Getting this off my chest September 16, 2008 3:54 PM
This Really Bothers me
Those of you that are familiar with me know that I am strongly against child abuse. I have been working against it for a number of years. There is something that really bothers me about some of todays moms (and dads too I am sure). I say moms because I think a mother typically controls the way her daughter dresses, particularly during the preteens, more so then the father.
Why do some parents allow their young daughters to dress in such provocative ways? As an example; I was attending a local hockey game last winter. The team had cheerleaders who wore skimpy Dallas Cowboy type outfits. Ok, what ever, they all appeared to be high school age or older so I guess I have to live with that. Between hockey periods these older cheerleaders paraded out a large group of girls who were obviously 7-9 years old. They were dressed the same way! Hot pants, skimpy tops, high heeled boots. They were dressed to mimic the regular cheerleaders.
Then the disgusting part. These young girls started to do the same bump and grind dance that their older counterparts do, even the shimmy and some other moves that I cant even describe. When ever these young girls did a particularly provocative move they drew hoots, hollers, and cheers from the crowd of almost 5,000. I am no prude, not by a long shot, but where were these girls mothers (or fathers)!? Are we so naive as a society now that we dont think things like this actually increase the appetite of pedophiles and encourage those who have not quite gone to the dark side?
Sorry for my soap box but I am so tired of preteen girls (and teen girls for that matter) becoming a study in dress-up adulthood by their parents. Who will dress them up verily short of looking like, or looking like a hooker all in the name of cuteness.
I can fully understand you. Everytime I see a little girl dressed like a teenager I just can shake my head. If the moms (or dads) want them to wear those short skirts, okay, but then I would give my child a pair of tights.
You can't avert the way the fashion goes. It's just sad that the parents doesn't think about it. I mean, it's not the familie's or child's fault if a pedophile tries to get the kid, but in my opinion it's the parent's duty to protect their children. How can they protect their children from pedophiles? No short dresses. Simple. If a short skirt or something, there are tights or legging or even trousers. This can help that the pedophiles may not see the kid.
Thanks, this has always been something that bugs me, especially when it is apparent that the parents think it is cute and don't realize the danger that they are creating for the child. Let then be a child first.....
Please help with this one October 20, 2008 10:05 PM
This is a great topic. I have wondered about how I have decided to allow my daughter to change her style... She is 11 now. I will try to explain this the best I can.
We watched Bridge to Tarabithia last year and she loved the style of clothes the little girl wore in the movie. A few weeks ago my children were watching me put the "We Are The World," video on my page here at Care2. During the video Cindy Lauper steps to the mic. and sings her heart out. My daughter, Cierra, went nuts...."who is she?," "Oh, I like her!" I let her watch a few Cindy Lauper videos. She is now (got to be) the only 11 year old number one Cindy Lauper fan around. She wants her style to be like that.
I said ok (for the most part). My laws are the same as always...nothing too short, no belly shirts, no words across the behind, or shirts too low cut, no make-up (only lip gloss), no facial (or body) piercings (only the simple ones on the earlobes), no tattoos until they are 18 and moved out of home. I say no to so many things.
When she said this about the punky style...I almost encouraged it. All the different colors, nothing matching, leggings under shorts and skirts, patches, funky colored and stled shoes, leg warmers, t-shirt under a different color tank top, arm warmers, funky bracelets, and hair cuts... not bad?? I hope not. I hope I am allowing her to express herself in a healthy way that may keep her away from wanting to be provacative, lead by others, premature sexual activity, and away from drugs and alochol.
I took her for the first step today...her hair cut. Bobbed and choppy layers...very cute. Now, she wants blonde and red highlights on her brown hair. I said ok. I say no to makeup, though.
I hope I am not doing the wrong thing. Although others will say they can't believe I allow my daughter to dress like that.
Buffet for the pedophiles - October 24, 2008 4:50 PM
When are these parents going to realize that by allowing young girls to dress like they are 30 is wrong!!! It's not cute - it's like offering them up on a platter. It's a well-known fact that pedophiles cruise these places for kids. I still remember those pictures on the TV of that poor little girl - Jon-Benet Ramsay who was murdered. Come on parents - wake up. Keep your kids dressed appropriately - they only have one childhood. Take care of your kids - De.