Teen Dating Violence: No Protection For Gays In South Carolina

The “gay-agenda”. You hear that a lot. A gay-agenda, loosely defined, translates as the belief by some Conservative sections of society that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender individuals are attempting to indoctrinate the American people into accepting homosexuality.

If you follow gay-rights topics, you’ll probably hear it on a daily basis. However, I didn’t expect to hear it as part of a discussion on helping parents recognize if their sons and daughters are being subjected to violence by the people they’re dating, but in South Carolina yesterday, Wednesday 13th of May, a bill to formalize policies on teen dating violence that would also aid in teaching parents to recognize the warning signs and seek help if they suspect abuse, drew criticism and sparked debate in the House as to whether gay relationships should be included, or if it is pushing the “gay-agenda” in schools.

The Dating Violence bill would require schools in South Carolina to create a specific policy that would address teenage dating violence and would mean that annual reports would have to be compiled on the subject, as well as new sections being drawn up and added to the school district’s handbook and website, outlining those aforementioned policies as well stipulating rules and codes of conduct to make it expressly clear that this kind of violent interaction would not be tolerated.

Unfortunately, the bill that was introduced by Representative Joan Brady, (R-Richland), was subjected to an amendment by Representative Greg Delleney (R-Chester) who wanted the bill to completely exclude homosexual relationships and instead focus solely on violence in heterosexual teen relationships. The amendment was successful.

Rep. Delleney had this to say about the amendment, “I don’t want the Department of Education or school districts to teach children in grades six through twelve about (same-sex) relationships.” — TheState.com

Others disliking the bill said it was a backhanded way of pushing the gay agenda into schools and would have a normalizing effect. Joan Brady, the original sponsor of the bill, was fine with the amendment, though she did reiterate that she wanted to protect all students, before going on to say, “The predominant occurrence of teen dating violence occurs in girl-boy relationships.”

This is a misnomer; if a predominance of heterosexual relationships are surveyed, the instances of violence in homosexual relationships will look relatively small because the number of relationships is, in comparison, smaller. But taken on its own merit, proportionally, the statistics are roughly always the same, meaning that homosexual teens are just as likely to be abused by their partners.

Add to this the fact that teenagers may not yet have come-out to their parents, there is additional leverage for a controlling partner to further secure their hold on their victims. To not cater for this as part of this bill is a startling thing. The word bigotry is banded around a lot when it comes to people opposing homosexuality, as is the term homophobia. I’m not going to use those words.

Instead, I am going to say that by not including LGBTs in this bill, the words that are being said is that, because objectors do not want homosexuality broached in schools, they are willing to forfeit the well-being of LGBT students in violent and abusive relationships so that they can be seen to be actively resisting the condoning of homosexual people.

This is wrong, and it sends the message to already vulnerable gay youths that society does not care about their welfare as much as it cares about heterosexual teenagers.

Some may say that gay, lesbian and transgender relationships will be covered in the handbook by the catch-all heterocentric approach, but this ignores the very important fact that there are specific issues for young gays and lesbians that are quite separate from those faced in heterosexual relationship, never mind the issues faced by young transgender students.

Overall, this is the equivalent of South Carolina closing its eyes and pretending that, by not naming it, violence in homosexual relationships, and homosexuals themselves, will simply disappear. It will not, they will not, and to pretend otherwise is offensive, but more importantly, it could be dangerous, and the real people that loose out here, are the children of South Carolina.

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Shawn R.
Shawn R.5 years ago


David L Wylie
David L Wylie7 years ago

Tommy H...In your comment you state that 'boys cannot be raped'??? Are you serious? Ever heard of a place called prison? Also, you talk about your sexual abuse from gays when you were younger. Those weren't gays, they were pedophiles. Big difference. Also, you talk about being harassed by gays. I seriously doubt Gay men 'harass' straight men as much as straight men harass women.

Lady Libertarian
.7 years ago

faith.Which in order to move on from it we must acknowledge it.
My favorite saying here in Texas is "Ignorant you fix,but you can't fix stupid!"=)
There just needs to be a more open dialogue between the LGBT community and the Christian community to clear up alot of this nonsense.Other then continuing to point fingers at each other.I guess that is what I was trying to say.=)

Lady Libertarian
.7 years ago

Thank Glenna.I appreciate the response.I have trouble myself staying at a church or finding one that doesn't look at me and my husband sideways for drinking and being tattooed up.I love my God and love my savior. There is just no other way I can be or other religion I can be.And believe I have tried.I understand the feelings of being unaccepted by the Christian community.But what I have learned over the years is it is not Christian.But kinda like you said.A culture that has been entwined in the religion.Which happens with many religions,not just Christianity.Yes,it does say in the bible that homosexuality is wrong.Yes, it does to love the sinner not the sin.This is very true.But for a reason.That Christians should show love to their fellow man or woman no matter who they are or what they are doing.The foul and vile things that happen in the name God are not a true representation of Christianity.It is people to blame for these things, not the religion.Look at Jayy Bakker and his wonderful work with the LGBT community.Although I do not completely agree with him.I support his work totally.If it was Christianity that taught such things then people like him would not exist.People like me would not exist.I see on the conservative sights I have been to and other Left.The those on the left bring up the history of violence and intolerance.It is true but it was not the faith that did such things,it was ignorant and mislead people.On the Right many do not acknowledge the violent past of

Glenna Jones-kachtik
Glenna Kachtik7 years ago

Lady, I guess you are asking if some GLBTQs are responsible for people hating them? While it is true that some people can be their own worse enemies & some Christians are not intolerant and they don't hate; the majority of gay bashing comes from that culture. There are subcultures to be sure: the KKK, the Aryan Nation, the Skinheads - but most in these groups would say that they believe in the bible and they believe that GOD said.
Christians can be a pretty intolerant bunch - for years they sat in their pews on Sunday mornings and found passages in their bibles that supported slavery & the owning of another human being as property; they found passages to support their idea that blacks & whites should not marry and so on. Some could burn a cross on a lawn, kill some African Americans on a saturday and sit on the front pew of the church on
Sunday morning. Now, their targets are gay people. They "love" the person but "hate" the sin; unfortunately with some of them, a little less loving would be welcomed.
Man's inhumanity to man knows no bounds - and I assume that GLBTQ people can fit into that category also. I hope this helps, but I am not sure what you are trying to understand.

Lady Libertarian
.7 years ago

Can I step back a moment and ask just a question. do all who support LGBT rights think that only Christians are to blame for the hate and abuse of the LGBT community? Keep in mind I am looking for merely a healthy a health answer.One that will help me understand something.

Jenny Dunlap
Jenny Dunlap7 years ago

I guess I am going to continue to be shocked by this type of behavior and "reasoning". I have read, quite often, the LGBT push for rights equated to the civil rights movement of the 50s and 60s. In reality, it IS very much the same. LGBT individuals have no choice about their sexuality, just like nobody gets to choose the color of their skin. It is the mistaken belief that homosexuality can be taught or "nurtured" into being that keeps these arguments alive. Ignorance, particularly purposeful ignorance, is the greatest downfall of humankind. Seriously, sometimes I worry about our ability to ever progress with people like this making and passing this kind of crap into law. Ridiculous.

Tommy H.
Tommy H7 years ago

I will say that sexual violence should be fought to the tee. Nobody should get away with it. The punissment should be much higher. I do feel woman need a little more rights over the matter because a boy cannot really get rapped even though many will say yes. They are not at a risk of having a child which many states are forcing them to have. I went throught abuse when I was little much was from gay men whcich went into my adult life not as bad as when i was little but was always being harrased by Gay men. I worte about about it. When truth is called crazy. When I was young nothing was ever done about it. It should be taught that the punishment will be very bad and people need to know that they cannot get away with it. T

Glenna Jones-kachtik
Glenna Kachtik7 years ago

Lady, Like you, I am an optimist & would like to believe that hate is hate no matter what; but some hate seems lately to be OK and some not OK. For instance, for some people - it is OK to hate gays and to deny them basic rights and to say that a hate crime bill should not include them nor should a bill to let parents know about date rape/violence.
It was OK that Margaret Spellings who was our secretary of education threatened to pull funding away from PBS because a segment of Authur's friends was going to show a child living on a maple syrup farm who had 2 mommies - as being inappropriate for kids to see.
Many people can only see their Bible and a homosexual agenda. These people really don't feel that they are bigoted or discriminating at all and that is a shame.
You are correct in your assessment that the GLBTQ teen probably does get the worst end of the deal - they often do feel that there is no one that they can turn to - especially if they have not come out as gay. They can get into abusive relationships and the straight kids often are bullying to them too. Let us hope that in our lifetime, we see an end to this discrimination. Peace & long life to you and yours.

David L Wylie
David L Wylie7 years ago

Yeah, those homophobic South Carolina legislators are probably right. Gay youth aren’t being beat up by their same sex ‘partners’, they’re being bullied, harassed, abused, driven to suicide and even killed by their straight, Jesus loving, Bible thumping counterparts!