Catholic Archbishop Says After Gay Marriage, Polygamy Is Next

The Roman Catholic Archbishop of New York, Timothy Dolan, was one of the strongest voices in the struggle against New York’s same-sex marriage law, and now he’s continuing to speak out, weeks after the legislation was decisively passed.  On his blog, Dolan mused about the pandora’s box that New York thoughtlessly opened when it legalized same-sex marriage.  Today, he writes, by “re-defining marriage,” we are leaving the door open for the state to sanction infidelity and polygamy.

According to Dolan, the Church has issued timely warnings about divorce, contraception, and pre-marital sex, but to no avail.  ”And now we ring the steeple bell again,” he writes, “at this latest dilution of the authentic understanding of marriage, worried that the next step will be another redefinition to justify multiple partners and infidelity.”

The blog post is rife with sexism, fear-mongering and thinly veiled homophobia, and attempts to make a victim of the Catholic Church, which is difficult to buy.  Dolan is clearly smarting after his aggressive denunciations of same-sex marriage failed to stop the bill from passing.  He has also tried, even before same-sex marriage became legal in New York, to shift the conversation from marriage equality to freedom of religion.

Last month, he spoke about the “the presumptive omnipotence of the state” for allowing the possibility of gay marriage to appear, and denounced the  “new religion of secularism that feels it’s going to come to a theocracy and impose its values on society.”  He referenced recent cases in which couples who were opposed to same-sex marriage were denied adoption rights as an example of this new oppression.

Apparently Dolan is still afraid that Catholics will be “harassed, threatened, and hauled into court for their conviction that marriage is between one man, one woman, forever, bringing children into the world.”  This is ironic, considering that the New York Catholic Church is completely willing to reject members of its community for supporting same-sex marriage.  A Brooklyn Catholic school recently refused a donation from a New York assemblyman who has been sending small graduation gifts to the school for decades.  Why?  He voted to legalize same-sex marriage.

Dolan repeats several times that he is not “anti-anybody, but simply pro marriage.”  But his words and actions demonstrate just how out of touch the Catholic hierarchy is with the needs of LGBT Catholics, many of whom are determined to remain in the Church, despite its openly homophobic interpretations of Christian theology.  In a recent piece for the Huffington Post, Catholic researcher Joseph Amadeo calls on gay Catholics to live out an inclusive, loving vision of Christianity, rather than the one espoused by Catholic leaders.  It’s a hard pill to swallow, given the narrowness and absolutism of Archbishop Dolan’s views, but for people who see their Christian faith as a force for good, it’s a brave and ethical choice.

Photo from maveric2003 via flickr.


Annmari Lundin
Annmari L6 years ago

Would be nice if those hate mongerers, that calls themselves the one true religion, could a) reckognize the separation of state and religion and b) instead dive deep into the filth they have accomplished. during their long reign. in the abuse of children. And Dolan should see what has happened in every other region, state, country that have equal marriage rights. None of them are polygamous! This is just sour grapes after losing against justice and equality.

Franco Di Palma
Franco Di Palma6 years ago

Watch the movie, "The Boys of St. Vincent's" and then tell me we should listen to what this guy has to say.

Joseph M.
Joseph M6 years ago

does anyone really care what these men say in the 21st century....?
cheers, joe mustich, justice of the peace, usa.

Pat C.
Pat C6 years ago

Wow, I made a comment for gay marriage and saying polygamy wouldn't follow as the Catholic Church Archbishop said. I received 23 messages with articles attached. You'd have thought I had agreed with the Archbishop. I am a Catholic but disagree with some actions within the Church. I believe in contraception, have from day one and used it, I believe God made gays in His own image just like He did everyone else and was terribly hurt and letdown by the clergy abuse of children. My son is gay. We love him, support him, and have his back. I don't believe being gay is a choice, it is a very hard lifestyle if you want to find a committed relationship, at least in my son's case. So stop the articles. I'm a believer and have already read all the articles. I am also a clinical psychologist so intelligent enough to evaluate and decide for myself!

Lika S.
Lika P6 years ago

I am confused. What does gay marriage and polygamy have in common?

First is two people who want to be married to each other, same as man and woman. The other is a man who wants to have multiple wives. Let me tell you, I highly doubt that most men can handle more than one wife, and it's not just about money, either.

Akmal Pasha
Akmal Pasha6 years ago

Rob wrote in the end:

".....raping captured women, enslaving nonMuslim women for sex (Islam says that's OK)...."

This comes from the story of Banu Qurayza that has no basis and actually originated from Jewish sources. This was already discussed:


Maintaining up to four wives is not compulsory, but if one tries to do that, he is actually committed to providing them with a living, home, maintenance, etc. and look after children. This is more taxing than having casual girl-friends for sex, mistresses, etc without any commitment as in the west. But who is at the receiving end? Women.

Akmal Pasha
Akmal Pasha6 years ago

Rob and Jay B.

... Europe abhors this law but at the same gladly allows that most odious form of animalism according to which a man may have illicit relations with any girl coming across him on his way to gratify his animal passions.”

Akmal Pasha
Akmal Pasha6 years ago

@ Rob and Jay B.

Many people believe that Jesus never claimed divinity (of being God) in the Bible. You can find many lines similar to: "my Father is grater than I". Jesus never said that he is Christian. Did he? Usage of "Father and son" for "God and man" was common in Jesus' time.

Many of the accusations are from hate-websites intended to morally degrade prophet Muhammad.

1) You can find a list of prophets in the Bible who were much polygamous (see Wikipedia).

2) Muhammad's religion is Abraham's religion (Quran) and Abraham was polygamous.

3) The ration of women to men is grater than 1 in most countries. What do you do with the excess women? Same situation in the times of war when there was heavy mortality of men and women outnumbered men.

4) This is from Wikipedia:

According to Qutb in interpretation of Quran: "Slavery was a world-wide structure conducted amongst Muslims and their enemies in the form of enslaving of prisoners of war. And it was necessary for Islam to adopt a similar line of practice until the world devised a new code of practice during war other than enslavement"

Another interpretor has contrasted sexual relations between Muslim slaveowners and their female slaves with the widespread and depraved practice of casual consensual sex in contemporary Europe: “Islam made it lawful for a master to have a number of slave-women captured in wars and enjoined that he alone may have sexual relations with them ... Europe abhors this l

Norma V.
Norma Villarreal6 years ago

When Archbishop Dolan will release the name of credibly accused perpetrators that have been shuffled about the parishes, perhaps I can listen to his objections about same sex marriages.

Samuel B.
Samuel B6 years ago

Isn't it ironic that these religionists (I don't call them Christians anymore because there is nothing Christ-like about them) who preach love and forgiveness one minute are spewing hate the next. Jesus would be ashamed of these people who claim to represent him. It's laughable that someone who protects and covers for pedophiles has the gaul to say with a straight face that homosexuals will be the downfall of civilization. Especially since most of these overzealous homophobes are closet cases themselves.