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Help December 14, 2004 1:58 PM

I'm trying to break it off with my bf of 2 years. It's much harder than I ever imagined. everyone thinks it hsould be easy, but its not. He ALWAYS thinks I'm cheating on him, and i never have. He thinks I do drugs behind his back and i dont. I really cant even have any friends because of this relationship. my own sister doesnt like to hang out with me because he's always around creating drama. I REALLY need some help. rachel  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
You know, January 09, 2005 7:47 PM

I have noticed that your message has gone unreplied to for some time. You posted "help". want an idea of why? It is not at all that no one cares what it is hun is that no one can help you BUT YOURSELF! I had to also learn that the hard way, WALK AWAY FROM HIM HE IS THE ONE THAT NEEDS YOU! Ingrid  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 January 26, 2005 7:12 AM

It can be very hard to walk away from a relationship.even harder from a abusive one. Its true that only you can do it,but its helps to have a supportive circle around you even when you falter. Light&Laughter,Rhia  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
re:help January 27, 2005 7:32 AM

i was in an abusive relationship for 2 years and i know how tough it is to break away. this person was like a drug i would go back gt my fix then move on till the next time. i went back to him on the promise "i;m sorry this will NEVER happen again, please forgive me" it took me 5 times to leave and come back saying to myself " i'll never go back no matter what" but his emotional abuse drove me back every time. one day something clicked in my head, i stood up like i was 10 feet tall and said " i;m outta here i'm leaving and this time for good" i packed what i could carry, called a taxi and that was 7 years ago. unless someone is in your ahoes, they cant tell you to leave ask you why you stay etc. you have to find the strength in your heart and soul to pick up and go, i had to leave everything behind, most women dont want to do that and loving your partner should not have to hurt, emotionally or physically. if you have to go to a shelter GO, dont be embarrassed and dont worry your hubby will find you, even if he does your safe, you will be with friends, and there are laws to protect you even if you think there arent. the abuse is only going to get worse and in my case the beatings wernt getting my abusres point across so he moved on to other forms of abuse and it wont stop till you make it stop by leaving. i will pray for you and hope you find the courage and strength to leave and never look back. SOMEONE SOMEWHERE is there to help  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 January 27, 2005 8:38 AM

Hugs to you Debbie for sharing your story. Didnt you feel so free and proud of yourself after being able to leave your BF?:) My ex(my Daughter's bio Father) abused me physically,sexually and emotionally for 10 years. It took me ten years and my ex pushing my daughter down when she was 3 years old to finally leave him for good.That was the first and last time my ex ever did that to her.I told him you might have hurt me,but you will never ever hurt my daughter. I had to get an EPO out on him and he still came back threating me and my daughter's life(so he went to jail again) but I told myself,he might kill me but I will die standing up to him ! It was a gradual process for me leaving him I know.I started by getting my own place,job etc... so the more that I did for ME the more confidence I had in myself. You cant make someone else end an abusive relationship,all you can do is be there for them and supportive in whatever way. There is always hope,and a way to get out of an abusive relationship .It takes alot of inner strength to do it,and there are so many people that can help(shelters etc...) The one thing I believe is that the only way to get through something,is to face your fears and demons standing tall.Its how I was able to leave my ex finally,and get through other things in my life. I have been married to a wonderful man(4 years this April) who is good to both me and my daughter.I know I would never have allowed him to love me,if I hadnt been on my own for awhile,and being able to love myself. Thanks for letting me tell my story,Iam always here for a (((hug))) and an ear to lend if anyone needs it :) Light&Laughter,Rhia  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
touched February 02, 2005 8:18 PM

Hi, Please babe, do not let this guy isolate you from your sister, friends or anyone that cares for you, this is inevitably what he is trying to do. This abuse has probably damaged you more already than you are even aware of, but also you are stronger than you think. I am not trying to scare you but the abuse will increase, become more extreme as regards emotional or mental abuse, possibly physical abuse. But please don't doubt yourself it is all abuse. Always remember you are not responsible for his abusive behaviour. I left an abuser after 6 yrs, 3 yrs later I am back to being 'me' again but I mental scars and physical disabilities that will remain with me. Please babe leave, do whatever it takes to get away from this, you should not have to tolerate abuse on any level. I recently came across a site that you may find of some support information wise covering lots of aspects, such as 'Why Do We Stay' 'Self Empowerment'etc. http://www.heart-to-heart.com I wish you happiness and peace  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 February 09, 2005 6:35 AM

So how are things going Stoner Girl?? I have been thinking about you and hope that things are a bit better. Light&Laughter,Rhia  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 February 13, 2005 5:26 AM

as i learned in my life. please don't let anyone tear you apart from your family.they will be the only ones to fall back on.and if a man thinks your cheating chances are that means he is  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 February 26, 2005 6:30 AM

I really think that experience is the best teacher in life,good and bad. Light&Laughter,Rhia  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
RE:HELP March 17, 2005 5:19 PM

HI THERE STONER, JUST CHECKIN IN TO SEE HOW YOU ARE DOING AND WHAT YOUR STATUS IS. IM ON LINE EACH DAY AND I HAVE INSTANT MESSENGER LISTED IN MY PROFILE YOU CAN SEND ME AN ACCEPT FOR FRIENDS LIST AND IF YOU LIKE WE CAN TALK. I BEEN THRU WHAT YOUR GOING THRU AND MAYBE I CAN HELP GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
 March 22, 2005 6:12 AM

(((Hugs))) to you Debbie for your kindness:) I hope Stoner girl is doing okies,I havent seen her here for awhile. Light&Laughter,Rhia  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 
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