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10 Ways To Begin To Find Yourself Again (Codependency)

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10 Ways To Begin To Find Yourself Again (Codependency)

“I’ve been reading your articles about codependency. You’re right, I don’t know myself anymore. I eat what my husband wants to eat. I go where my kids want or need to go. I even do a job I don’t love because my boss thought I’d be great at it, and I am but what about me? Where did I go? I don’t even know how to start to find myself. ”

Frankly, it sucks to realize that we’ve wondered this far away from ourselves. This week, I spoke with four different women who are beginning to pick up the pieces. There are a million different paths back to you but here are a few basics to get you started.

1. Google “codependency”.

2. Read anything by Melody Beattie.

3. Adopt these rules (all year around): 5 Rules For Holidays That Don’t Suck.

4. If you are one who can always be counted on for a YES, read this: Why Do I Keep Saying Yes?

5. Consider a 12-step program.

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Christy Diane Farr

Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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8:26AM PST on Nov 23, 2012


2:17PM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

A healthy relationship has give and take; it has a balance of individuality and togetherness. Relationships are, by definition, imperfect, but in a good relationship, the participants try to meet the needs of each of the individuals and of the relationship, itself.

10:57AM PST on Feb 16, 2012

thanks for the article

11:35AM PST on Feb 15, 2012

Thank you for this. I have been asking how to find myself for a while. Thank you for the guidance

5:27AM PST on Feb 9, 2012

Noted. Thank you.

5:10PM PST on Feb 6, 2012

Thank you!

5:08PM PST on Feb 6, 2012


10:41AM PST on Jan 21, 2012

I was just asking myself when I started to worry more about the comfort of others than giving my feelings the respect they deserve. I am looking forward to using these tips for finding my way back to myself. Thanks!

9:19AM PST on Jan 21, 2012

When did doing something you don't want to do become wrong? It builds character. It gives you strength. You learn from it. Don't want to put up a Christmas tree? Don't do it! Not a major decision...yes or no. Make a decision. I'm never spending Christmas at home again. Decision made. Grow up.

2:22PM PST on Jan 19, 2012

Noted. Thank you.

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