Do Arab Men Hate Women? Mona Eltahawy Faces Firestorm

Writer and activist Mona Eltahawy on her release from an Egyptian prison, both arms broken by soldiers during her arrest.

Written by Solana Larsen

Egyptian-American columnist Mona Eltahawy has once again sparked controversy with an article in Foreign Policy magazine on April 23, 2012, entitled Why Do They Hate Us? about discrimination against women in the Middle East. Eltahawy argues that Arab societies are fundamentally misogynistic and that endless abuses against women, “fueled by a toxic mix of culture and religion” take place.

Many Arab journalists, bloggers and activists have criticized the way Eltahawy frames her arguments, and expressed anger at the images accompanying the article of a nude woman in black body-paint resembling a niqab, arguing these are stereotypical depictions of Arab women.

Foreign Policy has since published responses by five commentators.

Eltahawy writes in the article:

Some may ask why I’m bringing this up now, at a time when the region has risen up, fueled not by the usual hatred of America and Israel but by a common demand for freedom. After all, shouldn’t everyone get basic rights first, before women demand special treatment? And what does gender, or for that matter, sex, have to do with the Arab Spring? But I’m not talking about sex hidden away in dark corners and closed bedrooms. An entire political and economic system – one that treats half of humanity like animals – must be destroyed along with the other more obvious tyrannies choking off the region from its future. Until the rage shifts from the oppressors in our presidential palaces to the oppressors on our streets and in our homes, our revolution has not even begun.

In a post entitled Mona: Why Do You Hate Us? Egyptian activist and blogger Gigi Ibrahim writes:

The fundamental problem of Mona’s essay is the context and framework of how she analyzes why women in the Middle East are oppressed and the only reason she could give is because men and Arab societies (culturally and religiously) hate women. This is offensive to most women I know, who read the article and shared the same view. Women in the Middle East are not oppressed by men out of male dominance, they are oppressed by regimes (who happened to be men in power) and systems of exploitation (which exploit based on class not gender). Having women in power in a flawed system will not “fix” the problem either. We had a women’s quota in Mubarak’s parliament, did that change anything for women in reality? It was all ink on paper. Even after revolution, women are consistently used for political grounds by crony political parties. Explaining why women are oppressed without touching on any of the historical, political, or economical aspects of Arab countries, which are not all the same as she tends to generalize in her article, couldn’t be more delusional than this piece.

Hafsa Halawa in Egypt is not completely against the article:

@Hhafoos: Whilst I disagree w her tone & I certainly don’t agree w pictures used, there are facts in Mona Eltahawy’s article we can’t ignore anymore

Syrian-born Palestinian journalist Dima Khatib also takes issue in a post in her blog, Love, Not Hatred, Dear Mona!

We are not weak, Mona, and the Arab revolutions have proved to us that we are stronger than we thought, and the heroines of the Arab revolutions don’t need to be pointed out. I don’t think we need saviors from the hatred and vengeance of our men, especially since the revolutions have proved that we are more than able to stand shoulder to shoulder with men to achieve progress for our societies. Your article paints a picture of the Arab society that matches the images of the article: black, bleak, depressing, a painted black body. You have reduced the problem of the Arab woman to the feelings of men; while she was reduced to pathetic images which perfectly represent the images the West have of her.  Arab society is not as barbaric as you present it in the article, which enhances the stereotype of us in the reader’s mind, and it is a stereotype which is frighteningly widespread, and contributes to the widening cultural rift between our society and other societies, and the increase of racism towards us.

Lebanese-American journalist and blogger Roqayah Chamseddine commented in a post entitled Us and Them: On Helpless Women and Orientalist Imagery:

Not only has Eltahawy demonized the men of the Middle East and confined them into one role, that of eternal tormentors, as her Western audience claps and cheers, she has not provided a way forward for these men. Are they eternally damned? Is this their own manifest destiny, one which has been predetermined at the point of conception? Do they have no way out of the sweeping accusation which brands them as natural haters of women? What of male feminists, are they forever struggling against their innate urge to hate women? Mona Eltahawy has penned both men and women into a non-negotiable situation, charging men with hatred and women with helplessness; and as a woman of colour, of Middle Eastern origin, I will not allow my voice to be co-opted. Mona Eltahawy may be one of us, but she is not “us” nor does she define us.

Egyptian human rights activist Hossam Bahgat tweeted:

@hossambahgat: “Muslims hate their women” is no different from “Muslims are essentially violent”. What a great disservice to our fight

In a post called “I don’t really think they hate us!”, assistant professor of journalism Nahed Eltantawy referred to “the empowered Arab women of the Arab Spring”:

When I look at these Arab heroines, who have made their people proud, I don’t see hate. I see love, compassion and understanding between young men and women who are willing to work together to create better lives, more freedoms and more just governments for everyone. So, to Eltahawy, I say that your column does not represent me as I don’t feel hated. I do have concerns, which might be similar or different to my sisters in Egypt. But I’m confident that whatever social, cultural, political and economic problems I personally face, these are challenges that can be fought instead of simply blaming them on misogyny.

Ayesha Kazmi, who blogs as American Paki, was disappointed at the way Eltahawy’s article spectacularly splintered feminism:

To claim that the “real war on women is in the Middle East” stakes the legitimacy of Arab women in the war against women, that I view as a global phenomenon not unique to Arab women, while leaving millions of non-Arab women, also victims of systemic misogyny, to fend for themselves. Mona has dangerously isolated non-Arab women from a war that is global. If Mona wanted to specifically address the plight of Arab women, she should have done so without appropriating the entire war as uniquely her own. Take the greater Muslim world for example, could she honestly look an Afghani or Pakistani woman in the eyes and read the title of this piece to them without recoiling?

US-based Middle East scholar Shadi Hamid commented:

@shadihamid: Whatever you think abt @monaeltahawy’s piece, says a lot that the very ppl she’s trying to “liberate” seem to mostly disagree w her.

 

Photos of Mona Eltahawy on her release from an Egyptian prison, both arms broken by soldiers during her arrest via twitpic

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153 comments

Annmari Lundin
Annmari Lundin3 years ago

Isn't it interesting to see and read about the different views on wheather arab women have any rights in pst-revolution Egypt and that none of the debaters are made up by any ordinary woman, who was at Tahrir square, who were attacked by men, who were checked for virginity and are still treated as second class because the islamist took over?

Sian R.
Sian R.3 years ago

Kathleen L “if "enlightened" Muslims do not speak out and support the women of Islamic countries, then they are just as guilty of perpetuating this violence and subjugation as those who physically doing it.”
I regularly get press releases from the Muslim Council of Britain. You wouldn’t believe how much and how often thery speak out against such behaviour, utterly condemning it when it occurs. But no newspaper will ever publish it. It’s not ‘sexy’ enough.

Allan Y – “Muslim women are the sat upon, spat upon women of the world. “
Don’t tell my (female muslim) friends that – they’ll sit on you, spit on you, might even sh*t on you.

Sian R.
Sian R.3 years ago

cont ...

Kathleen L “if "enlightened" Muslims do not speak out and support the women of Islamic countries, then they are just as guilty of perpetuating this violence and subjugation as those who physically doing it.”
I regularly get press releases from the Muslim Council of Britain. You wouldn’t believe how much and how often thery speak out against such behaviour, utterly condemning it when it occurs. But no newspaper will ever publish it. It’s not ‘sexy’ enough.


Allan Y – “Muslim women are the sat upon, spat upon women of the world. “
Don’t tell my (female muslim) friends that – they’ll sit on you, spit on you, maybe even sh*t on you.
(And I might even join them).

I spent 40 years of my life fighting for female equality. Now, it seems, I'm fighting against ignorance and Islamophobia. Thank God I'm not in America or I'd have to fight for gay rights as well.

Sian R.
Sian R.3 years ago

Gillian M – “Men are to rub dirt on their hands if there is no water to purify them following casual contact with a woman (such as shaking hands).”
It’s SAND, not ‘dirt’. Sand, unlike dirt, has a cleansing effect. It is used before prayer if no water is around.

Lee H – you don’t seem to know that orthodox JEWISH women also cover their hair. What you think you’re seeing may in fact be a very expensive wig. They are also enjoined to ‘cover their entire bodies’ – as indeed are the Amish.
Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/do-arab-men-hate-women-mona-eltahawy-faces-firestorm.html#ixzz1uCSgwWOr
Honor killings were endemic in (Roan Catholic) Sicily until the middle of last century and still prevalent in some cental Asian countries today..
“Lack of rights to education (in many Islamic countries)” Hardly, since most (Islamic) countries have a higher proportion of female university students.
An epidemic of men throwing acid into women's faces and bodies for any number of transgressions. Happens in too many countries to be specifally a ‘muslim’ thing.
Kathleen L “if "enlightened" Muslims do not speak out and support the women of Islamic countries, then they are just as guilty of perpetuating this violence and subjugation as those who physically doing it.”
I regularly get press peleases from the Muslim Council of Britain. You wouldn’t believe how much and how often thery speak

Sian R.
Sian R.3 years ago

cont ...

Rob & Jay B – “Mohammed said:"…...Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?..This is the deficiency in her intelligenge...a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses...This is the deficiency in her religion." Bukhari 1:6:301”

I doubt very much that he said anything of the kind, as it totally contradicts the Koran, as well as other ahadith.


Error in previous post - I meant to say FG isn't a muslim practice, though also practiced by muslims (and christians, and tribal peoples) in Africa.

Sian R.
Sian R.3 years ago

Pam W says - “IN NO WAY does the situation in the West re: women's rights equal the oppression of the Islamic world.

“If you've never traveled in Islamic countries....you can't imagine it. And…..that's not boasting--it's the truth. Women are nearly invisible in much of the Muslim world, especially outside cities. Their genitals are mutilated, they're denied the most basic of human rights and they have no identity aside from "wife of ____" or "mother of ____."
Well, I’ve travelled extensively – alone – in many muslim countries and have never found women to be ‘invisible’. Quite the opposite, in fact, and I’ve never had problems meeting them or getting involved in quite deep discussions with those of the who speak English (a growing number these days).
Genital mutilation is not a muslim practice – it’s pan-African and is/was practiced by many tribes
As to identity – you’re being very selective. Women generally keep their own surnames, but after otherhood may be referred to as ‘Um – ‘ (‘mother of – ‘. While en who become fathers may be referred to as ‘Abu – ‘, or ‘father of - ’

Rob & Jay B – “Mohammed said:"…...Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?..This is the deficiency in her intelligenge...a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses...This is the deficiency in her religion." Bukhari 1:6:3

Aster C L.
Aster C Linn3 years ago

PS: see: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-dvyKY6Kgbg&feature=plcp

For the first in a series of videos on the underlying CAUSE of women (and girl) inequality; disrespect and abuse.

AC Linn.

Aster C L.
Aster C Linn3 years ago

As it is completely irrational for anyone to 'hate' another human being (or group of human beings) because of their gender, race or skin color.

Yet no one can say that 'women' have not been shown hatred (for centuries) in one form or another by men.

Why? What is the underlying reason or excuse for this? "The first woman was made out of the first man's rib?" And, therefore, she (body, mind and soul) is man's 'possession.' To be used or abused at will? Or, the "first woman ate a forbidden fruit and, in so doing, caused the downfall of all mankind?" When neither of these statements (or beliefs) is TRUE?

No. Women are not only heartily tired of being treated as second-class citizens, but are also going to rise up en masse against abuse and the (ineffectual or non-existent) laws that continue to permit it.

In the meantime, the message to any man who believes he has the right to touch (let alone harm) any woman (or girl) is "HANDS OFF!" (Or else!)

yana dimitrova
yana dimitrova3 years ago

Thank you.

John Duqesa
Past Member 3 years ago

Elaine A

You know the majority of Muslim men then, do you?