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British Actor, Singer Admits to Beating Wife, Says “Not Difficult For a Woman to Make a Man Hit Her”

British Actor, Singer Admits to Beating Wife, Says “Not Difficult For a Woman to Make a Man Hit Her”

How can a man admit to punching and slapping his ex-wife, but insist she’s “not a beaten wife”?

Just ask British actor and singer Dennis Waterman.

Waterman has confessed to both slapping and punching his ex-wife Rula Lenska but says, “She certainly wasn’t a beaten wife, she was hit and that’s different.”

Actually, there is no difference.

Waterman goes on to say, “It’s not difficult for a woman to make a man hit her.”

This comment is even more insulting. No-one – man or woman – can make someone hit them. We are all responsible for our own actions and in Waterman’s case it looks like he not only abused his wife, but his daughter too.

To further defend his actions Waterman says the couple was “going through a horrible time and arguing a lot.” Many couples go through rough times, but many don’t resort to violence.

Waterman’s comments get worse if you could imagine.

“The problem with strong, intelligent women is that they can argue, well,” he says. “And if there is a time where you can’t get a word in…and I…I lashed out. I couldn’t end the argument…When frustration builds up and you can’t think of a way out…It happened and I’m very, very ashamed of it.”

He continues, “If a woman is a bit of a power freak and determined to put you down, and if you’re not bright enough to do it with words, it can happen.”

So without the words to communicate with his wife, Waterman chose to punch or slap her instead.

Chief executive Sandra Horley from Refuge, a UK domestic violence charity, has spoken out against Waterman’s actions saying, “I am appalled by Dennis Waterman’s comments about his violence towards Rula Lenska, which trivializes the abuse he inflicted on her. No one can make their partner hit them. However angry or frustrated Dennis felt, he could have chosen to deal with those feelings another way but he chose violence.”

I couldn’t agree more. These comments from Waterman aren’t just insulting to his wife, but to women everywhere who live in fear of their partner’s violence.

What do you think of Waterman’s comments?

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2:18PM PDT on Jul 6, 2012

unfortunately, boys are taught to hit and girls are taught to compete viciously with other women. and this is called "civilization"

10:38PM PDT on May 18, 2012

You mean Dennis Waterman's not a very nice person? Who could have known that? Thirty years ago.

4:02PM PDT on May 18, 2012

Maybe when the arguments started happening more frequently with less and less control, they should have gone to counseling, and avoided the whole *hitting people thing*. just an idea!!

8:14PM PDT on Apr 7, 2012

Hitting his ex-wife was totally wrong. However, he also admitted that he was not intelligible to argue or discuss the whatever issue they were getting about at the time, so he resorted to hitting her. That says it all about him.

4:28PM PDT on Apr 4, 2012

I think Judge Judy said it best.."every third person is an idiot".

2:25PM PDT on Apr 4, 2012

His father must of beaten his mother.

10:49AM PDT on Apr 4, 2012

I have never hit any woman on purpose.

7:18PM PDT on Apr 3, 2012

He is an A** hope he comes back as a woman that someone beats the S**T out of

11:17AM PDT on Apr 2, 2012

Sonia "no one can hit any one'

Wouldn't the world be a better place if we all followed that advice all the time? Assuming that includes shoot, stab, behead, belittle, condescend, ah the list goes one. Physical, verbal, philosophical and religious abuse ought be barred as well. Treat others as they would have you treat them - easy to say, and should be easy to follow. Of course it requires we evolve, that our primitive brain which no longer serves us, evolve from flight or fight, to love and be loved. It'll happen, if our species doesn't kill itself off first. Which it may well do given the state of denial surrounding global warming which incidentally will ultimately cause another ice age, think all 7 billion of us can fit onto the little strips of land that border the equator? Or all 360 million Americans fit into Florida? Things are going to change in a major way, and I'm afraid violence is not going anytime soon. That said, the more progress we can make NOW to making it an absolute crime against humanity in every instance, the better off we will all be eventually and women and children NOW. Violence begets violence nothing else and is the last vestige of our primordial selves we need wipe out, before it wipes us out, and to end the daily suffering of women and children, and some men, around the world now.

9:14AM PDT on Apr 2, 2012

I'm sad about this. I used to like Dennis Waterman. I think the worst part is that for years he and his friends made Rula Lenska out to be a liar.

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