Thursday, May 17, is the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia (IDAHOT) and this year Care2 is bringing you personal stories from around the world on the fight to eliminate anti-LGBT prejudice and discrimination. For our complete coverage, please click here.
In honor of IDAHOT, and to follow up on my previous post on bisexuality and homophobia, I’ve decided to tackle a few myths about bisexuality and explain a few phrases that bisexuals everywhere could go without ever hearing again. (And, of course, why we’re sick of it!) I present to you, Care2 readers, 8 Things Bisexuals Hear All The Damn Time.
1. “It’s just a phase.”
This one takes on many forms, including, “I know you’re just experimenting” and the equally-condescending, “You’re just confused.”
All this really reveals is that the speaker is confused about bisexuality. Being attracted to both men and women isn’t confusing at all, unless you’ve grown up being told that there are only two options: gay and straight. It sometimes takes young bi men and women a little time to figure out where they fit in the continuum of sexual identity if they don’t realize that bisexuality is an option. Once they understand the label, things start to make sense. It’s not bisexuality that’s confusing. It’s society that’s confusing.
And it’s not a phase, although most bisexuals will go through periods in their lives when they exclusively date men or women. (And not all bisexuals are equally attracted to both men and women – many favor one or the other, but are willing to date both.) It doesn’t mean they’ve become gay or straight. It doesn’t mean anything, really — just that, for whatever reason, that particular bi person is meeting more women than men they have good chemistry with, or vice versa.
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