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11 Benefits of Letting Go of Fear and Control

11 Benefits of Letting Go of Fear and Control

The key stances in letting go of control are all forms of allowing: Acceptance, tolerance, non-resistance. Needing to control life, either yours or anyone else’s, is based on spiritual desperation. Look at your interaction with your beloved and honestly confront any fear-based behavior you are exhibiting. When control is ready to loosen its grip, a definite relaxation takes place. The following changes will often be in evidence:

1. You stop measuring people by whether they live up to your expectations. You begin to resist the urge to correct their mistakes and give unwanted advice.
2. You lessen your habit of taking care of others without really caring for them.
3. You become tired of trying to keep track of every detail in your life and bored with people who have always given in to you.
4. You begin to listen to objections and disagreements instead of using them to trigger your own opinion.
5. Unexpected emotions come to the surface. This usually arouses self-criticism because you can’t control your feelings anymore as you once did. At another level, however, this eruption of emotions comes as a great relief.
6. Your impatience begins to lessen. You stop living according to the clock.
7. You take stress seriously, no longer believing that you thrive on it.
8. You begin to listen to your body, which has all along been giving you signals of tightness, fatigue, contraction, and over-stimulation.
9. Your mind gives up calculating every move in advance. Some room is made for spontaneity.
10. You stop holding grudges and remembering slights. Resentment begins to be replaced by tolerance.
11. You quit setting external goals for yourself and believing that achieving these goals faster, better and more tirelessly makes you a good person.

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Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

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Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.

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6:12PM PDT on Sep 23, 2010

I really appreciate this right now. Thanks.

2:12AM PDT on Sep 5, 2010

Love this article, my hubby said I should fwd it to my m.inlaw!:) Now now!!!

9:14AM PDT on Aug 31, 2010

I don't have to live the way this society lives. I stay in the right-hand lane, at 60 mph, and give everybody as much road as they want. I am enjoying my Free Life. Happy, Calm, and Healthy.

2:49AM PDT on Aug 30, 2010

thx for sharing. happening with me.

11:53PM PDT on Aug 29, 2010

Very thought provoking indeed. Thanks Deepak

11:09PM PDT on Aug 29, 2010

Great article. I hope to see and feel more of these things in the future. At least with this list, you can gauge whether you are making any progress

8:48PM PDT on Aug 29, 2010

Thanks for this one Dr. Chopra,
Guess sometimes it is just to ask ourselves what is there to really be afraid of? Funny thing is though, we are in control of how we act towards others.
Suppose we actively partake in this endeavor with our actions, maybe then we could see who we really are. Guess then we would realize that control is only neccessary when you do not.
Which shows trust in that which is in control, if you see, see?

3:40PM PDT on Aug 29, 2010

Letting go is very freeing.

12:03PM PDT on Aug 29, 2010

It's very hard to just let things happen without stepping in with advice and opinions, especially when You Are Right and Know Everything LOL I'm so guilty of this, " Let Go and Let God " sounds so simple , must TRY to keep that in mind and TRY it. I believe it is the right way to live, but . . . .

4:21PM PDT on Aug 28, 2010

Thank you for sharing this! Worth reading 3x!

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