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Gay Kiss Gets Player Kicked Off The Team?

Gay Kiss Gets Player Kicked Off The Team?
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A former North Dakota college football player alleges he was kicked off the team not for lying as the official letter of dismissal he was given says, but because he kissed his 65-year-old boyfriend in the press box at a game.

Jamie Kuntz, a now former student of North Dakota State College of Science, was not playing in the Labor Day weekend game when his team faced Snow College in Pueblo, Colorado, because he had recently suffered a concussion — instead, he was tasked with filming the game from the press box, where he had been joined by his boyfriend. Kuntz’ team was losing rather badly. Kuntz was bored, he said, and so kissed his partner. A few of his teammates saw the kiss.

NDSCS Head of Football Chuck Parsons later confronted Kuntz about the incident.

Kuntz told Yahoo Sports:

“He pulls me off the bus to talk to me and he said, ‘What was going on in the press box?’” Kuntz told Yahoo! Sports. “So I was like, ‘What are you talking about? I don’t know what you’re talking about.’ I was playing stupid. And he goes, ‘People said that you were distracting them the whole game.’

“At that point I kind of knew, but when he said the whole game, I felt like he was trying to put the loss on me. When you guys lose by 40 points, there’s no way a distraction like that is going to throw a whole team off in the second half. So, when he said that, I was like, ‘Oh nothing, it was just my grandpa up there with me.’

So, Kuntz lied about the incident, saying the man was his grandfather. He also denied being gay. On the bus ride back to NDSCS, Kuntz sent some messages over Twitter that alarmed his friends into thinking he might be suicidal. They called the police. The police later determined that Kuntz was not at risk. After this, Kuntz says he sent a text message to his coach, coming clean about the incident and confirming what had really happened. He also apologized for lying.

On September 3, Kuntz was called into Parsons’ office whereby Parsons gave Kuntz a letter of dismissal.

Dan Savage writing for The Stranger has seen the dismissal letter. Both the letter itself and what Kuntz says the NDSCS Head said to him are quite interesting:

“He said he didn’t care what people did in their personal lives,” recalls Kuntz, “but it was a big mistake to do that on a football trip. I said, yeah, I made a big mistake and I apologized again for lying. Then he handed me a letter and said he was kicking me off the team because what I did was ‘detrimental’ to the team and I was a ‘distraction.’”

The letter, which Kuntz shared with me, is signed by NDSCS Head Football Chuck Parsons. It reads in part: “The head coach reserves the right to dismiss any team member for any conduct that is deemed detrimental to the team. This includes, but is not limited to, any criminal charges or convictions; violations of school policies, NDSCS athletic policies, or NDSCS Wildcat Football policies… Lying to Coaches, Teachers, or other school staff [constitute a violation].” The letter continues: “This decision was arrived at solely on the basis of your conduct during the football game… and because you choose not to be truthful with when I confronted you about whom else was in the box with you.”

That Kuntz was deemed a “distraction” may suggest this goes beyond that he had lied. The fact that Kuntz was dismissed from the team for this apparent misdemeanor rather than just disciplined also might suggest a bias, especially when squared with the fact that other teammates have, according to Kuntz, done far worse:

Other members of the team, according to Kuntz, have been caught drinking, a violation of team rules; one member, a minor, was detained by the police after being found in a 21-and-over club. Some members of the team have “criminal charges and convictions,” according to Kuntz, both misdemeanors and felonies. Another player had a house party that was shut down by the police in Wapheton.

“Nothing happened to him,” says Kuntz. “He’s still on the team. He played on Saturday. I don’t feel that I should’ve been kicked off the team for this. It was a kiss. It was a mistake, but it was just a kiss. We weren’t making out.”

NDSCS has now responded to the incident.

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8:21AM PDT on Sep 25, 2012

This should be such a non-issue, and is in the younger people. It's just the "Older generation" that has a problem with this behavior.

5:53PM PDT on Sep 23, 2012

My first thought was what if he had been seen kissing a woman? I doubt much if anything would have been said.

6:16PM PDT on Sep 20, 2012


7:49AM PDT on Sep 18, 2012

I have to admit I would think that was distracting too. A very young gay guy kissing a 65 year old??? That is weird, I'm sorry. It would still be weird if they were straight and doing that.

5:54AM PDT on Sep 18, 2012

Elaine: And what if it was a young man kissing his much older girlfriend? Would you still be screaming get a room?

3:36AM PDT on Sep 18, 2012

Thanks for sharing

11:26AM PDT on Sep 17, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

10:21PM PDT on Sep 16, 2012

A kiss, is a kiss, is a kiss. Get over it already.

6:39PM PDT on Sep 16, 2012

Morons. I can't wait for the day when people stop acting like children and stop over-reacting over nothing. I have seen one too many hetereosexual people kissing and feeling on each other, and all this other akward shit infront of me.

6:38PM PDT on Sep 16, 2012

Morons. I can't wait for the day when people stop acting like children and stop over-reacting over nothing. I have seen one too many hetereosexual people kissing and feeling on each other, and all this other akward shit infront of me.

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