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This simple practice can help you slowly gain control over your mind by guiding it away from negative thoughts and behaviors and toward those that are in line with your highest ideals. You can practice Pratipaksha Bhavana by running through the following four-step mental checklist whenever you realize you're succumbing to a bad habit. It will give you a fresh perspective so that you can act wisely rather than reacting unconsciously with an old behavior pattern. 1. Take a deep breath, and then name the problem. Admit to yourself, "Yes, I did that. I yelled at my child; I ate half a bag of chips; I lacked compassion for my co-worker." Only when you are aware of your unconscious patterns can you choose a different thought or course of action. 2. Remind yourself that it's OK to make mistakes. Your inner critic might respond to your behavior with self-judgment, discouragement, or shame, but you can reframe the slip-up by adopting an attitude of lovingkindness toward yourself. 3. Express gratitude toward yourself for noticing the behavior and for being aware of its unpleasant effect on you. Be grateful that you want to make a positive change and that you are choosing to be more caring toward yourself and others. 4. Finally, let your desire to create better habits direct your vital force toward thoughts and actions that truly serve you—and choose your next steps consciously. You might, for example, apologize to your child, seal the bag of chips and eat an apple instead, or turn your mind toward a mantra or positive affirmation instead of criticizing your co-worker. If you use this mental checklist on a regular basis, you may find that your positive habits get stronger and your negative ones begin to wither away. As you flex your muscles of awareness, they, too, will grow stronger. You'll begin to see the behavioral patterns that undermine your well-being, and you'll eventually be able to make better choices to begin with.

4 years ago

By connecting to your authentic Self in meditation, you can identify your highest goals and develop a greater awareness of how your everyday actions can best support those goals. Through the flower meditation that follows, you can also create a more positive state of mind.

You'll notice that while you concentrate on and identify with the beauty of a flower, it is impossible to feel uptight or bound up in a mental narrative about your shortcomings. Instead, you may find that you emerge from meditation with a sense of contentment and ease. Try it for 10 minutes daily for a month and observe how it helps you see yourself—and the behaviors you're trying to change—in a new way.

1. Place a single flower in a vase on your altar or on a table—anywhere you can spend a little undisturbed time with it. Gaze at the flower, noticing the color and texture of the petals and moving your awareness from the edges of the petals toward the center as your focus deepens.

2. Now broaden your vision and take in the flower as a whole. If your mind wanders, gently bring it back to the flower. In the parlance of yoga, this is called dharana, or one-pointed concentration, which slows down the thinking process and paves the way to a meditative state of mind.

3. When you've memorized every detail, gently close your eyes and direct your attention to your heart. Visualize the flower there, living inside you—a symbol of your inner beauty, which is always radiating from within. This is dhyana, or meditation—an exquisite state of stillness in which the mind produces few thoughts or none at all.

4. After several minutes, drop the image and simply rest your awareness at the heart center.

Yoga teaches that when you're connected to your heart center—your true Self—you have clearer perception, you make better choices, and you suffer less. If you practice this meditation regularly, you may find that unhealthy behaviors become less appealing, because they do not resonate with the wisdom of your true Self.

This newfound relationship with yourself can be a refuge when you need to turn inward and take stock of your actions. When you need guidance, simply ask yourself: What would serve the interests of my true Self? Then gravitate toward the thoughts and actions that best support your goals.

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