. I'm Stephanie, a writer, activist, musician, yadda yadda. I am strong, of mind, heart and spirit. I have self-determination. I believe in the power of words. I have not let the mean things done/said to me in the past or in my present turn me into something else. I'm a firm believe in redemptive suffering, of agape love, of healing and hard work. I am a shoulder for you to lean on, and I will speak your truth, if you allow me. Sometimes I'm misunderstood, but that's okay, it makes room for meaningful discussions. Peace and Love...  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Hi October 01, 2004 11:37 PM

I really want to share my experience, strength and Hope about DA and SA. But I am really tired right now. Just wanted to say hi and TO REGINA: Don't be so hard on yourself. I am not with a partner but I share your financial woes and feelings of wanting to run away... BUT I have HOPE and FAITH. I know things will change,but I had to change first. But that's a story for another day.. So Regina, I mean it..HANG IN girl, you are worth it. :D Blessings, Maire  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 October 02, 2004 4:33 PM

Hi- I'm Christine, a Veterinary technician, dog trainer & animal rescue volunteer. I've survived (or still trying to survive) Rape, Sexual Abuse, DV, emotional abuse and more. I think I can be pretty good at offering support, but lack the confidence to support myself most times. I've been looking for ways to get involved locally with this cause, but nothing is ever done around where I live; it's a shame. I try to find support through other's stories of survival and moving on, which I guess is what brought me to this board. Glad it's here. Thanks.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 October 17, 2004 11:06 PM

Hi, Im Cory, and just wanted to say how amazing it is that there are so many women willing to share their stories and just how strong each and every one of you are. I got mixed up with the wrong guy at a very young age and found that I couldnt get myself out. From my experiences, i have become a rape councellor and I am constantly being astonished at the severity and the frequency of sexual abuse. I want to use what I went through to try and change things.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 October 24, 2004 7:25 AM

Hi all, Im Regina, and a surviver of one abusive relationship, and in another one. Although the first one was worst then this one in some respects, but this one is just as bad in its own right. My boyfrind is a Narcissist/Alchoholic possibly bi-polar. His behavior sure demonstrates it. I will be in now and again. I moderate many boards, many on other social issues. If moderation here don't mind, I will be posting Spousal abuse information as I come across them. Its my way of getting educated (sharing the wealth), and coping with my hell. Thanks, and be well. Regina  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 November 16, 2004 9:13 AM

Hello all, My name is Rhia,and Iam new to Care2. I was in an abusive(physical,mental and sexual) realionship for 10 years.I was able to walk away once our daughter was born.It took me that long to believe in myself,and be able to love me enough to leave him. I feel very blessed and lucky that Iam alive today,and that I was able to leave.I know there are so many women that arent so lucky. I knew that I had to stand up to him even if it meant losing my life to do so.That was one of the scariest things that I had to do in my life. Facing the fear is what I had to do for me and my daughter. (((Hugs))) to everyone in this circle.Iam always here to listen,help in any way that I can or just give a (((hug))) Light&Laughter,Rhia  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Hello November 20, 2004 6:57 PM

Hi everyone. I was in an abusive marriage for 17 years. I had gotten so lost into it that I didn't even know it wasn't right what was happening to me. I had lost myself without realizing it and by the grace of God I am me again. I got out of it I found myself and although it will always be a part of my past I have to look at it as a part of my new strength also. I only wish and hope that all women going through it can see it in some way or that God grants them the strength to see it is not right and not normal and not OK. I got out of it 10 years ago and it took walks in the mountains, camping in the mountains, and alot of being alone to find myself. I started drawing again laughing again telling my children I loved them and holding them with nothing inside holding me back. I started decorating my home and singing and joking and my little light inside is really there and it is getting stronger all the time. Sometimes I have flashbacks of hurt and pain and bad memories but the most important thing of all is that my girls will grow to know it is not OK to take it and my boys have grown to know it is not OK to give it and they are what gave me the strength to leave. Seeing their hurt. God helped me through it and God is with me now and God bless you all.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
Hello all November 29, 2004 11:16 AM

I'm Whitney. I am a primary and secondary survivor many times over. I am an activist in New hampshire. I attend UNH and am involved in a group called the Feminist Action League. We've been in the news a lot lately. Go and google FAL, UNH, and/or my name Whitney Williams, and you'll find some articles covering some of our work. I've been working to end rape. I believe we can and must stop violence against women. Thanks for having me. Please forgive me for irregularity as life is very hectic right now.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 December 09, 2004 1:51 PM

My name is Rachel, I'm 19 and have been in a mentally, emotionally and phisically abusive realtionship for almost 2 years now. I'm very confused. Help?  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
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