Parenting the Psychic Child

    I'm anxiously seeking as much information as possible regarding
the Indigo children. My 4 children, especially my 2 oldest children
have been telling me things for years now that my own imagination is
quite limited to understanding.  In the past as most parents, I simply
discarded their statements as over active imaginations. I feel that is
no longer the correct means to support my children, whom are so admit
regarding the events that have occurred in their lives.   Totally in
shock at this all, I am now looking for research to help me as well as
my children into a higher understanding. What do you suggest?
Sincerely, Tina, Mother of Four

There are a number of good books on the market about Indigo Children;
two are The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children by Doreen Virtue PhD
and Jan Tober ISBN: 1561708461 and The Indigo Children: The New Kids
Have Arrived by Lee Carroll, Jan Tober ISBN: 1561706086.  Both of
these can be very helpful. You'll find lots more listed, along with
links to other useful sites on our Resources pages.

There are also a number of sites and discussion groups on the web for
Indigo kids and their parents, so keep shopping and you'll find some
other resources.  In the meantime, my best suggestions are:

   1.

      be an observant, aware and alert parent - keep a journal of what
you notice coming from your children - record their dreams and
thoughts, any unusual experiences - and review the journal regularly.
This will help you to tune into their symbology and also help you to
figure out how to help them... over time you will notice patterns and
so on that will be meaningful and then you can help the kids to
understand what is going on for them...
   2.

      Be an active listener for them - what I mean is, when they come
to you with a story or an experience, ask probing questions to help
them assimilate and understand what has happened, eg start by saying
something like, "isn't that interesting, and who else was with you?
what time was it, did you get a sense of the season? where were you?
did you smell anything? what colours did you notice? How do you know
that, dear? where did you hear/learn that? what makes you say that?
what else did you see, feel, notice?" questions that express interest
and acceptance and at the same time help you both to dig a little
deeper into what is going on.
   3.

      Avoid "performances" - ie don't put your kids on the spot by
asking them to make predictions, do healings or see past lives, or
whatever for your friends, guests or whomever.... And if they should
see something spontaneously, teach them to be respectful about their
gifts - one way this manifests is that we don't tell folks stuff  or
do any work on them without asking their permission... anything we do
in the spiritual realms must be "for the good of all, according to the
free will of all" - the only exceptions is when there is some danger,
and then we have an obligation to speak to help someone to avoid harm.
   4.

      teach them to eat naturally, and to live balanced lives - lots
of sleep, healthy play, lots of good time in nature, with animals and
peers... connecting with nature and with animals will help your kids
to stay grounded - and will also help them to connect with their gifts
and even practice in ways that are easy and fun... teach them to talk
with the trees and the rocks in your garden - they probably already
are talking with them, but may not understand how closely connected
they are with the elements of their world.  Eating natural foods - no
processed stuff, low on sugars and simple carbohydrates, little soda
or junk food, lots of fruits and veggies, whole grains, this will make
sure the kids are strong physically and can handle the energy they are
running - as we raise our vibrational frequencies, we need to be very
careful of our diets, some foods just don't agree with us... in fact
you may find the kids have a variety of allergies... you can avoid
some of these problems by eating right and staying with natural foods,
whole grains, fresh veggies and foods, home baking instead of store
bought treats... Avoid drugs, as much as possible, seek natural remedies.
   5.

      teach them to ground - Try to keep the environment happy, lots
of colour, plants, living things, except around the sleeping area
where they needs tranquility... try also to live close to the ground,
this will help the kids to stay grounded...  keep the environment
natural, warm and comfortable and organized - have some stones and
crystals around.... that may seem like an odd suggestion, but for
these extra sensitive kids, an organized home and life is
comforting... and the stones help them to tune in...  their minds are
absorbing a lot more information than ours may be, and they are
sensitive to the energy associated with confusion... having things
organized around them also helps them to organize the information they
are receiving more easily. Sleep is also very important to these
Indigo kids, but they may not need a lot... what they need is quiet
time, a space to chill out and sort out all of the energy they have
been exposed to in a day... if they can't sleep, they can read
quietly, listen to some good music, draw... any quiet contemplative
task that will enable them to relax and process some energy.  I urge
parents to insist on at least 10 hours of down time every day for
these kids... if they don't want to sleep, then they must learn to
meditate and relax in this time, to read, write, draw, sing - yes,
sing, that's good for the soul and can help these little ones to focus
their minds so they can finally relax. But they must stay in their
rooms for this time, no radio, TV or other toys... (I exempt dolls and
cuddly things from the no toys rule in this quiet time) they need this
quiet time desperately to recharge, and also to assimilate what they
are sensing and feeling in a day.
   6.

      Be knowledgeable yourself - invest some time and energy in
learning about the psychic realms, creation philosophy, mediumship,
interdimensional communications, astral travelling, out of body
experiences, ghosts and spirits. Be prepared to answer questions
honestly - and even more improtatnly, to be able to relate to your
child's experiences and help them to make the most of their gifts.

From there it's up to you... I would encourage you to get these kids
involved in a meditation class - this will help them to work with
their abilities, no matter what they are.  There is a growing number
of books targeted to the Indigo Kids, books that will help them learn
some of the basics, the values that are necessary and also to explore
their abilities.

In your shoes, I would be taking as many classes and reading as much
as I could about being psychic and mediumship and metaphysics in
general - study quantum physics especially and learn about how we
create our own reality... And you will all need to study the symbols -
eg the nature symbols and colours that come as messages... there are
lots of good books on these... Ted Andrews' AnimalSpeak will give you
a good dictionary of many nature symbols, insects, birds, animals...
by being knowledgeable and understanding yourself you will be a good
guide for your kids.

You want to allow their gifts to develop naturally, at a pace that
they can cope with... and at the same time, you must teach them
appropriate values - compassion, acceptance and responsibility - in
order for the kids to make the most of their gifts.

Otherwise, remember that these are kids still, special kids maybe, but
ordinary kids all the same... what they need most is love and a
nurturing environment in which to grow and build on their natural
talents... no different from a talented ball player or a young
musician... So, I do hope that helps. Lotsa LLLove, Danielle

    I am the mother of an incredible 3 year old.  I've always known
she was special, people are drawn to her.  Her life has been in
turmoil lately due to my separation and now divorce from her father.
On a particularly bad day in July, our car broke down at the shopping
mall and while we were waiting for a tow truck we met a very
interesting woman.  My daughter greeted her as she was entering the
mall.  The woman approached us and started to inform me that my
daughter was an "Indigo Child" or "Child of the New Dream" because of
the blue in her aura.  I found this very intriguing.  Because of what
had been going on in my life I had been looking for a lot of spiritual
guidance, signs, and meanings in the things around me.  The most
comforting thing she said was my daughter was put here to  teach her
parents lessons.  This information was helpful to me regarding the
decision to divorce her father.  Because of the circumstances in our
marriage, it would be a considerably b!etter for her if we did not
live together, which I prayed and struggled with for a long time.  I
would love to find out more about "Indigo  Children", I have purchased
the book by Lee Carroll and Jan Tober.  Now that we are getting into a
new routine, she is not so angry and returning to herself.  I would
love information on how to best parent and nurture her gifts.  I do
believe what this woman said, my daughter is quite perceptive, caring,
and radiates from within.  I wasn't sure what to do with this
information, it's nice to just tell someone. Yvonne

Well my dear, you have a special little girl with you, and I sense
that you are being guided in the ways of doing the best you can for
her...recognizing the effect of your personal life on her is a
critical first step in creating the right kind of environment for
these especially sensitive kids... as you have discovered she will
quite literally bounce off the energy that you are putting out... she
loves you very much, I sense a very old bond and a deep trust between
you - that also bodes well for your future. But it can make life
difficult in the short term since she will invariably react to your
moods, problems and issues... in the midst of a tough time, she will
hold her own as her way of doing what she can instinctively to keep
things together and to balance the energy around her, but then she
will have a breaking point, typically when things are starting to
settle out and it is clear what the new direction will be... as long
as you continue to be sensitive to her, you can help her through them
- just don't get caught up in any guilt trips, won't do either of you
any good... and you must understand that this little one chose her
circumstances, her parents and lifestyle very deliberately to help her
achieve a specific purpose in this life... she has a purpose in
experiencing this divorce with you... time will tell what it is.

Despite her brilliance, as my mother often reminded us (I am the
eldest of 6 and have 16 nieces and nephews, several of whom are likely
Indigo Children), you must remember who the parent is... do not let
her specialness change the way  you live with this little girl except
in the ways of helping her to stay open and to grow in whatever gifts
she may have...  Lotsa LLLove, Danielle

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