Getting off the Sexual Merry-Go-Round

By Beyond Today host Gary Petty

Adapted by Oswaldo Zavala Ferreira

Millions of people have found themselves caught up in the lies promised by the sexual revolution, finding that it brought only heartache and pain. If you’re one of its victims, what can you do to start over?

Before the 1960s and its sexual revolution that tossed out traditional morality, it was generall believed that the ideal sexual relationship was a special romantic bond between a husband and a wife. Today, according to television commercials touting male enhancement drugs, it seems that everyone is concerned with sexual performance as if it were a competitive sport.

The sexual revolution was supposed to free us from shame and outdated ideas about human sexuality, and everyone was going to enjoy a kind of sexual Disneyland where we’d go from one thrill to another.

But it’s time to face the facts: Decades later, the sexual revolution thrill ride has derailed.

The sexual revolution’s sad fruits

The sexual revolution didn’t free women to experience more meaningful relationship; it freed men and women to separate sex from commitment. They could now go from partner to partner without personal responsibility or emotional attachment.

Any single mom knows how difficult it is to raise a child without a partner. But there’s also the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. An estimated 45 million people in the United States are infected with genital herpes- a number that’s growing by a million new cases a year.

It’s estimated that this year 25 percent one in four-of sexually active teens will contract a sexually transmitted disease.

These numbers are too large for most of us to wrap our minds around-unless you’re one of those suffering from STD.

How much heartache have you endured because of broken relationships? Have you given up on that deep longing for a committed, lifetime, romantic relationship because meaningless sexual encounters have left you feeling hopeless or bitter?

If you want to get off the sexual merry-go-round, you must take control of your life and set new standards for yourself.

Marriage is one of the best institutions invented by men. Human sexuality is more than simple recreation or a means for having babies.

If you want to get marriage is because you love your partner accepting her with all her defects, that means also her past. And you never have to have a thought of reward, always there will be one who loves more than the other, but that doesn’t mean that the person who loves less doesn’t love.

Since the moment you decide to have a girlfriend and also when you get married you stop thinking just about yourself and start thinking about your wife and children.

If you catch your wife or your husband lay with another person, you have the power to stand in her shoes and understand why she is doing that. You have the power of forgiveness.

By discovering your goal in life and giving up self-destructive lifestyles, you will discover that human sexuality is more than simple recreation or a means for having babies.

Sex and love are important things in life but there are more important things in life.

Having a clear purpose in life and knowing that life is so short, you will discover that human sexuality was designed to be a wonderful relationship enjoyed in marriage. If you want to change your life and discover how to have a committed, lifelong, loving marriage, you must first get off the sexual merry-go-round by realizing what your purpose in life is.

  Where to start in starting over

So now what? Are you to join a monastery and dedicate you life to a dreary state of abstinence? Think about this: Many of us spend 12 years going to school, and often an additional four to eight years learning a career. What if you dedicated just a fraction of your time preparing for marriage? Most people get married with more knowledge of how to take care of a pet than of how to have a successful marriage!

Successful lifelong marriages don’t happen by accident. And a successful marriage not only affects your and your spouse’s happiness, but the happiness of your children. The primary cause of poverty in the western world is single women trying to raise children without the benefit of dad.

You can stay on the sexual merry-go-round if you wish. And maybe you’ll avoid getting AIDS or gonorrhea. Maybe you won’t get pregnant. But the unseen emotional scars are just as devastating. Too much heartache, too many casual encounters, too many morning-after anxieties, and a persona can feel almost emotionally incapable of experiencing a meaningful relationship.

The only safe sex is between a husband and wife committed to each other in a lifelong relationship. In today’s society that may sound trite, but remember that you can’t solve your problems with the same old solutions or you’ll simply arrive at the same old problems.

You can make changes

If you want to experience a lifelong, loving relationship, then you’re going to have to do some things differently in your life. Get off the sexual merry-go-round. Discover your purpose on earth.

If you’re struggling with the guilt of abortion, heartache from living a wrong sexual lifestyle or the shame of having as STD, your life can change.

Renewed virginity isn’t just a quaint, unrealistic catchphrase. You must accept that your lifestyle has been self-destructive and against your real purpose.