Sometimes, I can not believe the things that I learn in life! Why is that your family will get you every time? Family is supposed to have your back. They are supposed to be there for you when no one else is. Not everyone is lucky enough to have that fairy tale.
Truth is, for those of us who have been victims of CHILD RAPE( molestation) there are times when the family battlelines are drawn and you come out on the losing side(or winning, depending on how you see it). I do not understand for the life of me how any parent can hear their little one talk about their abuse and either pretend that it did not happen or they do not believe you. For many people, they do not talk about their abuse until YEARS after it happend, but that does not mean they are not a victim of Child Rape.
Yes, the leagal term for it is Molestation. But the truth of it is this....the assailient is forcibly taking something sexual that was not theirs to take. Forcibly taking through threats or physical harm is stil the same as rape. Children do not have the age of consent to say yes! Children do not have the maturity to know in most cases that threats are just that. Threats. In some case, real physical abuse is present. So, lets do away with the nice word to cover up a sick, vile crime. IT IS CHILD RAPE!!!!
I am tired of reading about little girls who have been stollen and raped. I am tired of knowing that when children tell their parents they are either not believed or are made to feel that they did something to encourage it. Most of all......I AM SICK OF HIPPOCRACY! "Family First", "Family is support when know one else will......" BULL CRAP! I know that may be true in most homes and families.
However, in the family of a Child Rape victim, the family is often shattered. It often comes down to the person who has been injured being ostrasized from thier family. Many times, removing all contact and leaving them alone. Because you can not believe that "Uncle Chester" would do something like that..... Or that the VICTIM is embarassing the family by talking. HELLO PEOPLE!
We (I) live in pain EVERYDAY because of my molester, because in my "loving family" I am the one who is on the outside looking in. I am the one that got drove away. There are neices and nephews and cousins that I have never met. In my molester brother's case....he told his kids I was dead! I no longer remember what my own family looks like. There are no picnics, family vacations, etc...for me. There is only lonliness.
Where is my support? Where is my love? Where is my family? I wish that I could visit upon him one 10th of the emotional pain that I have gone through because he thought it was ok to do what he did. But I would not visit this pain on even an enemy.
If you get nothing out of this share, please get this....If your loved one tells you that they have been messed with. Do not turn them away. Child Rape is not something that "just goes away". You do not simply "get over it" or "move on". It is with you for the rest of your life. It's evil colors your world. I had no self esteem as a child and thought I was worth nothing because of what someone chose to do to me. Those feelings colored my life for many years. Do not turn them away....they are going to suffer enough.