10 Ways To Begin To Find Yourself Again (Codependency)

“I’ve been reading your articles about codependency. You’re right, I don’t know myself anymore. I eat what my husband wants to eat. I go where my kids want or need to go. I even do a job I don’t love because my boss thought I’d be great at it, and I am but what about me? Where did I go? I don’t even know how to start to find myself. ”

Frankly, it sucks to realize that we’ve wondered this far away from ourselves. This week, I spoke with four different women who are beginning to pick up the pieces. There are a million different paths back to you but here are a few basics to get you started.

1. Google “codependency”.

2. Read anything by Melody Beattie.

3. Adopt these rules (all year around): 5 Rules For Holidays That Don’t Suck.

4. If you are one who can always be counted on for a YES, read this: Why Do I Keep Saying Yes?

5. Consider a 12-step program.

Continue: 4 more, plus the Ultimate Cody Challenge

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Ann B.

10:57AM PST on Feb 16, 2012

thanks for the article

send a green star

Delia R.

11:35AM PST on Feb 15, 2012

Thank you for this. I have been asking how to find myself for a while. Thank you for the guidance

Nina A.

5:27AM PST on Feb 9, 2012

Noted. Thank you.

Eternal G.

5:10PM PST on Feb 6, 2012

Thank you!

5:08PM PST on Feb 6, 2012

Ta.

Jen B.

10:41AM PST on Jan 21, 2012

I was just asking myself when I started to worry more about the comfort of others than giving my feelings the respect they deserve. I am looking forward to using these tips for finding my way back to myself. Thanks!

Ruth B.

9:19AM PST on Jan 21, 2012

When did doing something you don't want to do become wrong? It builds character. It gives you strength. You learn from it. Don't want to put up a Christmas tree? Don't do it! Not a major decision...yes or no. Make a decision. I'm never spending Christmas at home again. Decision made. Grow up.

Carol C.

2:22PM PST on Jan 19, 2012

Sandi C.

7:47AM PST on Jan 19, 2012

DIDN'T KNOW I WAS LOST!

Lucy P.

12:08AM PST on Jan 19, 2012

Great article! I'm currently going through a total life transformation challenge myself. I'm even blogging about it, each day focusing on transforming my mind, heart, and body through a healthy diet. By the end of my journey, I expect that I will have rediscovered myself, the my strength, and be fully aware, confident. However, I don't just talk about myself, I use wisdom passed on by others. Please follow and provide your thoughts at atotallifetransformation.blogspot.com