Kicking Away the Corporate Ladder
For a culture that values its freedom, it is odd that Americans view the white picket fence as a symbol of happiness and personal achievement. A fence can serve only two purposes, to keep you in or to keep others out. Both these aims would seem to fly in the face of freedom.
I didn't intentionally set out in life to break out of the American mold. In fact, I worked very hard to create the perfect life for myself. I have a good education, I had my perfect career track, I had a husband in what appeared to be the perfect relationship. He was nice, he was good looking, he was employed, he loved kids and he even got along with my mom and his grandparents practically gave us a house in a high-end neighborhood in the heart of Silicon Valley.
Then I remembered that I had never wanted a white picket fence and 2.3 children, that being on a track to a non-profit Executive Directorship was hella exhausting and that there were a million things that I still wanted to pursue in life.
I found myself constantly looking forward to retirement. It's only 35 years away, I'd tell myself. All I have to do is stay in shape and save money, everything else will fall into place.
Then I realized. Shoot, life is too short to spend 35 years in an American dream that was not my dream. So I quite my job and asked my husband for a divorce. It would have been less remarkable had I been married for longer than 45 days.