How can a man admit to punching and slapping his ex-wife, but insist she’s “not a beaten wife”?
Just ask British actor and singer Dennis Waterman.
Waterman has confessed to both slapping and punching his ex-wife Rula Lenska but says, “She certainly wasn’t a beaten wife, she was hit and that’s different.”
Actually, there is no difference.
Waterman goes on to say, “It’s not difficult for a woman to make a man hit her.”
This comment is even more insulting. No-one – man or woman – can make someone hit them. We are all responsible for our own actions and in Waterman’s case it looks like he not only abused his wife, but his daughter too.
To further defend his actions Waterman says the couple was “going through a horrible time and arguing a lot.” Many couples go through rough times, but many don’t resort to violence.
Waterman’s comments get worse if you could imagine.
“The problem with strong, intelligent women is that they can argue, well,” he says. “And if there is a time where you can’t get a word in…and I…I lashed out. I couldn’t end the argument…When frustration builds up and you can’t think of a way out…It happened and I’m very, very ashamed of it.”
He continues, “If a woman is a bit of a power freak and determined to put you down, and if you’re not bright enough to do it with words, it can happen.”
So without the words to communicate with his wife, Waterman chose to punch or slap her instead.
Chief executive Sandra Horley from Refuge, a UK domestic violence charity, has spoken out against Waterman’s actions saying, “I am appalled by Dennis Waterman’s comments about his violence towards Rula Lenska, which trivializes the abuse he inflicted on her. No one can make their partner hit them. However angry or frustrated Dennis felt, he could have chosen to deal with those feelings another way but he chose violence.”
I couldn’t agree more. These comments from Waterman aren’t just insulting to his wife, but to women everywhere who live in fear of their partner’s violence.
What do you think of Waterman’s comments?
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