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Nov 6, 2006

My adopted step-sister attends a church preschool. She will be 5 in December, and is attending not only this year, but she also attended last year as well. A few weeks ago one of the preschool teachers and one of the parents ended up in a confrontation in the gym. The confrontation started as "a few words" and ended up with the parent becoming increasingly belligerent. The crux of the incident took place when said parent spat in the teacher's face, and the teacher snapped and her fist connected with the unruly parent's face.

My "step-mother" volunteered to stand in for the teacher as she turned in her resignation immediately following the confrontation. The minister was very pleased with my step-mother's willingness to stand in, and he was even more impressed with her ability to work with the kids. He had her placed on substitute pay, placed "on call" for any emergencies, and offered her the opportunity to take the position full time. She politely declined the invitation to take the position full time for the duration of this school year, but said that she would consider it for the subsequent year. The minister said that he would bring it up to the church committee, and let her know as soon as possible.

Now, my step-mother and my father are not married. They have cohabitated for around six years, and in this state all one needs to do is to cohabitate for six months before you are considered "common law married" under the state law. My step-sister is not my step-mother's child, nor is she my father's child. The truth of the matter is that she belongs to my step-mother's brother and his wife. When she was a few months old, she was taken in the ER by the state where she and her natural parents resided, and my step-mother ran to answer the call for someone to care for the child. She had been "knocked off of the sofa by the dog" and suffered several compound fractures to her legs, ribs, and even to her skull. At seven months this child was in a full body cast. The state awarded custody of my step-sister to my step-mother, and she's been part of the family ever since.

The church committee had a meeting to go over what to do about the parent-teacher incident, and who to get to replace the teacher. The minister brought up my step-mother and how well she was doing with the children, but the committee voted against her saying that she was an unwed mother who was living with a man, and that they didn't want that image portrayed as acceptable by their church.

The pastor was infuriated, and he remained upset when he explained to my step-mother the reason for not getting the offer for a full time position with the preschool. My step-mother became infuriated and told the minister that no one knew whether or not she and my father were married, that they had just assumed, and then she told the story of my step-sister.

The minister was even more upset after finding out the truth about my step-sister, and her rescue from abusive parents by my step-mother and father. He stated that he was ashamed of his congregation for judging, and that they - meaning those who voted against her for their assumed reasons - would be judged twice as harsh by God since she (my step-mother) was, in fact, doing the work of God.

Now, I am not an overly religious person. I am not Christian, but I do not criticize Christian beliefs and standards. What I do criticize, however, is the hypocrisy that has been demonstrated to me time and again by "followers" of the Christian faiths. The bible states to "judge not, lest ye be judged yourself," yet so often the Christian church, or followers, preach this, but judge others and push out those who do not fit the mold.

My step-mother told the minister that the reasoning was why she quit attending church in the first place, and I said the same to her when she was explaining to me what had happened. The funny thing, though, is that the minister was so infuriated by how the congregation reacted and the judgment passed on my step-mother that he threatened to leave the church.

At any rate, I just found the entire thing interesting. A church's preschool teacher punches a parent after the parent becomes belligerent and spits in her face, my step-mother is allowed to replace said teacher for the week, but she is not allowed to be a full time teacher because she is an unwed mother who is "living in sin."

The world is a crazy place indeed.
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Posted: Monday November 6, 2006, 1:56 am
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