Meghan Tonjes is fat and healthy and happy with herself. That combination apparently bothered some people, who then decided to leave nasty comments on her video blog and at her other vlog called Project Lifesize, which she says she created to give women of size room to talk about things other than their weight.
Meghan decided that she had to answer them, and she did it with great style:
She is clearly a well-spoken, smart, talented woman who is on her own path and lives her life for herself. One of the smartest things Meghan says is something that all women should internalize: “Why does it hurt you if I don’t hate myself?”
All women know from a young age that there is a box they are supposed to fit into. Not too fat, not too skinny; not too tall, not too short; not too loud, not too forceful, not too happy but not too sad, not too strong. Women are meant to be whatever men think they’re supposed to be, and if you can’t find a man that loves you then it’s all for naught.
Women exist to be judged, and Meghan Tonjes is making space for herself in that reality: “I’m not offended by you calling me fat, I am fat, it’s okay, we’re still here,” she says, pointing out that she used to be in the morbidly obese category and has actually lost 60 lbs and is healthy at her current weight. “The word fat is not, in itself, hurtful, it’s all the things you attach to the word fat. Call me lazy, call me unmotivated, call me sloppy, call me unhygienic, call me all these other things that people associate with the word fat, that is not true. You never know where someone is in their journey with their weight. ”
Fat can be healthy and skinny can be unhealthy, but that’s not the reality that most people live in. This video should be spread far and wide. Maybe a few eyes could be opened by this strong, self-aware woman.
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