Feel the Love
Five right-now suggestions for renewing your relationship.
Redecorate your room. Clear the clutter, kick out the TV, and create an appealing, intimate environment. In Just Do It: How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their Sex Life for 101 Days (No Excuses!) (Crown, 2008), Doug and Annie Brown turned their bedroom into a “love den,” stocking up on candles and luxurious sheets and removing unromantic distractions from the walls and dresser tops.
Set the alarm 30 minutes earlier. This guarantees a window of uninterrupted time with your partner every morning, for talking or cuddling.
Schedule a weekly date. Protect it with your life. And use it to enjoy yourselves, not to pay the bills.
Start working out together. Doug and Annie Brown joined a yoga class and found it far more inspirational for romance than a night on the town. What’s more, exercise stimulates dopamine and enhances romantic attraction.
Renew a shared interest from your early courtship. Did you used to ride bicycles together? Go to the dog park? Ice skate? Marital therapist Willard Harley, PhD, suggests that we fall in love with the people with whom we have the most fun, so it’s worth the time and effort to head out — even when it might be “easier” to stay at home.