I am starting to realize the difference of what it all means.
For me, Its like,  infantile love versus Spiritual Love.  
There are many forms of Love.  

We all have an inner sense of perfect love, for the human heart is a direct channel through which absolute love enters this world.  At the same time, human relationships are imperfect expressions of love. This creates a painul gap between absolute love--- "the perfect love we can know in our heart and spirit;  and "relative love"---the imperfect ways it is embodied in our relationships.  In childhood, these imperections give rise to a universal human wound--- a mood of unlove---the sense of not feeling loved or lovable for who we are.

When we imagine that relative human love should be somethign it is not-- absolute and unwavering---we wind up distrusting love and h9olding grudges, and grievances against others for not loving us in the way we need...or in the way that is    "right".   And even though we may hunger for love, we often wind up pushing it away or refusing to let it in because we do not trust it.  In this way,  our mood of unlove lies at the root of most relationship problems.

We allow ourselves to be hurt.  We allow ourselves to have triggers.  No one else has the power to hurt us or  "be a trigger" for us.   The triggers are already there from the past.  The hurt is already there from the past.
Wayne Dyer  believes true forgiveness and seeing beauty in everything is the only way we can achieve a sense of peace ,bliss and everyday joy. 

Mr. Dyer bases his belief based on The Course of Miracles.

To move away from  the infantile form of love which resonates with the vibration of  " I love another because I want to love and be loved"     to
a more Spiritual Absolute love of  " I love because I AM love" .

Once you have established a sense of peace and learn to really forgive by honoring the lessons from past experiences-- you will be free.  Free to dance with love.  Free to see beauty in everything!   Wouldn't it be great to see beauty in everything?!

My perception is begining to change in life.  It wasn't until recently that I became aware that different forms of love actually existed.    It sure does explain alot!    and it wasn't until about a 3 years ago  that I still held onto  the emotions of feeling victimized, hurt, betrayed, unsupported by my family, and grudges.  I thought i had forgiven time and time again....but i guess it was only superficial layers.  Different layers of course.  
But then,  I met Amma and hugged her in 2004.  I did not notice any immediate difference.  But something sure did happen.  It wasn't until 3 days after being hugged by her that my heart opened up to compassion and empathy on a much more deeper level than ever before.   I was able to embrace those on a deeper level than I ever had before.  I was able to move to the next level of forgiveness and discovering what it really means to Forgive.   Of course, all of this was a process  but it was the begining of a hudge shift of my understanding of Absolute Love versus relative love.

Before,  I didn't love myself. I thought i did, but didn't.  I was still relying on others to love me in order to feel lovable.   I was insecure.  A ego who had allowed myelf to be victimized by others and depended on others.   I saw beauty in lessons learned  from hard challenges or at least tried too--but I did not see beauty and was not joyous  as I am today.

Today was a beautiful day !   I drove down a country back road  and I saw 8 hawks, 3 flocks of deer,  5 dogs with their head hanging out the window ever so happily,  4 horses hanging their heads out their windows,  and many cows.   I merged with the animals!  I even got the pleasure of seeing the techniques of how a cow "released a bowel movement".  I actually smiled while getting a glimse.  I was joyous.  I felt both grateful and thankful to be on this planet during this lifetime and allowed myself to merge with Divine Spirit and expressed my gratitude.

I dont love in order to be loved or to feel love anymore.  I attract loving vibrations , and loving beings because I AM LOVE. 

Though i dont like to use the word , God as much as I do Universal Spirit or Divine Spirit... I will use it because many others can relate to what I am about to say.    If everything that God made is good,  how can the concept of evil even exist?  How can hurt be bad?    And if God means Good and God is Love...  then to know Love is to know and dance with the Divine.    So to allow yourself to reach the point where YOU ARE LOVE-- all the hard times will be insightful and transmuted to good and it wil be easier to Forgive.

If it is too hard to forgive, dont fret.  Its an intense process. One that never stops.  And one that touches on so many levels.  But at least you clicked on this blog!  At least you want to achieve that state of peace, joy and bliss.  At least you are questioning what love means for you.   So therefore,  You are ON your way! 

Just try not to let Fear get in the way or stop you! Fear does stop people! Freezes them up.   There are really only 2 primary emotions in the universe  I feel;  Love and Fear.  So anytime  one feels anxius, insecure, worried, angry or resentful, you have left Love and entered Fear. 

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