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Rapist Gets No Jail Time Because Victim Was So “Inviting”

Rapist Gets No Jail Time Because Victim Was So “Inviting”

The victim wore a tube top, no bra, high heels and plenty of makeup on the night she was raped.

The victim and her rapist both drank plenty of alcohol that night.

She went off into the woods with her rapist. She even kissed him.

According to the judge, she was asking for it.
 
Yesterday, a judge in Winnipeg sentenced a man to a two year conditional sentence with no prison time for raping a woman 5 years ago. The Crown was asking for a three year jail term. However, Justice Robert Dewar believed that rapist Kenneth Rhodes was nothing more than a “clumsy Don Juan” and wasn’t really all that bad, because the victim looked so “inviting.” In sentencing, Dewar said:

“This is a different case than one where there is no perceived invitation… This is a case of misunderstood signals and inconsiderate behaviour…  I’m sure whatever signals were sent that sex was in the air were unintentional.”

But he still took these “unintentional” signals into account when sentencing Rhodes to no jail time for rape.

Dewar is saying that because she wore a tube top, raping her was not that bad.

Because she wore lots of makeup, saying the word “no” when Rhodes tore off her clothes was to be taken less seriously than if she had worn no makeup at all.

Because she had high heels on, when Rhodes violated her, he was deserving of less punishment than if she had worn flat, sensible shoes.

Using this logic, then breaking and entering into a well-cared-for house in an affluent neighbourhood is not that bad, because it’s obvious the house has lots of expensive things in it that are just begging to be stolen.

Using this logic, stealing a BMW that someone had previously given you a ride in is no big deal, because you’d already been invited to sit in the passenger seat.

Using this logic, if you are at a party and enjoying yourself and being friendly with a man you have no intention of having sex with and you are later pinned down, have your sleazy clothes forcibly removed from you by that man, that man who is bigger and stronger than you, and are raped by him, it’s less bad than if that man raped someone who was clothed head to toe in modest, sensible, prim clothing, no makeup, and flat shoes.

Should this be the message we’re sending about sexual assault?  That if you are too tempting, if you look like a slut, that you can’t expect a reasonable man to be able to control himself? That it’s not his fault – it’s yours?

Blaming the victim is a shameful practice, and Justice Dewar should know better. If he does not, then he should no longer be on the bench. Case closed.

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12:41AM PDT on May 17, 2013

Rape was around way before mini skirts!

7:08AM PDT on May 27, 2011

She was a woman that's what made her inviting.

2:25PM PDT on May 22, 2011

If a prostitute says no you're not having sex with me if you dont pay and then you force yourself on her...its rape. No means no! a prostitute has a right to refuse sex. Whether sex is a service or a hobby...its still sex.

12:40PM PDT on May 21, 2011

I don't know all the details either, but could this be a case of a prostitute who said "no" when it became clear that her customer had no intent of actually paying for her services? In my opinion, it may not be rape, but it may be theft of services, which is definitely a crime in places where prostitution has the same legal protections as other legitimate professions!

11:53PM PDT on Apr 27, 2011

I guess none of the recent commenters went back and read previous posts. First of all, this happened five years ago, the supposed victim didn't report it initially, according to the news articles I saw linked, and it suggests that she was quite prepared and willing to have sex based on her behavior up to the last moment and then changed her mind. The consensus seems to be that it's perfectly okay for a woman to change her mind at the last moment and the guy held AS responsible as he would be if he hid in the bushes and grabbed and attacked a complete stranger. I just disagree. The woman MUST hold some responsibility for her own actions.

Trudy, you say that she supposedly said "No" thre times before simply going behind the bushes to pee? That wasn't stated at all in any of the previous articles referred to. Could it be that we are not being told everything STILL, at this point? Why did she remain there after telling him "NO" three times? Why didn't she demand to be taken back to the bar or start walking? Why did she stick around? I'm really beginning to wonder about anything stated as being credible, since the facts keep changing.

7:41AM PDT on Apr 27, 2011

If women are "asking for it" or "leading men on" by dressing sexy, if you think sexy dress makes it more ok to harm a woman and force sex on her, then it must be ok for me to walk around with a baseball bat and every time I see a guy I think is trying to look "tough" with his demeanor or dress it's OK to just haul off and crack his skull, because he's putting the idea in my head that he's into violence and fighting by looking tough. He wants it. I know it's not "pc" but it's just my nature, and guys should know that, it's the way of the world, right? Guys who dress like warriors want war done on them. My baseball bat gets a boner when I see tough guys - how is that MY fault? I didn't make them dress in combat boots or whatever, or flex their muscles signaling (I'm pretty sure) a desire for immediate violent combat. What did they think was going to happen, dressing like that and leading me on? They are asking for it!

2:20AM PDT on Apr 27, 2011

He followed her when she went into the bushes to pee, after she was left at side of the highway. He was rebuffed 3 times before he raped her, and told her it would only hurt for a little while
http://cnews.canoe.ca/CNEWS/Crime/2011/02/26/17418356.html
so how unaware could he've been that it was rape!?

3:59PM PDT on Apr 26, 2011

I don't know enough about this jugde to find him, but there should be a petition to get him removed from the bench! No is just that NO!

2:20AM PDT on Apr 6, 2011

It is OK for someone to change their mind about anything. If someone says no then that is the last word.

As for not adding rapists to the offenders list this man has shown that he has no self control and that he regards his fellow human beings as fair play. Many women who are raped do not need to be forced, or held down - they are terrified and I suppose since women who are drugged do not resist that makes their rape less abhorrent than if they had fought back. Date rape is disgusting and in many instances is premeditated. So please lets not make distinctions and let men who see women as far game think that it is OK because they are not going to pay.

11:08PM PDT on Mar 25, 2011

They had lots to drink, she went into the woods with him and even kissed him!
That is not really what this article is about, is it!
The judge was right but raping is of course a big no-no.
However, did this woman want sex and than changed her mind?

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