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10 Life-Threatening Mistakes You Might Make With Your Doctor

10 Life-Threatening Mistakes You Might Make With Your Doctor

With our health care system as broken as it is, itís easy for patients Ė myself included Ė to fall into the role of victim and blame others when things donít go our way. But are you doing what you can to optimize the kind of health care youíre getting? As both a physician and a patient, Iíve been on both sides of the exam table, and Iíve learned, from personal experience and from my patients, that the best way to get premium health care is to accept responsibility for your health, behave like a respectful but empowered patient, partner with your health care provider, and be brave enough to play devilís advocate.

Unfortunately, the stereotype of doctor-as-God has permeated much of our culture, and when many patients get sick, they hand their bodies over to the doctor and wash their hands of the whole messy business of the human body. But let me tell you something. Nobody knows your body better than you.

In order to ensure that youíre doing what you can to advocate for the health of your body and those you love, letís review the 10 mistakes that can cost you your life, so you can learn the tricks for getting the best health care possible.

10 Health Care Mistakes & How To Avoid Them

Mistake #1: Assume that your body is none of your business and hand it over to a doctor to ďfixĒ it. Nobody knows your body better than you, and when you hand over your power, you put your health at risk.

The Solution: Trust what you know about your body, listen to the wisdom of your Inner Pilot Light (get in touch daily here), and make sure you stay the boss of your body.

Mistake #2: Keep your doctor in the dark. Those medical forms are there for a reason. Even if youíre embarrassed, ashamed, or afraid your doctor will betray your confidence, itís critical that your doctor knows the whole story.

The Solution: Regulations require your doctor to keep everything you say in confidence, but just to make sure, ask your doctor if everything you say will stay private. When your doctor reassures you Ė assuming you trust your doctor Ė tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. (If you donít feel you can trust your doctor not to judge you, criticize you, or betray your trust, find another doctor Ė pronto!)

Mistake #3: Expect your doctors to communicate with each other. In a perfect world, they would sit around a healing round table, comparing notes and brainstorming about whatís best for you, but in the real world of fax machines, lost paperwork, and overbooked schedules, donít count on it.

The Solution: Keep copies of all your medical records and present them anytime you see someone new. When you get a new laboratory test or radiology study, ask for a copy for your file and follow up if you donít receive it. Make sure you bring your folder to all doctorís appointments. Itís also helpful if you keep a detailed record of all your symptoms, including a timeline and what makes your symptoms better or worse.

Mistake #4: Show up for your health care without doing your homework. Remember, your doctor only has so much room in his or her brain for details of unusual symptoms or rare diseases. Hopefully, your doctor will do his or her own research, but even so, when itís your disease, you may wind up knowing more about your illness than your doctor does.

The Solution: Fully research your symptom or illness and print out copies of what youíve learned to bring to your doctorís visit (seek out trustworthy resources like†WebMD,†MayoClinic, and sites where you can get Q&As answered free of charge by MDs, such as† You can also use your research skills by checking out your doctor on sites like Yelp, Google searching your doctor, asking your doctor for references (keep in mind patient confidentiality), and enlisting the help of the librarian at the hospital library.

Mistake #5: Fail to question your diagnosis or treatment plan and trust that whatever your doctor recommends is best for you, even if it goes against your intuition. When your doctor suggests a treatment plan, ask questions until you fully understand the risks and benefits of your options and feel qualified to make a decision.

The Solution: If the diagnosis or treatment doesnít feel right, be respectfulóbut speak up! And donít be afraid to get a second opinion if you donít feel confident that youíve been given the right diagnosis and treatment plan. After all, itís your body. Your life.

Mistake #6: Keep quiet when the front desk or medical assistant blocks your access to your doctor. Itís not fair, but itís true that ďthe squeaky wheel gets the grease.Ē

The Solution: You have the right to communicate with your doctor! Your doctor is in the service industry and is in service to YOU (itís not the other way around). Keep in mind that front desk or medical assistant jobs are often low-paying and easily replaced, and people who work in these jobs may feel powerless in other aspects of their lives, wielding their power to the detriment of patient care. When interacting with the front desk or a medical assistant, remember that these people are your allies. Be kind and respectful, not entitled, make conversation with them when youíre there in person, and realize that they are the gatekeepers to your doctorís time, and if you want access, itís in your best interest to be polite. That said, if you call with an urgent issue (procrastination on your end doesnít count) and you get stonewalled, demand to speak to your doctor. Often, the doctor doesnít even know youíve been trying to get through. Itís your right to get your needs met.

Mistake #7: Let your doctorís ego bulldoze you. Itís your responsibility to take charge of your 7 1/2 minutes, show up as an equal partner in collaboration, identify when your doctorís ego (we all have them) may be interfering with your optimal health, and communicate your needs.

The Solution: If your doctorís ego is running the show Ė and initiating better communication doesnít solve the problem Ė be willing to seek out another doctor, even if it means paying cash to find the best possible health care. At the end of the day, thereís nothing more important than your health. You deserve the best, and the best doctors arenít ruled by their egos.

Mistake #8: Stay quiet when your doctor discredits alternative health care methods that are actually working for you. If your doctor is dissing your acupuncturist, your homeopath, or your shaman, donít just clam up.

The Solution: Explain that youíre receiving benefit from these providers and that youíve chosen to have them on your team. Ask your doctor to willingly collaborate with these providers in an open, nonjudgmental way. If your doctor continues to call your other providers ďquacks,Ē you might need to find a better fit. (Trust me, weíre out there!)

Mistake #9: Assume that a pill is always the solution. Patients are as responsible as doctors for the current expectation that every symptom can be solved with a pill.

The Solution: Be willing to investigate the†root cause of your illness. Dig deep and ask yourself, ďWhat does my body need in order to heal?Ē If you listen up, you might just find that the real prescription lies much deeper, and a pill would only be a Band-Aid.

Mistake #10: Never question outcomes. If you donít get the outcome you want, donít instantly assume thatís as good as it gets. If you had surgery for back pain, and your back still hurts, communicate. If the birth control pill only makes you bleed more, tell your doctor. If you feel even worse after the treatment you got, donít be afraid to question the outcome.

The Solution: Communicate, in as much detail as possible, what is not working. Push the envelope. Get your doctor to hit the books, but be willing to do your personal work too. Sometimes the solution lies not in some external treatment, but within you. Own your part in your illness, and you just might find that you make your body ripe for miracles.

What Mistakes Do YOU Make At Your Doctorís Office?

Share your stories. Tell us what works and what doesnít. Letís learn from each other.

Learning as I go,


Lissa Rankin, MD: Creator of the health and wellness communities† and†, author of Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself (Hay House, 2013),†TEDx speaker, and Health Care Evolutionary.†Join her newsletter list for free guidance on healing yourself, and check her out on†Twitter and†Facebook.


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Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at† and also created two online communities -† and† She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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10:53AM PST on Jan 30, 2013


1:45PM PDT on Sep 2, 2012

I feel that at least in the culture of industrialized nations, service points, doctors, dentists, landscapers, auto repair, etc are treated much as is a vending machine. "It ain’t quite right but better than nothing" can come back to haunt us many years later. Case in point, an individual had been treated after retirement for many years by military medicine, until a volcanic eruption suddenly ceased that avenue of treatment. The patient complained long and loud when the was seen by the VA that "I shoudl have been taken off that medicine years ago!" Now I have to be weaned off it and I have suffered heart damage! The patient never questioned or complained, nor did he research for himself, or apparently even read the instructions provided with the stuff, no complaint, no change, much like the quacks in the VA who never review medication effects, “One size fits all.”

5:43PM PDT on Aug 19, 2012

I once saw a Dr. who totally ignored me and proceeded to write out a prescription, I asked him how he could possibly have reached his conclusions ,when I had not finished telling him my symptoms ?----I then took the pen out of his hand . The Dr. sat back ,listened and came to a different approach altogether ---which worked.
Yes we do need to speak up and take control ( the Dr. concerned thanked me for speaking up and wished more of his patients would do the same.

7:28PM PDT on Aug 11, 2012

Great advice! I would also suggest not to assume that one size fits all when it comes to medical care. What may have worked for your aunt may make you sicker.

6:52PM PDT on Aug 9, 2012

Great advice! Thanks for putting this out there.

4:51PM PDT on Aug 9, 2012

Thanks for the reminder that is about empowering ourselves with the doctor on our team!

7:24AM PDT on Aug 9, 2012

THANK YOU JULIA - I'm going to go a bit farther after reading most of the posts.
Those who know me know that I danced for a few years in my 40's. I lived in TN at the time.
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6:17AM PDT on Aug 9, 2012

thank you so much for this article!!!!

10:37PM PDT on Aug 8, 2012

amen!! thanks, lissa!

9:37PM PDT on Aug 8, 2012

Treating yourself is fast becoming the only reasonable option.

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