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Best gay place to live in the US? May 18, 2006 7:47 AM


Can any of you guys help me. I want to go to the US to do an LL.M. at an American University. I am interested in getting your oppinion as to where the best place in the US to live as an out an proud lesbian is? Any suggestions?

Hope to hear from you


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um May 18, 2006 8:48 AM

well i'm no to sure..west virgina isn't the best place,but everyone in west virgina is turning gay bi and lesbain everyday and where spoce to be the wrost place to live...because west virgina's ins't all up on the idea..since they almost banned us from seeing broke back mountion thats why it was say late seeing it.

i guess california or flordia i guess....i'm not sure where any gay les or tra or bi person should live in the united states since it's illigie for them to get married in the us..which is messed up,but you can in canada....i'm not sure where you should live..really sorry.....i'm an american,but i am not one bit proud of my country...until they start respecting everyone for who they are..i will not respect this country....america isn't the greatiest place in the world and it's not the worst eather it's in the middle...but i still don't like where i live much....amiercan's that don't understand gays bi les trans or anything like that should learn how to respect people for who they are...and what they are....i hate seeing people going around saying they hate jews because the jews killed jesus and how people hate mexican's because there taking all the american jobs from people and how people hate blacks ect.

me i get alone with matter what or who they are i respect them....i hope most of my advice helped you...if not sorry it didn't help much.

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 May 18, 2006 9:00 AM

There's more diversity in Oak Park, IL than just about anywhere else.  Prior to going to school, I had only met a handful of people who weren't okay with homosexuality and they didn't live in Oak Park.  I'd say Oak Park's a great place to live if you're not straight and don't want to be harassed.   [ send green star]  [ accepted]
um May 18, 2006 9:41 AM

i'm jsut saying straight people fear us...because there afread of something that isn't natural because we wheren't made like that they say ...and some don't believe in it and think it's wrong or they think that it'sa sin because they believe in god's word in the bible ..something like that,but this country fears people its funny more and more people trun bi gay les and trans everyday...guess the straight people needs to get runny cus where a saying lol...tought i be funny there ...  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 May 18, 2006 10:33 AM

Canada         [ send green star]  [ accepted]
lol May 18, 2006 2:11 PM

i said canda first lol..*poke*but canda isn't part of the us...  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Welcome To Texas May 18, 2006 3:18 PM

Welcome to Houston!

We have a great food and clubs. People are friendly and we welcome folks from all over the world.

Give some thought.

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carolina pride May 19, 2006 6:16 AM

Well,I have to stick up for my hometown of Asheville, NC, which has been called the Gay Mecca of the East.  Although we are, it seems, around the third notch from the end of the bible belt, A'ville is a fairly liberal place, very livable, will several colleges nearby. It has  a very strong gay community and many of the downtown businesses are gay-owned or at gay-friendly.

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Tulsa May 19, 2006 7:55 AM

What ever you do dont came to Tulsa, heart of the bible belt and very conservative.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
WOW!! May 19, 2006 8:25 AM

When I read this yesterday, I didn't have time to post but I thought what a great place ASHEVILLE, NC would be! I lived there for about 5 years and found it to be so accepting, I'm Caucasion but was married to a Black man. That does not go over well most places, but there I think the mountains are cathartic and it brings such an eclectic mix of people! I wish you the best wherever you go, and if you choose Asheville,visit "Malaprops Bookstore"  and the Laughing Seed Veggie restaurant...I hope they are still there, Ron..can you help me with that??  O Henrys was a great place, too! Anyway, Camilla may you be blessed always!!


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hmm May 19, 2006 3:52 PM

nice meeting you all..if you ever want to talk to me let me know i'm good at giveing advice and i get bored easily..i hope you find the right place to live...relgion should really be kepted in church because i'm sick oof everything gay being banned because its"against there religion" god i wish people would stop useing that line a an excuss makes me i don't believe in relgion i think it's messed up it splits people up and forms groups that seem to just hate each other because of what they think the bible says..and stuff in the bible is hard to believe ever really happened..i read almost the whole thing seemed boring all it talked about was death and torture and how you should worship god or your go to hell ect....kind of got my mom upset i told her i was like'just becuase i don't believe in relgion because it's pointless and i don't believe in god ..doesn't mean i will go to hell and besides i don't believe in satan eather hey if they want to prove there real go ahead till then i'm keepying my believes you believe what you believe i beleive in what i beleive..and besides they said the big bang made might of came from and other universe,but all those traces have been lost over billion of years...and if god made earth..then whats he going to say about the sun moon stars and other planets ..there not in the offence mom,but i don't believe is..sorry"

she was kind of mad,but to you get my veiws about it.

no offence to any relgionius people i highly respect everyone i just give my opaion out...bluntly.

if i offensed you...i'm very sorry i was just saying soemthing ....stating my opion was all i was doing.

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carolina pride May 20, 2006 5:10 AM

Yo, Pamela!!  Glad to hear you know about good ole A'ville!! Yep, Malaprop's is still there--you think we're gonna let Mal's go?  I think not  Laughing Seed's still there, Wall St, as always, is ever changing.  O'Henry's has moved down Haywood St. about 9 or 10 blocks.  It' s now down just past where one turns to enter Montford District.  The one thing that's changed of late is that Beanstreets is no more It closed down, I think, late last year and don't know the reason why.  So that only leaves, what, seven or eight coffeehouses downtown?   You oughta come back and check out downtown.  OMG, is it changing!!!! xxo  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Best gay friendly place in US? May 20, 2006 1:39 PM

That's like asking who the smartest Hilton sister is....  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 May 20, 2006 1:52 PM

Eugene Or is like a mecca for lesbians (moved from there a year ago) and same goes with Santa Fe ( a friend of mine moved from Eugene to Santa Fe), another place that has a great LGBT community is Tucson Az...but the BIggest and best QUeer place of the world is Where i am Living now SAN FRANCISCO!!!!!!!!!!! Happy picking  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
San Francisco May 20, 2006 1:53 PM

San Francisco, California, is a very central gay friendly place, and highly populated by gay people and it's culture is extremely influenced by gay existence and acceptance.  I think it has to be the very best.  Where is gay marriage legal, anywhere?  I know not SF yet.   [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 May 20, 2006 1:56 PM

Thank you Tanya, Even bisexual (and it is my sexual orientation) are accepted here that most places we are not ...same with transgenders and any sexual orientation as a matter of facts! Pride here is more like a carnival where even straight people come celebrate life! the city closes streets and reroute buses, close subways stations! Big deal around here  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Best place to live May 20, 2006 2:23 PM

Hi Guys

Thanks for all your inputs. We have thought San Francisco to - gay friendly and good climate - what more can you ask for. After watching a whole lot of L word L.A. sounds better and better though - hmn how about a chance meeting with Marina. Oh well since the show is actually filmed in Vancouver I guess I'd have to go there.

I live in Copenhagen Denmark know and the gay scene is pretty small like everything else here - we can get married - but not adopt

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 May 22, 2006 2:59 PM

I used to live in California and Santa Cruz is very good, as is much of the Bay area, as mentined. So is Ocean Beach in the San Diego area. Now I live near Asheville, NC and it is as good as stated. I also lived in Oregon and Ashland as well as Eugene are friendly.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Gay Marriage May 22, 2006 4:26 PM

You can go to vermont for that. So far I think its the only place to go to get married. Its the only place that I know of anyhow.

Good luck on where you do decide to move. I think I would go with NC myself. Its alot warmer climate. I live in NY here and its easier to get snowed in the winters. But nice during the summer.


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carolina pride 2 May 22, 2006 4:50 PM

A lot of folks have made the decision to move to the Asheville/Hendersonville area recently.  We truly have all four seasons here; summer's never too hot and winter's never too cold.  Very temperate area.  Spring is wonderful and the fall makes you want to go up on the Blue Ridge Parkway and drive for hours...or sit and watch the idiots in the the tour buses go by....  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 May 22, 2006 9:03 PM

Lived in Houston, TX for a decade and they do have a very strong gay community, there. But, New York City or San Francisco is number one in the U.S.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Ron May 22, 2006 11:09 PM

.or sit and watch the idiots in the the tour buses go by  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
idiots May 23, 2006 5:24 AM

Trust me on this one, Kathy.  When the Fall colors hit here, it's nothing but an unending parade of tour busses full of leaf lookers...most of whom are almost as old as the trees they're looking at  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Ron, Kathy May 23, 2006 6:09 AM

Guess what!! I work for a tour company and we send a hell of a lot of idiots to Asheville to be watched by sensible people like us!!! I only do the administrative part, if I was on one of the buses...I'd jump off in Asheville and stay!!  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
how about paducah, ky May 23, 2006 6:58 AM

As a fairly recent transplant to Paducah, Kentucky (from Berkeley, CA), I was surprised at how gay friendly this little town is.  Part of that is the geographic location...being off on it's own in western KY, and part of it is due to the influx of artists moving into the Lowertown Arts District...if you are ever in the area, you should definitely stop and check it out.

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Paducah, KY May 23, 2006 7:00 AM

...sorry for the mis-spell...

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 May 23, 2006 7:42 AM

I have to recommend Northampton, Massachusetts.  The lesbian community here is much stronger than the gay male community, and we're not that far from a variety of places that are also prominent:  Boston, New York City, Hartford, Provincetown, Fire Island.   But in Northampton/Amherst area, there are 5 major colleges, including University of MAssachusetts, Amherst, Hampshire, Mt. Holyoke and SMith College.   Because of this, the diversity of the community is very strong, perhaps not as much as say Boston or NY or SF, but it's a very otudoorsy town too if you like that kind of stuff.  the moutnains aren't big, but they are challenging.  ample trails to hike, great XC skiing, canoeing, kayaking.  There's also a strong community of artists and musicians here. Anyway, that's my contribution.   


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 May 23, 2006 7:46 AM

oh, and to add with regards to questions in some previosu postings.  Gay marriage is currently legal in Massachusetts, in case you weren't aware of that.     [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 May 23, 2006 9:28 AM

Gay marriage is equal all over Canada... EH!  got some great schools!!     [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Cleveland Heights, OH: Not the Best, But a Welcoming Place May 23, 2006 10:15 AM

My partner and I live in Cleveland Heights, Ohio. It's a relatively progressive and gay-friendly community that offers a domestic partner registry. We fly our rainbow flag outside our home with no worries. However, let's not forget that Cleveland Heights is in Ohio. One doesn't have to travel far beyond the Cleveland metro area to enter unfriendly, right-wing territory. So Cleveland Heights isn't exactly the best place for GLBT people to live, unless you want to live as a homebody. Oh, and there's also the fact that your Republican-run state government would like to destroy your local DP registry and any other symbolic support of GLBT equality.

I confess I haven't yet read through the entire thread--has anybody mentioned New Hope, Pennsylvania? I used to live near there and found it a great place for a gay person to visit or live. 

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 May 23, 2006 12:16 PM

Stay away from Kansas.  I spent 10 mos there and, in a town of 20 thoudsand, I need more than one hand to count the number of "I love gay bashing" bumper stickers I saw.  I maintain it's because of a lack of oxygen off the ocean.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Anti-Gay Bumperstickers May 23, 2006 1:11 PM

About those bumperstickers in favor of gay-bashing: How horrible. I've never seen such a hateful message on a car and I hope I never will. The people driving those cars in Kansas have a serious social disorder.    [ send green star]  [ accepted]
'Blue' Lawrence May 23, 2006 1:15 PM

I visited Lawrence, Kansas a couple years ago and it seemed to be a loving, "blue" oasis within a very "red" state.    [ send green star]  [ accepted]
carolina pride 3 May 23, 2006 2:20 PM

Well, then, just c'mon down, baby!!  We'd be glad to make you feel right at home!!!

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 May 23, 2006 9:14 PM

yes, I agree.  I did like LAwrence, because of that reason.  BUt LAwrence is to Kansas much like Austin is to Texas.  a vibrant community inside a state of really nothing else.  My opinion.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
 May 24, 2006 6:47 AM

I have not heard anyone mention West Hollywood, CA. It is one of the most GBLT places in the USA. The Chamber of Commerce and the people in the Mayor's office are all members of the gay community. San Francisco would be my second choice.  [ send green star]  [ accepted]
Thanks May 27, 2006 8:48 AM

Hi Guys

Thank you so much for all your input. It sounds like there are many great places to go

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 May 27, 2006 9:04 AM

As a straight girl from Cali. I will have to give a for San Francisco, California!!! It is gay friendly and a beautiful city too! But then again not to downplay my own gorgeous city of San Diego, CA - HillCrest to be exact is pretty superb as well! However, I think there could still be a good deal of hate crime that happens in various parts of the city and mostly in regards to men. However, I had rarely heard of any actually happening in the Hillcrest area.

California has amazing universities as well, but the cost of living might be a little steep (high). And let me remind you that I have not lived back home since '98 so I might be a little out of the loop these days.

Good luck!

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