A lot Of Important Information.... July 30, 2005 1:50 PM
Alabama Coalition Against Rape The Alabama Colaition Against Rape not only provides services to rape and sexual assault providers, but works to raise to improve treatment of and services to sexual assault victims statewide; to increase the reporting of sexual assault; to increase public awareness of sexual assault; and to improve investigation and prosecution of sexual assault. 804 S. Perry Str, Suite 100 Montgomery, AL 36104 (334) 264-0123 1 888 725 7273
Daybreak Crisis Recovery Center Anniston, AL (256) 231-0654
Crisis Center - Rape Response Birmingham, AL (205)323-7273
Victim Services of Cullman Cullman, AL (256)734-6120 (256)734-6100
The House of Ruth Dothan, AL (334) 793-2232 1 800 650-6522
Rape Response - Florence Florence, AL (256)767-1100
Crisis Services of North AL Huntsville, AL (256) 716-1000 1 800 691-8426
CONTACT Mobile Mobile, AL (251)473-7273 1 800 718 7273
Council Against Rape Montgomery, AL (334)213-1227
SafeHouse Pelham, AL (205)664-4357
Crisis Center - Russell Co. Phoenix City, AL (334) 297-4401
Sabra Sanctuary Selma, AL (334) 874-8711
Turning Point Tuscaloosa, AL (205)758-0808
Lighthouse Robertsdale, AL (251) 947-4393
Women's Resource Center - Aiding Women in Abuse & Rape Emergencies PO Box 020809 Juneau, AK 99802-0809 (907) 586-6623 (907) 586-2977 24 hour Hotline: (907) 586-1090 or (907) 283-7257
Alaska Women's Resource Center 111 West 9th Street Anchorage, AK 99501 907/276-0528
Standing Together Against Rape 1057 W. Firewood Ln. Suite 230 Anchorage, AK 99503 (907) 276-7279 Crisis Line: (907) 276-RAPE
Women in Safe Homes 2002 First Ave. Ketchikan, AK 99901 Office: (907)225-9474 24 hour Hotline800) 478-9474
Center Against Sexual Abuse (C.A.S.A.) 233 North Central Street Phoenix, AZ 85014 Maricopa County 602/254-6400 Crisis Hotline: 602/254-9000
Southern Arizona Center Against Sexual Assault (SACASA) SACASA is a non-profit organization based in Tucson, AZ that works to reduce the trauma and incidences of sexual assault by providing treatment and promoting prevention. SACASA offers a variety of services including advocacy, crisis intervention, counseling, prevention education, and training. 1632 N. Country Club Tucson, AZ 85716 Office: (520) 327-1171 Fax: (520) 327-2992 24-hr Crisis Line: 520-327-RAPE (7273) or 1-800-400-1011 TTY: 520-327-1721
Family Service Agency Sexual Assault Center This service center provides counseling, workshops, and other services on a range of issues, from domestic violence and sexual assault to families dealing with divorce and substance abuse. 628 West Broadway, Suite 202 North Little Rock, Arkansas 72114 Crisis Line: 501-801-2700 Statewide toll-free Crisis Line: 1-877-432-5368 Fax: 501-801-2702 E-Mail: email@example.com
Rape Crisis, Inc. 7509 Cantrell Suite 211 Little Rock, AK 72207 Office: 501-663-3334 Crisis Hotline: 800-813-5433
Rape Crisis Intervention 2889 Cohasset Street, Ste. 2 Chico CA 95793 Butte County Office: 530-891-1331 Crisis Hotline: 530-342-7273
Sexual Assault & Domestic Violence Center 927 Main Street Woodland CA 95695 Yolo County 530-661-6336 Crisis Hotline: 530-622-1133
Crossroads Safehouse Outreach Center 316 W. Olive Ft. Collins, CO 80522 Phone: (970) 482-3535 Hotline: (970) 482-3502 E-Mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Rape Assistance & Awareness Program (RAAP) Denver County PO Box 18951 Denver, CO 80218 Office: 303-329-9922 24 hour Crisis Hotline: (303)322-7273
Sexual Assault Victim Advocate Program Larimer Center for Mental Health 525 W. Oak Street Fort Collins, CO 80521 Phone: (970) 498-7610 FAX: (970) 498-7613 Crisis Line:970-472-4200/1-800-656-HOPE
Connecticut Sexual Assault Crisis Services (CONNSAC CONNSACS serves as a national clearinghouse for information and resources for victims of sexual assault, as well as a statewide resource for residents of Connecticut. Victims of sexual assault and their friends and loving partners can find information on national coalitions against sexual assault, information on sexual violence, and take action to prevent violence on their site. 110 Connecticut Blvd. East Hartford, CT 06108 Office: (203) 282-9881 Fax: (203) 291-9335 Hotline: 1-888-999-5545
Central Connecticut Sexual Assault Crisis Services Middlesex County 29 Crescent St. Middle Haddam CT 06456 Office: 860-235-9297
Grady Rape Crisis Center Grady Memorial Hospital Fulton County PO Box 26049 80 Butler Street, SE Atlanta, GA 30335 Crisis Hotline: (404) 616-4861
DeKalb Rape Crisis Center DeKalb County 101 East Court Sq. Decatur GA 30031 (404) 377-1428 Crisis Hotline: 404-377-1429
Southern Crescent Sexual Assault Center P.O. Box 1788 Jonesboro, GA 30237 Office: 770-603-4045 Fax: 770-477-4545 Crisis Line: 770-477-2177 email: email@example.com
Rape Crisis Center Chatham County PO Box 8492 Savannah, GA 31412 Office: (912) 354-6742 Toll-free Crisis Hotline: 888-233-7273
Sexual Abuse Treatment Center 55 Merchant St. 22nd Floor Honolulu, HI 96813 Office808) 535-7600 Toll-free Crisis Hotline: 888-524-7273
Women's & Children's Crisis Center Ada County 720 West Huntington Boise, ID 83702 Office: (208) 343-3688 Crisis Hotline: (208) 343-7025
Illinos Coalition Against Sexual Assault This statewide resource for victims of sexual assaut, and their friends and loving partners, offers statistics on rape, campus sexual violence, and other important facts for victims of sexual violence. Check out the site for important information on hotlines and statewide resources. 100 North 16th Street Springfield, IL 62703 Local Crisis Centers Phone: (217) 753-4117 Fax: (217) 753-8229 firstname.lastname@example.org
APNA GHAR 4753 N. Broadway, #502 Chicago, IL 60640 E-mail: email@example.com Office: (312) 334-0173 Hotline: (312) 334-HOME(4663) Focus on Asian women
CHICAGO RAPE CRISIS HOTLINE / YWCA METROPOLITAN CHICAGO A toll-free 24-hour critis line for survivors of sexual assault [rape], sexual abuse, and incest as well as their significant others. Volunteers are also welcome to call and sign up! 180 N. Wabash Suite 300 Chicago IL 60601 Hotline: (888) 293-2080
Kankakee County Center Against Sexual Assault (KC-CASA) 657 East Court Street Kankakee, Illinois 60901 Office: 815-932-7273 Crisis Hotline: 815-932-3322 e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Rape Victim Advocates Cook County 228 S. Wabash Chicago, IL 60604 office: (312) 663-6303 24-hour Hotline: (888) 293-2080
Sexual Assault/Abuse Services 12 Health Services Drive DeKalb, IL 60115-9637 Office: (815) 756-4875 24-Hour Crisis Line: (815) 758-7922
Sexual Assault Victims' Care Unit 9400 Lebanon Rd East Saint Louis, IL 62203 618-397-0975
Center for Women & Families PO Box 248 Sellersburg IN 47172 812-945-0986 Crisis Hotline: 812-944-6743
The Julian Center 2011 North Maridian St. Indianapolis, IN 46202 317/545-1970 Crisis Hotline: 317-251-7575
Rape Victim Advocacy Program 320 South Linn St. Iowa City, IA 52240 Office: (319) 995-6001 24 hour Hotline: 800-284-7821
Women's Resource & Action Center - University of Iowa 130 N. Madison St. Iowa City, IA 52242 (319) 335-1486
Hope Unlimited, Inc. Allen County PO Box 12 Iola, KS 66749 1-800-498-7566
Maine Coalition Against Sexual Assault 83 Western Avenue, Suite 2 Augusta ME 04330 Office: 207. 626. 0034 Fax: 207. 626. 5503 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741
Sexual Assault Crisis Center Androscoggin County PO Box 6 Auburn, ME 04212 Office: 784-5272 Hotline: (local) (207)795-2211 (Statewide) 1-800-871-7741 (TTY) 1-888-458-5599
Augusta Sexual Assault Crisis & Support Center Satellite Offices: Rockland & Belfast Serving Southern Kennebec, Knox & Waldo Counties 3 Mulliken Court Augusta, ME 04330 Office (207) 626-3425 Fax (207) 621-6238 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741
Bangor Rape Response Services Satellite Offices: East Millinocket & Dover-Foxcroft Serving Penobscot and Piscataquis Counties PO Box 2516 Bangor, ME 04401 Office (207) 941-2980 Fax (207) 941-2982 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741
Brunswick - Sexual Assault Support Services of Midcoast Maine Serving Eastern Cumberland, Sagadahoc & Lincoln Counties PO Box 990 Brunswick, ME 04011 Office (207) 725-2181 Fax (207) 798-6943 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741
Ellsworth - Downeast Sexual Assault Services Satellite Office: Machias Serving Hancock & Washington Counties PO Box 1087 Ellsworth ME 04605 Office 1-800-492-5550 Fax (207) 667-6117 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741
Farmington - Sexual Assault Victims' Emergency Services (SAVE Serving Franklin County PO Box 349 Farmington, ME 04938 Office (207) 778-9522 Fax (207) 778-5425 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741
Lewiston-Auburn Sexual Assault Crisis Center Serving Androscoggin County Office (207) 784-5272 Fax (207) 777-3231 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741
Norway Rape Education and Crisis Hotline Serving Oxford County Office (207) 743-9777 Fax (207) 743-2677 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741
Portland - Sexual Assault Response Services of Southern Maine Office: (207) 828-1035 24 hour Hotline: (800) 313-9900 Email: email@example.com
Presque Isle - Sexual Trauma and Recovery Services Satellite Offices: Houlton, Caribou, Van Buren, Madawaska, Fort Kent Serving Aroostook County Office (207) 762-4851 Fax (207) 764-6340 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741
Waterville Rape Crisis Assistance & Prevention Serving Northern Kennebec & Somerset Counties 179 Main Street #303 Waterville, ME 04901 Office (207) 872-0601 Fax (207) 872-9156 Statewide Sexual Assault Support Hotline 1-800-871-7741 Rape Crisis Assistance & Prevention
Maryland Coalition Against Sexual Assault 1517 Gov. Ritchie Hwy, Suite 207 Arnold, MD 21012 Office: (410)974-4507 Toll-Free (MD) Hotline: 800-983-RAPE Email: firstname.lastname@example.org (Provides information on local crisis centers across Maryland)
Sexual Assault & Domestic Violence Center 6229 North Charles Street Baltimore, MD 21212 Office: (410) 377-8111 24 hour Hotline: (410) 828-6390
Cambridge Women's Center 46 Pleasant Street Cambridge, MA 02139 617-354-8807 -referrals to local agencies
Women's Crisis Center 21 Story Ave. Newbury Port, MA 01950 978-465-2155
The Rape Crisis Center of Central Massachusetts Hotline: (508) 799-5700/ 1-800-870-5905 Spanish Hotline: 1-800-223-5001 TTY Hotline: 1-800-688-4889
Many state agencies have counseling services, provide legal referrals and advocacy, operate community education programs and offer support groups. For more information, please contact RAINN's office at (202) 544-1034 or RAINN's national hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE or check your local phone book under "Rape" or "Sexual Assault
Domestic violence is a pervasive problem in virtually all countries, cultures, classes and income groups. It is a complex and multifaceted problem with individual solutions that are appropriate for different women in different socio-cultural contexts.
Both short and long-term measures must be considered. Short-term measures consist of assistance programs that protect the individual woman who has been or is being abused. They often focus on the critical period after a woman leaves her home, providing her with food, shelter, and guidance. This is the period when a woman is most at-risk from the perpetrator seeking retribution, or when she might return to the home out of a sense of hopelessness. Long-term measures seek to educate the public and empower the woman to re-establish her life without violence.
Any response should involve an interrelationship between the health, legal and social sectors, so that the woman is not continually referred to another agency. One innovative approach is the use of "family crisis centers," or "victim advocates" to act as the woman's link to the various sectors.
Support can come in various forms:
crisis intervention services crisis hot lines shelters or other emergency residential facilities medical services transportation networks laws that allow either victims or perpetrators to be removed from the home Emotional Support:
self-help support groups assertiveness training self-esteem and confidence-building sessions parenting skills courses Advocacy and Legal Assistance:
access to and custody of children property matters financial support restraining orders public assistance benefits help with immigration status Other Supportive Services:
housing and safe accommodations child care access to community services
HOW AN ABUSER CAN DISCOVER YOUR INTERNET ACTIVITIES email American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence WARNINGTaking all of the actions on this page may not prevent an abuser from discovering your email and internet activity. The safest way to find information on the internet is to go to a safer computer. Suggestions are: a local library, a friend's house or your workplace. Other safety suggestions: change your password often, do not pick obvious words or numbers for your password, and pick a combination of letters and numbers for your password. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- HOW AN ABUSER CAN DISCOVER YOUR INTERNET ACTIVITIESemail: if an abuser has access to your email account, he or she may be able to read your incoming and outgoing mail. if you believe your account is secure, make sure you choose a password he or she will not be able to guess. If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing email messages, they may be printed and saved as evidence of this abuse. Additionally, the messages may constitute a federal offense. For more information on this issue, contact your local United States Attorney's Office.
history / cache file: if an abuser knows how to read your computer's history or cache file (automatically saved web pages and graphics), he or she may be able to see information you have viewed recently on the internet.
You can clear your history or empty your cache file in your browser's settings.*
Netscape: Pulldown Edit menu, select Preferences. Click on Navigator on choose 'Clear History'. Click on Advanced then select Cache. Click on "Clear Disk Cache". On older versions of Netcape: Pulldown Options menu. Select Network Options, Select Cache. Click on "Clear Disk Cache".
Internet Explorer: Pull down Tools menu, select Internet Options. On General page, under Temporary Internet Files, click on "Delete Files." If asked, check the box to delete all offline content. Still within the Temporary Internet Files section, click on Settings. (This next step may make it harder to navigate pages where you'd like your information to be remembered, but these remaining cookies do show website pages you have visited. Therefore, use your own judgment as to whether or not to take this next step). Click on "View Files." Manually highlight all the files (cookies) shown, then hit Delete. Close that window, then on General page under History section, click on "Clear History."
AOL: Pulldown Members menu, select Preferences. Click on WWW icon. Then select Advanced. Purge Cache. Additionally, a victim needs to make sure that the "Use Inline Autocomplete" box is NOT checked. This function will complete a partial web address while typing a location in the address bar at the top of the browser.
If you are using Internet Explorer, this box can be found on the MS Internet Explorer Page by clicking on "Tools" at the top of the screen, then "Internet Options," and then the "Advanced" tab. About halfway down there is a "Use inline AutoComplete" box that can be checked and unchecked by clicking on it. Uncheck the box to disable the feature that automatically completes an internet address when you start typing in the internet address box.
* This information may not completely hide your tracks. Many browser types have features that display recently visited sites. The safest way to find information on the internet, would be at a local library, a friend's house, or at work.
For help call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
Contact information: ABA Commission on Domestic Violence 740 15th Street, NW, 9th Floor Washington, DC, 20005-1022
Domestic violence is not defined solely by specific physical acts, but by a combination of psychological, social and familial factors. In some families, perpetrators of domestic violence may routinely beat their spouses until they require medical attention. In other families, the physical violence may have occurred in the past; perpetrators may currently exert power and control over their partners simply by looking at them a certain way or reminding them of prior episodes. In still other families, the violence may be sporadic, but may have the effect of controlling the abused partner. Dr. Mary Ann Dutton, a leading clinical psychologist, defines domestic violence as a pattern of interaction in which one intimate partner is forced to change his or her behavior in response to the threats or abuse of the other partner. (Dutton, 1994)
What types of things indicate abuse?
Everyone argues or fights with their partner or spouse now and then. When you argue or fight at home, what happens? Do you ever change your behavior because you are afraid of the consequences of a fight?
Do you feel that your partner or spouse treats you well? Is there anything that goes on at home that makes you feel afraid?
Has your partner or spouse ever hurt or threatened you or your children? Has your partner or spouse ever put their hands on you against your will? Has your partner or spouse ever forced you to do something you did not want to do? Does your partner or spouse criticize you or your children often?
Has your partner or spouse ever tried to keep you from taking medication you needed or from seeking medical help? Does your partner refuse to let you sleep at night?
Has your partner or spouse ever hurt your pets or destroyed your clothing, objects in your home, or something which you especially cared about? Does your partner or spouse throw or break objects in the home or damage the home itself during arguments?
Does your partner or spouse act jealously, for example, always calling you at work or home to check up on you? Is it hard for you to maintain relationships with your friends, relatives, neighbors, or co-workers because your partner or spouse disapproves of, argues with, or criticizes them? Does your partner or spouse accuse you unjustly of flirting with others or having affairs? Has your partner or spouse ever tried to keep you from leaving the house?
Does your spouse or partner make it hard for you to find or keep a job or go to school?
Every family has their own way of handling finances. Does your partner or spouse withhold money from you when you need it? Do you know what your family's assets are? Do you know where important documents like bank books, check books, financial statements, birth certificates, and passports for you and members of your family are kept? If you wanted to see or use any of them, would your partner or spouse make it difficult for you to do so? Does your spouse or partner sometimes spend large sums of money and refuse to tell you why or what the money was spent on?
Has your spouse or partner ever forced you to have sex or made you do things during sex that make you feel uncomfortable? Does your partner demand sex when you are sick, tired, or sleeping?
Has your spouse or partner ever used or threatened to use a weapon against you? Are there guns in your home?
Does your spouse or partner abuse drugs or alcohol? What happens?
Whether or not you feel able to leave an abuser, there are things you can do to make yourself and your family safer.
IN AN EMERGENCY
If you are at home & you are being threatened or attacked:
Stay away from the kitchen (the abuser can find weapons, like knives, there) Stay away from bathrooms, closets or small spaces where the abuser can trap you Get to a room with a door or window to escape Get to a room with a phone to call for help; lock the abuser outside if you can Call 911 (or your local emergency number) right away for help; get the dispatcher's name Think about a neighbor or friend you can run to for help If a police officer comes, tell him/her what happened; get his/her name & badge number Get medical help if you are hurt Take pictures of bruises or injuries Call a domestic violence program or shelter (some are listed here); ask them to help you make a safety plan
HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF AT HOME
Learn where to get help; memorize emergency phone numbers Keep a phone in a room you can lock from the inside; if you can, get a cellular phone that you keep with you at all times If the abuser has moved out, change the locks on your door; get locks on the windows Plan an escape route out of your home; teach it to your children Think about where you would go if you need to escape Ask your neighbors to call the police if they see the abuser at your house; make a signal for them to call the police, for example, if the phone rings twice, a shade is pulled down or a light is on Pack a bag with important things you'd need if you had to leave quickly; put it in a safe place, or give it to a friend or relative you trust Include cash, car keys & important information such as: court papers, passport or birth certificates, medical records & medicines, immigration papers Get an unlisted phone number Block caller ID Use an answering machine; screen the calls Take a good self-defense course
HOW TO MAKE YOUR CHILDREN SAFER
Teach them not to get in the middle of a fight, even if they want to help Teach them how to get to safety, to call 911, to give your address & phone number to the police Teach them who to call for help Tell them to stay out of the kitchen Give the principal at school or the daycare center a copy of your court order; tell them not to release your children to anyone without talking to you first; use a password so they can be sure it is you on the phone; give them a photo of the abuser Make sure the children know who to tell at school if they see the abuser Make sure that the school knows not to give your address or phone number to ANYONE
HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF OUTSIDE THE HOME
Change your regular travel habits Try to get rides with different people Shop and bank in a different place Cancel any bank accounts or credit cards you shared; open new accounts at a different bank Keep your court order and emergency numbers with you at all times Keep a cell phone & program it to 911 (or other emergency number)
HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF SAFER AT WORK
Keep a copy of your court order at work Give a picture of the abuser to security and friends at work Tell your supervisors - see if they can make it harder for the abuser to find you Don't go to lunch alone Ask a security guard to walk you to your car or to the bus If the abuser calls you at work, save voice mail and save e-mail Your employer may be able to help you find community resources
USING THE LAW TO HELP YOU
Protection or Restraining Orders
Ask your local domestic violence program who can help you get a civil protection order and who can help you with criminal prosecution Ask for help in finding a lawyer In most places, the judge can:
Order the abuser to stay away from you or your children Order the abuser to leave your home Give you temporary custody of your children & order the abuser to pay you temporary child support Order the police to come to your home while the abuser picks up personal belongings Give you possession of the car, furniture and other belongings Order the abuser to go to a batterers intervention program Order the abuser not to call you at work Order the abuser to give guns to the police If you are worried about any of the following, make sure you:
Show the judge any pictures of your injuries Tell the judge that you do not feel safe if the abuser comes to your home to pick up the children to visit with them Ask the judge to order the abuser to pick up and return the children at the police station or some other safe place ..
Myths and Facts About Domestic Violence -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Lawyers have a duty to confront and challenge misperceptions about domestic violence because such stereotypes may affect the relief that they can obtain on behalf of clients. At a minimum, law students should be educated about the following myths and realities: Myth: Victims of domestic violence like to be beaten. Fact: Victims of domestic violence have historically been characterized as masochistic women who enjoy being beaten. Evidence does not support this anachronistic psychological theory. Rather, victims of domestic violence desperately want the abuse to end, and engage in various survival strategies, including calling the police or seeking help from family members, to protect themselves and their children. (Dutton, The Dynamics of Domestic Violence, 1994) Silence may also be a survival strategy in some cases. Moreover, enduring a beating to keep the batterer from attacking the children may be a coping strategy used by a victim, but does not mean that the victim enjoys it.
Myth: Victims of domestic violence have psychological disorders. Fact: This characterization of battered women as mentally ill stems from the assumption that victims of domestic violence must be sick or they would not "take" the abuse. More recent theories demonstrate that battered women resist abuse in a variety of ways. (Dutton, The Dynamics of Domestic Violence, 1994) In addition, most victims of domestic violence are not mentally ill, although individuals with mental disabilities are certainly not immune from being abused by their spouses or intimate partners. Some victims of domestic violence suffer psychological effects, such as post-traumatic stress disorder or depression, as a result of being abused. (Dutton, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Amoung Battered Women, 1994)
Myth: Low self-esteem causes victims to get involved in abusive relationships. Fact: Traditional theories presumed that individuals with adequate self-esteem would not "allow" themselves to be abused by intimate partners or spouses. In fact, studies have demonstrated that victims of domestic violence fail to share common characteristics other than being female. (Cahn & Meier, 1995) There is little support for the theory that low self-esteem causes victims to become involved in abusive relationships, however, some victims may experience a decrease in self-esteem as a result of being abused, since perpetrators frequently degrade, humiliate, and criticize victims.
Myth: Victims of domestic violence never leave their abusers, or if they do, they just get involved in other abusive relationships. Fact: Most victims of domestic violence leave their abusers, often several times. It may take a number of attempts to permanently separate because abusers use violence, financial control, or threats about the children, to compel victims to return. Additionally, a lack of support from friends, family members, or professionals, such as court personnel, law enforcement officers, counselors, or clergy members, may cause victims to return. Since the risk of further violence often increases after victims separate from their abusers, it can be even harder for victims to leave if they cannot obtain effective legal relief. Victims who receive appropriate legal assistance at an early stage increase their chances of obtaining the protection and financial security they need to leave their abusers permanently. While some victims may become involved with other partners who later begin to abuse them, there is no evidence that the majority of victims have this experience.
Myth: Batterers abuse their partners or spouses because of alcohol or drug abuse. Fact: Alcohol or substance abuse does not cause perpetrators of domestic violence to abuse their partners, though it is frequently used as an excuse. Substance abuse may increase the frequency or severity of violent episodes in some cases. (Jillson & Scott, 1996) Because substance abuse does not cause domestic violence, requiring batterers to attend only substance abuse treatment programs will not effectively end the violence. Such programs may be useful in conjunction with other programs, such as batterer intervention programs.
Myth: Perpetrators of domestic violence abuse their partners or spouses because they are under a lot of stress or unemployed. Fact: Stress or unemployment does not cause batterers to abuse their partners. Since domestic violence cuts across socioeconomic lines, domestic abuse cannot be attributed to unemployment or poverty. Similarly, advocates note that if stress caused domestic violence, batterers would assault their bosses or co-workers rather than their intimate partners. Domestic violence flourishes because society condones spouse or partner abuse, and because perpetrators learn that they can achieve what they want through the use of force, without facing serious consequences.
Myth: Law enforcement and judicial responses, such as arresting batterers or issuing civil protection orders, are useless. Fact: There is a great deal of debate about the efficacy of particular actions by law enforcement or the judiciary. Research on the usefulness of mandatory arrest or civil protection orders has yielded conflicting results. (See Buzawa & Buzawa, 1996; Sherman & Berk, 1984; Zorza, 1994) Most experts agree, however, that actions by one piece of the system are only effective when the rest of the criminal justice and civil systems are functioning, (Zorza, 1996; Wanless, 1996) and that improved protocols can decrease domestic violence related homicides.
To increase awareness of domestic violence. To campaign for facilities and resources for women experiencing domestic violence. To campaign for legal change. To support women imprisoned for defending themselves against violent partners. Based: Londonwide Service: Londonwide Address: PO Box 2371 LONDON E1 5NQ Phone: 020-8520 5881 Fax: 020-8985 2932 Email: email@example.com
Advice, support and safe temporary housing for young South Asian, Turkish and Iranian women escaping any form or degree of physical, sexual, mental or emotional abuse. Also has an outreach service at a personal and community level. Referral criteria: Women between the ages of 16 - 30, without children, homeless, suffering abuse or extreme personal restrictions. Women Only: Yes Based: Waltham Forest Service: Londonwide Specific Ethnic Community? Asian, Turkish, Iranian. Address: PO Box 816 LONDON E11 1QY Helpline: Phone: 020-8539 9656 / 020-8539 0427 Fax: 020-8539 1900 Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Hours: 9.30am to 5.00pm Languages Spoken: English, Punjabi, Urdu, Farsi. Current Funders: London Borough of Waltham Forest Donations Sought: Yes Send Donations or for more Details to: Ashiana Project, PO Box 816, LONDON E11 1QY Date First Included: 01/03/99 Information Updated: 12th January 2004
To combat the effects of Domestic Violence on adults and children, to prevent further poverty and disadvantage and to raise awareness of the issue both locally and nationally. Based In: Newham Service Is: Newham and surrounding boroughs Address: St Marks Community Centre Tollgate Road Beckton London E6 5YA Helpline: 020-7473 3047 Phone: 020-7473 3047 Fax: 020-7511 5520 Email: email@example.com [ send green star]
Anjee R. Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre March 17, 2005 6:16 PM
Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre
* Supporting and counselling women regardless of ethnicity or socio-economic cirumstances who have been raped or sexually abused. * Helpline open 365 days a year. * Face to Face Counselling Monday to Friday Women Only: Yes Based: Croydon Service: Helpline: Nationwide Counselling: Croydon and surrounding areas South and Southeast London Address: PO Box 383 CROYDON CR9 2AW Helpline: 08451 221 331 Phone: 020-8683 3311 - Office and Counselling Minicom: 020-8239 1124 Fax: 020-8683 3366 Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Hours for Helpline 12.00-12.30pm and 7.00-9.30pm Monday to Friday 2.30-5.00pm Saturday, Sunday and Public Holidays
Police Stations: St Andrews: 01334 418900 Cupar: 01334 418700 Glenrothes: 01592 418600 Domestic Violence Unit: A confidential service providing information and support which is staffed by a social worker and a police officer. Telephone: 01592 418460 |Top| Textphone: 01592 418492 Monday - Friday 9.00-5.00 The Criminal Injuries Compensation Authority: The Criminal Injuries Compensation Authority Tay House 300 Bath Street Glasgow G2 4JR Tel: 0141 331 2726 |Top| Housing Services: Housing Out of Hours Emergency Service: 01592 412865 Howe of Fife/Taybridgehead Local Office Tayside Institue 90-92 High Street Newburgh Tel: 01337 883000 St Andrews Local Office St Mary's Place St Andrews KY16 9UY Tel: 01334 412525 East Neuk Local Office Ladywalk Anstruther KY10 3EX Tel: 01383 592110 Cupar Local Office County Buildings Cupar KY15 4TA North East Fife Key Fund (Helps homeless people by providing a deposit or guarantee to landlords.) Tel: 01334 412890 |Top| Benifits Agency Offices Dundee Lindsay House 30 Ward Road Dundee DD1 1QB Tel: 01382 313400 (Postal Districts covered: DD1-6, KY7, 15-16, PH12-14) Kirkcaldy 26 Victoria Road Kirkcaldy Fife KY1 1EA Tel: 01592 647500 (Postal Districts covered: KY1-3, 5-8, 14-16) Leven Walton House Victoria Road Leven Fife KY8 4RN Tel: 01333 593000 (Postal Districts covered: KY1, 7-10, 15-16) |Top| Citizens' Advice and Rights Fife (Carf) Cupar 11 St Catherine Street Tel: 01334 412485 |Top| Other Useful Numbers: Fife Alcohol Advisory Service 17a Tolbooth Street Kirkcaldy Tel: 01592 206200 Dunfermiline Area Abuse Survivors Project (For people who have experianced sexual abuse.) Tel: 01383 739084 Kirkcaldy Area Abuse Surviors Project (For adult survivors of child abuse.) Tel: 01592 644217
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THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Domestic Violence is the most common form of assault in Australia Each year in Victoria between 30 and 40 women and children are killed by their husbands, defacto, boyfriends, ex-partners, fathers and sons (women's coalition against family violence 94) One in seven married women will be subjected to domestic violence (Scutt 83) YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME FOR HIS VIOLENCE Where women kill their partners, it is well documented that it is likely to have been as a result of a long history of being victimised by them (Queensland DV Taskforce 88) 97% of domestic violence offenders are male (Stannard 87) Domestic Violence includes physical abuse, mental torture, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, social deprivation, public humiliation, verbal assaults and financial control YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS VIOLENCE Alongside domestic violence, sexual assault is probably the most under reported crime of the century (CASA House 89) The myths that surround domestic violence (that it is alcohol or stress does it - men do it; that women ask for it - they don't; that it should be kept in the family - this continues to hide dv etc) are lies that keep women and children from telling Realising that you are not to blame is one of the first steps to healing THERE ARE WOMEN AT WRISC We provide confidential personal support for women and children who have or are experiencing domestic violence We run support groups regularly for survivors of domestic violence; for survivors of childhood sexual assault and for young women who have survived abuse We manage a domestic violence outreach service for the Ballarat, Golden Plains, Moorabool, Hepburn and Pyrenees Shires We maintain a free lending library for women with many self help books We participate in local networks and services and can provide service-users with appropriate referrals Our details are; Monday to Friday from 9am to 5.30pm
ORGANIZATIONS/AGENCIES (click here for Articles/Information/Research)
American Domestic Violence Crisis Line 3300 N.W. 185th Street, Suite 133 Portland, OR 97229 Phone: (503) 846-8748 Toll-free: 1-866-USWOMEN (International Crisis Line) www.awoscentral.com Organization dedicated to assisting American women living overseas victimized by domestic violence. Outreach, safety planning, extensive support services, general info on domestic violence at website.
Arugaan ng Kalakasan P.O. Box 1044, Citimall, Diliman Quezon City, Philippines Phone: 430 4207/430 4227 Arugaan ng Kalakasan is a SEC-registered NGO providing services for battered women and mobilizing the community to action against domestic violence.
British Columbia Institute Against Family Violence (Canada) 409 Granville Street, Suite 551 Vancouver, BC V6C 1T2 Phone: (604) 669-7055 Toll-free: 1-877-755-7055 www.bcifv.org
Canadian National Clearinghouse on Family Violence Health Promotion and Programs Branch Health Canada Jeanne Mance Building 1907D1, Tunney's Pasture Ottawa, ON K1A 1B4 Phone: (613) 957-2938 TTY Toll-free: 1-800-561-5643 Toll-free: 1-800-267-1291 www.hc-sc.gc.ca/hppb/familyviolence/ The NCFV is a national resource centre for all Canadians seeking information about violence within the family, including spouse/partner abuse, child abuse, and elder abuse.
Domestic Violence and Incest Resource Centre 292 Wellington Street Collingwood 3066 Victoria, Australia Phone: (03) 9486-9866 TTY: (03) 9417-2155 home.vicnet.net.au/~dvirc/ Information and referral to local services for domestic violence victims, the children of domestic violence victims, and victims of intrafamiliar sexual abuse, throughout Australia.
Family Violence and Sexual Assault Institute 6160 Cornerstone Court East San Diego, CA 92121 Phone: (858) 623 - 2777 www.fvsai.org
International Family Violence Prevention Fund 383 Rhode Island Street, Suite 304 San Francisco, CA 94163-5133 Phone: (415) 252-8900 TTY Toll-free: 1-800-595-4889 www.endabuse.org
Muslim Women's Help Line Unit 3, 1st Floor GEC Estate, East Lane Wembley HA9 7PX, U.K. Phone: 0181 904 8193 or 0181 908 6715 Hotline for Muslim women and girls in the U.K. dealing with domestic violence, sexual abuse, and other problems.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (Canada) Toll-free: 1-800-363-9010 All provinces. Bilingual (English & French).
National Organization of Battered Women's Shelters (Sweden) ROKS, Hornsgatan 66 118 21 Stockholm, Sweden Phone: 08-422 99 30 www.roks.se
Northern Ireland Women's Aid Federation 129 University Street Belfast BT7 1HP Phone: (028) 90 249041 Helpline: (028) 90 331818 www.niwaf.org 24-hour helpline for domestic violence victims. Support and information, referrals to refuges, counseling, and services for children.
Nottelefon Zurich Phone: 01-291 46 46 www.frauenberatung.ch (Pages available in German, English, French, Spanish & Italian) Counseling by phone and in person, free referrals to doctors and legal advisors, for women dealing with sexual harassment or abuse, or exploitation by therapists, doctors, ministers, at work or home.
Provincial Association of Transition Houses of Saskatchewan (P.A.T.H.S.) 1940 McIntyre Street Regina, SK S4P 2R3 Phone: (306) 522-3515 www.abusehelplines.org P.A.T.H.S. is a non-profit organization comprised of safe houses, shelters, transition and interval houses throughout Saskatchewan for women and children victimized by family violence. The Hot Peach Pages provide links to hotlines, shelters, legal and general info on family violence for Saskatchewan, and throughout Canada.
Scottish Women's Aid Norton Park, 57 Albion Road Edinburgh, EH75QY United Kingdom Phone: 0131 475 2372 www.scottishwomensaid.co.uk Support and information, referrals to refuges, counseling, and services for children.
Selbsthilfe - Missbrauch www.selbsthilfe-missbrauch.de A German language website for those recovering from child abuse and domestic violence; includes resources, chat, message forum, web-journal, and links.
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Women Against Violence Europe (WAVE) c/o Austrian Women's Shelter Network Bacherplatz 10/ 4 1050 Vienna Austria Phone: 01-5482720 www.wave-network.org Refuges, hotlines, education, counseling throughout Europe. (also see: European Info Centre Against Violence; an online searchable database of European organizations and resources maintained by WAVE.)
Women's Aid Federation of England P.O. Box 391 Bristol B599 7WS, England Phone: 0117 944 4411 Freephone: 0808 2000 247 www.womensaid.org.uk
Women's Resource Info/Support Centre (Australia) 119 Lyons Street N. Ballant 3350 Australia Phone: (03) 53 333 666 wrisc.ballarat.net.au Outreach, support, local referrals throughout Australia, downloadable publications, free lending library.
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Sexual Harassment Sexual harassment is a form of sex discrimination that violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Title VII applies to employers with 15 or more employees, including state and local governments. It also applies to employment agencies and to labor organizations, as well as to the federal government.
Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature constitute sexual harassment when this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual's employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual's work performance, or creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work environment.
Sexual harassment can occur in a variety of circumstances, including but not limited to the following:
The victim as well as the harasser may be a woman or a man. The victim does not have to be of the opposite sex. The harasser can be the victim's supervisor, an agent of the employer, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or a non-employee. The victim does not have to be the person harassed but could be anyone affected by the offensive conduct. Unlawful sexual harassment may occur without economic injury to or discharge of the victim. The harasser's conduct must be unwelcome. It is helpful for the victim to inform the harasser directly that the conduct is unwelcome and must stop. The victim should use any employer complaint mechanism or grievance system available.
When investigating allegations of sexual harassment, EEOC looks at the whole record: the circumstances, such as the nature of the sexual advances, and the context in which the alleged incidents occurred. A determination on the allegations is made from the facts on a case-by-case basis.
Prevention is the best tool to eliminate sexual harassment in the workplace. Employers are encouraged to take steps necessary to prevent sexual harassment from occurring. They should clearly communicate to employees that sexual harassment will not be tolerated. They can do so by providing sexual harassment training to their employees and by establishing an effective complaint or grievance process and taking immediate and appropriate action when an employee complains.
It is also unlawful to retaliate against an individual for opposing employment practices that discriminate based on sex or for filing a discrimination charge, testifying, or participating in any way in an investigation, proceeding, or litigation under Title VII.
Statistics In Fiscal Year 2004, EEOC received 13,136 charges of sexual harassment. 15.1% of those charges were filed by males. EEOC resolved 13,786 sexual harassment charges in FY 2003 and recovered $37.1 million in monetary benefits for charging parties and other aggrieved individuals (not including monetary benefits obtained through litigation).
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every 3 minutes a woman is beaten every five minutes a woman is raped/every ten minutes a little girl is molested yet I rode the subway today I sat next to an old man who may have beaten his old wife 3 minutes ago or 3 days/30 years ago he might have sodomized his daughter but I sat there cuz the men on the train might beat some young women later in the day or tomorrow I might not shut my door fast enough push hard enough every 3 minutes it happens some women's innocence rushes to her cheeks/pours from her mouth like the betsy wetsy dolls have been torn apart/their mouths menses red split/every three minutes a shoulder is jammed through plaster and the oven door/ chairs push thru the rib cage/hot water or boiling sperm decorate her body I rode the subway today and bought a paper from an east Indian man who might have held his old lady onto a hot pressing iron/ I didn't know maybe he catches little girls in the parks and rips open their behinds with steel rods/ I can not decide what he might have done I know every 3 minutes every 5 minutes every 10 minutes I boughtt the paper looking for the announcement there has to be an announcement of the women's bodies fond yesterday the missing little girl I sat in a restaurant with my paper looking for the announcement a young man served me coffee I wondered did he pour the boiling coffee on the woman because she was stupid did he put the infant girl in the coffee pot because she cried too much what exactly did he do with hot coffee I looked for the announcement the discover of the dismembered woman's body victims have not all been identified today they are naked and dead/some refuse to testify girl out of 10 is not coherent/ I took the coffee and spit it up I found an announcement/ not the woman's bloated body in the river floating not the child bleeding in the 59th street corridor/ not the baby broken on the floor/
"there is some concern that alleged battered women might start to murder their husbands and lovers with no immediate cause" I spit up I vomit I am screaming we all have immediate cause every 3 minutes every 5 minutes every 10 minutes every day women's bodies are found in alleys and bedrooms/at the top of the stairs before I ride the subway/buy a paper of drink coffee from your hands I must know have you hurt a woman today did you beat a woman today throw a child cross a room are the little girl's pants in your pocket did you hurt a woman today I have to ask these obscene questions I must know you see ...
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When you start to read this be prepared because it is so harsh, but unfortunately so true, for the way some children live in fear of the people that are supposed to protect and care for them...............
My name is Sarah I am but three, My eyes are swollen I cannot see,
I must be stupid I must be bad, What else could have made My daddy so mad?
I wish I were better I wish I weren't ugly, Then maybe my mommy Would still want to hug me.
I can't speak at all I can't do a wrong Or else I'm locked up All the day long.
When I awake I'm all alone The house is dark My folks aren't home.
When my mommy does come I'll try and be nice, So maybe I'll get just One whipping tonight.
Don't make a sound! I just heard a car My daddy is back From Charlie's Bar.
I hear him curse My name he calls I press myself Against the wall.
I try and hide From his evil eyes I'm so afraid now I'm starting to cry.
He finds me weeping He shouts ugly words, He says its my fault That he suffers at work.
He slaps me and hits me And yells at me more, I finally get free And I run for the door.
He's already locked it And I start to bawl, He takes me and throws me Against the hard wall.
I fall to the floor With my bones nearly broken, And my daddy continues With more bad words spoken.
"I'm sorry!", I scream But its now much too late His face has been twisted Into unimaginable hate.
The hurt and the pain Again and again Oh please God, have mercy! Oh please let it end!
And he finally stops And heads for the door, While I lay there motionless Sprawled on the floor.
My name is Sarah And I am but three, Tonight my daddy Murdered me.
There are thousands of kids out there just like Sarah. And you can help..so all I am asking you to do, is take some time to send this on and acknowledge that this stuff does happen, and that people like her dad do live in our society, and I pray for child abuse to wither out and die, but also pray for the safety of our youth.
Please pass this poem on because as crazy as it might sound, it might jus t indirectly change a life. Hey, you NEVER know.