6 Reasons Guns Aren’t Like My Gayness

An NRA commentator is claiming gun rights are like gay rights. Put simply, they’re not. Here’s what led to this ridiculous comparison and why these two topics are so very different.

Starbucks recently had to make a little request to customers: that they do not bring firearms into the coffee chain’s stores because, they feel, having to have one eye on the man with the gun while drinking your latte should not be part of the “Starbucks experience.”

Prior to this, the gun lobby had used Starbucks’ uneasy silence regarding gun carrying in store to peddle so-called Starbucks Appreciation Days, where a number of people took pictures of themselves in-store holding their firearms. This reportedly includes a Starkbucks at 34 Church Hill Road,áNewtown, Connecticut — not far fromáwhere 26 people were killed in a mass shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School last year.

To be clear, no employees will force gun carriers to leave; there will be no refusal of service policy beyond what already exists. This is simply a request.

Some gun advocates have said that, while they are disappointed with the policy, they respect Starbucks’ right to deem what is appropriate behavior in its stores. Others have taken it less well.

Most curiously among them is NRA news commentator Colion Noir, who has deemed that Starbucks is “anti-gun,” and that this is the same as being anti-gay because, well, something to do with gayness:

“In the wake of Starbucks coming out of the proverbial anti-gun closet – yes, I said anti-gun – because when you request that I don’t bring my gun with me into your store, that’s an anti-gun stance. Think about it. When you say ‘We’re not pro- or anti-gay but please all gay people – we respectfully ask that you not bring your gayness into the store. I mean, we’ll still serve you, but if you can leave the gayness at the door, we would much appreciate it.’ Now if that’s what they said I highly doubt Tom Ford would go start designing a black Tuscan coffee signature cologne in support of this stance.”

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Regardless of the wider arguments around gun control, I want to nip this one in the bud right now: my gayness is nothing like your gun carrying. Here’s why:

1) My Gayness Never Accidentally Killed or Injured Someone

Eight-year-old Christopher Bizilj accidentally shot himself in the head in October 2008, after he lost control of a 9 mm Micro Uzi submachine gun at a Massachusetts gun show. His father was filming the incident as it happened.

Broadly speaking, cases like this are rare, but people losing control of their guns or guns accidentally discharging does happen with unfortunate frequency, and people do get hurt.

As recently as January of 2013,áat least five people were injured at gun shows, three in North Carolina, one in Indiana and one in Ohio, after guns accidentally “discharged.” Chief among the incidents, a 36-year-old man from Wilmington, North Carolina, whose 12-gauge shotgun went off while he was unfastening the caseáon a table near the gun show’s entrance. None of the injuries were life-threatening.

We also note that Dick Cheney had another firearm related mishap recently, this timeáduring a hunting competition –fortunately no Texas trial lawyers were harmed this time and only Cheney’s pride was bruised.

My gayness, on the other hand, does not discharge prematurely and the medical consensus is homosexuality is not of itself in anyway harmful.


2) My Gayness Was Never Used to Kill an Unarmed Teenager

The Trayvon Martin case, and the (albeit not invoked) Florida stand your ground law are well traveled news fodder. To say that my gayness has never been used to “stand my ground” and kill someone in murky circumstances barely needs to be said.

In fact, my gayness appears far more likely to be on the other side of gun violence, as the worryingly high hate crime and possible hate crime figures coming out of New York this year might serve to demonstrate.

As a note: my gayness isn’t aggressively proud of its infamy, either. George Zimmerman, who was acquitted of second-degree murder and of manslaughter charges in July, unfortunately appears to be. He even recentlyátook a tour of the factory in which his gun — the one used to kill Martin out of apparent self defense — was made.


3) Lax Background Checks On My Gayness Never Led to the Attempted Assassination of a Congresswoman

The name Gabrielle Giffords is known the world over as the woman who survived the 2011 Tuscon shootings perpetrated by paranoid schizophrenic Jared Lee Loughner who, it later emerged, had sought to specifically kill Giffords.

During the incident Giffords, a then Democratic U.S. lawmaker for Arizona, was shot in the head. While six others died from their injuries, Giffords somehow managed to pull through and, despite a prolonged convalescence and an ongoing recovery, Giffords remains politically active despite condescension that her gun control position is somehow exploiting the tragedy in which she as a victim played a central role.

Giffords, it should be noted, has campaigned for control while at the same time being a strongáproponent of the 2nd Amendment.

To the best of my knowledge, my gayness has never been used in an assassination attempt, nor has the lobby backing gay rightsáever used my mental health to deflect criticism about lax oversight or to fight expanded background checks.


4) My Gayness Has Never Killed 20 School Children

We are all familiar with the chilling events that happened in December 2012 that sawá20-year-old Adam Lanza kill 20 children and six adult staff atáSandy Hook Elementary School.

Despite a massive swell of support for gun control measures, and many of the stricter gun control ideas being uncontroversial among a vast majority of voters, Congress’ latest attempt at changing America’s obviously broken gun access and licensing laws failed.

While worryingly broad gun access goes unchallenged, my gayness, meanwhile, is unprotected under federal law and many state laws, meaning children who identify as LGBT are frequently the victim of emotional and physical abuse, and in 15-year-old Lawrence King’s case: execution in the classroom.


5)My Gayness Can’t Kill 12 People and Injure 70 in a Matter of Minutes

July 20, 2012 saw James Eagan Holmes, dressed in tactical clothing and also using tear gas grenades, kill 20 people and injure 70 others at a Century movie theater in Aurora, Colorado, during a screening of the Batman film The Dark Night Rises.

In the wake of this tragedy, serious questions were raised as to why members of the general public needed to have access to semi-automatic rifles and high-capacity magazines like those used during the shooting. A ban was considered by Congress only to be jettisoned with the hopes of rallying support for expanded background checks. That of course also failed.

My gayness has nothing to say about this because there simply isn’t an equivalence. The issue speaks for itself. It isn’t anti-gun to question why civilian needs the capacity to injure or kill so many people.


6) My Gayness Never Killed or Maimed People on a Military Base

The Washington Navy yard shooting perpetrated by Aaron Alexis is of course still fresh in people’s minds. The formeráNavy reservist gunned down 12 people in an attack on one of the US’s biggest navy yardsáonáSeptember 16, 2013. Since then, the picture of a disturbed man who should never have been accepted into the Navy has started to emerge.

There are several other examples of military base shootings,ámost infamous among them the 2009 case of Nidal Hasan opening fire at Fort Hood and killing 13 people and wounding 32 others.

In terms of gayness, it took decades of work to ensure that people like me could serve openly in the military. Until that time gay soldiers had to live a life under Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, quite often meaning that the military would use and then discard them, citing a violation of military rules. Those anti-gay rules harmed soldiers. Gun restrictions prompting gun owners to be responsible harm no one.


Of course this list could go on, noting for instance that four days after the Washington shooting,á13 people were shot at a park in Chicago, among them aá3-year-old boy, but it boils down to this:

There are Constitutional reasons why owning a gun is within the rights of every American citizen. There are also legitimate concerns about the access to, use of and prevalence of fire arms. In fact I would argue, as former congresswoman Giffords has done, that requiring stronger gun control measures is not in fact “anti-gun,” whatever that means. It is, if we want to start making slogans, pro-responsible gun ownership.

Also, just in case the above did not make this clear, being anti-gun or advocating for restricting gun access is not in any way the same as being anti-gay or the harm that anti-gay discrimination causes.

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Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson4 years ago


Kayleigh Harter
Kayleigh Harter4 years ago

What a ridiculous statement. Guns are objects, not a part of a person's identity, and comparing guns to homosexuality is just plain insulting. And honestly, I can't think of any reason anyone would want or need to bring a gun into a coffee shop.

Franck Rio
Past Member 4 years ago

Thanks for sharing information

Heather G.
Heather G4 years ago

Susan T, some straight men have given their partners aids/hiv as well so what's your point??

Feeling the need to carry a concealed weapon into a coffee shop for "self-defense" sounds crazy!! There's a name for it: Paranoia.

"Unless warranted" so you're comfortable with an armed stranger making a split-second decision as to who should get shot, and possible killed, or not??

Susan T.
Susan T4 years ago

a law abiding conceal carry permit holder is not going to kill anyone unless warranted.

crazy people kill people. some gay men have given their partners aids/hiv.

Vicky P.
Vicky P4 years ago

Guns are used to kill, really the only people who should have guns are police. I find the gun loving people really crazy and scary to me, because no other country there are people like this that collect killing machines and have a scary untouchable lobbying group who always seem to win no matter what. Come to your senses and stop this, your guns get smuggled easily into Canada and sorry but we hate you for it, especially in Toronto, where all these illegal guns are connected to the US and their trade. Thousands die in a year from gun violence in the US and this is normal to everyone, media doesn't open it's mouth, the politicians don't scream about it like Terrorism where terrorism kills less Americans in a year than a bloody bathtub! I'm getting sick and tired of your guns USA, do something about it.

ROLF P4 years ago

Just as much as your Gayness frustrates some people your Anti Gun attitude frustrates us. Gay people don't make other people gay and guns don't kill people, so give it a rest. I always feel better in a room full off people with guns, it gives me that warm safe feeling.

Beth D.
Beth D4 years ago

I hope all these gun nuts continue to kill each other off as fast as possible. We don't need this insanity! I don't feel safe going into any establishment that is pro-gun. Who knows when one of them will get it into his head, to shoot something or somebody who he disagrees with? Especially in bar situations! Alcohol and guns have never mixed well. Or in restaurants. I would like to feel safe from fools with guns. Boycott all those places that cater to these nuts. The pocketbook is the only place we can make a dent to get change!

Silvia Steinhilber

The NRA must be getting really desperate.

Robynne W.
Robynne W4 years ago

I agree with this article in general.
But I wish you would leave out the names of the shooters - I would rather NOT give them any of the fame they hoped to gain and remember those who were lost instead. Just my opinion.