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Jan 16, 2013

Fast, good, cheap. You can only pick two.
Jennifer Daniel

The quote that I am posting today is the professional motto of a talented freelance graphic designer and illustrator, Jennifer Daniel, who is used to discuss it immediately and very clearly with her new clients.
They can get from her a service that is fast and good but not cheap, or a service that is fast and cheap but not good, or a service that is good and cheap but not fast. 
It is not possible to have it all. You should know what matters to you and what you can give up.

Sometimes I ask myself if it is not just the same with people: with your family, your loved ones, the colleagues, the acquaintances, the neighbours. Even more if we are talking about a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/longtime companion.

Is it not just the same? 
You can´t have a good relationship with someone without honestly caring and investing energy and passion in it. It can be fast and good, but not cheap. Your "money" is here your attention and your commitment.

Or it can be cheap and fast, but then you don´t have a good relationship, because the foundations are not strong enough and you can´t be sure that the person will be there for you if you need it. 
Or it can be good and cheap, and I mean "easy" with it - because you know each other well and trust is a big part of the relationship - but then it can't be fast, because time is needed, to build trust and value.

We are used to say that something of value is gold, but I would say that a good relationship is more like a diamond, with all its facets and nuances. Maybe diamonds are really a girl's best friends, after all?

Schnell, gut, billig. Man darf nur zwei davon auswählen.
Jennifer Daniel

Das Zitat, welches ich heute ins Internet stelle, entspricht dem beruflichen Motto einer talentierten freiberuflichen Graphikerin und Illustratorin, Jennifer Daniel, die sofort und sehr deutlich mit ihren neuen Kunden darüber redet.

Die Kunden dürfen von ihr entweder einen schnellen und guten aber nicht billigen Service, oder einen schnellen und billigen aber nicht guten Service, oder einen guten und billigen aber nicht schnellen Service haben. Man darf nicht alles haben und man muss wissen, was wirklich wichtig ist und auf was man verzichten kann.

Manchmal frage ich mich, ob es nicht dasselbe ist, wenn es um Menschen geht: mit Eurer Familie, mit Euren Angehörigen, mit den Freunden, Kollegen, Nachbarn. Umso mehr, wenn es um den Freund/die Freundin/der Ehemann/die Ehefrau/den Lebensgefährte geht.

Ist es nicht irgendwie dasselbe?
Man kann nicht eine gute Beziehung mit jemandem haben, ohne sich wirklich darum zu kümmern und ohne Leidenschaft und Energie zu verbrauchen. Die Beziehung kann schnell und gut aber nicht billig sein. "Geld" bedeutet hier eigentlich Aufmerksamkeit und Engagement.

Oder die Beziehung kann billig und schnell sein, aber dann reden wir über keine gute Beziehung. Wieso? Weil die Grundlagen nicht stabil genug sind und man nicht davon ausgehen kann, dass die Person für einen da sein würde, wenn man Unterstützung braucht. 
Die Beziehung kann auch gut und billig sein, in diesem Sinne "aufwandsarm", weil man sich gegenseitig gut kennt und das Vertrauen eine grosse Rolle in der Beziehung spielt. Die kann aber nicht schnell sein, weil man Zeit braucht, und Vertrauen und Wert aufzubauen.

Man sagt normalerweise, dass etwas Wertvolles zwar aus Gold ist, aber ich bin der Meinung, dass eine gute Beziehung mehr wie ein Diamant aussieht, mit allen seinen Facetten und Nuancen. Vielleicht sind letztendlich die Diamanten tatsächlich die besten Freunde einer Frau?

Veloce, di qualità, poco costoso. Puoi sceglierne solo due.
Jennifer Daniel

La citazione che posto oggi è il credo professionale di una grafica e illustratrice freelance di talento, Jennifer Daniel, che è solita illustrarlo subito e in modo molto chiaro ai propri nuovi clienti.
I quali possono ottenere da lei una prestazione che è veloce e di qualità ma non poco costosa, o una prestazione che è veloce e poco costosa ma non di qualità, o una prestazione che è di buona qualità e poco costosa ma non veloce. Non si può avere tutto. Bisogna sapere a cosa si tiene davvero e a cosa si è disposti a rinunciare.

A volte mi chiedo se non sia un po' la stessa cosa con le persone: con la vostra famiglia, i vostri cari, i colleghi, i conoscenti, i vicini. E persino di più in caso di fidanzati/fidanzate/mariti/mogli/compagni di lunga data.

Non si tratta della stessa cosa, in fondo?
Non potete avere una relazione di qualità con qualcuno senza provare un interesse genuino e senza investire passione ed energia. Può essere una relazione veloce e di qualità, ma non poco costosa. Il "denaro" investito in questo caso sono la vostra attenzione e il vostro impegno.

Oppure può essere poco costosa e veloce, ma allora non si tratta di una relazione di qualità, perché le fondamenta non sono abbastanza solide e non potete essere sicuri che la persona vi sarà accanto nel caso ne abbiate bisogno. 
Oppure può essere di qualità e poco costosa, nel senso di "facile" - perché vi conoscete bene e la fiducia gioca un grosso ruolo nella relazione - ma non può essere veloce, perché per costruire fiducia e valore serve tempo.

Si dice di solito che qualcosa di valore è d'oro, ma sono convinta che una relazione di qualità assomigli di più a un diamante, con tutte le sue sfaccettature e sfumature. Forse i diamanti sono davvero i migliori amici di una ragazza, dopo tutto?

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