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My friend, D. & I have been talking about relationships a lot lately. We have a lot in common in this department, we are both in our 30's, metaphysical, have limited dating experience, & desire to have a deep, spiritual & physical connection with someone.
It's interesting how the same patterns keep repeating... the gals he dates think he's 'too nice' because he respects them & doesn't want to jump their bones on the first date & hence, they don't seem to sense a 'love connection'.
On the other hand, the guys I've met (mostly online since I am more of a chicken when it comes to actually meeting in physical reality) tend to think I'm too metaphysical & have unusual interests & philosophies that would prevent me from being their ideal partner for a significant relationship; yet they still want to explore my sexuality.
While reviewing & comparing our experiences, D. & I try to understand relationships, emotions, compatibility & our own strengths & weaknesses in the relationship department. We encourage & motivate each other to continue to pursue our happiness with another human being who we can be ourselves with while continuing on our paths of self improvement & spiritual evolvement.
I once heard that men need to have sex to feel love & women need to feel love to have sex. Wow, what a contradiction. Just like men are in their sexual prime in their late teens or early 20's & women in their 30's. Just exactly how does all of this make sense?
By the time a man is emotionally mature enough to fulfill a woman on a deeper level, he is usually past his 30's, when his physical performance tends to suffer & his hair is thinning. By the time a woman has embraced her sexuality & risen above society's rules & sexual taboos, she has some wrinkles, stretch marks & unperky breasts (unless they've been surgically altered).
It makes sense that wisdom comes with age & that an older person can impart much relationship wisdom to a younger counterpart, but it's usually the younger generations who are still so caught up in the physical that they don't want to consider consorting with an old(er) person.
It's like God gave us youth so we can squander it on senseless, mindless activities & then gave us wisdom so we can realize how stupid we've been wasting time in so many negative relationships because we were so caught up in the physical & mental aspects to pay attention to the emotional & spiritual components of relating to the opposite sex.
D. had a good analogy he gave to someone after they excused him from future dates, he said, "If someone gives you a gift & you never open it, you will never know what's inside." I really liked his perspective.
We are both believers in the powers of transformation & change; & that everyone has the capacity to become better human beings, so sometimes we get caught up in the "they would be perfect if only they blah blah blah..."
And then we often hold onto relationships because we hope & pray that something or someone will change or reach their full potential. But it's also important for us to recognize that the other person may be perfectly happy with their situation or their lifestyle or with the relationship's status quo.
So, ultimately, while every person is a beautiful gift from God & holds the key to an untapped well of inspiration & love, it's not so much about the gift or it's potential. What if the gift is a pair of shoes & they simply don't fit? They can be the most wonderful shoes, but if they don't fit, they don't fit.
I recently met a very nice, attractive guy who basically thinks I'm very unusual (but not too weird, as he complimented me after our 1st meeting) & has been honest enough to share that he doesn't feel we are compatible for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship - but he was still interested in hanging out, having fun & (bingo!) having sex.
I guess the bottom line is he wants a more traditional woman & I want a more spiritual, creative man. So, we could become friends with 'benefits', but I've decided I want to be available when the 'right' man comes along - not trying to extracate myself from an illegitamate friendship.
If that person we are pining over is wonderful in so many ways, but we want them to alter themselves to suit us (or vice versa) we need to realize something important.
If the shoe fits, wear it. If it doesn't, then give it away to someone else. There is no sense in pinching your toes or cramping your style. It's not about the shape, the size or the style. It's all about the right fit.
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Every word said is so so true, it takes wisdom and maturity to come to this accurate conclusion.
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