You have to think twice before you decide to give everything you’ve got to another person. There's a right and wrong way, which we need to take note of all the time. There's really nothing wrong if we give to people, love and trust others and even listen to them. To give, love, trust and listen are four words, which we often do but we sometimes don't realize that we may be doing them in a wrong way where we’re in the losing end. Here's a way to utilize them and at the same time gain a sense of balance when it comes to usage.
Give but Don't Be Used
When we have something in excess, our tendency is to share or give a portion of it to others who don't have it. We give because it makes us feel good. The feeling that we were able to make someone happy is in itself a reward to giving. The other party that obtained our blessings may not look at it in the same way as you do. Their line of thinking may be angled to a different direction other than seeing your kindness of heart. There are those who will take advantage of your good nature and ask everything that they need from you. They will use your kindness of heart to their advantage and to satisfy their greed. We have an old saying, give a man a fish and you'll feed him for a day. Teach a man how to fish and you'll feed him for the rest of his life.
Love but Don't Be Abused
When we love somebody, we tend to forget everything that we ever learned. We sometimes defy logic just to express how much we love another person. Sometimes, the love we give out to another may be much more than the attention we receive. There are people who will love you only because they gain something from you. Without us knowing it, we are being abused already by the person we love. We must learn to sit down and evaluate the situation. We must examine from time-to-time if the emotions that our loved ones give out to us are genuine or not. You must learn to give out as much love as you get. This is the best way to maintain a relationship that's dependent on emotional attachment.
Trust but Don't Be Naive
The emotional attachment we have to a special person will always have an element of trust. To trust someone is to rely on the actions that another person makes that no emotional or physical harm will come to us. To trust without being naive is to make sure we continue to use logic in our dealings with the person who gives us emotional comfort. Be ready with the unexpected. They can happen anytime and be aware that a betrayal of trust will hurt you a lot deep inside. When you see it coming, make the other party know that you have an action plan ready in case that trust you give out is violated. This will make your special someone think twice in case they destroy the trust you give them.
Listen but Keep Your Voice
One of the main reasons why people call make good use of your phone services is because you listen to what they say. They know that whatever they tell you, you’ll pay close attention to every word you say. That's a good sign because that means the other person wants you. Just make sure that the talker is also a listener. You must share your thoughts and he or she must make sure that your ideas are absorbed and accepted. Refrain from talking and listening to people who don't know how to listen. These types of individuals only love to give out what they think but don't give a damn regarding what others say. A strong relationship is built around these words. Make sure that it's always a two way street.