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11 Benefits of Letting Go of Fear and Control
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).
The key stances in letting go of control are all forms of allowing: Acceptance, tolerance, non-resistance. Needing to control life, either yours or anyone else’s, is based on spiritual desperation. Look at your interaction with your beloved and honestly confront any fear-based behavior you are exhibiting. When control is ready to loosen its grip, a definite relaxation takes place. The following changes will often be in evidence:
1. You stop measuring people by whether they live up to your expectations. You begin to resist the urge to correct their mistakes and give unwanted advice.
2. You lessen your habit of taking care of others without really caring for them.
3. You become tired of trying to keep track of every detail in your life and bored with people who have always given in to you.
4. You begin to listen to objections and disagreements instead of using them to trigger your own opinion.
5. Unexpected emotions come to the surface. This usually arouses self-criticism because you can’t control your feelings anymore as you once did. At another level, however, this eruption of emotions comes as a great relief.
6. Your impatience begins to lessen. You stop living according to the clock.
7. You take stress seriously, no longer believing that you thrive on it.
8. You begin to listen to your body, which has all along been giving you signals of tightness, fatigue, contraction, and over-stimulation.
9. Your mind gives up calculating every move in advance. Some room is made for spontaneity.
10. You stop holding grudges and remembering slights. Resentment begins to be replaced by tolerance.
11. You quit setting external goals for yourself and believing that achieving these goals faster, better and more tirelessly makes you a good person.
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add your comment »if everyone would let go of fear and control and practice some kind of yoga and meditation we would have much less violence and suffering in the world.
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I'm with Cindy. Sounds good and want to put it into practice, but at the same time remain a responsible person.How do you put it into practice? Where do you start?
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What is the difference between attachment and desire?
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meditation is the source of sharp mind and soul. meditation give answer.
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This is such a good reminder. Sometimes I master it, but then life gets busy and I don't even realise I have slipped into control patterns again. Listening to my body is always a good sign. If we 'let go and let God' things are always better. I do think this is one of the master lessons we have to learn during this incarnation. Here's to freedom and peace. Blessings to y'all. www.GrassdancerEssences.com - Healing Energy from Nature
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GREAT STUFF... TO NOT CONTROL ONESELF... AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS...
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Yes Cindy...me too...although I have read and heard how to let go many times over the years ...it takes a while to sink in...sink in deep enought...is it because there is too much "old matter" distorting our vision and has also impaired our senses that it is difficult to enjoy the feeling of freedom and peace within...I need a refresher course on how to let go once a week :-)..I guess daily meditation is the answer..
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This sounds great and Deepak is a very kind Spirit, but how do we let go? I don't need to hear the benefits of it anymore, just how to do it.
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Amazing thing Samer R. I think I am at the same stage....instead I think without all the control my life would be pretty dull and booring...which would probably not be the case at all...maybe I should just let it happen??...I guess that is the challenge...
risk it for a biscuit :-))
Thank you Deepak....gives me the courage to move on.
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Thank you.
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