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I heard this message and it opened my eyes. I have known several women who have had abortions, and none of them were happy about it.
I've known three women got pregnant through sexual assualt. The one who did not have an abortion is doing much better than the other two, emotionally.
Serrin Foster makes numerous excellent points in this speech, called"The Feminist Case Against Abortion" that women's advocates would do well to pay attention to. At least think it over.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0fXO8zVRvE or both if you choose to.
My oldest friend was concieved when her mom was raped and while all of the women have lingering emotional trauma to this day, and it has been around two decades or more for all of them, she is the only one who is not debilitated by the memories and the pain. When my dear friend was married, or at any of her birthdays, you would never think her presence in her mother's life was a tregedy. Her mother had good things come out of that exreme tragedy as well as the bad, and both are still with her.
The other two seemed to be okay for years, but the memories of the whole situation came back to them later. Feeling like they had to abort and having the abortion was, it seems, as traumatic as a second rape, at least doubling the intensity of their negative emotions. All they have from that tragic situation is the pain, not only from the rape and the shock of finding out they were pregnant from it, but from the abortion itself and the emotions - the fears that are far worse than actually having the child could ever be - that surrounded it and led to that unfortunate decision.
Neither of two women I've who had abortions are even functional anymore, unfortunately, though initially I guess it looked like they were ok while my friend's mom at first did not seem ok. She healed, to some degree. The other two evidently only buried their pain, "I am going to pretend this never even happened," which doesn't really heal people. I wish it could, but it can't.
These are a few examples of reasons I believe we should help women find alternatives and support them theough their pregnancy instead. There are more options out there than a lot of people are aware of, and pumping all the energy and resources into the most tragic one is not very helpful. If all the time and energy spent fighting for, funding, and promoting abortion were redirected to rape prevention, education for disadvantaged women and their families, rescuing trafficking victims, and other such causes, the women's movement would:
A. gain a LOT more support and
B. actually get something accomplished. I'm tired of seeing the numbers of victims climb. Aren't you?