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"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing." ~George Bernard Shaw

Do you ever find yourself wondering what other people think about you? Perhaps you may notice that your mind may tend to be a bit obsessive and compulsive about certain thoughts, beliefs, and opinions that others may have about you. This can occur when you meet someone you look up to and you want to create a good impression. You want them to like you, think highly of you, or perhaps not think negatively of you because of one small and simple reason. You believe that if they like, love, or approve of you, then you will be safe, loved, free or O.K.

?If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.? ~Wayne Dyer

Do you really need other people's approval, acceptance, or appreciation first before you can give it to yourself? Absolutely not! Who you are is the energy and consciousness of love itself, and once you consistently realize this and openly shower this love upon yourself and others, you'll be free from everyone's opinions forever. Your ego was "programmed" by society to need approval, acceptance, and appreciation from the outer world. It hasn't realized that there is an infinite source of love beneath it at your core, and that you can have access to it at anytime. The ego is a very ironic creation. It's about as real as your own shadow, and yet we build our entire relationships around its illusionary reality. As soon as you commit to the lightness and openness of your own being, the ego is no where to be found. What's the worst thing that could happen if you decided to let go of other people's opinions about you and choose to love yourself JUST AS YOU ARE 24-7?

One of the greatest secrets to transcending this game is that other people's opinions of you are only a reflection of what they see (or don't want to see) about themselves. Everyone is a mirror for each other. Their beliefs about you are a deep unconscious projection of themselves onto you, just to avoid looking inside themselves. So help out your fellow human and give them their projections and opinions back to them! For 2007 don't take on ANYBODY'S projections or opinions about you! Stop the relentless ego from scheming to get others to like you, and instead just practice loving yourself as you are. Be unguarded from their opinions. Let their opinions form freely, and honor that their beliefs are truly limiting thoughts about themselves in the end.

"As I grow older I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do." ~Andrew Carnegie

Another secret to dissolving this old unconscious ego pattern is to deeply look within and truly ask you, "Why do I really care what others think of me?" Is it because if you don't care, they may not love, respect or want you anymore? If that's true, then their love is not unconditional love from their heart. If you care too much and become afraid of making others angry or upset with you in some way, you have signed up for prison and have taken a vow to not freely speak your truth. Notice if you are hiding behind any walls of fear, and start being radically honest with others today! If you feel stuck with taking this leap of faith, imagine what your face will look like after 20 years of hiding. Then, imagine seeing your face after 20 years of expressing your divine brilliant light that has melted through your ego.

By caring "too much" about what others may think about you, you are wasting precious time which could be spent loving and accepting you just as you are. The next time you find yourself psychically reaching out to see what someone thinks about you, simply ask yourself, "What opinion do I really want to have about me?" Then, become like a hollow flute and let their beliefs (positive or negative) flow right through you. Doing this action repetitively will allow you to truly step into your power and become the radiant divine being that you are, naturally being a guide on the path for others to follow.

"All know the way; few actually walk it." ~Bodhidharma


Many blessings to you.

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