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according to Wikipedia
Clutter may refer to Excessive physical disorder: A confusing or disorderly state or collection; or the creation thereof. Excessive, unnecessary or uncontrolled clutter can be a symptom of compulsive hoarding.
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Quiz: Does Clutter Control You?
-by Melissa Breyer from Care2
Is there a stack of mail teetering toward a disaster on your counter? Do you have stacks of magazines from the 1980s that you haven’t looked at since? Find your clutter quotient with this quiz from Unclutter Your Home (Storey Publishing, 1999) by Donna Smallin.
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The Psychology of Clutter
by Heather Grimshaw,
The Denver Post
."People turn physical objects into magic talismans that connect them to memories (and) better times in their lives."
"Your home should be your sanctuary, your buffer against the world. It is torture if you're living in chaos."
(Regina Leeds, "One Year to an Organized Life")
.Getting organized may have more to do with psychology than piles of possessions...e.g. low self-esteem, an inability to make decisions...guilt, grief and attachment are common motivations for retaining old things well past their expiration date...clutter can be indicative of underlying psychological issues.
."It can be an obsessive disorder in which the person is immobilized in terms of action... I think there is a great fear of making a decision that could be wrong, of feeling something like regret or loss or guilt about getting rid" of things."
(Elizabeth Robinson, a psychologist in Denver)
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Home Clutter Mirrors Blocked Chakras,
by Phylameana lila Desy, About.com
A person does not have to look beyond his own home environment to discover which chakra centers may be problematic or blocked. Hoarders are especially at risk of a complete chakra system shutdown.
Chakra blockages are often mirrored by the state of disarray in the various rooms in your home...a messy or disorganized kitchen could reflect a heart chakra imbalance; a cluttered den or home office may indicate mental confusion or lack of focus; a dusty or unorganized master bedroom can affect your love relationship negatively.
Rooms and living spaces that typically represent the major chakras are:
 • Crown Chakra:......Attic, Roof
 • Brow Chakra:........Den, Home Office, Windows
 • Throat Chakra:......Living Room, Family Room
 • Heart Chakra:.......Kitchen, Dining Areas
 • Solar Plexus:........Bathrooms, Personal Spaces
 • Sacral Chakra:......Master Bedroom
 • Root Chakra:........Basement, Crawl Spaces
 • Aura:..................Porches, Decks, Landscaping, Garages
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Mind Map - De Clutter
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Jun 30, 2009

Anger management tips
By Mayo Clinic staff 
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Do you find yourself fuming when someone cuts you off in traffic?
Does your blood pressure go through the roof when your child won't cooperate?
Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion, but learning how to deal with it in a positive way is important. Uncontrolled anger can make both you and other people feel lousy. If your outbursts, rages or frustrations are negatively affecting relationships with family, friends, co-workers or even complete strangers, it's time to learn some anger management skills. Anger management techniques are a proven way to help change the way you express your anger.
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10 tips to help get your anger under control
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1. Take a 'timeout.'
Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting really can defuse your temper.
2. Get some space.
Take a break from the person you're angry with until your frustrations subside a bit.
3. Once you're calm, express your anger.
It's healthy to express your frustration in a nonconfrontational way. Stewing about it can make the situation worse.
4. Get some exercise.
Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.
5. Think carefully before you say anything.
Otherwise, you're likely to say something you'll regret. It can be helpful to write down what you want to say so that you can stick to the issues. When you're angry, it's easy to get sidetracked.
6. Identify solutions to the situation.
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work with the person who angered you to resolve the issue at hand.
7. Use 'I' statements when describing the problem.
This will help you to avoid criticizing or placing blame, which can make the other person angry or resentful — and increase tension. For instance, say, "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework."
8. Don't hold a grudge.
If you can forgive the other person, it will help you both. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.
9. Use humour to release tensions.
Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's can hurt feelings and make things worse.
10. Practice relaxation skills.
Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "Take it easy." Other proven ways to ease anger include listening to music, writing in a journal and doing yoga.
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Getting anger management help
You can practice many of these anger management strategies on your own. But if your anger seems out of control, is hurting your relationships or makes you feel physically violent or destructive, you may benefit from some help. Here are some ways you can get help to keep your frustrations in check:
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See a psychologist or licensed counselor.
Seeing a therapist can help you learn to recognize your anger warning signs before you blow up, and how to cope with your anger. Ask your primary care doctor for a referral to a counselor specializing in anger management. Family and friends also may give you recommendations based on their experiences. Your health insurer, employee assistance program (EAP), clergy, or state or local agencies also may offer recommendations.
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Take an anger management class.
An anger management class can teach you what anger is, how to recognize anger triggers and how to keep your anger under control. These courses can be done individually, with spouses or families, or in groups. In addition to the search methods for a psychologist or counselor, you can find organizations offering anger management courses on the Internet and through your district court.
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Read a book.
There are a number of helpful books on anger management. A number of them focus on particular situations, such as anger in teens, anger in men or anger in couples. Many of them are workbooks, with exercises that teach concrete skills.
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Anger and irritability can be signs of an underlying mental health condition, such as depression or bipolar disorder.
If your symptoms don't improve, or you have signs or symptoms of anxiety or depression, see a mental health provider for help.
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Jan 20, 2007

HHDL: Buddhist Psychology

According to Buddhist psychology, most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for, attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities. The pursuit of the objects of our desire and attachment involves the use of aggression and competitiveness.These mental processes easily translate into actions, breeding belligerence. Such processes have been going on in the human mind since time immemorial, but their execution has become more effective under modern conditions. What can we do to control and regulate these "poisons"-delusion, greed and aggression? For it is these poisons that are behind almost every trouble in the world.

-His Holiness the Dalai Lama

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