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Jul 17, 2006
Hi, everyone,

My poor neighbor is severely disabled &, thank God, her daughter has moved in to help.  This poor woman has no family but 1 of her daughters (1 daughter refuses to stay in contact with her family, the other is money-hungry & treated her mother & aunt like s**t, & her husband died long ago).  Every night, my sister & I have been going over to help get her into her bed, but that's not enough.  This poor lady & her daughter are very lucky that we have been home & that we both don't have jobs to go to at this point, but we feel that she should get a live-in nurse & a Hoyers lift ASAP.  God forbid we are not home or not able to go over there-what would they do?  A nurse does come over during the day when the daughter is at work, but she won't be there for long because her job gives her no benefits & she has 2 children to take care of.  They need all the prayers they can get!  Please pray that my neighbor gets better & that they get the live-in nurse & Hoyers lift.  I am so afraid that I'll hurt her when I help her daughter lift her into her wheelchair & then into her bed (she has a pick line in her arm...I think that's what it's called).  There have been several times where she called for us to help her get her mother to her potty.  If we weren't home, she would've been in a horrible position.  Not only is this poor lady physically disabled, she is also schizophrenic & possibly bipolar.  She does not want to stay in the hospital (who can blame her? I know I wouldn't!), so her daughter had to promise to get her a hospital bed with rails on the side so she doesn't fall out.  Her mother hates it & she doesn't understand that this is necessary for her safety & the agreed upon compromise so she could go home.  The poor woman sometimes doesn't recognize any of us & thinks she's a little girl again. 

She needs to have at least 2 people that are guaranteed to be there.  I think her daughter is not really being active in getting a live-in nurse & the Hoyers lift because she assumes we're home all the time.  I feel bad saying this, but we can't be there all the time, we also have our responsibilities & it makes me think she's taking advantage of us.  As far as I know, money is not really a concern (which is such a rarity, they're very lucky), but what if my sister & I get jobs that require us to work nights?  The daughter has always been very pushy & is pestering me to go to college.  What if I'm working & going to college?  My sister can't do this alone; even though this woman is considered light, because she can't really move, she's like lead.  I'm sure that everyone understands how frustrating it is to deal with all of this-I can barely imagine what the daughter is going through.  The mother has even gotten violent towards her day nurse, her daughter, & my sister (she can't do much because she's so weak) because she forgets who everyone is & where she is.   Her daughter has gone through some nursing school, but never finished (I'm not sure if it was because of her mother's condition or not), so she knows way more than we would about caring for someone in that horrible state.  Also, they're both allergic to dogs & we & her other neighbor have dogs.  I don't want to add more problems to what already exists. 

Before she got to this bad, we have watched her for an hour or so twice without her daughter being home.  We felt that this is not a good idea, since we don't know what to do if something bad happens & we can hardly understand the poor woman when she tries to talk to us.

I really hope you all don't think I'm being very negative but the bottom line is that she needs a reliable professional or 2 that can be there all the time, a Hoyers lift, & lots of PRAYERS, HEALING LIGHT, & POSITIVE ENERGY!  As much as my sister & I want to help, we are not reliable because we are searching for jobs & all.

Thank you all for hearing me out!  We've been very frustrated & worried about our neighbors' situation.  We've been praying for them every night.

Peace & Love,
Denise
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Posted: Jul 17, 2006 9:32pm

 

 
 
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