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10 Things Unhappy People Have in Common

10 Things Unhappy People Have in Common

We all want to be happy in some way or another. We strive each day to find the path of happiness whatever we think it is. But some of us come up way short. Some of us make mistakes day in and day out that take us away from the shining beacon of happiness at the end of the tunnel.

Are you striving to find peace? Are you striving to locate that inner glow that you know must exist? Are you coming up short or finding happiness thatís always fleeting? Life is a journey and on it we find what works and what doesnít work. However, the most unhappy people tend to have a few things in common. If youíre looking to find peace, balance, and joy in your life, hereís what NOT to do. These people have it all wrong:

1. They Hate Their Jobs

You spend eight hours, sometimes much more at work. If you hate your job you canít help but hate your life because youíre spending 40 out of the 168 hours in a week doing something you canít stand. Whatís worse, we often take our anger from work home with us, bringing that disgruntled attitude into our homes. Iím not saying go out and quit your job tomorrow. Instead, take an aerial view of your life. Why donít you love your job? Whatís missing? Is it the career itself? Is it your boss or your company? Whatís your passion? What are you good at? Take time to answer these questions and then make a plan to move towards change, however long it takes.

2. Theyíre Constantly Worried About Money

Studies have proven that being rich wonít make us any happier. A Princeton University study showed that people needed an annual income of $75,000 per year per household and no more to be happy. Above that amount, more cash has no effect on “emotional well-being.” What this really means is that you need to be able to comfortably pay bills and save without worrying about finances. On the other hand, financial uncertainty does make us unhappy so this is another chance for evaluation. Are you overspending? What can you downsize? How can you minimize your life so that you can afford it? This is in no way an easy question, but itís part of the journey.

Related: 5 Ways to Change Your Relationship to Money

3. They Donít Have Any Active Hobbies

Happiness is linked to activity level. You have to move to feel good. What about yoga, hiking, swimming, surfing, biking, or running? Happiness is also linked to doing what you love so find active hobbies that make you happy and get to it.

Related: Get Physical!

4. They Have Wandering Minds.

According to Science News, ď[a] wandering mind often stumbles downhill emotionally. People spend nearly half their waking lives thinking about stuff other than what theyíre actually doing, and these imaginary rambles frequently feel bad, according to a new study.Ē The more you can focus on what youíre doing when youíre doing it, the happier you are. Meditation allows you to learn to focus on the present moment so you can actually live the life youíve been given.

Related: 8 Ways Meditation Can Change Your Life

5. They Commute a Long Distance

A long commute can take a toll on your life and after a while it can really bring you down. How much of your life are you losing in commute? Itís hard on a relationship as well. A recent Swedish study found that divorce rates were higher the longer the commute.

6. They Think ďStuffĒ Will Make Them Happy

Unhappy people are constantly trying to fill the void by consuming, whether it be alcohol, food, or shopping. But the problem is happiness canít be consumed, itís cultivated from within. Meeting desires only brings fleeting happiness.

Related: 5 Mental Habits for Cutting Consumption

7. Theyíre Lonely

Cultivating relationships is important for both your health and your happiness. And that doesnít just mean how good you are at social networking. Unfortunately nowadays more than a few of us view our laptop as our very best friend. Single or not, married or not, itís important to always strive both to make friends and to keep them while also keeping close ties to family.

Related: Loneliness Harms Health: Why You Need Friends

8. They Donít Like Their Town

So often we feel stuck in our lives. We live in a town that we no longer love and arenít sure how to feel better about the situation. This is another opportunity to take a step back and ask why you feel the way you do. Is it the town or is it you? Get the newspaper and look into new events, volunteer some place new, or, well, move. Who says you have to live in the same place your whole life? I certainly havenít. Iíve already tried out Charlottesville, Athens, Washington DC, Florence, Charleston, and Columbia and Iím just getting started.

9. They Donít Have Pets

Pets serve as support and provide unconditional love that we grow to depend on but at the same time, they don’t disrupt other human relationships, according to a new study. If you’re considering pet ownership, adopt a pet in need and follow this guide to responsible pet ownership.

Related: 6 Health Benefits of Having Pets

10. They Donít Like Themselves

We make ourselves happy by the way we view life and by learning to enjoy the moment. We make ourselves happy by the way we view ourselves. By opening our hearts we find peace but that peace has to first start off with you. If you dislike yourself, you can never be happy so give yourself a break. Learn to love yourself, you deserve it!

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4:47AM PDT on Sep 1, 2015

Appreciate what we have

4:44AM PDT on Sep 1, 2015

Thank you

1:31AM PDT on Sep 1, 2015

Number 5? Or perhaps they work at home and feel isolated. Many people hate their long commute but aren't unhappy overall.

3:52AM PDT on Jun 26, 2015

Thank you

8:18AM PDT on Apr 7, 2015

Thank you

4:22PM PDT on Mar 13, 2015

Oh yes, I HAVE pets, 3 cats, I can´t work anymore (which sometimes annoys me, I admit), i don´t care about the money I spend because I don´t have a lot, haha, and who doesn´t like himself can´t like others either, but somehow I feel sad about those unhappy people!!! It ain´t about what you have or not, it´s about who you are and what you are, you can be happy without a carreer and big money, you just have to love yourself and your friends... So I´m a happy person in spite of 3 auto immunity diseases + osteoporosis from corticoids, I make the best of every day!!!

6:00AM PST on Feb 12, 2015

Thank you

6:43PM PDT on Oct 23, 2014

Yea! 10 out of 10 do I get a prize. .. Oh wait, that is not a good thing :-(

1:41PM PDT on Oct 22, 2014

Our thoughts are prayers and worry is a negative prayer. What we dwell on we bring to ourselves.

9:44AM PDT on Oct 18, 2014

interesting list

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