10 Questions to Ask Your Elders

Encourage your loved ones to take advantage of the intergenerational mingling that inevitably occurs when families vacation together over the summer. Start by asking the elders in the group the following 10 questions:

1. What are you most proud of in your life?
2. Who is the one person who has influence your life the most?
3. What do you wish you’d asked your parents?
4. Do you have a lost love?
5. What have you always wanted to tell me, but never had the chance?
6. In what ways am I like you (and not like you)?
7. What were the fads when you were young?
8. Which world events had the most profound impact on you?
9. What was the happiest moment of your life?
10. How would you like to be remembered?

And don’t just ask questions — really listen to what your more experienced relatives have to say. Better yet, record their responses on video so that the family can have an enduring reminder of their loved one’s wisdom and spirit, after they’ve passed on.

For more thought-provoking questions to ask your loved ones, see 20 Questions to Ask Your Parents.

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By Anne-Marie Botek, AgingCare.com Editor


Judy Apelis
Judy A.2 years ago


Tonya Freeman
Tonya Freeman2 years ago

Very good! Thanks for sharing!

Alexandra G.
Alexandra G.2 years ago

thanks for good suggestions ...

Vicky P.
Vicky P.2 years ago


Elena T.
Elena Poensgen2 years ago

Thank you :)

Genoveva M M.
Genoveva M M.2 years ago


Linda Jurick
Linda Jurick2 years ago

What a great way to start a dialog up with our elders.

Janis K.
Janis K.2 years ago

Thanks for sharing.

ERIKA SOMLAI2 years ago

noted,thank you

Sue Matheson
Sue Matheson2 years ago