What is love?
In your relationships do you love another for what they provide you with either mentally, emotionally and/or physically?
If that person no longer provides you with any of the above do you continue to love them?
Is it love that you feel for them or gratitude for having your needs met?
Have you ever loved another simply because they exist, that they are? Someone who can give you nothing in return or meet any need?
Did you have children to meet your own needs? To have someone there to take care of you in your old age? So you wouldn't be lonely? So you would have someone to love you?
It is important to our personal growth that we understand why we do things. What are motivations are. To look at ourselves no matter what we might see and take the steps necessary to become the person we were meant to be. It is important that we be honest with ourselves and with others. That we recognize destructive acts so that we can change those acts into constructive ones that will lead us to wholeness.
We can't have lasting change in the world until we start changing ourselves.