This is a great OM, Dusty. I think we all 'go there' (being scared) at times. Many people feel alone and lost for a very long time before they begin their real journey and start to trust their inner guidance. Some people have to become exhausted and drained before they begin to ask for and accept that inner guidance.
Whether we say "the Universe" or "God" or "Great Spirit", I believe we are all believing in that which is greater than ourselves and where, eventually, we will return "home", and that God is within us and all around us every moment of every day.
I was taught - long ago in a meditation class - to squint slightly while looking at a candle's light. The rays that come from the candle to you are like the cord that connects us to God/Universe/Great Spirit. He/She is always with us and therefore we are never truly alone. Through the years I've found this very comforting!
When we are lost, we typically look at a map to figure out where we are
and how to get to our chosen destination. This works well, assuming
that there is a map of the territory in which we find ourselves, and
assuming that we know our destination. However, this is not always the
case. At this time in human history, we are all venturing into
uncharted territory, whether we know it or not. And as individuals, we
may find ourselves covering ground that our predecessors never even
knew existed. When we look to them for guidance, they often come up
short. Not knowing exactly where we are, we find ourselves unsure of
which way to go, and eventually the uneasy feeling that we are lost
presents itself.
The beauty of being lost is the same thing that makes it scaryit
asks us to look within ourselves to find the way. If we have no map, we
must go on instinct, relying on our inner compass to show us which way
to go. This can be scary because so much seems to be riding on it. We
fear we might go too far in the wrong direction, or become paralyzed
and make no progress at all. And yet, this is the very challenge we
need to develop our ability to trust ourselves. We are also learning to
trust that the universe will support and guide us. We may believe this
intellectually, but it is only through experience that it becomes
knowledge of the heart. Learning to be okay with being lost and
trusting that we will be guided, we begin our journey.
We can support ourselves by confirming that we dont need to know
exactly where we are going in order to take our first steps. We are
learning to feel our own way, rather than following an established
path, and in doing so we learn to trust ourselves. It is this trust
that connects us to the universe and reminds us that no matter how lost
we feel, and even as we journey, on the inner level we are already
home.
Oh boy, this is a great article. Sometimes it takes a long time to realize one's own limits because often there are people in your life who may feel the need to not only over- extend themselves, but to push other people beyond what is healthy/comfortable for them.
October 28, 2009 Energy to Spare Knowing Your Limits
Every human life is defined, to some extent, by limits. No one person
is capable of fulfilling every possibility. We are all born with unique
aptitudes and sensitivities, and it is these qualities that largely
determine the paths we will travel in life. What invigorates, excites,
and inspires one individual may exhaust or overwhelm another. When we
understand what we as individuals are capable of reasonably handling,
we gradually learn to accept that we have control over our wellbeing.
Yet determining where our limits lie can be difficult, as it is likely
we have been told time and again that the discomfort, fatigue, and
stress we felt while engaging in activities outside the range of our
comfort zones was all in our heads. If you have never before given
thought to the notion of personal limits, creating a list of those
tasks and situations that leave you feeling drained can give you
insight into your own.
You will know definitively that you are operating within your
limits when you have the necessary energy and drive to address your
personal and professional commitments. This is not to say you should
not push yourself or work to extend the range of your capabilities. The
wisdom you gain through dynamic self-examination will give you the
tools you need to create an individual life strategy that allows you to
achieve your goals without compromising yourself or your needs. The
limits you honor by focusing your energy on what you can do rather than
what you cannot do will not interfere with your ambitions unless you
allow them to interfere. You can thrive within your limits, actively
shape your circumstances, and avoid anguish by simply recognizing that
certain aspects of life nourish you while others drain you, and doing
your best to perceive the fine line between applying yourself
diligently and overworking yourself.
You may be surprised to discover that your limits change over time.
Your willingness to accept these limits as they reveal themselves to
you can smooth your passage through life and give you the means to
flourish.
Mmmmmm... a quiet forest or by the seaside... two of my most favourite places to be! Those are the places where I gather my strength.
Awesome OMs, Dusty... thank you again! I've had to be out of town the last couple of days so these were really nice to come back to. Your pictures are always beautiful and so fitting to the particular OM!
October 27, 2009 Considering Others Reaffirming Our Integrity
Every thought we think and every action we take has an effect on the
world around us. To be aware of this is to be conscious of our impact
on the people in our lives. Sometimes we just want to do what we want
to do, but considering the full ramifications of our actions can be an
important part of our spiritual growth and awareness. At first, being
more conscious requires effort, but once we have made it a habit, it
becomes second nature. The more we practice this awareness of others,
the more we find ourselves in easy alignment with our integrity.
Our thoughts are an important place to begin this practice because
our thoughts are the seeds of our actions. It is not necessary or
beneficial to obsessively monitor all our thoughts, but we can perhaps
choose one thought or action per day and simply notice if we are in
alignment with this experience of integrity. For example, we may find
ourselves replaying a negative encounter with someone in our minds. We
may think that this doesnt affect the person about whom we are
thinking, but the laws of energy tell us that it does. When we hold
someone negatively in our minds, we risk trapping them in negativity.
If we were this person, we might wish for forgiveness and release. We
can offer this by simply letting go of the negative thought and
replacing it with a wish for healing on that persons behalf.
With regard to our actions, we may have something difficult to
express to someone. Taking the time to consider how we would feel if we
were in his or her shoes will enable us to communicate more sensitively
than we would if we just expressed ourselves from our own perspective.
When we modify our approach by taking someone elses feelings into
account, we bring benefit to that person and ourselves equally. The
more we do this, the more we reaffirm our integrity and the integrity
of our relationship to the world.
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October 26, 2009 Half-Full Consciousness Starting from Empty
We are all familiar with the metaphorical story of two people looking
at the same glass and one perceiving it as half-full while the other
sees it as half-empty. As much as weve heard this, its still a
valuable exercise to really observe our minds and notice whether we are
engaged in half-full or half-empty thinking. People will refer to
themselves as being of one type or the other as if it was a permanent
characteristic, but we are all capable of shifting into a half-full
consciousness if we simply make the effort.
When we look at our lives with half-empty consciousness, we
perceive a lack and think that the other half of what we want is
missing. We are coming from a position of expectation and entitlement.
On the other hand, when we look at our lives as half-full we perceive
fullness. It is as if we recognize that our cup could be fully empty
and so we are grateful for what we see as bountynot something we
expect or believe we are owed, but a gift. In half-full consciousness,
we count our blessings. When we look at our lives we see all the
elements that are in place and all the things we do have. This doesnt
necessarily mean we dont seek more, but we seek from a place of
fullness instead of from a place of lack. This fullness draws positive
energy into our lives and often attracts more abundance.
If you would like to begin to make the shift into half-full
consciousness, try imagining your life as an empty glass. This is your
life without all the people you know, the work you do, your home, or
your current state of physical wellbeing. This is just an empty, open
space waiting to be filled. Once you have that feeling of openness in
your mind, begin filling it with all the people, things, and places
that make up your life. You may be surprised to find your glass
overflowing.
Time spent in nature's embrace is a soothing reminder of the fact that
we also are products of the natural world's ingenuity. We feel at home
in a quiet forest and are comforted by the pounding surf of the
seaside. In both the sunny meadow and the shaded waterfall's grotto,
stress and tension we have long retained melts away. Finding
opportunities to reconnect with nature to enjoy its healing benefits
can be difficult, however. Planting and tending a garden allows us to
spend time with Mother Nature in a very personal and hands-on way. We
work in tandem with nature while gardening-honoring the seasons,
participating in the life cycle of various organisms, experiencing the
unique biorhythms of our environments, and transcending all that
divides us from the natural world. As we interact with the soil, we are
free to be ourselves and reflect upon meditative topics. Fresh air
invigorates us, while our visceral connection to the earth grounds us.
Though you may plant a garden to grow food or herbs, or for the
pleasure of seeing fresh flowers in bloom, you will likely discover
that the time you spend working in your plot feels somehow more
significant than many of the seemingly more important tasks you perform
each day. Whether your garden can be measured in feet or is a
collection of plants in pots, tending it can be a highly spiritual
experience. You, by necessity, develop a closer relationship with the
soil, seeds, water, and sunlight. Nurturing just a single plant means
cultivating a deeper understanding of the mechanisms that permit it to
thrive. A true healing garden is simply one where you feel comfortable
plunging your hands into the earth, lingering over seedlings and plants
to observe their growth. And yes, even caressing and talking to plants.
Creating beauty through the creative use of space, and giving yourself
over to awe when you realize that you have worked hand in hand with
nature to give birth to something, is truly wonderful.
The partnership that is formed when you collaborate with Mother
Nature through gardening is wonderful in that it provides you with so
many opportunities to be outdoors. You will be reminded of not only
your connection to the earth but also of your unique gifts that allow
you to give back to the earth.
Animals share our planet with us, but experience it differentlyeach
has its own abilities and gifts that allow them to interact
successfully with the natural world. Since we are merely one
manifestation of the universes energy in action, when we feel the need
for direction we can turn to animals in nature for guidance. Animals
can show us different ways to approach and deal with our challenges.
As we hold a question in mind, we can begin to pay attention to the
animal activity around us. Staring out a window we may notice a bird
soaring high in the sky, showing us how to look at our situation from a
greater distance. If we dont get an immediate answer, we can remember
that the universe has its own perfect timing that doesnt heed the
ticking of the clock. Instead, we can release our question into the
universes care, and then trust that an animal messenger will carry
inspiration our way. In the meantime, we align ourselves with the
universes rhythmopening, humbling ourselves, and shifting our
perceptions so that at the perfect time we will be ready. Then, even
weeks later, the sight of a small bird hopping from branch to branch
may signal for us to use a talent other than our greatest strength and
to take small leaps rather than fly over details. A squirrel bounding
across an open expanse of grass to stash its latest prize may remind us
to check our favorite hiding places for forgotten treasure. Even if we
dont see actual animals, their representations may hold messages;
whether we see them in a shape in the clouds, a picture, or a show on
television, their symbolic meaning is the same.
Animals are closer to the rhythms and cycles of nature and have fewer
distractions from it than humans do. That is why they are the perfect
messengers when we are in need of advice. Just by being themselves they
remind us of the wisdom of the universe, and that all answers are
available to us when we reconnect with our source and with those who
know how to be nurtured by it.
October 23, 2009 Exploring Our Readiness In-Between Times
It could be argued that life is more about the time spent waiting for
something to happen than it is about something happening. What this
means is that the big events in our lives are preceded by many days and
nights of dreaming, planning, organizing, and waiting. The times of
waiting in between the big events actually constitute the majority of
our lives. These in-between times are anything but uneventful. In fact,
they are rich with possibility and filled with opportunities for
reflection and preparation. Like a pregnant woman awaiting the birth of
her child, we have a finite period of time in which to prepare
internally and externally for the upcoming event that will define a new
chapter in our lives.
When we find ourselves in an in-between time, we often cant help
but feel impatient for the impending event. We just want to get to the
future and have the new baby, the new job, or the new house. And yet,
there is a reason a pregnancy takes nine months to fulfill itself.
Nature provides the expectant parents with this time so that they can
prepare the nest. This preparation plays out on many levels.
Materially, a space must be created in the home and resources must be
set aside for the babys future; psychologically, a shift must occur in
which the psyches of both parents agree to be responsible for a new
life in the world; and emotionally, the heart must open wider to
embrace and fulfill a new love.
Whenever you find yourself in such a time of waiting, you might
want spend time exploring your material, psychological, and emotional
readiness. For example, if you are preparing to move to a new city, you
could make a list of things youd like to do in the city you will be
leaving behind, and go to your favorite places and spend time with old
friends. This way, you will remain fully engaged in the present as you
await your future, savoring the in-between time as a vital experience
in itself.
October 22, 2009 Empathy in Action An Experiment in Gratitude
Sometimes we forget to take the time to recognize the richness that
defines our lives. This may be because many of the messages we
encounter as we go about our affairs prompt us to think about what we
dont have rather than all the abundance we do enjoy. Consequently, our
gratitude exists in perpetual conflict with our desire for more,
whether we crave time, convenience, wealth, or enlightenment. Yet
understanding and truly appreciating our blessings can be as simple as
walking a mile in anothers shoes for a short period of time. Because
many of us lead comparatively insular lives, we may not comprehend the
full scope of our prosperity that is relative to our sisters and
brothers in humanity.
If you find taking an inventory of your lifes blessings difficult,
consider the ease with which you nourish your body and mind, feed your
family, move from place to place, and attend to tasks at hand. For a
great number of people, activities you may take for granted, such as
attaining an education, buying healthy food, commuting to work, or
keeping a clean house, represent great challenges. To experience
firsthand the complex tests others face as a matter of course in their
daily lives, try living without the amenities you most often take for
granted. This can be a great experiment to undertake with your entire
family or a classroom. Understanding working poverty can be as easy as
endeavoring to buy nutritious foods with a budget of $100 for the week.
If you own a car, relying on public transportation for even just a day
can help you see the true value of the comfort and conveniences others
do without. As you explore a life without things you may normally take
for granted,! ask yourself for how long you could endure.
The compassionate gratitude that floods your heart when you come to
fully realize your abundance may awaken pangs of guilt in your heart.
Be aware, however, that the purpose of such an experiment is to open
your heart further in gratitude and compassion. This awareness can help
you attain a deeper level of gratitude that will allow you to savor
and, above all, appreciate your life with renewed grace.
This is beautiful, Dusty. Thank you! I totally agree with the message. Those positive high frequencies can be as close as our back yard, when needed... or just looking up at the sky on a clear night! I have to admit that sometimes I forget to give myself a "frequency lift" when caught in the lower, negative ones.
Feelings vibrate, just as all things in the universe do, at a
particular frequency. Negative feelings like anger, guilt, and
depression vibrate at low frequencies, while positive feelings like
joy, appreciation, and passion vibrate at high frequencies. These high
frequency vibrations make us feel good. This is why people and places
that inspire and cultivate positive feelings have what we call good
vibrations.
Good vibrations inspire health, happiness, and optimism. When we
are tuned in to good vibrations, our bodies heal, our hearts open, and
our minds shift toward the light. We see new possibilities and feel
powerfully energized to follow our inner visions. At the same time, we
feel relaxed and capable of manifesting these visions without giving in
to stress or struggle. Good vibrations put us in a state of perfect
receptivity so that we feel it is the energy flowing through us that
accomplishes what needs to be done. We feel guided, supported,
protected, and nourished within this joyful flow. We sometimes forget
that we are allowed to feel this way all the time.
Lower frequency vibrations are not bad in a moral sense, but they
are bad in the sense that they simply dont feel good. Still, they have
a purpose, which is to alert us to the fact that we are blocking out
the higher frequency vibrations that we need to function well. They are
a call for healing ourselves from within. The key to our healing lies
in remembering that it is our birthright to feel good and that feeling
good is the essence of our true nature. When we are receiving and
sending out good vibrations, we are in the flow. When we are not, we
can begin to raise our vibration by seeking out people, places, and
situations that vibrate at a higher frequency. Whether we need to go on
retreat or just call a friend who makes us laugh, seeking out those
good vibrations and basking in them is a sacred and loving practice
that returns us, time and again, to the joyful flow of the universe.
These OMs are terrific, Dusty. Thank you! I think women, especially, can be affected by these - especially the "Trying to Please Others." It started for many of us when we were children... "don't ever eat the last piece of cake" etc., and do everything for others before you do anything for yourself. There often was a message that you were "selfish" if you did things for yourself.
We know now that to take care of others we need to take care of ourselves. We need the same care and attention we give to others in order to be healthy. It's strange how it can take us many many years to realize this and start standing up for ourselves. And in some cases there are or have been people to call you 'selfish' for wanting some time to yourself, for instance, to get together with your friends and have a good laugh, go somewhere quiet and peaceful, do something that doesn't entail being a wife or a mother, etc.
The "Avoiding Negative Vibrations" OM hits home with me as well. I am very sensitive to the good and the bad vibrations people give off. The negative is very draining and depressing and if you have to work with someone every day like this, one needs to find a way to protect themselves from it. Another technique I have practised is to envision yourself surrounded by mirrors... so everything gets reflected back to the person sending the vibration. If it's good energy, then they revitalize themselves (as well as you - because you choose to let it in). The bad energy gets returned to the negative person who radiates it and you don't have to take any of it in.
Great OMs... super pictures... thanks again, Dusty!
October 19, 2009 Appreciating Suggestions Other People's Agendas
As children, our parents had dreams for us. They wanted us to do well
in school, and to do whatever was necessary to reach our highest
potential. Later in life, friends may try to set us up with their idea
of the perfect partner or the perfect job. Spouses may have agendas for
us, too. People close to us may have ideas about how we should live our
lives, ideas that usually come from love and the desire for us to be
happy. Other times, they come from a place of need within themwhether
it is the parent who wants us to live out his or her dreams or the
friend or spouse who wants us to play an already-defined role. Whatever
the case, we can appreciate and consider those peoples input, but
ultimately we must follow our own inner guidance.
There may come a time when all the suggestions can become
overbearing. We may feel that the people we love dont approve of our
judgment, which can hurt our feelings. It can interfere with the
choices we make for our lives by making us doubt ourselves, or filling
a void with their wishes before weve had a chance to decide what we
want. It can affect us energetically as well. We may have to deal with
feelings of resistance or the need to shut ourselves off from them. But
we can take some time to rid ourselves of any unnecessary doubts and go
within to become clear on what we desire for ourselves.
We can tell our loved ones how much we appreciate their thoughts
and ideas, but that we need to live our own lives and make our own
decisions. We can explain that they need to let us learn from our own
experiences rather than rob us of wonderful life lessons and the
opportunity to fine-tune our own judgment. When they see that we are
happy with our lives and the path we are taking to reach our goals,
they can rest assured that all we need them to do is to share in our
joy.
Avoiding Negative Vibrations Taking on the Energy of Others
There are times when you may find that being around certain individuals
or groups of people leaves you with feelings of discomfort. It may be
that spending time with a particular friend feels draining or that
dealing with a specific coworker exhausts you. Being around toxic or
angry people is also draining. And you may even find that being
surrounded by a crowd of people lowers your energy levels rather than
perks you up. This is not that unusual. Each of us radiates energy and
is capable of being influenced by the energy of other people. It is
important to learn how to shield yourself, so you dont unknowingly
take on someone elses energy. While some people know how to
instinctively protect themselves from being adversely affected by
energy, most of us need to discover and practice the technique that
works best.
There are a number of ways to avoid being affected by peoples
energy. Shielding is one preventative technique you can use. Center
yourself and envision being enveloped in a cocoon of loving and
protective light. This protective layer should allow you to consciously
regulate the energy around you. The intent to shield oneself is all you
need for this technique to work. You can even create a trigger word to
assist you in quickly creating a shield. Say this word each time you
create a new shield, until the word and the shield become automatically
associated in your mind. If you run into a person whose energy you find
draining, you may want to cleanse your own energy field after your
encounter. Sage, cold showers, singing, mineral water baths, spending
time in nature, and a simple break to recharge are all ways to
accomplish this.
While it is important to know how to shield yourself from energy, there
are those energies that you may not want to shut out. The energy of
laughter from a newborn baby, the feeling of joy radiating from someone
in love, and the frequency of calm emanating from an enlightened
teacher are just some of the energies coming from others that you may
want to have around you.
Most of us come to a point in our lives when we question why we are
doing what we are doing, and many of us come to realize that we may be
living our lives in an effort to make our parents happy. This
realization can dawn when we are in our 20s, our 40s, or even later,
depending upon how tight a hold our family of origin has on our psyche.
We may feel shocked or depressed by this information, but we can trust
that it is coming to us at this time because we are ready to find out
what it would mean to live our lives for ourselves, following the call
of our own soul, and refusing any longer to be beholden to someone
elses expectations.
One of the most common reasons we are so tied into making our parents,
or others, happy, is that we were not properly mirrored when we were
children. We were not honored as individuals in our own right, with a
will and purpose of our own, to be determined by our own unfolding. As
a result, we learned to look outside of ourselves for approval,
support, and direction rather than look within. The good news is that
the part of us that was not adequately nurtured is still there, inside
us, like a seed that has not yet received the sunlight and moisture it
needs to open and to allow its inner contents to unfurl. It is never
too late to provide ourselves with what we need to awaken this inner
being.
There are many ways to create a safe container for ourselves so
that we can turn within and shine the light of awareness there. We may
join a support group, go to therapy, or start a practice of journaling
every day for half an hour. This experience of becoming is well worth
the difficult work that may be required of us to get there. In whatever
process we choose, we may feel worse before we feel better, but we will
ultimately find out how to live our lives for ourselves and how to make
ourselves happy.
Wow, Dusty... thank you so much! These are such good OMS and I've enjoyed reading them slowly. Great pictures too! I couldn't get here for a couple of days so I started reading this morning then came back this afternoon and finished.
That's awful about the mold!! It causes terrible things to happen to people and by the sounds of it, you've been severely affected. I really hope that now you've found the source, something can be done to not only get rid of the mold, but to make YOU better! I'm sending you love and healing prayers!
October 16, 2009 Cause for Celebration Honoring Everyday Life
We all know someone who keeps plastic covers on his or her couch in
order to protect it. The irony is that many of these people may live
their lives without ever having actually made contact with their own
furniture! This is a poignant and somewhat humorous example of the
human tendency to try to save things for special occasions, as if
everyday life werent special enough to warrant the use of nice things.
Many of us have had the experience of never wearing a particular piece
of clothing in order to keep it nice, only to have it go out of style
in the meanwhile.
Its interesting to think of what it would mean to us if we let
ourselves wear our nicest clothes and eat off the good china on a daily
basis. We might be sending ourselves the message that every day we are
alive is a special day and a cause for celebration, and that we are
worth it. There is something uplifting about treating ourselves to the
finest of what we have. It is as if we rise to the occasion when we
wear our best clothes and set the table beautifully, as if for a very
special guest. We are more mindful of where we place things, what we
are eating, and who is with us. Using the good china, eating in the
dining room, and taking the plastic off the sofa might be an invitation
to be more conscious of the beauty and grace inherent in our everyday
lives.
If there are things youve stashed away for a special occasiona bottle
of special wine, a gorgeous pair of shoes, an antique lace
tableclothconsider taking them out of their hiding places and putting
them to use tonight, just because you are alive now to enjoy them, and
thats a great cause for a celebration.
October 15, 2009 Enjoying a Snail's Pace Doing Things Slowly
Life can often feel like its zipping by in fast forward. We feel
obliged to accelerate our own speed along with it, until our
productivity turns into frenzied accomplishment. We find ourselves
cramming as much activity as possible into the shortest periods of
time. We disregard our natural rhythms because it seems we have to just
to keep up. In truth, rushing never gets you anywhere but on to the
next activity or goal.
Slowing down allows you to not only savor your experiences, but also it
allows you to fully focus your attention and energy on the task at
hand. Moving at a slower place lets you get things done more
efficiently, while rushing diminishes the quality of your work and your
relationships. Slowing down also lets you be more mindful, deliberate,
and fully present. When we slow down, we are giving ourselves the
opportunity to reacquaint ourselves to our natural rhythms. We let go
of the fast forward stress, and allow our bodies to remain centered
and grounded. Slowing down is inherent to fully savoring anything in
life. Rushing to take a bath can feel like an uncomfortable dunk in hot
water, while taking a slow hot bath can be luxuriant and relaxing. A
student cramming for a test will often feel tired and unsure, whereas
someone who really absorbs the information will be more confident and
relaxed. Cooking, eating, reading, and writing can become pleasurable
when done slowly. Slowing down lets you become more absorbed in
whatever it is you are doing. The food you eat tastes better, and the
stories you read become more alive.
Slowing down allows you to disconnect from the frenzied pace buzzing
around you so you can begin moving at your own pace. The moments we
choose to live in fast forward motion then become a conscious choice
rather than an involuntary action. Learning to slow down in our
fast-moving world can take practice, but if you slow down long enough
to try it, you may surprise yourself with how natural and organic
living at this pace can be
October 14, 2009 Growing Day by Day Becoming a Better Person
At some point in our lives, many of us find ourselves overcome with the
desire to become better people. While we are all uniquely capable of
navigating this world, we may nonetheless feel driven to grow, expand,
and change. This innate need for personal expansion can lead us down
many paths as we develop within the context of our individual lives.
Yet the initial steps that can put us on the road to evolution are not
always clear. We understand that we want to be better but have no clear
definition of better. To ease this often frustrating uncertainty, we
can take small steps, keeping our own concept of growth in mind rather
than allowing others to direct the course of our journey. And we should
accept that change wont happen overnightwe may not recognize the
transformations taking place within us at first.
Becoming a better person in your own eyes is a whole-life project, and
thus you should focus your step-by-step efforts on multiple areas of
your existence. Since you likely know innately which qualities you
consider good, growing as an individual is simply a matter of making an
effort to do good whenever possible. Respect should be a key element of
your efforts. When you acknowledge that all people are deserving of
compassion, consideration, and dignity, you are naturally more apt to
treat them in the manner you yourself wish to be treated. You will
intuitively become a more active listener, universally helpful, and
truthful. Going the extra mile in all you do can also facilitate
evolution. Approaching your everyday duties with an upbeat attitude and
positive expectations can help you make the world a brighter, more
cheerful place. Finally, coming to terms with your values and then
abiding by them will enable you to introduce a new degree of integrity
and dignity into your life.
As you endeavor to develop yourself further, you can take pride not
only in your successes, but also in the fact that you are cultivating
consciousness within yourself through your choices, actions, and
behaviors. While you may never feel you have reached the pinnacles of
awareness you hope to achieve, you can make the most of this creative
process of transformation. Becoming a better person is your choice and
is a natural progression in your journey of self-awareness.
Many of us, from childhood on, are taught that saying yes is right and
saying no is wrong. We learn that acceding to demands allows us to
avoid conflict and criticism, please people, earn praise, and prove
that we care for the important people in our lives. Yet the right to
say no is indelibly intertwined with the ability to make choices. When
we sense we are limited in our options, compelled to say yes even when
doing so is not in our interests, we are effectively robbed of our
ability to choose. Growing out of this tendency to say yes even when we
desperately want to say no can be challenging because we suspect that
others will reject us for our assertiveness. But the reward we receive
upon facing this challenge is true freedom of choice.
When others ask you to take on work or do favors, consider their
requests carefully. If you feel pressed to say yes, consider whether
you are acquiescing out of a desire for approval or to stave off
disapproval. Remind yourself often that the ability to say no is an
important aspect of well-being, as it is an indication that you
understand the true value of your energy, talents, and time. As you
learn to articulate your personal power by saying no, you may feel
compelled to explore the myriad consequences of the word by responding
negatively to many or most of the requests put to you. The word no
may even become your default response for some time. When you see that
life moves forward without interruption, however, you will grow more
comfortable saying no and will resume making decisions from a point of
balance.
There is nothing inherently wrong with acceding to the requests others
make of you, provided these requests do not infringe upon your health
or your happiness. Keep in mind that it is only when you feel you have
the legitimate right to say no that you can say yes with utmost
certainty, sincerity, and enthusiasm. While saying yes almost always
has a cost, you can feel good about offering your agreement when your
reasons for doing so are rooted in your individual values and your
appreciation for the appeal before you.
October 12, 2009 Expressions of the Heart Creating Meaningful Homemade Gifts
The gifts we craft with our own hands are often the most significant
because the love that drove us to create is infused in the products of
our creation. And the recipients of these homemade offerings receive a
token of our willingness to invest ourselves in their joy. Allow these
ideas to inspire you:
1. When you craft a beautifully decorated prayer box (or jar) for
loved ones, you give them the gift of spiritual awareness. As you share
this gift, explain that it should serve as a receptacle for their
hopes, dreams, and lovesas well as worriesand thus a reminder of who
they were, are, and will someday be.
2. If you love journaling, share your writing joy with family and
friends by giving each a unique, handmade personal journal. A simple
spiral notebook dressed up with paper, fabric, photographs, or other
embellishments will give your loved ones a special place to record
their private thoughts.
3. Erase the distance between yourself and your far away loved ones by
presenting each with a photo journal documenting how your life has
changed in the past year. Or introduce them to your locale with a
homemade guidebook that highlights everything you love about your town
or city.
4. When you sew medicine bags for the people you care about, you
can rest assured your gift will always be close to their hearts. A
small pouch can be filled with many meditative or symbolic items, such
as quartz crystals, sage, or magical objects.
5. A progressive photo album, wherein pictures tell the story of your
relationships from the past up to the present, can be a simple yet
poignant reminder of the many wonderful experiences you and your loved
ones have shared over the years.
6. Give the gift of serenity with a guided meditation you create and
record to CD or tape. Your loved ones will take pleasure in being led
through tranquil landscapes by the soothing sound of your voice.
7. Hand-crafted ornaments that can be hung on trees, in windows,
and on walls afford you an opportunity to surround the important people
in your life with beauty. Whether you prefer to work with clay,
crystals, fabric, baked dough, or natural objects, your gift can serve
as a calming focal point in your loved ones homes.
Whether you choose to give a gift or simply share your friendship and
love, remember that it is the intention behind the thought that is most
important.
I've neglected this so badly and I am soooooooooooooo sorry. With helping with Leigh and her now "rainbow bridge" pup, to the mold we found in our room (which has caused my respiratory problems)the stuff they could not identify on my lungs..................I've felt like death warmed over. So here ya go......your lost OM's.........
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Dusty. I've attended some wonderful meditation classes through the years but need to get back to them. Hope to start one again next month. Sooooo peaceful & relaxing! I heard about a company that holds sessions for their employees twice a week! Awesome! They've noted a rise in productivity and happiness as well as a significant change in absenteeism. Smart employers! I wish more places would realize the benefits as they force employees to multitask more!
October 9, 2009 Accessing the World Within Guided Meditation
A guided meditation uses the sound of a person voice to direct you
through an inner process of relaxing your body and shifting your mind
focus. The voice may be a person in the room with you or a
recordingven something downloaded from the internetnd it is generally
spoken in soothing, soft tones. You may be guided to focus on aspects
of your physical body, such as on your breathing, relaxing your muscles
one-by-one, or on an area in need of healing. Sometimes it might
involve visualizing a journey through the beauty of the natural world.
Other times, you may be led to envision yourself working with light or
energy, accomplishing your goals, or repeating positive thoughts in
your head. Your guide may walk you through relaxation or motivation to
help you change a habit, access untapped potential, or perhaps merely
to find the silence within you.
Whether you are familiar with meditation or you are a beginner, being
guided gives you the opportunity to benefit from the insight of others.
There are numerous meditation and visualization techniques based in
various spiritual philosophies and psychological applications. You may
want to try several techniques to see what appeals to you the most, or
just to gain a fresh perspective.
Guided meditation allows you to learn from others in a way that is
similar to ones used by ancients the world over. Once learned,
meditation is a tool that will always be available to you. Like having
a tour guide while traveling in a foreign country, a guided meditation
takes you on an inner journey. But this tour allows you to see and
experience your own inner world, a place that truly only exists within
you. The scenes created in your mind eye can be revisited at anytime,
without a guide, because once you have seen the fascinating landscape
of your own inner terrain, there will always be more to explore.
Wow, Dusty, these are REALLY beautiful and so meaningful to me! Thank you so much. I have to tell you that taking the time to read these changes my whole day for the better! I have come to the conclusion that my soul is hungry and these OMs are the kind of nutrition it needs! Thank you, dear friend.
I am so sorry to hear you've had to be in hospital again. I am saying prayers for your recovery and that good health will come to you -- and stay with you -- as soon as possible.
October 7, 2009 Divergent Directions Coping with People You Dislike
As much as most of us wish we could exist in harmony with the people we
encounter throughout our lives, there will always be individuals we
dislike. Some simply rub us the wrong way while others strike us as
deliberately unaware. We may judge others as too mean or abrasive for
us to interact with them comfortably. Yet no person should be deemed a
villain because their beliefs, opinions, mannerisms, and mode of being
are not compatible with your own. You need not embrace the rough traits
they have chosen to embody. There may be times in which the best course
of action involves distancing yourself from someone you dislike. But
circumstances may require that you spend time in the company of
individuals who awaken your aversion. In such cases, you can ease your
discomfort by showing your foe loving compassion while examining your
feelings carefully.
The reasons we dislike some individuals are often complex and, at
first, indecipherable. Often, we are automatically averse to people who
are different because they compel us to question our values,
spirituality, culture, and ideologies, threatening to undermine our
self-assurance. Realistically, however, those you dislike have no power
to weaken your lifes foundations. In fact, your aversion to specific
individuals may actually be your response to your fear that specific
qualities you see in them also exist within you. Their presence may
force you to face internal issues you would rather not confront. If you
meet someone who inspired an intense, largely negative response in you,
ask yourself why your reaction is so laden with powerful emotions.
Remember that you control your feelings and, if necessary, you can
minimize this individuals impact on your well-being by choosing how
you will respond to them.
Though you may not have an immediate breakthrough, your willingness
to consider your dislike rationally can help you better understand the
root of your feelings. Your aversion to certain individuals may not
wane over time, yet the comprehension you gain through reflection can
help you interact with them sympathetically, benevolently, and with a
greater degree of kindness. There is nothing wrong with recognizing
that you are incompatible with some people. You may never achieve a
shared harmony with those you dislike, but you can nonetheless learn to
modulate your reactions to these individuals and, ultimately, to
coexist peacefully with them.
When it comes to our families, we sometimes see only our differences.
We see the way our parents cling to ideas we dont believe, or act in
ways we try not to act. We see how practical one of our siblings is and
wonder how we can be from the same gene pool. Similarly, within the
human family we see how different we are from each other, in ways
ranging from gender and race to geographical location and religious
beliefs. It is almost as if we think we are a different species
sometimes. But the truth is, in our personal families as well as the
human family, we really are the same.
A single mother of four living in Africa looks up at the same stars
and moon that shine down on an elderly Frenchman in Paris. A Tibetan
monk living in India, a newborn infant in China, and a young couple
saying their marriage vows in Indiana all breathe the same air, by the
same process. We have all been hurt and we have all cried. Each one of
us knows how it feels to love someone dearly. No matter what our
political views are, we all love to laugh. Regardless of how much or
how little money we have, our hearts pump blood through our bodies in
the same way. With all this in common, it is clear we are each
individual members of the same family. We are human.
Acknowledging how close we all are, instead of clinging to what
separates us, enables us to feel less alone in the world. Every person
we meet, see, hear, or read about, is a member of our family. We are
truly not alone. We also begin to see that we are perfectly capable of
understanding and relating to people who, on the surface, may seem very
different from us. This awareness prevents us from disconnecting from
people on the other side of the tracks, and the other side of the
world. We begin to understand that we must treat all people for what
they arefamily.
October 5, 2009 Setting the Tone Starting Your Day Well
The choices you make upon waking can have a profound impact on your
day. If, still drowsy, you hit the ground running, rushing to prepare
yourself to face your worldly obligations, you will likely feel
fatigued and overwhelmed for most of your day. A leisurely and relaxing
morning, on the other hand, can energize and excite you, as well as
give you the courage to meet the challenges waiting for you. By
beginning your day in a focused and centered fashion, you make it your
own. You set the tone of your expectations and choose the mood you will
use to respond to your circumstances. A gentle, reflective, and
thoughtful morning will prepare you to create a gentle, conscious, and
thoughtful day.
The simplest way to eliminate the rush from your morning routine is to
rise earlier. Getting children into routines and getting themselves
ready as much as possible will also give you more time. Though this may
seem like a hardship at first, you will soon grow to love the extra
minutes or hours that afford you an opportunity to really enjoy
watching the sun come up or connect with your loved ones before you go
in your separate directions. There are many more ways you can
constructively use the time you gain. A mere half-hour of introspection
in which you examine your goals, thank the universe for the richness in
your life, and contemplate the blessings you will receive this day can
lift your spirit and help you formulate lasting positive expectations.
Likewise, you can solidify your days intention through spoken
affirmations or the words you record in a journal. Or, if you want
little more than to enjoy your day, devote a portion of your personal
time to activities that both ground and delight you, such as
meditation, yoga, chanting, singing, reading, or listening to music. If
you feel, however, that there is little room for change in your
start-of-the-day routine, try to make each activity you engage in upon
waking a ritual in its own right. The time you spend everyday savoring
a soothing cup of tea or washing away tension in a hot shower can serve
as a potent reminder of the need to care for yourself no matter what
the hour.
Your morning is yours and should reflect not only your practical needs
but also the needs of your soul. When you center yourself at the start
of your day, you will likely find it easier to remain centered during
subsequent work, play, and downtime because the overall sense of
serenity you create through your choices will stay with you throughout
the day.
We can connect ourselves with a basic force of nature by focusing on
the essential element of air during a wind meditation. We begin by
centering ourselves on our breath. We inhale the life-giving force,
feeling it fill us, and then releasing it into the world to let our
breath mingle with the breath of nature. If we cannot feel the wind
right now, we can recall times when the wind has sent us gifts of
caresses on bare skin, ruffling our clothes and playing with our hair.
We can evoke sounds carried on the wind, maybe laughter or song, or
perhaps just the wind's own whispers through the trees or across the
landscape of our ears. We may summon up an image of falling flowers or
leaves from above, vivid colors set free with the wind's encouragement.
We may envision birds drifting on unseen currents with wings unbent, or
flags and banners unfurled in the breeze. The scent of a sea breeze may
come to mind, or the aromas of freshly baked treats or fragrant blooms
that reach us from a distance.
As these memories enliven our senses, we are feeling the vital force
that surrounds and animates us. We can look to the trees to sway in
time with nature's rhythm. Just as we can be soothed by the wind, we
know that nature has great power. In a rush it can block out all sound,
leaving us with only the beating of our hearts.
Wind can even make the inanimate dance and whirl gracefully. With a
gentle sigh, the wind has carried sailors to faraway lands and balloons
to great heights above. We can entrust the wind to carry our voices and
best wishes out into the world, knowing it will be carried to its
perfect destination. Releasing these precious offerings to its care, we
remember that nature's power is as close as our breath, and we breathe
deeply once again before returning to the world around us.
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Ahhh... beautiful autumn! Thank you, Dusty. You always post such beautiful pics to go with the OM. After spring, autumn is my favourite time of year, and I'm enjoying every moment.
The birth of autumn is an event missed by many. Autumn reveals itself
slowly, hovering on the edges of our consciousness until its crisp
breezes are strong enough to pierce our summer clothing, and we notice
for the first time the transformations taking place all around us. It
is only when the last fruits and vegetables have emerged in the crisp
tangy air and the trees have begun to deck themselves in shifting
patterns of crimson and gold that we internalize that fall has indeed
returned. Autumn is invigorating and a time to gather our thoughts, in
the same way that we might once have collected crops. Just as animals
collect acorns to store them, we reap the fruit of our accomplishments.
Autumn also ushers in a new slowness of being for most of us, as the
tone and tempo of our lives change along with those of all of Mother
Earth's children.
As the days grow shorter and the blossoms that brightened our gardens
through summer's heat begin to droop and wilt, we tend to acknowledge
the changing season without understanding that we, too, are in
transition. The brilliance of autumn's foliage, the flocks of
southbound geese honking overhead, and the arrival of a bountiful
harvest are all signs that our lives will soon be changing. Whether the
season's cooler days are a prelude to a cold winter or a long stretch
of sweater weather, we feel obliged to slow down and take stock of our
lives. Autumn's pleasures and rituals revolve around the gathering of
abundance in preparation for the winter to come. There is ample time to
contemplate what we accomplished during the warmer seasons while
tasting the year's first cider or breathing in the sweet fragrance of
leaves breaking down. The same stirring that inspires animals to burrow
deep into the earth compels us to celebrate the rich bounty we
instinctively know will not appear again until springtime.
Appearances deceive in autumn. The transformations undergone by living
beings seem much more like endings than the transitions they really
are. Dormancy, not death, is the hallmark of fall. Your priorities will
likely change as nature flares into sunset brilliance and then lapses
slowly into slumber, but remember to rejoice in the beauty of nature
where every finale serves as an overture for a new beginning.
I love the Hidden Gems, Dusty, and I will be posting my Daily Quote after I type this, which is relevant. I wish we could remember, when bad things happen to good people, that often there is a hidden lesson to be learned.
"The ego" OM is so interesting to me, as well. I just got home from buying a book by Eckhart Tolle called The Power of Now. Have you read any of his books, like The New Earth? Curiously enough, in the last few days I've been reading some of his quotes (on my quest for quotes) and they stopped my constant inner chatter and relaxed me. So, I just had to go out and get another of his books. They are so enlightening, and they make you feel good!
Dear friend, please start a thread on anything you want. Even if one person reads it and gets something from it, or it makes them laugh or smile, you've then made a difference, made a footprint in the sand!
I hope your friend finds her dear dog. Please keep us up-to-date.
October 2, 2009 Hidden Gems Experiences We Don't Understand
Sometimes we have an experience that we dont understand, but if we
look deeply, or wait long enough, a reason for that experience will
usually reveal itself. All the events in our lives lead to other
events, and all that we have manifested in this present moment is the
result of past events and experiences. We cannot easily tease apart the
many threads that have been woven together to create our current
reality. Experiences that dont make sense, as well as any that we
regret, are just as responsible for the good things in our lives as the
experiences we do understand or label as "good."
This is especially important to remember at times when we feel
directionless or unsure of what to do. It is often at times like these
that we take a job or move to a place without really knowing if its
the right thing to do. We may ultimately end up leaving the job or the
place, but often during that time we will have met someone who becomes
an important friend, or we may have an experience that changes us in a
profound way. When all the pieces of our life dont quite make sense,
we can remember that there may be some hidden gem of a reason that we
are where we are having the experiences we are having.
Its fun to look back on past experiences with an eye to uncovering
those gemsthe dreadful temporary job in a bland office building that
introduced you to the love of your life; the roommate you couldnt
tolerate who gave you a book that changed your life; the time spent
living in a city you didnt like that led you into a deeper
relationship with yourself. Remembering these past experiences can
restore our faith in the present. Life is full of buried treasures.
Chances are, youre sitting on some right now.
I am so sorry I missed yesterdays OM but its here.....I spent the majority of the day trying to help a dear friend post for her lost dog. Will start a tiny thread if its okaye with info as time is of the essence to find her.....Many Blessings to all who stop in and read these.....they truly help me get thru some rough patches each day! Dusty
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In most spiritual circles, the ego gets a pretty bad rap. The reason
for this is that the ego, to some extent, is the principle in our
psyches that separates us from one another, while spirit is the
principle that shows us that no such separation exists. Sometimes the
ego is depicted as an almost demonic figure that keeps us from
realizing our true nature. But at its most basic, the ego is simply a
tool that helps us organize the various aspects of our personality so
that we can function in the world. In this sense, the ego is simply a
way for us to understand and attend to ourselves at the same time as we
understand and attend to the world around us. The ego is a tool that we
use to navigate the world.
Perhaps the problem is that the ego sometimes gets out of control. This
happens when the higher self loses control of the psyche. The psyche
then falls under the leadership of the ego, an entity that was never
meant to lead. The ego is meant to be definitively in the service of
the higher self. When this relationship is functioning, the ego is a
useful intermediary representing the whole self but not thinking that
it is the whole self. Then, it is almost as if the ego is the self
playfully pretending to be the separate entity called "I." Like an
actor, the ego plays the roles that the world asks us to play in order
to be part of the program. In this way, the ego can be a tool enabling
us to be in the world but not of it.
As long as we are in touch with our higher selves, our egos are not a
threat. They are simply useful tools in the service of spirit. We keep
our egos in check when we continually nurture our awareness of who we
really are. Then our egos are free to serve without trying
ineffectually to rule. It is healthy to have ego, but like all things
in life, ego functions best when it is in balance and harmony with your
whole self.